How can I help my Girlfriend to have more confidence in herself?
Q. Forgive the long intro, My LDR question at the very end. Please start your response with LDR if you respond to just that so I know. I am your average guy. Called attractive by some, not by others, called smart by some and not by others. Overall ...
A. 4 January 2016: It is normal for her to feel let down if she is failing at college, in the future I think you should guide her but let her make her own decisions. Talk to her, tell her that maybe Uni is not for her, maybe the course she is doing is not meant for ... (read in full...)
How do I tell if he's being honest?
Q. I met this guy like about 2 months ago and he seemed interested in me and I was too, but when he would tell me to let him know to hang out he always had things to do so I would get upset. I've asked him if he's single and he said he doesn't have a ...
A. 4 January 2016: He doesn't sound like he is to interested in getting serious with you. If you are looking for a relationship, look elsewhere. ... (read in full...)
Just online friends? But then he restarted being flirty. How should I handle this?
Q. This is really very confusing but please bear with me. There is this guy who I have been chatting to for over 6 months, he is like my best friend but we have never met (we have discussed it, just not really gotten to it as I live 2 hours away by ...
A. 4 January 2016: Apart from texting and voice calls have you ever saw this guy over web camera or even have him on facebook? It sounds to me like it could be just about anyone that you are talking to and you need to make sure that he is who he says he is. He ... (read in full...)
Is he warming to me and how can I get to know him better?
Q. I met a cute guy in some of the fitness classes at the gym, and am starting to like him. He seems shy, so I sent him a fb friend request (2 mutual friends) in November and he accepted. I started trying to interact with him after that, but did no...
A. 4 January 2016: Seems like he is warming to you alright. It could be on a friendship basis though so try not get your hopes up to soon. Just go with the flow, show interest in him and let him do the rest. Good luck.... (read in full...)
I want to ask him if the kisses mean something more
Q. Have you ever fallen for someone only after you've kissed them? I was at a New Years party with a bunch of people I used to go to school with, and this one guy in particular. I've known him for 6 years and he really is the loveliest guy I know and ...
A. 4 January 2016: Give him a text and just be friendly with him see where the conversation goes. ... (read in full...)
I no longer love him but he won't go. What to do?
Q. I am a 31 year old woman, in a relationship with a man 20 years older than me. We have been together for 9 years after he left his then wife for me. Over the years I have resented him for numerous things: lack of commitment, his control issues, ...
A. 4 January 2016: You just need to tell him outright you do not love him any more and you want to break up with him. Ask him to pack his stuff and go. If he refuses well when he is out of the house pack it for him and leave it at the front door. Change your lock if ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is going on a trip without me and I resent him for it. How can I get past this?
Q. My boyfriend loves to travel and has travelled extensively before we met. He is going on a 2 week trip to Spain next week. It's a place he has always wanted to visit. I cannot go due to it being my busy time at work. I told him to hold off and we ...
A. 4 January 2016: Sometimes people just need to get away for a break on there own every so often to think through their lives. It might not be anything personal to do with you. He has even suggested he will take you there in April. I think you need to sit down and ... (read in full...)
We aren't dating but she says "luv ya" all the time. Confused and overthinking!
Q. I've only been seeing this girl for a month technically, we went on a few dates before we really kicked it off, we were doing boyfriend girlfriend things but we are pretty much in the romantic stages. We've only known each other for less then 3 w...
A. 4 January 2016: Sounds like she likes you and you like her so go with the flow and see what happens. ... (read in full...)
How can I help my daughter to get through the hurt of a divorce?
Q. I have a 26 year old daughter. She is a very intelligent nice young woman although quite shy. Her and I have a close relationship and really all we had is each other. Her dad has never been in the picture and she has no siblings so she has alway...
A. 4 January 2016: The only thing that will help your daughter is time to get over her loss. It will be a great comfort to her to know that you are there for her, so just continue to support her. She will get through this in her own time.
Maybe encourage her to get ... (read in full...)
I hooked up with the girl who used my friend and broke his heart. Do I tell him?
Q. I have know this friend for 11 years and he is a very nice guy, he is the most successful friend I have, he's a high end lawyer, and because of that people tend to use him. So when he started dating this very attractive girl I instantly knew ...
A. 4 January 2016: It is quite possible she could ruin your friendship here. It was a silly mistake for you to make, I suggest telling her to stop texting and delete her from your life. You need to decide who is more important to you, her or your friend. ... (read in full...)
Jealousy is eating me up
Q. I have this girl, we've been close for nearly a year, very close for a few months and together for around 3 weeks now. It's all happened so fast but she has this other friend whose known her ages (I'm female by the way and bisexual, however I don't ...
