My boyfriend is lovely but doesn't seem to have time for me!
Q. I've known my boyfriend for four years now and we were friends until two weeks back when i agreed to be his girlfriend over the phone (phone call). He is in another city near mine for his studies so he always tell me he is busy. I don't know what to ...
A. 12 February 2016: Its still very early in this relationship. Its great use have been friends, so you know each other, and well he obviously likes you or he would not have asked you to be his girlfriend two weeks ago.
A long distant relationship can be tough, espe... (read in full...)
I see the signs that my younger boyfriend loves me but he won't express them
Q. Hi everyone, I'm in a relationship with a guy much younger than me. That doesn't show though. I'm hopelessly inlove with him. I can see the signs that he loves me but he's hiding his feelings and emotions from me. He say he won't get married but at ...
A. 12 February 2016: Age shouldn't be an issue here. If you love him well then great, he may not tell you he loves you, but they are only words, and if he shows you he loves you well then again that is great.
If he is not sure about marriage yet, well then maybe he n... (read in full...)
I'm not sure what to do.There is a guy in the group who treats me as a gentleman should. How should I respond?
Q. A group of guys has been acting really weird these days. I'm a tomboy, i enjoy sports, video games etc and even my style is edgy. These group of guys always tease me but in a nice way. Whenever i sit in a certain place, one of these guys usual...
A. 12 February 2016: Maybe you should get help for your anger issues first. Maybe these guys who annoy you only do it because they know it will make you angry, and they like the reaction you give to them. Maybe seek help on these issues before they get out of control.
I... (read in full...)
Were my initial instincts are right here, after our first date? Or should I wait a bit longer?
Q. Hi everyone, thanks in advance for your help. I've not been single for very long so I'm needing a little bit of help working out what I should do here. So I went on a first date last Saturday and I thought it went well. We both seemed a bit ner...
A. 12 February 2016: I don't think you should give up to soon. He may not have wanted to kiss you on a first date or make things awkward. He is still texting you, and as you said yourself he is busy at the moment. You don't seem to have anything to lose by keeping up ... (read in full...)
Is it a bad sign that he originally wanted to spend time with his parents, not me, for his 21st?
Q. So this weekend is my boyfriend's 21st birthday. I told him I would take off the day of his birthday and after. The plan was we would get drinks together or I would DD. Well tonight I ask him if we were still on and I get a text saying "sorry I have ...
A. 12 February 2016: You both had plans together, and then when you went to confirm he said he was spending it with his parents instead. Off course you have the right to be upset. Not only did he change the plans you both had, but he also never mentioned it to you, he ... (read in full...)
I really like online sex shows. Will this lead down a bad path?
Q. Hello Aunties! I don't want to use the word addicted, but I recently discovered online sex shows where women interact in sexy ways for just a few dollars. They will strip down and talk dirty to me. Most of them are REALLY young (19-20) and at m...
A. 12 February 2016: It is okay to experiment and try new things. We only live once after all, if you are single then you are not doing any harm. You ask is it a bad path to go down, well if you feel like you are getting more and more hooked then yes it can be. A lot of ... (read in full...)
What is going on? She says she loves me, but ? ? ? It's her way or "no way"
Q. Sorry if I go on with this, I just need some help shedding a bit of light on my relationship. I have been seeming an older woman for 2 and a half years. We have had an emotional rollercoaster with one thing and another. Mainly her having issu...
A. 12 February 2016: It doesn't sound like she wants to be with you am afraid. You can make as much effort as you want to make her happy, but it will never be enough if she doesn't want to be in this relationship. To me it sounds like she just doesn't want to be alone, ... (read in full...)
So why hasn't he asked me out again?
Q. So me and this guy have had a thing going on for about a year now. Last year we always acted like a couple all the time, and finally this year he asked me out, but over a text message... So we were together for about 3 1/2 months before we decided ...
A. 12 February 2016: I think you need to be asking him that not us. It is clear you both have feelings for each other, but sometimes that is not enough. Who decided to break up? What where the reasons for the break up? and have they now been resolved? If it was me I ... (read in full...)
