What can I do when she gets in a mood like this?
Q. My friend has been really difficult and I don't know how to deal with it or if it's even worth it. She's been having a hard time the last couple of years and the things we both went through in life is what made us bond in the first place, as much ...
A. 16 March 2016: I am glad to hear it, put yourself first, nobody should ever put another person down and when they do they are not a friend but someone who is jealous of what you have. You are doing the right thing moving on. Go out and meet new people, hopefully ... (read in full...)
What can I do when she gets in a mood like this?
Q. My friend has been really difficult and I don't know how to deal with it or if it's even worth it. She's been having a hard time the last couple of years and the things we both went through in life is what made us bond in the first place, as much ...
A. 15 March 2016: Again I don't think she needs to be in your life. She is not being a friend, the best thing for you to do is block her number and find new friends who are kind to you. ... (read in full...)
What can I do when she gets in a mood like this?
Q. My friend has been really difficult and I don't know how to deal with it or if it's even worth it. She's been having a hard time the last couple of years and the things we both went through in life is what made us bond in the first place, as much ...
A. 12 March 2016: No sweetie I don't think that you should reply. Be the bigger person here. She has made it clear she wants nothing to do with you, she is hoping you will take the hint. It's sad yes, but I think you need to accept she no longer wants you in her ... (read in full...)
What did my ex girlfriend mean by this statement?
Q. For starters, I am aware that I need to move on and stop obsessing over my ex, but there are some things that still confound me to this day. I wonder if she ever really loved me or if she loved how I made her feel instead. Understand what I'm ...
A. 3 March 2016: We can live our lives being hopeless romantics and allowing our heads to be in the clouds, but that will not bring her back. You just need to accept that it is over, and move on to someone who will show you love. ... (read in full...)
I am on the verge of being divorced over a dog! Dog left me for the dog!
Q. My husband and I have been together for 2.5 years and married for 5 months. Our relationship was picture perfect. No arguments, completely devoted to each other etc. Not to mention he stepped up and has been a father to my 2 kids from a previous ...
A. 2 March 2016: If the dog is dangerous then why would you want to rehome him to anyone and have that danger put on them? I hope you will tell whoever it is that this dog has attacked someone. As most people don't want an aggressive dog and need to be warned. ... (read in full...)
I am on the verge of being divorced over a dog! Dog left me for the dog!
Q. My husband and I have been together for 2.5 years and married for 5 months. Our relationship was picture perfect. No arguments, completely devoted to each other etc. Not to mention he stepped up and has been a father to my 2 kids from a previous ...
A. 1 March 2016: If he is not listening to you then show him the door. Your children safety is priority here, and they should not have to wait upstairs, and the dog should not be locked in its kennel, its not fair on your children or the dog. If he insists on being ... (read in full...)
I am on the verge of being divorced over a dog! Dog left me for the dog!
Q. My husband and I have been together for 2.5 years and married for 5 months. Our relationship was picture perfect. No arguments, completely devoted to each other etc. Not to mention he stepped up and has been a father to my 2 kids from a previous ...
A. 1 March 2016: You cannot make him do anything. However if you think this dog is a danger to your children then should you not have told him already to get the dog out? I'm sorry but am not sure I buy that you genuinely feel like this, because if you did you would ... (read in full...)
I'm feeling guilt and shame about meeting up with my ex when my now fiance and I were first dating
Q. Hi, Hope you can help with a dilemma. I met a great guy 18 months ago and now we are engaged. Our first two weeks were strange though. He was convinced it was the real deal me less so. Two weeks later we split before getting back togeth...
A. 29 February 2016: If your Fiance has said it was early days well then leave it at that and move forward. I am not sure why you are beating yourself up over this, do you feel you don't deserve to be this happy? Are you completely sure this is the man you want to ... (read in full...)
I am on the verge of being divorced over a dog! Dog left me for the dog!
Q. My husband and I have been together for 2.5 years and married for 5 months. Our relationship was picture perfect. No arguments, completely devoted to each other etc. Not to mention he stepped up and has been a father to my 2 kids from a previous ...
