I've lost my trust in him. I love him but am not in love with him
Q. ok so I have been with this guy going on 3 years and I already had one baby with my x husband n he stepped up to the plate n he loves her so within the past going on 3 years of being with him I have had 2 kids by him n hes a great father to them all ...
A. 22 January 2016: If he has admitted to you that he still loves her well then the kindest thing you can do for yourself and your children is to leave him. If he is not fully committed to you and is lusting after another woman well then this is not fair on you. You ... (read in full...)
I don't have confidence in myself in regards to women and dating. Should I give up?
Q. Is it possible to give up on women? I have a very complicated history with them that ranges from saving a girl from getting raped in high school to getting left by my junior prom date for another guy at the dance. I have had one ex in high schoo...
A. 22 January 2016: If it is fun you want that that is okay, but I do suggest that you let a girl know that is all you want from her before you begin a sexual relationship with her, as long as your open and honest then she will not get hurt. ... (read in full...)
Difficulties in the bedroom with boyfriend and I don't know how to fix them
Q. I am having difficulties in the bedroom with my boyfriend of three years and I don't know how to fix any of it. We have been very adventurous in the past. Our sex life was always amazing and I can't believe I'm asking for advice. A few...
A. 21 January 2016: What an awful boyfriend. He can't put you down like that, and you should not let him, he is in the long run going to keep going until you have no confidence left. What a horrible man. Are you sure that there is no other woman in his life? He sounds ... (read in full...)
I'm dating 2 women and I'm afraid the first one will find out about the second one
Q. I am in love with two women,the first one we hav dated for 1year 6months and the other one just for 4months,bt am scared the first woman can find out...what should i do help?!!! ...
A. 21 January 2016: I hope they both find out that you are two timing them as you do not deserve either of them. In a relationship you should be honest. How would you feel if they where both keeping another man from you? Why do you think that it is okay to treat these ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to have mixed emotions when you already love someone?
Q. Hey, so I like this guy, a lot. Think i'm in love with him; have been for about a year and a half now. Things are okay with him, but he's just a friend. But I think I may also have feelings for someone else too ... In some ways I stand more of a ...
A. 21 January 2016: No off course it doesn't make you a slut. You are a teenage girl with mixed emotions. Perfectly normal. You are growing up in to a young lady and you are experiencing feeling for guys. That's completely normal. It is okay to like two people at the ... (read in full...)
I've lost my trust in him. I love him but am not in love with him
Q. ok so I have been with this guy going on 3 years and I already had one baby with my x husband n he stepped up to the plate n he loves her so within the past going on 3 years of being with him I have had 2 kids by him n hes a great father to them all ...
A. 21 January 2016: If you are not in love with him then leave, this happened three years ago and still you think about it. He never done anything wrong. Expect for not telling you he had a thing with this girl. Everyone has a past. Some people keep the memories and ... (read in full...)
I just want to move on and get out of this relationship because I don't want to get hurt again
Q. I am a divorcee and staying with friends. Opposite to my apartment one guy is staying. Since one year I have been seeing him. I got to know that he is interested in me and first I thought its just a physical attraction. But later on I felt that he ...
A. 21 January 2016: I am sorry that you have had a bad relationship to deal with, I can see that it has knocked your confidence. Does this man ever show you he loves you or is it all about sex? You need to ask him what does he see for the future? If you feel he is just ... (read in full...)
I got herpes from boyfriend while pregnant, turned into staph infection, I terminated the pregnanc and now he doesn't act the same towards me
Q. He was my first. I got pregnant.I was ecstatic.He had genital herpes all the time.He just never had an outbreak.so he didn't know.I caught it during the first trimester and had an outbreak all over my cervix.The doctor wrote it on paper that genital ...
A. 20 January 2016: I assume that you are in the autistic spectrum? If that is the case, then no he does not deserve better. Please don't put yourself down. What you choose to do was the right decision for you. He threatened you, this behavior is not at all acceptable, ... (read in full...)
I know girlfriend is cheating behind my back, why didn't she just let me go?