Why do I remain unattached? Why can't I find a guy interested in a long term commitment with me?
Q. Emotional dependency issue. I have been single now for four years and I can't quite pin point the issue. I like to think I have a wonderful life, great career, ambition, attractive, my own place, finishing a Master's Degree, blah blah blah. Regar...
A. 12 February 2016: I think you cannot find a man that wants to date you because you always go for the wrong man. You don't delve in to much about your past with your parents, however am guessing you have a lot of baggage from your relationship with them. My guess is ... (read in full...)
Wouldn't most parents be thrilled to have a kid like me?
Q. My mom and I are having problems right now and I don't know why. I will probably graduate at the top of my class in May. No drugs, gangs, or anything I like that. I am managing money for my dad and his partners and collecting nice management fees. I ...
A. 11 February 2016: You make it sound like it is all about you. Its not.
Okay so no drugs or gangs, great well done. If you finish top in your class that is fantastic. Hopefully it will secure you a good future. It sounds from your post that you are very switched on a... (read in full...)
When do you tell a guy you are a virgin?
Q. Hello, first time poster. I keep having a problem here and I guess my main question is when do you tell a guy you are a virgin? I oviously shouldn't shake a boy's hand and say, "hi, I'm Carey and I'm a virgin." but a lot of boys, after I have been ...
A. 11 February 2016: If a guy tells you that you have wasted his time, then he was not the right guy for you. Maybe try meet guys at church, where you may meet someone with the same beliefs? ... (read in full...)
How does he get away with cheating and then get the perfect girl and relationship and I'm left looking like the big bad wolf.
Q. I'm probably going to get a lot of hate over this but this is why I'm writing, for help and advice. Around 19 months ago I had an affair with a guy 11 years younger than myself who was in a relationship with an extremely beautiful girl a...
A. 11 February 2016: He made a mistake. He was in a vulnerable place. Things between him and her where not working and he decided to have sex with you to make himself feel better. The thing is he used you. but you also knew he wasn't single so you where both at fault. ... (read in full...)
Would I be better off on my own?
Q. My partner and I have been together for 6 years and have two small kids a baby and a 2 year old, lately it seems like we just talk bout the kids or house, I feel like I do everything with the kids on my own he works long hours but would never help ...
A. 11 February 2016: No off course it wouldn't be better if you where on your own. It is a lot of stress at the moment. I can see why toy feel the way that you do. Having a baby and a toddler is hard work. They take over your life so off course them along with your home ... (read in full...)
Do I love him enough to look past the fact he already has 3 children by 2 different mothers?
Q. I have been in a new very loving and very strong connection type relationship for about 5months now. We both feel like we have never felt with anyone before. Here is the problem. He had a previous fiancé 2 years ago but also has 2 children with ...
A. 11 February 2016: You where the better woman for staying in the house. That must have been hard living with your boyfriend and someone who was carrying his baby. You are a stronger woman than I would have been.
Now everyone makes mistakes. He obviously saw a futu... (read in full...)
Confused, and flirting with another guy. What should I consider?
Q. Hello, I am mortified that I even have to ask this but I really really need some help. I have been going out with a guy for 5 months now and as much as I hate to admit it I'm not physically attracted to him but his personality is amazing, he is so...
A. 11 February 2016: 5 months is a very short time when it comes to a relationship. If you are not attracted to him, well then it wont work out long term. There has to be an attraction for a relationship to develop in to something long term. It sounds like he is good to ... (read in full...)
When she goes cold, what would you suggest I do?
Q. Hi everyone About 7 months ago i met a great girl. I really like her and i believe she likes me too (sometimes). She goes hot and cold. I know she is very stressed with her work, has trust issues and currently works as an au pair and hates th...
A. 11 February 2016: If she finds it difficult to trust people and she is unhappy at the moment, well then it will make it difficult for you both to move on to the next level.
Next time she is happy talk to her, tell her that you like her. Tell her you would like to t... (read in full...)
