My wife wants to end our marriage says she loves me as a friend only
Q. Firstly, I love my wife very much and dont want to split up. She has recently suggested that she is not 'in love' with me anymore, sees me as a friend and that she wants to break up which I dont and want to make our marriage work. She had a bit of a ...
A. 4 March 2016: You believe she has not cheated, but have you spoke to her about these phone calls? I think that's something you both need to discuss before use can start working on your problems. ... (read in full...)
Why does my lover play the push and pull game?
Q. Why does my lover push and pull? I am actually quite fed up with it. After 5 years, I don't want to be ignored and sent minimal three word texts. Have told him as much. I would much rather be told if he needed his space, didn't want to message. Not ...
A. 19 February 2016: He obviously doesn't care for you as much as you do for him. Dump and get someone who actually wants to be with you.... (read in full...)
Should I be sending risque pics to my boyfriend? Will it get on the internet?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months and we have a very close relationship. He is an incredibly sweet person and I honestly trust him with anything. The other day we were talking and it just so happened that he sent me a topless ...
A. 19 February 2016: It is great that you trust your boyfriend. But sometimes these relationships don't last forever. Something could happen and you two could fall out and bam he is showing your pictures. I would not be sending anything that could end up on the ... (read in full...)
He's in a relationship but has feelings for me. What should we do?
Q. I have feelings for a guy - but he is in a relationship. However yesterday he told me he has feelings for me aswell. What do we do?!...
A. 19 February 2016: He doesn't sound to trustworthy to me. Are you sure he just doesn't want to have some fun with you then go home to his girlfriend? Stay clear.... (read in full...)
I believed my married boyfriend's lies until I could no longer deny the truth. Now I am broken!
Q. Recently broke up with my boyfriend after two consuming and loyal years.I was bought up with utmost moral but seemingly started my relationship with my ex while he was separated from his wife.The constant struggle between my inner conscience and ...
A. 19 February 2016: I don't think it is about you not being good enough, the fact is he was still married, he was never separated from his wife he lied to you just as he did to his wife. You are both the victims here off his lies and deceit. Don't think that it was ... (read in full...)
How do I overcome having serious trust issues?
Q. Ive just started a new relationship, 5mths. I have serious trust issue, mainly from ex relationships. How can I over come this ? I dont want to loose him we are really good together....
A. 18 February 2016: It can be hard to learn to trust again after some bad experiences. But I guess you need to remember that all men are different. They are not all going to lie and cheat. If your man has nothing to hide and he is honest then that is a great start. ... (read in full...)
My wife wants to end our marriage says she loves me as a friend only
Q. Firstly, I love my wife very much and dont want to split up. She has recently suggested that she is not 'in love' with me anymore, sees me as a friend and that she wants to break up which I dont and want to make our marriage work. She had a bit of a ...
A. 18 February 2016: I am sorry that you are in this situation. It is hard being a new mum, but people often forget that its just as hard being a new dad and that you need support as well.
Being diagnosed with PND can explain some off her behavior off course. Howe... (read in full...)
Is it ok to meet up with an ex employee?
Q. Hi Guys, so a lady recently left the company but before leaving she suggested that I find her on Facebook and we can go from there. Is it okay to meet up with an ex-employee?...
A. 18 February 2016: It is okay yes if you have an interest in her. She has terminated her employment with you and if you won't be hiring her again well then I don't see a problem.... (read in full...)
Which party do I go to?
Q. So, I'm a 16yr old male and I've been invited to one of my mates party, I'm not really close with her but all my other friends will be there, however, on the same day i have been invited to another smaller party by my CRUSH! Which one do I go to?...
A. 18 February 2016: I say you should go to the smaller one with your crush, it might give you a chance to talk more to her and maybe even let her know how you feel.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is stressed and depressed and wants space but I don't want to leave him alone to deal with things
Q. Hi everyone, So I've been with my boyfriend now for just over a year, but a few days ago he announced out of the blue that 'things had changed' and he wasn't sure if we could be together anymore. He was crying this whole time and saying how he st...
