What can I do when she gets in a mood like this?
Q. My friend has been really difficult and I don't know how to deal with it or if it's even worth it. She's been having a hard time the last couple of years and the things we both went through in life is what made us bond in the first place, as much ...
A. 16 March 2016: I am glad to hear it, put yourself first, nobody should ever put another person down and when they do they are not a friend but someone who is jealous of what you have. You are doing the right thing moving on. Go out and meet new people, hopefully ... (read in full...)
What can I do when she gets in a mood like this?
Q. My friend has been really difficult and I don't know how to deal with it or if it's even worth it. She's been having a hard time the last couple of years and the things we both went through in life is what made us bond in the first place, as much ...
A. 15 March 2016: Again I don't think she needs to be in your life. She is not being a friend, the best thing for you to do is block her number and find new friends who are kind to you. ... (read in full...)
What can I do when she gets in a mood like this?
Q. My friend has been really difficult and I don't know how to deal with it or if it's even worth it. She's been having a hard time the last couple of years and the things we both went through in life is what made us bond in the first place, as much ...
A. 12 March 2016: No sweetie I don't think that you should reply. Be the bigger person here. She has made it clear she wants nothing to do with you, she is hoping you will take the hint. It's sad yes, but I think you need to accept she no longer wants you in her ... (read in full...)
Is it a good idea to propose to her on St Valentine's day? She never revealed earlier why she broke up with me, previously.
Q. We went out for a year and then she broke it off. After about 4 months we started seeing each other. We have been seeing each other for the past 2 months. I am not sure why she broke it off. I am a healthy 65 she is 54. She has never been marri...
A. 29 February 2016: Do you feel like this woman genuinely loves you, or is it that you love her and she is stringing you along? Does it sometimes feel like she is using you?... (read in full...)
What can I do when she gets in a mood like this?
Q. My friend has been really difficult and I don't know how to deal with it or if it's even worth it. She's been having a hard time the last couple of years and the things we both went through in life is what made us bond in the first place, as much ...
A. 22 February 2016: I bet you miss her as she was a friend, but not a very good one. I think she needs to help herself and if you contact her she will not be getting the help she needs. Off course it is up to you which path you choose. Am not sure how you would start ... (read in full...)
Why do guys kiss and cuddle and then tell me they just want to be friends?
Q. Why why why.... Okay guys why would you tell a girl you like her. Cuddle with her. Kiss her or even try kissing her. Then tell her that you dont want to be more then friends this has happened to me in more then one account and im getting quite sick ...
A. 1 February 2016: Well you had doubts at one point and you overcame them, so maybe now he has doubts the same as you did. There could be a number of reasons why he done it, when you told him that maybe it wasn't a good idea maybe that got him thinking that you where ... (read in full...)
What can I do when she gets in a mood like this?
Q. My friend has been really difficult and I don't know how to deal with it or if it's even worth it. She's been having a hard time the last couple of years and the things we both went through in life is what made us bond in the first place, as much ...
A. 28 January 2016: I understand that it can be hard to be blunt, especially to a friend, but you need to try, for your own sake. You need to stand up for yourself in life. ... (read in full...)
Why is hubby hiding Viagra from me??
Q. I have been married for a very long time. About 10 years ago I discovered that my h was a porn/sex addict, he has never sought help, just thought that he could hide it better, now with the use of pocket porn, his mobile phone, he has a constant...
A. 28 January 2016: That is cause for alarm bells, it sounds like he could be having an affair am afraid.... (read in full...)
Is this the end of the line?
Q. I met a man over two months ago and immediately entered into an intimate relationship and fell for him. He is 7 years my senior and at the moment he is working day till night all over the country so I never get to see him. Our last date was 2 we...
A. 28 January 2016: Breaking contact is the best thing that you can do, as you say yourself there was no joy from this, he has just made you ill. ... (read in full...)
I think her behaviour equals "playing games" with me. What should I do in this situation?
Q. I started talking to a girl and we hit it off straight away. We began talking as if we were together, everything got stressful, it was too much. We stopped speaking for a bit, to which she proposed we could be together in the future and whatn...