A. 29 February 2016: He has not choosing the dog over you, in fact you are the one that has asked him to make the choice, the dog in his eyes has not made him pick, therefore yes he is not going to part with the dog.
Now you said that you feel this dog is a danger to y... (read in full...)
What did my ex girlfriend mean by this statement?
Q. For starters, I am aware that I need to move on and stop obsessing over my ex, but there are some things that still confound me to this day. I wonder if she ever really loved me or if she loved how I made her feel instead. Understand what I'm ...
A. 29 February 2016: I understand that seven years is a long time with someone, yes it will take time to get over that person, but looking at your age, you lived a lot longer without her, and you can do the same again once you accept that you need to delete her from ... (read in full...)
Is it a good idea to propose to her on St Valentine's day? She never revealed earlier why she broke up with me, previously.
Q. We went out for a year and then she broke it off. After about 4 months we started seeing each other. We have been seeing each other for the past 2 months. I am not sure why she broke it off. I am a healthy 65 she is 54. She has never been marri...
A. 29 February 2016: Do you feel like this woman genuinely loves you, or is it that you love her and she is stringing you along? Does it sometimes feel like she is using you?... (read in full...)
I am on the verge of being divorced over a dog! Dog left me for the dog!
Q. My husband and I have been together for 2.5 years and married for 5 months. Our relationship was picture perfect. No arguments, completely devoted to each other etc. Not to mention he stepped up and has been a father to my 2 kids from a previous ...
A. 26 February 2016: If he doesn't put in the effort to look after her, then that changes things. He needs to walk her, show her attention and train her. No you should not be expected to do it yourself, especially when you are looking after children and working. I would ... (read in full...)
Why am I having recurrent dreams of my ex?
Q. I can't stop having dreams about my ex. My ex and I dated for 4 months almost a year ago. And we didnt have the best relationship, because we were very different. He didn't like drinking or going out to dance, and I wanted to at times. Also, we ...
A. 26 February 2016: These dreams could not be about your ex as a person, but it could be that you feel your current boyfriend is not right for you. You say he is good to you, makes you feel special. But he doesn't make you feel safe and you are not sexually attracted ... (read in full...)
What did my ex girlfriend mean by this statement?
Q. For starters, I am aware that I need to move on and stop obsessing over my ex, but there are some things that still confound me to this day. I wonder if she ever really loved me or if she loved how I made her feel instead. Understand what I'm ...
A. 26 February 2016: Nobody here can tell you if she loved you or not. Going by how the relationship was and if you felt loved or not should be enough. Think back to when you broke up and try and work out why you both did not work out.
Now you say you need to stop obse... (read in full...)
How Can I win her back in one weekend?
Q. How soon do you spend a whole weekend with your ex girlfriend? It's been a week and another week before that we weren't speaking after we argued. She dumped me, we start talking again, taking trips down memory lane, saying the I miss and love yo...
A. 26 February 2016: I think it is much to soon for you both to be going away as friends. The hurt and pain is still fresh. Hopefully the argument has been forgotten about at least and will be solved fully before you both go away. I personally think it will be very ... (read in full...)
I'm appalled at his disrespect, but what can I do? Is it time to breakup?
Q. My partner of 3 years goes out each thursday night with friends, this is usually fine but i am at work on a friday so do prefer him not to come in too late. He usually comes in about 1am. Weve had a number of arguments about this mainly because ...
A. 26 February 2016: He is showing no respect for you at all. I wouldn't accept this kind off treatment from my other half. Boys nights are great yeah, but on a weekly basis when you are working the next morning is completely unacceptable. I think you have let it get so ... (read in full...)
A is a long term good friend. How can I convince my mum to let A spend the night?
Q. So, here's the deal. I have a good friend, let's call him A. Anyway, ever since I was little, I've always preferred hanging out with boys. But now that I'm older, I can't have a sleepover or anything. I wouldn't want to do anything sexual, and ...