Q. I found a piece of paper with several male user names and names of certain free dating sites, on the bathroom floor, but however much she denied it - I know my girlfriends handwriting. It got the best of me and I became quite obsessive about finding ...
A. 20 January 2016: You gave her a chance because you hoped she would change, but she didn't. As harsh as this sounds, if she loved you she would not do this to you. It doesn't mean that you are not good enough, it means that she is not good enough for you. You have ... (read in full...)
Fiance admitted forgetting about my birthday plans and didn't do anything about it?
Q. My birthday was yesterday and my fiance and I had made plans on Christmas day to spend the day before (Sunday) together, as on my actual birthday (Monday) I got him basketball tickets to go watch his favorite team play as a Christmas gift, which he ...
A. 20 January 2016: Sweetie please have a long think about why you want to marry this guy. You ask how can you get him to understand how you feel, and the answer is that you can't. He sounds immature and not ready to have a fiance. He puts himself first.
It must be s... (read in full...)
Why was my ex nice after the break up and now he's ignoring me?
Q. When my ex and I broke up, we decided to remain friends. In the beginning, things were great. We were talking everyday, laughing, having fun. Then one day be became passive aggressive. When I made a joke, he called me bitchy and then later said tha...
A. 20 January 2016: I agree, and ex is an ex for a reason. Once a relationship breaks up there is no point trying to establish a friendship. There are mixed emotions and feelings after a break up. ... (read in full...)
My BF just got back from a trip and said he missed me but I had to contact him to make plans to see each other
Q. Just want to know your take on my situation. I am not sure if there is cause for concern. I hope you can help me figure that out. My boyfriend and I have been together 2 1/2 years. We have a great connection as friends and still after all this t...
A. 20 January 2016: I have been following all of your posts and at this stage I would recommend that you talk to someone about your insecurities. Everything this man does you criticize. You need to get yourself help before you lose him for good. You cannot keep living ... (read in full...)
I don't have confidence in myself in regards to women and dating. Should I give up?
Q. Is it possible to give up on women? I have a very complicated history with them that ranges from saving a girl from getting raped in high school to getting left by my junior prom date for another guy at the dance. I have had one ex in high schoo...
A. 20 January 2016: Having lots of sex should not be important to you at all. Finding a woman who loves you and who you can be comfortable around and explore should be whats important. If all you are interested in is sex then I suggest you call a local hooker.
W... (read in full...)
How do I handle the wedding invite of a brother I haven't spoken to in 10 years?
Q. About ten years ago, I caught my brother stealing from me(about fifty dollars) so he could take his girlfriend (now ex-girlfriend) out on a date. He was a very selfish person. At that time, we live together at my parents house. Due to my ...
A. 20 January 2016: I agree that it is wrong off him to try and steal from you. But maybe he has changed now. It is your choice if you attend the wedding or not, but if you are not going to attend then you should let them know, as a bride am sure your future sister in ... (read in full...)
Why did he never before mention this ex that lives close to us?
Q. Hi I'm in a relationship for 3 yrs now we have a 1 yr old son the problem is we've had a few problems about him staring at other women and not making enough time for us due to his mates we were talking the other night and he mentioned one of his ...
A. 20 January 2016: It sounds to me like you are an insecure person, you say it has caused problems in the relationship him looking at other women? I think we need to accept that men will look at women and vice versa, and at the end of the day this is harmless. Maybe ... (read in full...)
Online guy has me confused. I think he wants me to pursue him even though he gives nothing back
Q. Hi again all, the online dating drama continues! So I've been messaging a man online for a couple of weeks and he seemed really nice. He told me upfront he's looking for a relationship, as am I, but his actions since then have me confused and ...
A. 19 January 2016: Sounds to me like he is wasting your time, he seems to be looking for an ego boost, he wants women to run after him while he sits back, he sounds insecure, hence why he keeps asking is he wasting his time. Just tell him you get the impression he is ... (read in full...)
Is it normal that every time my boyfriend goes out he comes home completely drunk?
Q. Is it normal when my partner goes out with friends, he comes home pissed drunk? My boyfriend does not hang out a lot with his friends, probably once a month, or once every one and a half months. But when he does, he always gets drunk or tipsy. ...