A. 18 February 2016: I am sorry that you have to go through this. I am sure it was a shock to the system that he felt like this when you thought everything was okay. Stress can do a lot to the body and mind. He is putting himself under to much pressure at the moment and ... (read in full...)
I'm dating 2 men, neither is quite right but I don't want to be alone
Q. Not really sure where to start with this one but here it goes...s I'm dating two men; one is extremely nice to me and loving and complementary. He buys me little things like roses and we have a good relationship. he's there for me if I need him, ...
A. 18 February 2016: Maybe none of the two guys are the right guy for you? If you are not completely happy with either off them then I would finish seeing both off them. Yes it can be scary being alone but it might give you a better chance off meeting the right guy. ... (read in full...)
I have feelings for a guy that I work with
Q. I have feelings for a guy that I work with!! On our works Christmas party we kissed, before this we had a laugh and banter together. Since the kiss, we have spoken everyday since. Just general chat, the odd compliment, generally just getting to ...
A. 18 February 2016: Did you show him any signs of liking him? It sounds like he did try with you, did you flirt back? It could be a case that he felt his feelings were not getting returned so he gave up.
It could also be a case that he has met someone else so this... (read in full...)
I see him more as a friend, a good friend but there's a spark there, but not that much of a spark?
Q. okay so, ive been texting / meeting this guy for a couple of months now and things are going well, he's great such a nice guy so funny. he's told me that he's likes me but I told him a few weeks back that I don't want anything serious which he ...
A. 18 February 2016: Look you told him straight out that you don't want anything serious, so you where honest with him. Your head is all over the place at the moment, and you need your friends at a time like this to support you. As long as you are honest with him then ... (read in full...)
My new boyfriend has a low sex drive
Q. I look after myself and love sex and intimacy. I have met a guy who after a few attempts admits he has ED and it feels numb and he hardly masturbates. It caused a rift in his marriage and viagra didnt work and his hormone levels are normal. I ha...
A. 18 February 2016: Has he been to a doctor for help? Tell him that you do understand his problem but that sex is important to you and that maybe he should seek help.... (read in full...)
Where do I draw the line with LDR BF who is becoming provocative and sexually disrespectful?
Q. Hi there, I’m after some advice about a new relationship. It’s long distance and we met online. He’s a bit older than me and has been married before. He’s not really my type but pursued me, was incredibly lovely to me at the beginning, we ha...
A. 17 February 2016: He is basically training you in to submission. He was sweet and caring until you showed your emotional side and now he is showing his true colors. I can see why you regret showing emotion, but this is the natural step that he would have taken ... (read in full...)
Trapped by love I can't return
Q. I've been with this girl for over a year. She loves me like no one has ever loved me before. She wants children with me and wants a life with me. We've travelled together and we get along great - we have fun together. She can make me laugh, I can...
A. 17 February 2016: You cannot stay with her just because you are scared nobody else will have you. This is not fair on her, and its not fair on you either if you don't truly love her. ... (read in full...)
I'm worried I don't fit in with the crowd
Q. I'm a really social person, and I've always tried to chat with girls who are at my lecture. They are basically a group of girls, and they are just not my type, but i have no choice or else I'll just end up alone. I do have lots of other friends but ...
A. 17 February 2016: The best thing that you can do is just be yourself. If these girls don't accept you for who you are well then that is there problem. If they are rude to you I wouldn't bother making an effort with them anyway.
As for hanging out with boys. Ther... (read in full...)
Is sorry ever enough?
Q. I really would like your advice. I did something hurtful and rude to my friend. It was an impulsive act and I regretted it immediately. I mailed her two weeks ago to apologise. I would like to apologise in person too. Though not the best of frie...
A. 17 February 2016: I guess it is up to your friend now if she wants to forgive you or not. It is worth a try messaging her and asking her to see her in person. Maybe buy her some flowers, chocolates or even a bottle of wine as a peace offering. Saying sorry is okay ... (read in full...)
How do I get over shock divorce?
Q. I am still very distraught and sad over my divorce that happened over a year ago. Mainly because I did not want the divorce to happen, nor did I see it coming. I was very much in love with my husband, we were married for 3 years and together for...