A. 26 February 2016: If your mum has said no then you need to respect that, as she has your best interests at heart. When you are older you will see why she won't allow it.
It doesn't mean it needs to effect any plans. Watch a movie during the day, or ask your moth... (read in full...)
Is this a break-up? Boyfriend and I haven't talked in 3 days after argument. Please help
Q. On Monday me and my boyfriend got into a fight over something small and now he hasn't said one word to me in 3 whole days ! I'm worried. I don't want it to be over I just wanna work it out . yesterday he called and let it ring 3 times and hung up ...
A. 25 February 2016: You are really hurt that he has not contacted you, maybe he is feeling the same? Sounds to me like you are both stubborn. ... (read in full...)
Facing sibling rivalry and family disinterest in my wedding. Should I delete them from my life?
Q. Its not that I'm an attention seeker I'm the opposite but I'm starting to feel a damper on my wedding and its affecting me a lot lately. Had I known my family would not care about the wedding I would have eloped if i know how much it affects ...
A. 25 February 2016: Poor you, you are having a tough time at the moment, and with a wedding not far away this is going to add even more stress. You say you want them to help you plan, but maybe this is something you and your husband to be should do together? It might ... (read in full...)
How do I manage this family dynamic and new stress in our lives?
Q. You probably don't get too many letters from a guy my age. I am writing about my kids. My oldest, my daughter-age 27- meets this British guy at party.He works for a multinational U.K. company and is trying to deal with problems in one of their of...
A. 25 February 2016: Off course you would be sad if your daughter moved away. It is a big change and one that parents don't take to very well. But you need to let her live her life. If this guy makes her happy and she loves him then that should be all that matters. I ... (read in full...)
Was I rude earlier? I need help learning how to communicate with her.
Q. There's a girl at my job who I'm very attracted to but things aren't really able to move forward the way I'd like. I'm not able to talk to her because I'm simply too nervous, and I'm sure I probably come off as rude now because when she's spok...
A. 25 February 2016: Yes you are overthinking a simple conversation with her. You need to get more confidence in yourself. Remember there is nothing scary about her, she is just like you. You have her up on a pedestal, you need to take her back down and remember that ... (read in full...)
I am on the verge of being divorced over a dog! Dog left me for the dog!
Q. My husband and I have been together for 2.5 years and married for 5 months. Our relationship was picture perfect. No arguments, completely devoted to each other etc. Not to mention he stepped up and has been a father to my 2 kids from a previous ...
A. 25 February 2016: Obviously no parent wants there child hurt, I can totally understand that, and it is great that you put your children first, I totally agree, however I think maybe you both should have discussed this more before getting a dog. Maybe a Labrador would ... (read in full...)
I am on the verge of being divorced over a dog! Dog left me for the dog!
Q. My husband and I have been together for 2.5 years and married for 5 months. Our relationship was picture perfect. No arguments, completely devoted to each other etc. Not to mention he stepped up and has been a father to my 2 kids from a previous ...
A. 25 February 2016: A dog is a big commitment, and also people get attached to dogs just like they do to other people. You telling your husband the dog has to go is showing that you are boss. It shouldn't be like that in a marriage. It should be discussed. I don't ... (read in full...)
What do you think of men who swear in front of ladies?
Q. What do you think about people (especially men) who swear in the presence of ladies? (swearing not targeted at the ladies, but rather at things or situations). Having been brought up with high regard for politeness and good manners, if a ma...
A. 25 February 2016: Times are moving forward now, men swear in front of women, women have equal rights. More likely than not it has become more acceptable for swearing to be part of a conversation, just like more people are moving in together and having children before ... (read in full...)
What do you think of men who swear in front of ladies?
Q. What do you think about people (especially men) who swear in the presence of ladies? (swearing not targeted at the ladies, but rather at things or situations). Having been brought up with high regard for politeness and good manners, if a ma...