A. 19 January 2016: Who decides what is normal and what is not? Nobody! Because at the end of the day everyone is different and behaves differently.
Now when it comes to people going out and getting drunk it is quite common in men and women in their 20s. His drin... (read in full...)
I got herpes from boyfriend while pregnant, turned into staph infection, I terminated the pregnanc and now he doesn't act the same towards me
Q. He was my first. I got pregnant.I was ecstatic.He had genital herpes all the time.He just never had an outbreak.so he didn't know.I caught it during the first trimester and had an outbreak all over my cervix.The doctor wrote it on paper that genital ...
A. 19 January 2016: My guess is that you have both changed in the relationship. Terminating a pregnancy can be hard on both of you. Maybe he needs to talk to someone about how he feels. If it was recommended that you have an abortion well then you don't need to be ... (read in full...)
I realize things are over but am afraid to break up with unstable girlfriend
Q. so, i have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for almost two years, i am now 17 and realise that our relationship is going nowhere. We have absolutely nothing in common and i don't enjoy talking to her any more. I feel that if I break up with ...
A. 19 January 2016: You where young when you got in to this relationship and well we change as we grow up. It is difficult to break up with someone but these are the challenges we have to face in life.
You just need to be honest with her. Tell her you want to be sing... (read in full...)
After 10 years together we are taking a break and I'm sad and confused
Q. Hello, I'm going through very difficult times with my 10 year boyfriend and also best friend. During our relationship (we started dating when I was 19 and he was 21) I have been very selfish and not doing nearly enough for someone I love and loved...
A. 19 January 2016: The answer is staring you in the face, he has told you he wants you to compromise and make more off an effort in the relationship. Therefore GET out there and fight for your relationship. Show up and surprise him. Take him for lunch and YOU get the ... (read in full...)
I think my mother is with someone who is going to use her but I can't talk to her and know I am losing the relationship with my mom
Q. Dear Cupid, My father passed away a couple of years ago from dementia. My mother started having an affair with a married man when he was ill (5 years ago). He was working for my parents at the time. She is 75. The relationship has developed...
A. 19 January 2016: Lets be honest here, your mother is getting old now and she probably doesn't have a huge lot off life left in her. She wants to make the most off her time and be as happy as she can be. My guess is she went through a lot with your father before he ... (read in full...)
She wants everything. Should I walk?
Q. Been going out with a woman, for a month, she tells me if I want to continue to see her, I have to buy her gifts, cards, flowers, and take her out two times a week. Do I walk away? She said she will give me two days to make up my mind. I sure know ...
A. 18 January 2016: She wants someone to treat her like a princess. She sounds high maintenance. Seems she just wants materialistic things from you. If it where me I would want a woman who demanded your time, your love and affection. ... (read in full...)
How do I fix up the messed up family relationships that I have?
Q. I need some advice in an urgent way. My life is in shambles. I wrote last March under the Family section under the title of Why am I the Family Villain? But I am not writing to complain about that any longer. I have been spending a lot of time back ...
A. 18 January 2016: ... (read in full...)
I'm feeling very stressed and depressed with the relationship. All he wants is sex!
Q. I've been feeling a little lost and depressed with my relationship. Before this, I'd been with someone who was very emotionally and mentally abusive. It took a lot for me to finally get away from him, he was extremely manipulative. About a year ...
A. 18 January 2016: I think you are reluctant to leave this relationship because you know it is better than what you have had in the past. However it is still no where near a loving happy relationship that you deserve.
I hope you have dealt with your past issues and ... (read in full...)
Why is my ex blowing cold?
Q. I am in a non-committed relationship. We have a child but that's about it. I may as well be on my own. He is a good dad to the child but does not consider my needs or talk about a future. I met with an old flame about 7 months ago, had a few d...
A. 18 January 2016: First off if you are in a unhappy relationship well then get out off it. It is not okay to cheat on your partner just because he is not treating you well, it is still wrong. If you are not getting anything from the relationship, well then leave him, ... (read in full...)
I flirted with a crush that is my boyfriend's friend and our room mate. How do I get things back to normal?