A. 27 January 2016: She doesn't want love from you, she sounds like she keeps you where she wants you to boost her own egos. But she doesn't want to get to know you as a person or hear stories about you.
I think you know already that this doesn't feel right. I am tota... (read in full...)
What can I do when she gets in a mood like this?
Q. My friend has been really difficult and I don't know how to deal with it or if it's even worth it. She's been having a hard time the last couple of years and the things we both went through in life is what made us bond in the first place, as much ...
A. 27 January 2016: Well done for being there for her and for supporting her. But something has got to give. You cannot allow her to lash out at you all the time and for her to think it is okay. She is negative about her life, although she tries to put you down further ... (read in full...)
How can I overcome my emotions over this bad break-up? Feel sick with jealousy, anger, hurt and sadness
Q. Hi everyone. So I broke up with my ex girlfriend and ended up exploring my bisexual side. Since September 2015 I have been seeing This guy our meets were intense and we ended up having sex. I freaked out for a couple of weeks and ignored him. He ...
A. 27 January 2016: I am sorry that you have got hurt in the process, but you have admitted yourself that you did not want a relationship, the thing is when two people have sex without the title, well along the line someone will get hurt. I am sorry it had to be you. ... (read in full...)
Is it a good idea to propose to her on St Valentine's day? She never revealed earlier why she broke up with me, previously.
Q. We went out for a year and then she broke it off. After about 4 months we started seeing each other. We have been seeing each other for the past 2 months. I am not sure why she broke it off. I am a healthy 65 she is 54. She has never been marri...
A. 27 January 2016: It is a lovely gesture, but I think you should find out from her why she left you, she obviously had her reasons, and they could be very important to your relationship now, so before thinking of proposing you should sit down with her crack open a ... (read in full...)
I used to want a relationship and romance but all the girls wanted was to be romance with no sex. now that I've tried sex only, the girls get all crazy and want a relationship.
Q. I always manage to get the girl that want the opposite of what I want. I've tried meeting them at places where we have something in common like club or events and half the time they're okay with talking to me and I take them out to dinner and what I ...
A. 27 January 2016: You don't need to take them on expensive dates. Not all women want you spending your money on them. However if a woman feels like it is to soon to get intimate well then that is their choice. Some people will have sex the first date, others will ... (read in full...)
Why was the sex so different between my ex and this man and which one is normal?
Q. A little while ago, I had sex with someone. I'd only ever has sex with one other person before this. My first "lover" was my ex. During the act, we did not really kiss or look at each other. Or talk much. Even when I lost my virginity to him...
A. 27 January 2016: There is no normal way for sex. Everybody is different and enjoys different things. It sounds to me like both you and your ex where quite inexperienced and therefore it was straight to intercourse and that was it. Your ex sounds like he was a ... (read in full...)
How can I stop myself from mentally dating him and getting worked up about it?
Q. Since starting her new job, my friend has been telling me that I’m well suited to one of her colleagues. Although I've never met him, she's also told me that he fancies me - based on what she’s told him about me and photos he’s seen. All this has ...
A. 27 January 2016: It sounds to me like your friend is trying to make you jealous. It seems she built up your hopes only to tell you that he is off limits and that she likes him. She has some issues by the sounds of things.
Okay look yes your feelings have been mess... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend lie all the time?
Q. Hi, used to ask for help around here 5 or so years ago, and back again to ask for more help! I have 2 questions really, 1st one- Why does my boyfriend lie? He doesn't go out and then lie about where he's been as if he's been out with a girl and...
A. 27 January 2016: I think you need to start being a bit more sensible about this situation instead of burying your head in it. Please start having safe sex and don't bring a child in to this. It could be a great thing that you have not gotten pregnant yet because ... (read in full...)
What can I do in dealing with my abusive mama's boy husband?
Q. I am not getting along with my husband very well at all, it is an abusive relationship for one thing and then I have a big problem in that it is like he is married to his mother. He is at her beck and call always sending her money because his pare...