A. 24 February 2016: I personally don't like swearing, but I equally see both women and men swearing so it isn't really a gender issue more a humanity issue. The way I see it is they are free to say what they want to who they want, its a basic human right, and as long ... (read in full...)
How can I feel more comfortable with my boyfriend?
Q. I moved into an apartment with my 6 month bf, abt a month ago. In the beginning it was very difficult and I gt very anxious. So I had to start taking anxiety meds that have helped. But I still get stomach aches because I have IBS, and I don't feel ...
A. 24 February 2016: It can be hard to show someone your most vulnerable side and I do understand your fear. But I think you need to talk to him about this. It will gradually get better as the relationship progresses. You could see a hypnotist or do some cognitive ... (read in full...)
LDR boyfriend isn't taking pride in his appearance and its turning me off
Q. Hi. I'm in a LDR of a year now. My guy is by nature a big framed man, who has struggled with his weight on and off from what he says. He talked about diets etc and gets fired up, buy never actually sticks to them, and recently having managed to lose ...
A. 24 February 2016: As you have said he has struggled with this since you have met him, so what first attracted you to him? If he really wanted to lose weight then he would, but he is struggling to. I think you need to accept that. There is no gentle way of telling ... (read in full...)
What are my options? I can't tell my gf because I don't want to break up with her
Q. Hi, so I’m in love with girl that I’ve been with for 4 years, were 20 years old and we’ve been living together in our own flat for the last two years. She’s an orphan and has little contact with her family and does not have a lot of friends. She’s ...
A. 23 February 2016: Im sorry but the only way you will get rid of that guilt is if you tell her the truth. I can tell by your post your genuine and it was a mistake, but even still you need to make the mistake right by being honest. If she had been at a party and ... (read in full...)
He just wanted to hook up...why is he texting me ?
Q. I posted a thread about a guy who was giving the impression that he just wanted sex and subsequently disappeared when I made it clear that I'm looking for someone to date . Here is recap of this saga -I met a guy when I was out and he gave me h...
A. 23 February 2016: Yeah he wants to try again for sex.... (read in full...)
Should I give the bank teller my number? Or wait to see if she asks for mine?
Q. Does she like me? i frequent my bank, and there is a new teller there and ive notice she is always eager to help me and if I don't go to her window she gets upset and wont speak to me, or if I don't speak to her she gets upset....today I called ...
A. 23 February 2016: She should always be eager to help you, that is her job after all and it sounds like she is good at it. When you say she gets upset how do you know this? Does she show emotion? Does she shed tears or is it you that thinks aw she looks upset. You say ... (read in full...)
Is this worth saving?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for just under 2 years. I have recently been under some stress at work. I have a lot on at uni. We live an hour away from each other so its difficult to just see each other - a couple hours here and there. So ...
A. 23 February 2016: If he is not showing you enough attention then tell him that, bursting out crying is sort of like emotional blackmail, I think you wanted reverse psychology here, you told him you wanted a break so he would say no that's not what he wants, and he ... (read in full...)
I lost my baby and family disagreements and making me feeling sad and disturbed
Q. I just lost my baby and now I feel very sad,aside from that I've been haveing very disturbing dreams and I feel so scared of losing my boyfriend. Now, family's are involved and my boyfriend and I are having disagreement between a argument that ...
A. 22 February 2016: I am so sorry to you and your boyfriend. You both need to take time out to process your loss. The dreams are your bodies way of saying you need a break. You should both take some time out. I can see why you would be scared to lose him, but am sure ... (read in full...)
I need to stop stalking my ex-boyfriend's ex!
Q. I was with my ex boyfriend for three years and the whole time his ex girlfriend made things really difficult for me. When I started dating him he talked about a female friend a lot, so much it made me feel uncomfortable. But after some time ...
A. 22 February 2016: Block her on social media. As for you saying what they done to you, well what did they do to you? Nothing from what I can see, he is in your past now. Move on and let this go before it turns you in to a bitter person.... (read in full...)
Do I lose a friend? Or a potential boyfriend?