A. 4 January 2016: I know it can be hard in a new relationship to accept that the other person has other friends, and you are so young so you are struggling with your feelings. However if you keep getting jealous you will lose your girlfriend as this sort of clingy ... (read in full...)
Has my former fwb put me in the friendzone?
Q. Hi I was wondering if anyone could give me any help as to what is going on . A while ago we were fwb and I said didn't want that so didn't see him again . then last June he asked to see me and we hung out as friends realising we got on really we...
A. 4 January 2016: It sounds to me like he does not want to get in to a relationship probably because he has got commitment issues. I think this is more about himself rather than how he feels about you. He just doesn't want it to get serious so he is keeping you at ... (read in full...)
How do I handle moving in with a guy who has too much stuff?
Q. Dear Cupid, My boyfriend is 30 and I am 32. We are in a long distance relationship. He has a good job and a house he owns. He has lived on his own for 10 years and is used to his own space, never lived with a girlfriend before. He wants me to ...
A. 4 January 2016: This is a tricky situation as I am sure at the minute he looks at it as his home as he has put it together, so I could understand why it would not feel like home for you as well.
There has to be a compromise somewhere, have you discussed your long... (read in full...)
Is this emission normal?
Q. My boyfriend is my fifth long-term relationship, but there is something different about him than my other partners. He gets very sticky from the end of his penis, kind of like a goo. Sometimes it drips down from him and there can be quite a lot of ...
A. 4 January 2016: It could be pre-ejaculation. However if it is happening outside of when he is aroused. Then I suggest that he goes to the doctor just to make sure that there is no infection.... (read in full...)
How do I stop being so irritated by my mother?
Q. I'm getting increasingly irritable with my mother and I don't know what to do. She hasn't done anything bad to me at all and I feel like such a bad person for just getting annoyed by the things she says :( I used to be such a happy and laid b...
A. 23 December 2015: It is understandable that you don't want your mother talking about the father of your children and putting him down all the time. Your break up is in the past and it sounds like you have dealt with it, I would be annoyed if I were in your shoes as ... (read in full...)
Why would a guy acts quiet all of the sudden?
Q. So this guy has been talking to me alot lately, and he always flirtand always tries to get my attention. I always hang out with his friends and i talk to them alot but when he joins the group he suddenly acts quiet and seems upset. But when we are ...
A. 23 December 2015: Maybe he doesn't deal well with big crowds and finds it hard to communicate. It seems he can be himself around you which is great. If you like him then you should tell him.... (read in full...)
Does he love me even if he hasn't taken me to his place?
Q. I have bn with my bf for 3 months now and he has a two year old daughter. I jst recently discovered his ex was pregnant and he admited. He stil chose to be with me bcoz of the love we share but my concern is I have never been to his house. He has bn ...
A. 23 December 2015: There must be some reason that he is not taking you to his house, are you sure that he is not still with his ex? Have you considered that you might be the other woman and that he is having an affair with you?
You need to confront him and ask him ... (read in full...)
My friends uninvited me for Christmas!
Q. I live alone and I decided to invite a couple (who are friends) to dinner on Christmas Eve. She accepted the invitation and said why didn't I have lunch with them on Christmas Day. I was pleased as I am often alone at Christmas. A few days later ...
A. 23 December 2015: I feel for you really I do as nobody should be alone at Christmas. My guess is that maybe they wanted to spend one of the days themselves as a couple and this is why the done what the did. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend suddenly wants sex all the time and I can't handle it!
Q. I have been dating my girlfriend for 3 years, and we have had a pretty healthy sex life, we used to have it like 3 times a day, but since we have actually gotten serious into the relationship, I don't need it as much, I so we have it like once a ...
A. 23 December 2015: The best thing that you can do is be honest with her. It sounds to me like she is using sex as a way to forget about her problems, but that is not fair on either off you.
You need to tell her the truth. Tell her that it is to much and encourage her ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend never calls me unless he wants to see me
Q. I got back with my ex boyfriend after a break up of two years and no communication. We broke up because he does not respect time and likes coming at my place at night and hardly during the day. We went out twice since we got back together and I miss ...
A. 23 December 2015: when he comes to see you what do you both do? Do you spend quality time together, go out on dates, or are you both being intimate when he visits?
If it is a case that he calls over and you are both being intimate then it sounds to me like he is just... (read in full...)
My online friend always manages to bring sex toy talk into the conversation. Its beginning to make me feel uncomfortable!
Q. Hi, I recently joined an online dating forum and have been chatting to a few people including new female friends which is great. The options on the forum in terms of what members are looking for are as follows: Serious relationship, fr...
A. 23 December 2015: No you are not being OTT at all. This has a red signal all over it. It sounds to me that he is in a relationship but he is also looking to talk to women online to give himself a boost. Sounds to me like he is bored and looking for some fun ... (read in full...)