A. 27 January 2016: If you are in an abusive relationship then my advice to you is to get out off it.
If he wants to keep this marriage alive then he needs to treat you with respect and not only that but he should be paying half of the bills.
He has a horrible... (read in full...)
Why do guys kiss and cuddle and then tell me they just want to be friends?
Q. Why why why.... Okay guys why would you tell a girl you like her. Cuddle with her. Kiss her or even try kissing her. Then tell her that you dont want to be more then friends this has happened to me in more then one account and im getting quite sick ...
A. 27 January 2016: Sometimes guys just want a fling, so they will tell you anything so that they can get close to you. Have these guys ever suggested more than just kissing and cuddling? You will find there are a lot of people out there who are young and just want to ... (read in full...)
My date was rude about his ex wife
Q. I have been talking to a guy online for a month. Yesterday he said his ex wife had put on a lot of weight after two children going up to a UK size 14 (12 USA) and that he struggled to find her attractive and things went downhill after that. I said ...
A. 26 January 2016: I agree with Honeypie totally. It is up to yourself how you proceed from here, but nobody wants to hear a man say that he left his wife because she put on weight, A size 14 is average enough, its not like she put on so much weight that she couldn't ... (read in full...)
We never iron out our differences when we argue and I'm wondering if I should walk away?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a couple years, when we argue or have a problem that needs to be addressed he will not, if I bring it up he gets angry then we are arguing again so we never iron out or differences... It's very frustrating!! ...
A. 26 January 2016: I agree with Aunty BimBim, you need to tell him how it is. He thinks he can keep burying it because most men hate to talk about these situations. However they need to be addressed for you to move forward. So show him how serious you are about ... (read in full...)
I'm trampolining with my crush! What should I wear that'll impress him, but is still comfortable?
Q. Hey everyone. So, on Saturday, I'm going out with this group of people, (including my crush). And we're going trampolining...And so basically, I just wanted some help on what I should wear. I mean, I know it's not a date, but I want to look good, ...
A. 26 January 2016: I think you wearing a dress with leggings is a good idea, they will be comfortable but also will look good. Good luck.... (read in full...)
I broke his heart because he said No to exclusivity. What causes fear of commitment?
Q. I met a wonderful man online (26) and we dated for two months. We were basically BF and GF without the title, and it was the perfect relationship. We never established or assumed exclusivity but considering all factors it’s highly unlikely he was ...
A. 26 January 2016: I don't think this has anything to do with the feelings he has for you, it is clear that he cares deeply about you. I think he just got scared and he said no. He doesn't want to let his guard down around you, or by the sounds of it any other woman. ... (read in full...)
Having an affair with my friend's husband
Q. I m 22 years old n i love a guy he is 23 and married to my friend.we have known each other since 1 year ago before evwrything was ok but since 4-5months we are regularly talking with each other and meeting secretly.we both have feelings for each ...
A. 26 January 2016: What does he mean he is afraid off his wife? Sounds to me like he is more afraid of his wife finding out as he does not want to leave her. If he wanted to be with you then he would choose you. But he wants both his cake and eat it.
You don't soun... (read in full...)
Suddenly he cannot get hard. How can I help him with this?
Q. A little background on us, we've been dating since the week before thanksgiving 2015. It was fun and very exciting to build this new relationship and the sex was great! But suddenly he cannot keep hard no matter what I try. I didn't rush him aski...
A. 26 January 2016: Most men have fantasies in there heads, but they don't say them out loud. Maybe he is telling you in the hope that you will agree to this with him. Although id he cannot get it up for one woman how does he think he will manage three. ... (read in full...)
Is this the end of the line?
Q. I met a man over two months ago and immediately entered into an intimate relationship and fell for him. He is 7 years my senior and at the moment he is working day till night all over the country so I never get to see him. Our last date was 2 we...
A. 26 January 2016: You say you immediately entered in to an intimate relationship with him, to me this sounds like he may only be after sex with you. He blocks you because he doesn't want you contacting him, more than likely he is with another woman and doesn't want ... (read in full...)