Q. i have a problem.there is this new boy in my class and i realy like him. the problem is he oikes my best freind and she goes out with him even though she knows that i really like him what am i going to do i am either going to lose a boyfreind or a...
A. 22 February 2016: He likes your best friend, and she must like him to if she goes out with him, so I think you need to accept this and be happy for them.... (read in full...)
What needs to happen? My friends say he's just nervous
Q. Hi! Alright so here's the deal. I like a boy, and he has told me that he likes me as well. However, he seems to have a funny way of showing it. He rarely initiates conversations, we never seem to engage in any physical contact (whether it woul...
A. 22 February 2016: He has told you that he likes you so that is a good start. Boys at your age might not be to touchy feely. Plus maybe he doesn't want to make you feel uncomfortable. He might be nervous as your friends have said. Just take things slowly. ... (read in full...)
Is this guy telling me lies?
Q. There's this guy I'm really close with, and he told me he had a gf when I asked. After that I kind of stopped talking to him (Maybe due to this but also because he had an exam coming up and I didn't want to bother him) Then 5 months later when we ...
A. 22 February 2016: I am not sure how you can get the truth, but if this was me I would be avoiding him. He is not a good friend when he is lying to you and he doesn't sound like he can be trusted to tell you the truth. ... (read in full...)
How do I handle her confession?
Q. Hello, I've known this girl from college for a few years and she and I gradually became a little closer over time. She has a boyfriend for 4 years and I respect that and I did not want to pursue a relationship with her anyway. We were friendly an...
A. 22 February 2016: I guess it was playing on her mind and she wanted closure. I think you should leave it at that. As you said she has a boyfriend so I think you should stay away.... (read in full...)
My actions drove hime away. What can I do?
Q. Hey guys. I complain about cheating in relationship, but I'm the one who cheated. I was a nympho until I met this person who I really love. I changed for him, and we lived happily until the troubles started to appear between us. I began to tal...
A. 22 February 2016: You say you really loved him, but talking intimately with other men is not a good move on your part, this was leading you down a bad road. If you where having relationship problems you should have both been working to fix them not chatting to other ... (read in full...)
Are his fantasies a sign he doesn't love me?
Q. I caught my boyfriend masturbating in the shower. I asked him if he thought about me then and he honestly answered no. It hurt me quite a bit because first of all I was home and I feel like he'd rather go fantasies about other girls than be with me. ...
A. 22 February 2016: It is perfectly normal for a guy to masturbate. Did he actually say he was thinking of other girls? He might not have been thinking about anything. But even if he was you are the one with the ring on your finger. If he wasn't attracted to you do you ... (read in full...)
Please help me win my dream job
Q. Hi everyone! This is not a relationship question but more a question of advice, as everyone here as a variety of experience and comes from all walks of life. I am a qualified nurse in a job that I hate. My dream job would be to work with people...
A. 22 February 2016: It is quite strange why she would say this to you, it would put doubt in my mind. However don't let it be a negative thing. Maybe she was just trying to be kind to you.
The best advice I can give is to be yourself. Ask questions about the post in t... (read in full...)
Great sex but now there's mixed messages
Q. I had an amazing night of passionate sex with a lady at work but just when I thought it would lead to something she continually blows hot and cold on me. Some days she makes it obvious that it was just a one-off and will never happen again but other ...
A. 22 February 2016: If am being honest with you, it doesn't sound to me like she wants a relationship with you as well. She wanted a bit of fun and I think the flirting is just something she does. I think you might be reading to much in to it. She was probably ... (read in full...)
Is this worth saving?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for just under 2 years. I have recently been under some stress at work. I have a lot on at uni. We live an hour away from each other so its difficult to just see each other - a couple hours here and there. So ...
A. 22 February 2016: Being stressed at work, can make you look at other areas of your life with a negative outlook. So I think to begin with you should try and sort out work and uni work so that you are less stressed.
As for your relationship why is it you think you ... (read in full...)
Any clue as to what to do? There are three guys who like me.