Do I stay with my wife or go off with my soul mate?
Q. My question is should I stay with my wife and have a routine life or go and be with someone who I believe is my soulmate. I have tried hard to make my marriage work and my wife is a very decent person but I feel as though I am living with a sister ...
A. 23 December 2015: The best thing that you can do is leave your wife. She will be hurt either way. You need to be honest with her about how you feel, she deserves to know the truth. ... (read in full...)
Would this be a good opener to ask a nice girl going past me?
Q. Just a simple question. If I see a nice girl going past and I just say "excuse me, are you busy" or "are you in a hurry?". Wouldn't that be the best opener to judge if she's interested? Her response would show straight away if she has any interest...
A. 22 December 2015: I would feel that there was something creepy about guys waiting around for girls to come out of a nightclub or a pub. I would not find this normal behavior or indeed a normal place to pick up women.
If you are genuinely wanting to meet someone well... (read in full...)
I think my husband sees me as a boring woman now that I have had a baby
Q. Hi I been with my husband for 4 years and married for 2 years. Everything was amazing till we had a baby together. He is helpful and great in every way but we don't spend time together like we use too. Now I'm a full time mum and he comes home late. ...
A. 22 December 2015: I am glad that he is helpful with you, I can also understand why he would go and visit his friends if you are sleeping, however if this is every single night then maybe suggest to him that he has an early night as well from time to time and get up ... (read in full...)
My ex shut his heart against love but after 2 years apart I still want him back
Q. Hi, I am 27 and I am only interested in men much older than me. There are certain qualities that I am looking for in a man that can only exist in older men. I hate young men and everything about them. Young men disgust me. I don't mind an age gap of ...
A. 22 December 2015: I agree here, you seem to be a very judging person, every guy is unique and some hold great qualities others not so much, yes age might come with experience but it doesn't always come with good qualities.
Maybe you could try online dating ther... (read in full...)
We "click" but he's married! Did I do the right thing?
Q. Hello. Thank you in advance for reading this. My dilemma is that I met a man with whom I have a strong connection, understanding and physical attraction....but unfortunately he is married with 2 children. We met via a study forum and met ...
A. 22 December 2015: He is probably chatting to a few girls online to boost his ego. He is very much happily married, so you should leave him alone. Cut all ties or else you will end up being hurt. Put yourself in his wife's shoes and then ask yourself is he still so ... (read in full...)
My stepmother is cheating on my father and abusing him, how can I help him?
Q. Hello. This might be a long story so I have tried to condense it. I feel distraught and powerless. My dad and step mum have been together around 5 years and things have gotten out of control. This woman has been married previously 4 times and my d...
A. 22 December 2015: My concern here is for that child with two parents who are out of control. What about your baby sister? Someone needs to be thinking of her. She is not getting cared for properly if your dad is looking after her and also drunk and taking medication. ... (read in full...)
He partied with his ex while I was pregnant, and I can't seem to move past this betrayal
Q. So when me and my fiance got together, we mutually agreed that maintaining contact with exes was a dealbreaker. We were very happy, and I fell pregnant with our son, who is now three. However, when I was 12 weeks pregnant, I went on a holiday with ...
A. 22 December 2015: The only way to let go off that anger is to talk to him about it. I think that you fear he may have done more than party with her and that is why you are finding it difficult to let it go. You need to talk to him or else you will always hold that ... (read in full...)
He is in denial. How can I get my alcoholic ex to see sense over his heavy sustained alcohol consumption?
Q. My finance loves to drink. he wont go one week without drinking and it can carry on for days. It causing problems in all areas of his life such as our relationship, jobs and his health. he admitted he has a problem before and went to an AA meeting...
A. 21 December 2015: You done the right thing breaking up with him. He needs to see that because off his drinking he has lost you. If he cares enough about you and your relationship then he will get the help that he needs.
Maybe there is underlying problems why he is d... (read in full...)
Should I step back or crack on and see how we go?
Q. Hi everyone, I've been seeing my ex for about 3 months now after splitting up in 2008. It was me that ended the relationship as I felt we'd grown apart and wanted different things out of life. We got chatting a good few months ago whilst in th...
A. 21 December 2015: I think you need to follow your gut and you need to be honest with him.
From my point of view you enjoy the sex but you look at him as a friend. He see's you as more. You broke up with him for reasons, you need to remember that them reasons are prob... (read in full...)
How will I handle Christmas this year, because I have a crush on my stepbrother?
Q. My parents have been divorced for 6/7 years now and my dad now has a partner who has 3 kids. Consisting of 2 boys (let's call the youngest A and the eldest B) and 1 girl (let's call her C), my sister (let's call her D) moved in with them 3 years ago ...