A. 17 February 2016: It is going to be difficult to get over this. Especially when it was him that wanted this to happen and it seems that it was all one sided. It can be a shock to the system when you where not even aware that there was a problem between you both. Has ... (read in full...)
Is it love or just habit? Can a husband truly love his wife if he cheats for years?
Q. Can a man cheating on his wife for four plus years really love her? Even if he was straying because of sex- something that he is not getting in his marriage? He doesn't love the other woman- don't know if he cares for her or just using her for ...
A. 17 February 2016: Can he love her after cheating for four years? Well it depends on the situation. If he is in a marriage where there is so sex for medical reasons but he still wants to be with her then maybe he is using his mistress as a way to sexual release. Off ... (read in full...)
He has gone silent. Is he over me?
Q. Hi Please can you give me some advice? Totally mad about a man who seemed to want me and has just gone silent , no sex just no more invitations so sad ....
A. 17 February 2016: Okay so what am getting from your post is that you have feelings for a man and now he is ignoring you, am I correct? Where you in a sexual relationship with this man? Maybe a few more details can help us help you.... (read in full...)
No sex and he's suffering
Q. How important is sex in a marriage? I suffer from dyspareunia and because of this I'm not interested in sex at all. My husband understands my situation but I can see that he is suffering. What should I do? I don't get horny at all. The thought of ...
A. 17 February 2016: Are you on any treatment at the moment? Medication or therapy? Does it help? I think you need to start by managing your dyspareunia and getting the help that is out there.
It is great to hear that your husband is understanding it shows that he love... (read in full...)
Why do some folks gossip so much?
Q. Why do folks gossip so much? Heard a couple of women from work gossiping about our Manager and her estranged relationship with her husband. Am not a fan of my manager but these two women did grow in the organization because of her- where is the...
A. 17 February 2016: A lot of people live boring lives and when they are at work, they love to gossip and talk about other people. As long as they are not harming anyone or spreading lies well then I guess it is normal enough. Me personally I hate people who are two ... (read in full...)
I feel ignored and I don't know what to do
Q. How would you feel if you had a husband who constantly was on viber to some of his family members and friends and when I say constantly I mean sometimes a two hour convo to one friend and then to another; and two hour convos to his mother on a daily ...
A. 17 February 2016: Have you spoke to him and told him how this has made you feel? I think you just need to be more honest with him. Agree on a set time where you have all off his attention, but phones away at least once a day for a while and just talk to each other. ... (read in full...)
I don't believe that I'm in denial, but can sexual preferences change suddenly?
Q. I don't believe I'm in denial but I've been struggling with who I am recently.... So, I know I am either straight, bicurious (heteroflexible) or maybe a little bisexual but I just really don't know. If you believe you're straight, You're straight ...
A. 17 February 2016: Sweetie try and not put a label on yourself. Believe me this is part of growing up. A lot of people experiment with the same sex while others might be turned on but never act on it. Try not let it get you anxious. Just go with the flow. If you ever ... (read in full...)
How can I deal with my demanding mother?
Q. My mum is sometimes difficult and has found her children leaving home and major life events quite hard work due to a difficult marriage and childhood that has effected us all (violent and absent husband - our father). I have done my very best to ...
A. 17 February 2016: Oh Sweetie what a horrible situation for you to be in. Your mother has had a lot to deal with but if I am being brutally honest she needs to step up and be a mother. Yes she had a tough time, but so did all of you and she needs to learn that not ... (read in full...)
Should I ask if he feels the same as me?
Q. I would like some advice about this guy I'm dating. We've been seeing each other about once a week, sometimes twice a week for 10 weeks. I haven't felt such a strong and genuine connection with a guy for a long time and I'm certain he feels it...
A. 17 February 2016: If you feel the need to say it to him then sure go ahead and say it to him. At least you are being honest. However in my opinion it is still very early. He seems to be treating you great, it seems to be going very well between you both and my guess ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend demanded sex, I refused and broke up with him. I'm confused!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship now but not up to a year, truly when we first started I did not have feelings for him but wit time that we both get to know each other so well that I fall for him. after like three month of our dating ...