Why did my guy betray me and stop being loyal while I was busy supporting my Dad during Dad's terminal illness?
Q. I have had the worst year of my life due to my dad's terminal illness. This has took a lot out of me waiting for the outcome to happen. I had what I thought was an amazing man supporting me. I've now happened to find out that through all these ba...
A. 26 January 2016: You mention that you have had the worst year off your life, and I am sorry to hear that. You thought your boyfriend was supporting you, but where you in turn supporting him as well? Yes we all go through grief and trauma in our lives where we need ... (read in full...)
Why is hubby hiding Viagra from me??
Q. I have been married for a very long time. About 10 years ago I discovered that my h was a porn/sex addict, he has never sought help, just thought that he could hide it better, now with the use of pocket porn, his mobile phone, he has a constant...
A. 26 January 2016: From your post it seems that you have accepted his sex addiction. Its a shame it was not nipped in the bud and has been allowed to go on this long. It is terrible unfair on you to be in a marriage where there is no passion or love between the ... (read in full...)
Am I afraid of being happy? Should I nip this relationship in the bud or let it grow?
Q. Background: I haven't been in a relationship since I was in a multi-year-long tumultuous relationship in high school (my first and only). It was a physically and emotionally abusive relationship and I have avoided relationships for almost six year...
A. 25 January 2016: This is a difficult one to answer, maybe there is just no chemistry for you, and if that is the case, then yes off course you should end it and keep searching.
However it could also be possible that you are comparing it to your other rela... (read in full...)
Is this the person she will always be? She hit me
Q. My girlfriend and I were studying together in an empty classroom when she decided she was cold and wanted to do jumping jacks to warm up but said it would be too embarrassing. I said: it's not embarrassing and nobody is here but me so who cares. I...
A. 25 January 2016: It sounds like she is insecure. You rolling your eyes hit a nerve with her and she lashed out. She sounds over dramatic yes but maybe she has issues in other parts of her life and she lashed out at you. Either way it is not acceptable for her to hit ... (read in full...)
Whenever we argue he gives me the silent treatment, sometimes for a week at a time!
Q. Hi I just wondered if anybody had been in the same boat and could give a little advice. I've been with my partner 4 years and have a child with him. The problem is whenever we argue he gives me the silent treatment for days, sometimes ev...
A. 25 January 2016: He is taking a tantrum like a toddler. Be honest with him, tell him you will not tolerate this behavior, that it is not fair your your child to have to be in an atmosphere where you and him are not talking to each other. He needs to grow up and ... (read in full...)
Considering breaking up, so why do I feel like crying, as if I'm losing something?
Q. Dear Cupid I'm dating an guy for past 3 months, I connect with him so well it scares the hell out of me. I really like him, he never said anything about liking me, he is not really vocal in showing affection; his action also confuse me Fo...
A. 25 January 2016: Maybe he is just not good at showing his emotions. Don't be to hasty about breaking up with him, is it strange that he didn't pick up his phone? Yes it is very but he may have an explanation.
Yes it might have seemed a bit crazy calling him so many... (read in full...)
I don't even know my mystery guy's name! Does he like me?
Q. Hey everyone! I just need some opinions on a situation that has been developing between me and this guy at university, sorry if this is quite long! So back in around October I was at the pub with my friends and saw this guy, who looked like maybe a ...
A. 25 January 2016: Maybe his training is a scheduled time, therefore if he was going to training at the time you where both talking then maybe you could show up the same day and time this week and see if he is out training. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said he has too much invested in me. What does this mean?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years. We were talking the other day. Some what if's type of conversation. I asked him if he would ever leave me or leave me for someone else and he said he has everything he wants and needs fr...
A. 25 January 2016: Is there reasons for you being so insecure? Do you feel secure in this relationship? Are you getting what you need from it?
At the minute he has invested his time and efforts in to this relationship, meaning that even if he wanted to he coul... (read in full...)
It happened once, why cant it happen again?
Q. Hello. So every weekend, I go over to my partner's house and we do it. Recently I had my first "orgasm"-- well that's what he said happened. A bunch of stuff just gushed out and I pushed him out of me. That new feeling happened so quick it was hard ...