A. 21 December 2015: I think you should talk to a female that you are close to. Are you able to talk to your mum? A crush is normal at this age, and there is nothing wrong with having sexual feelings for this boy. The only thing that makes it awkward is that he is your ... (read in full...)
How can I demonstrate to my Bf that I still want to be there for him?
Q. Hi, just a quick post to gather a few opinions on what to do here, so thank you in advance of you decide to reply. So, I'll try keeping it short, so it might sound a bit blunt, but I don't want to babble on. I was diagnosed with depression n...
A. 21 December 2015: I'm sure he knows that he can still turn to you if he needs to. He is probably so worried about you that his problems don't seem important to him. The best thing that you can do is just reassure him from time to time that you are still their for him ... (read in full...)
Based on his actions does my crush feel the same as I about him?
Q. My crush spent the night at my house as a sleep over before we went to bed, I noticed that he went into my room and kissed my cheek softly and whispered goodnight. Does this mean he likes me or he only thinks of me as a friend?...
A. 21 December 2015: Nobody here will know how he feels except for him. If you have feelings for him then tell him. ... (read in full...)
How do I start a conversation without sounding too awkward?
Q. My crush lives in Finland, and I live in America. We talk pretty often but I get the feeling that he doesn't like talking to me. He didn't answer my last text. How do I start a conversation without sounding too awkward? ...
A. 21 December 2015: Its not about sounding awkward but more about getting to know him and seeing if he wants to get to know you.
If he didn't reply to the last text that you sent well then wait to see if he will send you a message. If he doesn't then he is show... (read in full...)
He can't take the time to shop for me and my kids, but he will for his kid and for her?
Q. As most men do, my bf dislike shopping for anything. Especially xmas shopping.. So I've done all of it this year... Including a few little gifts for myself.. Then today I get a text saying that he totally forgot he needs to buy a gift for is ex from ...
A. 21 December 2015: As a father he should be buying gifts for his child so there should be no issue with this. However you need to tell him you are upset that he has time to buy his ex a gift and not you. ... (read in full...)
Would this be a good opener to ask a nice girl going past me?
Q. Just a simple question. If I see a nice girl going past and I just say "excuse me, are you busy" or "are you in a hurry?". Wouldn't that be the best opener to judge if she's interested? Her response would show straight away if she has any interest...
A. 21 December 2015: Well it depends, if it is just a random girl on the street that you do not know well then she is going to have no interest if you are a completely stranger.
If it is someone you have met before and you are wanting to try and get to know them then... (read in full...)
I want to back to FWB or stop talking to him completely, however, we work together! What do I do?
Q. I hooked up with a friend. It's over now after 3 months. We work in the same department, are still friends and spend time together but I either want that arrangement back or want to stop talking to him completely. But we need to interact everyday at ...
A. 19 December 2015: Well ask yourself why did it end, there must have been some reasons why you both did not work out. Talk to him and see what he wants, maybe you both want the same thing. If it does not work out between you well then I guess you still need to be ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a woman rubs herself during sex?
Q. This is weird. Anyway i just want to understand what it really means when your (a man) having sex with a woman and she rubs on her clit, does that mean u are not pleasuring her the right way so she has to do it herself, to reach organism.. ? No i ...
A. 18 December 2015: A lot of women cannot orgasm through intercourse alone, they also need the clitoris stimulated, therefore when they do this it is not because you are not doing a good job it is just enhancing there orgasm. Maybe you could try it yourself the next ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has been more attentive since I was offered a job in a nother country
Q. I was offered a job in another country.. The first person I told about it was my boyfriend. I went to see him to discuss it with him because his opinion matters to me and he is always the first person I go to when something happens in my li...
A. 18 December 2015: Maybe when he heard about the job he realized that he could lose you and it scared him. ... (read in full...)
Men only want me for sex and my friends only call when they need something
Q. Dear Cupid Sorry for ranting I'm in my late 30's, had 2 long term relationship. Ex bf wanted to marry a hot girl after being with me for 5 years. Ex husband is so clingy and jealous and emotions and physical abuser, had to end it. Little...
A. 18 December 2015: That's the risk with online dating, you may need to get through a lot of frogs to find your prince charming. It's the sad truth that a lot of men are only on these websites to have sex with someone. Make sure that you write on your profile that you ... (read in full...)
Years ago a guy was found not guilty of harming me. It divided the community. Does it matter that I get few birthday cards now?
Q. I've gotten in to a massive argument with my boyfriend and I don't know what to do. A few years ago I was raped and it went to trial but the guy was found not guilty. I live in a really small town and the man who did it was my best friends boyf...
A. 18 December 2015: I am sorry that you have had to go through this, I don't think people in your town are taking sides, I think the problem here is you have isolated yourself so that you can protect yourself from these people. It can be hard to trust people after ... (read in full...)
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