Q. I'm in a very confusing situation at the moment. I temporarily live with my boyfriend and his 3 flat mates. They are all boys about my age (19-21). Not an ideal situation to start with but on New Year's Eve while drunk with my friends I called...
A. 18 January 2016: I don't think the atmosphere will ever get back to the way it was if I am being honest. You are not in the best situation. If you are having feelings for someone else then maybe you need to look at your relationship with your boyfriend and ask ... (read in full...)
Why do I get these feelings? I have no desire to be with a girl!
Q. Im very confused. Ive always had feelings for guys and crushes on guys but often times i often look at girls butts and get "tense" in the area if u know what i mean. I hate these feelings and im still very attracted to guys. What do i do? I have no ...
A. 18 January 2016: That's okay. Believe me every teenager goes through what you are. It is just your hormones playing up. It is okay to have these feelings even though you know you are attracted to boys. They will soon disappear when you are older or you may realize ... (read in full...)
Can I have independence and still keep my marriage?
Q. Can someone tell me what's happening with me? I am in my mid 40 s, been married for 25 years, one grown up child that is independent and lives on her own. I have a hard time staying in this marriage the way my husband wants it to be. I have a...
A. 18 January 2016: I think you need to sit down with your husband and tell him how you feel. Only he can tell you if this sort off lifestyle will work for him as well. Have you lost the spark in your relationship? Often that can get lost when we fall in to a rut and ... (read in full...)
Worried I'm not his fantasy girl
Q. My boyfriend's type of porn bothers me. He loves chubby girls with big big boobs and big butts and round faces. I'm not usually too jealous because i know he loves me and how i look too, but lately he's been super stressed with work lately and ...
A. 18 January 2016: It would worry me greatly if my boyfriend was not wanting to have sex yet he was able to masturbate each day. I think its time you talked to him about this. Off course it is upsetting her is looking at other girls who look different to you and he is ... (read in full...)
Tried to help my friend but her mum's furious
Q. My best friend was dating this jerk and I told her she should dump him the first day they started dating. Two days later he dumped her. He said, "I know this will not work out. I'm still in love with... (who is another best friend who has a ...
A. 18 January 2016: I can see that you where trying to be a good friend. However I think her mum done this because she is probably worried about who she is talking to online. The internet is a dangerous place for teenagers, especially dating websites as you never know ... (read in full...)
Tired of being the other woman but...
Q. Hi everyone, Am struggling following the break-up of a sexual relationship with a married man. We started as friends, which evolved into a FWB. We would hang out if I made plans for movies etc. Even though he always said how much he would like to ...
A. 18 January 2016: You feel angry and low because in the end you wanted more than what he could give. His loyalties lie with his child and with his wife, and this is a bitter pill for any mistress to swallow. Many people will say told you so, as it is usually the ... (read in full...)
A day hasn't gone by that I am not obsessed with his ex
Q. This is a very strange problem. I've been with my boyfriend (now fiancé) for 2.5 years and life is perfect.... Except I'm obsessed with his ex which I have been since day 1. To start with I recognised it was due to their 4 year relationship ending 3 ...
A. 18 January 2016: I really don't understand why you would want to treat this girl the way you say. At the end of the day yes she was a partner to your fiance but we all have a past. You shouldn't compare yourself to her. The relationship didn't work for them, end of ... (read in full...)
Why won't online disappearing boyfriend block me?
Q. I met this guy through a site about over a year ago. After our first exchange of a few messages, he disappeared. Then after a few months he appeared again then disappeared. He appeared again but this time messaged properly and wanted to get to. ...
A. 15 January 2016: Sounds to me like this guy travels a lot and gets bored so chats to a lot of random women, am sorry you got caught up with him, but I agree with the other BLOCK him. Sounds to me like you are just waiting around for him to reply with some pathetic ... (read in full...)
His ex was 9", I'm only 6"..should I worry?
Q. I've been speaking to this guy I fancy on and off since last year and I've really got it bad for him, his now split up with his ex and now has kept our chats to the minimum we have quite a bit in common aswell. I really like him but now I've been ...