A. 25 January 2016: I wouldn't worry about the stuff that came out, if it was clear colored and didn't have a strong smell then am sure it was normal enough.
I agree with Honeypie though that Orgasms are less likely during sex. Have you been able to orgasm while bein... (read in full...)
Have you ever had feelings for a guy who works at a store?
Q. Okay so I've been going to a store for months. I used to go there, buy my stuff and then head to my home. The past few months I've been having feelings for the guy who works there. Maybe because of the way he talks to me, but really im suddenly ...
A. 25 January 2016: You don't really know much about this guy at the minute, other than he makes you feel good whenever you see him. Maybe try flirt with him and see if he returns the gesture.
Or if you are brave enough why not ask him for a drink sometime.... (read in full...)
Do you think he was flirting?(Is my friend on to something?)
Q. A while ago I went to the gym with my friend. When we get there we're greeted by a personal trainer, he asks what we came for. He offered to show me what to do. I'm a stickler for not paying for anything, so I asked about payment. He said no, won't ...
A. 25 January 2016: Its hard to tell maybe he just wanted to show use some stuff as he had nothing to do, he new he recognized you from somewhere before but he wasn't sure where, so this shows that he wasn't waiting around for you to come back.
If am being honest with... (read in full...)
Do I need help (depression) or am I just complaining?
Q. Hi, I don't know why I'm writing this - I'm not paying too much attention to what I'm writing, it's just kinda spewing out. I don’t know what I should do, or if I feel up or down about what I am these days. I don’t feel as depressed as I u...
A. 25 January 2016: Sounds like you have got yourself stuck in this routine and now it is getting you down. I am glad you don't feel as bad as you have done in the past but am guessing you know the signs off when you are feeling depressed.
If you don't feel like your... (read in full...)
She lied to me. Should I feel betrayed? First she claimed to be a virgin. Later she said otherwise..
Q. Dear all Basically my girlfriend of about 9 months has always told me she is a virgin. that when we have sex it will be her first time. However, she has recently told me that she has had sex with more than 1 previous boyfriend, but said that...
A. 25 January 2016: Off course it is acceptable for you to feel this way. Lying to your partner that you are a virgin when you are not is a huge deal. I wonder what else she has lied to you about? ... (read in full...)
Suddenly he cannot get hard. How can I help him with this?
Q. A little background on us, we've been dating since the week before thanksgiving 2015. It was fun and very exciting to build this new relationship and the sex was great! But suddenly he cannot keep hard no matter what I try. I didn't rush him aski...
A. 25 January 2016: There could be a thousand reasons why he is having problems, stress and anxiety from work could be causing it, after it happening the first time he could be worrying about it and this could be the reason why it keeps happening.
I suggest that you ... (read in full...)
Could it be that we are sexually incompatible? 110 percent compatible in every other way.
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 8 months. During this time I have noticed that when we have intercourse he doesn't always reach orgasm. At first I put it down to us needing more time to get to know each other's bodies but now it is becoming...
A. 25 January 2016: A female is meant to get wet as am sure you are well aware. I think he is using this as an excuse. You need to talk to him about this.
It sounds like he is having some erectile problems, and that is perfectly normal if he is a middle aged man, he m... (read in full...)
I've developed a crush on my former FWB but he's moved on
Q. I was having a friends with benefits relationship with a guy in my first term at university and when we went home for Christmas we were texting all holidays saying that we couldn't wait to get back and carry it on. It was over the holidays i realis...
A. 25 January 2016: You can't be friends with him again. Its simple you both crossed the line of friendship and now you cannot undo that. You where with each other for the sex. If you where real friends then sex wouldn't be part of your friendship. You say you didn't ... (read in full...)
He can't stay hard, says I'm too wet and yet he wants a threesome???
Q. Dear Cupid I'm dating a guy for about a month, we did hit off well and he was nice and everything. Fast forward we had tried to have sex a week back, he told me I'm too wet and when he was able to do it, he couldn't hold his erection, tried ...