A. 17 February 2016: Could you call your mother on her phone and tell her what is happening? Or even call your sister and tell her you need her help am sure she will make time for you. If not is there an adult you work with? Maybe see a professional? ... (read in full...)
My husband has started texting women he's met through facebook. Should I worry?
Q. My husband and I have been together about 7 years and he has recently been texting women through Facebook. He says it’s all innocent flirting. These women are in other countries. I expressed to him that I was uncomfortable with him talking to these ...
A. 17 February 2016: Yes I can see why having a three year old would put a bit of strain on your marriage. It is hard raising a child. But really you do need to talk to him about these issues before they get worse. Tell him how it makes you feel, ask him how he would ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend have reminders of his ex wife all over his house? Should I end things with him?
Q. hi there, i maybe sound so silly, but i cant help it. thats the reason im here, cos i wanna feel better. i have a boyfriend.we are now almost 9 months in relationship. we are not living together, cos our city are more than 2 hours drive from each ...
A. 17 February 2016: Do you feel that you have gotten over your husband fully? I am sorry that your husband died, that must have been difficult for you. Did you give yourself time to heal when he died?
I have a feeling you are picking out faults because you are comp... (read in full...)
Boyfriend demanded sex, I refused and broke up with him. I'm confused!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship now but not up to a year, truly when we first started I did not have feelings for him but wit time that we both get to know each other so well that I fall for him. after like three month of our dating ...
A. 17 February 2016: Sweetie I think you should leave this guy. This is a very serious matter. No guy should ever force himself on to a girl, that is a very serious matter. I am glad you where able to stop him, but who knows what will happen the next time, you may not ... (read in full...)
My husband has started texting women he's met through facebook. Should I worry?
Q. My husband and I have been together about 7 years and he has recently been texting women through Facebook. He says it’s all innocent flirting. These women are in other countries. I expressed to him that I was uncomfortable with him talking to these ...
A. 17 February 2016: Yes I think you should be worried. I am not saying he will actively go out and cheat on you, but still he is heading down a bad road.
He says it is innocent flirting, I wonder how he would feel if you where flirting with other men? These are stra... (read in full...)
How do I politely tell this man that I don't wish to stay in contact?
Q. How do I let someone know politely that I don't want to be in contact with them any more? So there's a guy who I used to be kind of friends with in another city. I've met up with him a handful of times and we chatted occassionally on skype. For the ...
A. 17 February 2016: You just need to be honest with him. Tell him you are sorry but at this moment in your life you do not wish to have any contact with someone who has been charged with what he has done. Ask him kindly to delete your number and then hopefully that ... (read in full...)
We've been dating for 2 years and my jobless girlfriend depends on me for everything!
Q. Here it is! My girlfriend and i have been together for two yrs. She has no job, no car, and depends on me for her children's appointment s or shopping and the like. I have no problem helping her as she had let me stay with her in the begining...
A. 17 February 2016: I am not really sure what it is you are looking for either. But it is clear that you are unhappy at the moment. Do you feel like she is taking you for granted? I am well aware it is difficult to be out working all day, but from her point of view she ... (read in full...)
How do I get the strength to leave the boyfriend who has been violent in the past?
Q. I've been in a 12 year relationship with my boyfriend. We never married. I'm 36 years old now and we don't have kids etc. We have had loads of ups and downs and yes I'm ashamed to say he's been violent in the past. I have little money etc, ...
A. 17 February 2016: No you don't sound pathetic at all. Believe it or not you are stronger than a lot of people. You have had the strength to go through an abusive childhood, you have grown up witnessing violence, so you have been taught from a young age that it is ... (read in full...)
I'm living with a girl who still has boyfriend. She says she'll end it with him when things are right
Q. So I've been seeing this girl now, but she has a boyfriend. ive been basically living at her place for a couple weeks now and she tells me she loves me and wants to be with me. Shes very close with his family and they have been together for a long ...
A. 17 February 2016: You can say that she is a good girl until you are blue in the face, it won't make a blind bit of difference. The truth is staring you in the face, you have plenty of people here telling you to be careful but you are burying your head in the sand. I ... (read in full...)