Is he waiting for someone better? If he knows he is not going to marry me then why so much effort expended?
Q. My boyfriend told me he sees a future with me, but he is scarred of marriage and is still sorting out things in his life and does not want to get married when things are not where he wants it to be. Now he called to tell me he is going to buy gif...
A. 11 February 2016: Why cant you just believe what he tells you. He says he sees a future with you. He is a bit scared off marriage at the moment, but that is totally fine. You have only been together two years so there is no rush at all on either of you. You seem to ... (read in full...)
I have a crush on twin sisters but I don't know if they are straight or not. What can I do?
Q. I have a crush on these two twin sisters at my school. First of all they are both drop dead gorgeous! Next they both have really good personality traits that are different from each other. One girl is kind, a little bit shy, she knows just what ...
A. 11 February 2016: You don't need to come straight out and ask them if they are straight or not. There are more suttle ways off finding out. Begin by asking them there interests, if they have boyfriends ect. Pick which one you prefer more, as you cant date the both of ... (read in full...)
Should I give my shy crush a Valentine's card?
Q. Hey! Should I give my shy crush a valentine's card? Im almost certain he knows I like him, as other agree it's been made obvious- but he also knows I'm shy.. BTW I don't know this guy as a friend yet, although he does always make shy conversation...
A. 11 February 2016: Homemade is far better. It means you put some effort in to it, instead of just buying a card. Good for you. ... (read in full...)
Post threesome drama...what to do when you want to stay friends??
Q. So I've been dating my boyfriend for over year now and we haven't had any issues in the past. But, recently I had cheated on him, for what seems to be no reason at all, in a threesome. The other girl in the threesome is my best friend and her then ...
A. 10 February 2016: This is what happens when we cheat. I am sorry that you miss your friend, but am sure it has been hard on him accepting that you cheated on him. His way of dealing with this was if you promised to end the friendship, I guess he needed to know that ... (read in full...)
If your boyfriend was cheating would he suggest you follow him to see he is innocent?
Q. If you worry your boyfriend is cheating on you and tell him that you are worried about this, if he was GUILTY would he tell you point blank to follow him around and be discreet so that you can put your mind at ease? My boyfriend told me to follo...
A. 10 February 2016: Have you any reason to believe he is cheating or is it just that you are insecure? You need to figure that one out first.
Remember what he has said to you is just words, sounds like words to let you give him peace, and stop nagging him about chea... (read in full...)
I'm married so why am I having an affair with a co-worker?
Q. I put myself in a very difficult situation and don't know where to go from here. Recently I had an affair with a coworker.I'm a married woman and feel horrible about it. I wasn't planning on it, believe me. When I look back, I realize that we both ...
A. 10 February 2016: If your marriage is so worthless to you that you tell us to put it aside, then surely the kindest thing you can do is to let your husband go free so he can meet someone who actually treats him well, who doesn't cheat on him. If you have any feelings ... (read in full...)
Bf is taking me to the same restaurant he took his ex for valentine's day
Q. I found out my boyfriend is taking me to the same place he took his ex for vday 5 years ago. how do i know this his sister accidentally mentioned it to me, said oh i didn't know he is taking you to the same place he went wit his ex. Would you all ...
A. 10 February 2016: Five years ago? Five years ago and you need to question a two year relationship? Really? Are you insecure in this relationship? Have you reasons to be? If not then go for dinner, enjoy the food, the company and your night. Appreciate that he is ... (read in full...)
My new boyfriend cheated on his ex wife and I'm worried he will cheat on me
Q. I met a lovely guy a few weeks ago who was married for 18 years. He said they broke up many times but waited until their daughter grew up before they divorced. He said that he cheated on his ex with one married lady from an adult dating site and ...
A. 10 February 2016: He didn't need to tell you but he did. That shows guts. Did you ask him why he felt the need to cheat? A confession does not make it right no, but he did not do anything to you personally. Everyone makes mistakes in there life, everyone is capable ... (read in full...)
Do I throw away a 3 year relationship based on a "gut feeling" my BF is cheating on me?