Q. So I have an issue with three guys liking me and I don't know exactly what to do. One guy is my ex whom I met in elementary school and we went out a little and then didn't really talk in middle school and then we started hanging out again in high ...
A. 22 February 2016: Usually an ex is an ex for a reason? Think about why you broke up and have a think if you want to go back there again. As for the guy who is your friend, well if you where to get together and then break up it would be hard to remain friends again. ... (read in full...)
Did his being under the "influence" bring out his true feelings?
Q. I recently had an odd experience with my BF. He went out to meet a couple of friends for a few drinks (he rarely drinks... maybe 2 or 3 times a year). Anyway I joined them during the evening at his request and long story short. My boyfriend ended up ...
A. 22 February 2016: People often say funny things when they are drunk. As for him crying well alcohol obviously made him emotional. I would be more inclined to believe him when he is sober. At the end of the day you know who your boyfriend is and what he is like. If ... (read in full...)
LDR - are we at the same stage in life or in different stages?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am in a relationship of just over year with a guy long distance. I am 33 and he is 31. I am currently moving to this town - this involves moving job, renting out my house and leaving most of my friends. Most of his friends are s...
A. 22 February 2016: You need to talk to him. Tell him how you are feeling. He probably sees it as routine going out with his friends, he probably doesn't think that it effects you at all. I think its good to spend quality time with friends, but not every weekend. You ... (read in full...)
I just want to function like a normal person and not make people uncomfortable
Q. hello, I suffer from social anxiety and shyness.This has been a development only in last few years after I finished school.During school days I was genuinely very happy with many friends and a carefree attitude.Now,I am always very self consci...
A. 22 February 2016: Okay well first off you are not a creep. It sounds to me like you just need a little help. Your mind is a powerful thing. Do you know off any reasons why this might have developed? Did anything happen after you left school that made you feel ... (read in full...)
What can I do when she gets in a mood like this?
Q. My friend has been really difficult and I don't know how to deal with it or if it's even worth it. She's been having a hard time the last couple of years and the things we both went through in life is what made us bond in the first place, as much ...
A. 22 February 2016: I bet you miss her as she was a friend, but not a very good one. I think she needs to help herself and if you contact her she will not be getting the help she needs. Off course it is up to you which path you choose. Am not sure how you would start ... (read in full...)
Why does my lover play the push and pull game?
Q. Why does my lover push and pull? I am actually quite fed up with it. After 5 years, I don't want to be ignored and sent minimal three word texts. Have told him as much. I would much rather be told if he needed his space, didn't want to message. Not ...
A. 19 February 2016: He obviously doesn't care for you as much as you do for him. Dump and get someone who actually wants to be with you.... (read in full...)
What can I do when she gets in a mood like this?
Q. My friend has been really difficult and I don't know how to deal with it or if it's even worth it. She's been having a hard time the last couple of years and the things we both went through in life is what made us bond in the first place, as much ...
A. 28 January 2016: I understand that it can be hard to be blunt, especially to a friend, but you need to try, for your own sake. You need to stand up for yourself in life. ... (read in full...)
What can I do when she gets in a mood like this?
Q. My friend has been really difficult and I don't know how to deal with it or if it's even worth it. She's been having a hard time the last couple of years and the things we both went through in life is what made us bond in the first place, as much ...
A. 27 January 2016: Well done for being there for her and for supporting her. But something has got to give. You cannot allow her to lash out at you all the time and for her to think it is okay. She is negative about her life, although she tries to put you down further ... (read in full...)
Is it a good idea to propose to her on St Valentine's day? She never revealed earlier why she broke up with me, previously.
Q. We went out for a year and then she broke it off. After about 4 months we started seeing each other. We have been seeing each other for the past 2 months. I am not sure why she broke it off. I am a healthy 65 she is 54. She has never been marri...
A. 27 January 2016: It is a lovely gesture, but I think you should find out from her why she left you, she obviously had her reasons, and they could be very important to your relationship now, so before thinking of proposing you should sit down with her crack open a ... (read in full...)
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