Single on St Valentine's day? So what?
Q. Single on Valentine’s Day? It’s not much fun seeing big bunches of red roses and big red heart shaped balloons being delivered and knowing that none are for you. At least this year you will not be at work to see the succession of flowers delivere...
A. 16 February 2016: It can bring a lot of people down when they see the shops packed full of all the lovely dovey items. Especially if they are feeling lonely. Am sure most off us have been there at some stage in our lives. But it is also good to see so many people in ... (read in full...)
We locked eyes for 4-6 seconds? What does this mean?
Q. me and this guy used to really like each other about a year ago or 9 months, we have talked a bit since then but the other day i was walking down the stairs at school and it was full of people and he looked at me and i thought he would look away as ...
A. 16 February 2016: I don't think it means anything, you both looked at each other, there is not really a lot more you can look in to it over. Why are you both not talking? Did you fall out? Did you agree not to act on your feelings?... (read in full...)
Am I jealous? is he going to spread rumours that aren't true?
Q. I'm really annoyed right now. Today me and my mate were walking down the street and we bumped into my ex. He ran over to my best mate and gave her a hug for about 2 minutes, I was just standing there pretending not to look. After the hug he looked ...
A. 16 February 2016: I think he is being nasty to you probably because he is no longer with you. A lot of teenage boys deal with there feelings like this.
You need to ignore him. Don't allow any contact from him. If he says things about you to your friends ignore him,... (read in full...)
I'm unhappy and want out of my marriage
Q. I always wanted to meet a normal bloke settle down have kids well i got married but i cant say hes normal when i have had little digs said to me, i had my children who are all now 18 and over and i hate my life because i hate my husband and cant see ...
A. 16 February 2016: What is keeping you from leaving? File for divorce and go free. It seems like you are very unhappy so take whats making you unhappy and leave it in your past. Stop blaming your husband for you cheating, you need to own up to your own mistakes, ... (read in full...)
I want my boyfriend to be romantic again! He's gotten too comfortable
Q. Dear cupid me and my bf have been together a year and 4 months.We are pretty happy 80% of the time. But lately I feel taken for granted.Sometimes he seems irritable with me for no reason and im getting trust issues from this.I feel like he's getting ...
A. 16 February 2016: Poor you, this sounds like it was a terrible Valentines day. Am sure he must have figured this would have hurt you, everyone else getting gifts and not you. Honey there is no way you can hide these feelings from him because if you do it will make ... (read in full...)
This girl overheard me and now she know who my crush is. How do I react when he finds out?
Q. hi,so i need a quick answer right now.heres my problem:so i have this crush,and i was talking about him with my friends,but this girl "overheard" it and yelled at my crush,fortunately he didn't hear,but she was yelling beside the bus, i was making ...
A. 16 February 2016: You should just ignore her. She wants to embarrass you. She is not a very nice girl. She wants attention. Don't give it to her. Just laugh at her and ignore her. If your crush finds out at least the truth is out in the open. ... (read in full...)
How do I get the strength to leave the boyfriend who has been violent in the past?
Q. I've been in a 12 year relationship with my boyfriend. We never married. I'm 36 years old now and we don't have kids etc. We have had loads of ups and downs and yes I'm ashamed to say he's been violent in the past. I have little money etc, ...
A. 16 February 2016: What is it you are scared about? This is an abusive relationship, one where you are not wanted, so why do you not want to leave? What is keeping you there?
I do understand 12 years is a long time, and off course you have forgave him for things in t... (read in full...)
I'm living with a girl who still has boyfriend. She says she'll end it with him when things are right
Q. So I've been seeing this girl now, but she has a boyfriend. ive been basically living at her place for a couple weeks now and she tells me she loves me and wants to be with me. Shes very close with his family and they have been together for a long ...
A. 15 February 2016: Ask yourself this....Can you trust her? She claims to love him and his family, she has knowing them since she was a child, yet she is cheating on him and not being honest? If she can do that to someone she cares so much about, don't you think she ... (read in full...)
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