Q. Please help me. I cannot live this way anymore. I am on the verge of throwing away an almost 3 year relationship with a man I love and adore because of a "gut feeling" he is cheating. How do I deal with this? I am right at the edge. I hav...
A. 10 February 2016: You feel like this because you know he is capable of doing it. He cheated on his wife to be with you, now you think he will do the same. It is a horrible way to live, but it happens so many times in cases like this, you feel he won't change he will ... (read in full...)
Does being friends with benefits ever work out?
Q. I am a 42 year old single man. One of my best friends is a 33 year old single woman. We have never been romantic in any way but recently my friend told me in a joking way that she would give me oral sex if I took care of some things around her hous...
A. 10 February 2016: It usually starts out okay, nobody wants a relationship they just want to have some fun. Then comes the feelings. Some can have sex just purely to have fun, but a lot of people can't. Sex is a closeness and to most people it is only natural to ... (read in full...)
My husband's behavior gives me migraine headaches
Q. I have been married for five years and recently developed migraine headache. The unfortunate part is apart from inadequate sleep, my husband is always the migraine headache trigger. He can be nasty and moody at times and this causes a reaction in ...
A. 10 February 2016: If he is so nasty to you, then why do you put up with it? This is your life, you are in control of your own happiness, if this was me I would tell him he needs to stop being nasty or he is going to lose me, if he didn't listen I would pack my bags ... (read in full...)
Why does he keep flirting with me when he is married?
Q. Guy at work was flirting with me for about 6wks then I asked him out for a drink. He refused stating if he was not married he would, than proceeded to let me know how flattered he was,and lets continue to be friends. So I said I was sorry for ...
A. 10 February 2016: He loves to flirt, but he has made it clear that he is married, which is a great sign. He was flattered that you asked him out, and the flirting is good for his ego, it probably makes him feel good. Less like a married man. Don't read to much in to ... (read in full...)
What's going on with me, and with us? We are FWB, but we can't get enough of each other.
Q. I have a woman that I absolutely LOVE to have sexual relations with, I mean, I feel almost addictive about it. We are friends, and we hang out. But the sexual tension is unlike anything I've ever experienced before and our sex is just unbelievable. ...
A. 10 February 2016: I am happy you both have a great sexual connection, but these types of friendships can lead to someone getting hurt. As long as you are both open and honest with each other then that is all that can be asked from you both. ... (read in full...)
Why is he so attentive to his ex and not to me?
Q. My BF and I have been in a LDR for almost three years. We're moving together this year. I have always been very nice to all of his family members (he has a huge family compared to mine). I will get presents for every little neice and nephew and cous...
A. 10 February 2016: I think this is something that you need to come to terms with. He is thankful that you care for his family, but he cannot be bothered returning the favor. I doubt he is doing it out of badness. I guess that he maybe saw his exs family more? Also he ... (read in full...)
What is crossing the boundary between an attached guy and his female friend? Please enlighten me!
Q. Recently, a female friend called my boyfriend about a personal issue. She was talking about a guy whom she slept with and did not want to pursue anything beyond FWB with her. They used to be colleagues, but by the time this call took place, they ...
A. 10 February 2016: If you trust your boyfriend, then let him be a friend to her. I am sure he knows to keep his own boundaries. If you don't trust him, well then you need to ask yourself why?... (read in full...)
Are these noises normal?
Q. Hi im 22 yrs. I jst want to knw what causes ur vagina to make noises during sex when ur sleeping with ur partner?...
A. 10 February 2016: Yip it is totally normal, hopefully you can both have a laugh about it and don't let it effect you both. ... (read in full...)
Is this man a rogue?
Q. Hi all. Ive just met a guy from my co worker. This guy was accompanying a family to collect something at my work place, so the guy got attracted over me but couldnt come and tell me cause i was very busy then he begged my co worker to give me his ...
A. 10 February 2016: He sounds shady to me. Why would he have two different phones, if he had nothing to hide, he would give you the two numbers. Although it could be that he has a business phone as well. Either way I think you are over reacting very quickly here. You ... (read in full...)