A. 15 January 2016: Have you saw this 9 inches? Are you sure the guy is not just bluffing and talking himself up? Even so a relationship has a lot more to do with emotional connection. Yes there should be physical connection as well but that should not have anything to ... (read in full...)
I admitted to my ex that I would be involved in a 3some but my past experience wasn't too great with them
Q. I met up with an old boyfriend recently. He's single and a real rock and roller. He is highly sexed and its as if that's all he thinks about. We have great chemistry. He has admitted about all the girls he has slept with while on tour etc. Th...
A. 15 January 2016: As long as you are safe well then you are old enough to make up your mind about this. However you are seeing someone so this technically would still be cheating therefore I would suggest you tell him if you plan to do this. ... (read in full...)
How can my boyfriend develop emotionally
Q. Bit of a long issue here , My new boyfriend has difficulties in having relationships , he admitted he finds a full on relationship hard . I asked him does he like change or routine and thats when he said he likes routine and everything familiar to ...
A. 15 January 2016: It sounds like he might have social anxiety. This is a common disorder, I doubt that he has not learnt to develop because he is still living with his parents. There must be a reason he has lived with his parents this long, probably being to anxious ... (read in full...)
Why does he cuddle but no kisses?
Q. Hi I've spoken to you previously about man who was fwb but then seemed to want more then disappeared. Anyhow I am confused , have been seeing him lots , last six nights in row. He initiated was lovely , cuddled , spooned ,he was nude . thing is ...
A. 14 January 2016: Could it be that this man is married? He may feel guilty if he kisses you therefore he just enjoys the affection he can get. You need to talk to him about this as am sure you want and deserve better than this.... (read in full...)
Are my boyfriend's loose boundaries with his gay male friend crossing the line?
Q. Hello, My boyfriend and I have been together for almost three years and we live together. He is from another state and the first time I went home with him about a year and a half ago, I ran into some unexpected and hurtful interactions. ...
A. 14 January 2016: It could be that he is extremely comfortable with the same sex. I would find it odd that he takes his shirt off in a gay club and usually only wants anal sex. Does he show you affection in the bedroom? Does he show that he appreciated the female ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend keeps bringing up my ex
Q. My current boyfriend keeps bringing up my ex and it disturbs him immensely because initially when we got together when my boyfriend asked about my ex i said he was nice and I have good memories with him and don't want to say anything bad!this ...
A. 14 January 2016: There is not a lot you can do in this situation. You where being honest with your boyfriend, which was the right thing to do. Was it hard for him to hear? Yes it was because being your now boyfriend he doesn't want you thinking fondly about your ex, ... (read in full...)
Will having a pet interfere with my dating life?
Q. Hi all, this is not a relationship question as such but any advice would be appreciated. I have been single for just over a year now and living on my own for around 6 months. I have absolutely always wanted a dog or a cat (or even a rabbit), ...
A. 14 January 2016: I don't see how this would be a problem, if anything it might show your caring and affectionate side. True not everyone loves animals, but I would say that more do than don't. I have two dogs and they are the best company ever. My advice would be to ... (read in full...)
Would you get mad at your partner if he or she only replied "thank you!" a day after you sent a naughty text message?
Q. Would you get mad at your BF of three years who is in South Africa right now visiting family if you sent him a sexually explicit message and it took him over a day to reply to it? Not only that but when he does reply it's short? The message de...
A. 14 January 2016: He didn't ask you to put the effort you did in to that message you sent him. He is on holiday visiting his family, and although I am sure that he is missing you maybe he is busy catching up with friends and family.
I don't see it being a big deal... (read in full...)
I'm going through a really trying time and feel alone in all of this! Advice, kind words, pointers would be helpful!
Q. hey all I am an art student and I was in college- completed my diploma but dint get accepted for my bachelors. So I have an off year and I'm re doing my portfolio and working part time. It's not the happiest time of my life. I was really taken aba...
A. 14 January 2016: Allow the situation living with your parents push you to focus harder on your studies. Yes it is hard living as an adult under the same roof as your parents, it can make us feel like we have failed and that we are still getting treated as a child. ... (read in full...)
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