A. 22 January 2016: He as embarrassed he couldn't get it up so he blamed you. Very mature off him, NOT! Men can be very childish and also it can be very hurtful and make you feel like you are abnormal. Most men would love to see that you are wet and ready, please do ... (read in full...)
Second thoughts on my long distance love
Q. My boyfriend and I have been in a LDR for 2 years now. We see each other every month or so. When I first dated him, I knew that our lifestyles and careers were quite different. I work for a well known tech' company as an operations manager. I make ...
A. 22 January 2016: In the beginning you ignored these issues, you looked at him as a person and not where he lived or how much he earned, good for you. I like that people don't judge a book by there cover.
But now this long in to the relationship off course you care... (read in full...)
Should I break confidentiality to protect a relative?
Q. This is sort of an ethical dilemma. I volunteered at a transitional home for women most of whom were recovering drug addicts who had child service cases. One lady there, who I will call Shelly, opened up about her story and how she grew up in a ...
A. 22 January 2016: I don't think it is wise for you to volunteer yourself any longer to work with these women. These women need an understanding ear and help, they don't need someone who is narrow minded and judgmental.
This is not your story to tell, and it is not ... (read in full...)
Fighting for something that will never happen
Q. Okay, so I've been trying to go along this by myself lately but I have asked around but my damn heart keeps pointing me to wrong direction it seems. I'll cut this huge timeline/story but I've gone out with my ex for 1 year and 8 months but I bro...
A. 22 January 2016: You may have ended the relationship, but it sounds to me like the relationship was dead before this and the only reason that you ended it was in hope that she would fight for you, which she didn't. Therefore that tells you that she is not interested ... (read in full...)
I've come to absolutely detest my husband's mother and his family because of her behavior towards me
Q. I got married almost a year ago to a wonderful man. Trouble is, I’ve absolutely come to detest his mother and his family. I met my husband at my place of work; we had a fairy-tale romance and finally a dream wedding. When my husband used to t...
A. 22 January 2016: He's a mommys boy and she feels that you have taking him away from her. I agree with what advice you have got from here so far, however I don't think you should shy away from his family, it will give them more to complain about. Be the bigger ... (read in full...)
I've lost my trust in him. I love him but am not in love with him
Q. ok so I have been with this guy going on 3 years and I already had one baby with my x husband n he stepped up to the plate n he loves her so within the past going on 3 years of being with him I have had 2 kids by him n hes a great father to them all ...
A. 22 January 2016: If he has admitted to you that he still loves her well then the kindest thing you can do for yourself and your children is to leave him. If he is not fully committed to you and is lusting after another woman well then this is not fair on you. You ... (read in full...)
I don't have confidence in myself in regards to women and dating. Should I give up?
Q. Is it possible to give up on women? I have a very complicated history with them that ranges from saving a girl from getting raped in high school to getting left by my junior prom date for another guy at the dance. I have had one ex in high schoo...
A. 22 January 2016: If it is fun you want that that is okay, but I do suggest that you let a girl know that is all you want from her before you begin a sexual relationship with her, as long as your open and honest then she will not get hurt. ... (read in full...)
I've lost my trust in him. I love him but am not in love with him
Q. ok so I have been with this guy going on 3 years and I already had one baby with my x husband n he stepped up to the plate n he loves her so within the past going on 3 years of being with him I have had 2 kids by him n hes a great father to them all ...
A. 21 January 2016: If you are not in love with him then leave, this happened three years ago and still you think about it. He never done anything wrong. Expect for not telling you he had a thing with this girl. Everyone has a past. Some people keep the memories and ... (read in full...)
I don't have confidence in myself in regards to women and dating. Should I give up?
Q. Is it possible to give up on women? I have a very complicated history with them that ranges from saving a girl from getting raped in high school to getting left by my junior prom date for another guy at the dance. I have had one ex in high schoo...
A. 20 January 2016: Having lots of sex should not be important to you at all. Finding a woman who loves you and who you can be comfortable around and explore should be whats important. If all you are interested in is sex then I suggest you call a local hooker.
W... (read in full...)
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