Why do men have long term relationships but never fall in love with me?
Q. Hi, why do men seem to like me have long term relationships but never seem to fall in love with me. I feel i should just give up trying. i am in love with my partner of 6.5 months but he says he has feelings but too early to talk about love. i...
A. 10 February 2016: It's great that you feel like you love him. It is a huge bonus in a relationship. He may not be ready to tell you that he loves you, as sometimes people are scared that saying it out loud might mean something much more than it does. But I agree with ... (read in full...)
I worry he may still be wanting his ex!
Q. Dear cupid, i feel hurt and confused sometimes, it's the first i fall inlove with a guy i like we were friends untill he asked me to be he's girlfriend ,he is everything i ever wanted ,we agreed on honesty so he wanted to tell me what happend with ...
A. 10 February 2016: I don't think that you should feel guilty, there relationship had ended I assume before you met him?
He decided to leave her, yes it is hard to get over a two year relationship, but if he says he wants to be with you then you need to believe him.... (read in full...)
I feel I am in a LD - FWB situation, should I tell him I like him?
Q. Hello Dear Cupid. I wrote here once before last year and was happy with the advice i got. So here's my problem. I met a guy online through an art sharing site. I favorited one of his pictures which managed to kick off a dialogue between us a...
A. 10 February 2016: Sounds like you have your head screwed on to your shoulders. Go meet him have fun, hopefully you both hit it off in real life. Good luck. ... (read in full...)
My bi girlfriend wants to have a threesome and I'm not cool about it
Q. Ok so my girlfriend who's bi kissed her friend who's also bi whilst the friend was pretty drunk, she then told me about it afterwards and I told her that I wasn't mad (she's only 18 and has never actually experimented) but I didn't want her to do it ...
A. 10 February 2016: Yeah it sounds like she has feelings for this girl. You asked her not to do it again, but she did. Call in what you like she still cheated on you, she apologized but then said she wants a threesome. She is not ready for a relationship with you. It ... (read in full...)
Are the scenes of sexual romance real?
Q. Are guys in relationships always tryna fuck? Are the scenes of sexless romance real? I ask this cause I'm separated from my ex but we still live together. We are focused on our separate goals and have agreed we don't want to give romantically to the ...
A. 10 February 2016: Sounds to me like he just has a higher sex drive than you do, everyone is different. But no it doesn't hurt him if he cannot get in to your pants every day. Just be sure that this is the situation that you want to be in, and that you don't end up ... (read in full...)
Should I give my shy crush a Valentine's card?
Q. Hey! Should I give my shy crush a valentine's card? Im almost certain he knows I like him, as other agree it's been made obvious- but he also knows I'm shy.. BTW I don't know this guy as a friend yet, although he does always make shy conversation...
A. 10 February 2016: Go for it, why not? You have nothing to lose? He might no have done anything yet because he is shy, you are shy as well so it is a combination for a disaster if nobody makes a move. It doesn't always need to be the guy that makes a move. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Does my professor like me? She appears to like my company
Q. I'm not sure but I think my professor likes me, too. She's 45. I'm 25. We don't talk much but when we do, I get the sense that she likes me. Sometimes she touches me when we talk. She rubs my back or my shoulder. I've had feelings for her...
A. 10 February 2016: It sounds like she likes you as a person, but am sure someone in her position knows that she cannot be with a student or else she would lose her job, and her career. If you think there is more than friendship here, well then wait until after you ... (read in full...)
Does anyone have any advice for the eternal commitophobe? Or should I just give up hope now and start investing in my cat collection now?
Q. Dear Cupid, I recently split up with my boyfriend of 2 months. Which isn't very long I know, but it's been playing on my mind. I'm usually the sort of person who can cut someone off at the drop of a hat, and I've had to do that to survive in th...
A. 10 February 2016: I think you are afraid of getting hurt, you have not let your guard down because of your past. I think you knew deep down you had great feelings for him, so you broke up with him so that you could protect yourself.
It sounds like it was a good rela... (read in full...)
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