If I am to do so, how do I tell someone they have been creatively inspirational?
Q. I am a singer/songwriter, who like many artists, is at times inspired by a member of the fairer sex, as the old phrase goes. There is someone I get to work with every so often, and to say she has piqued my interest is an understatement of the ...
A. 29 March 2016: It sounds like you have low self esteem, enjoy getting to know her more, don't worry about how she feels at the moment, enjoy brunch and afterwards ask her out for dinner a night? See how she reacts. Just take it slow. ... (read in full...)
How do you stop being an older virgin from beating down your confidence?
Q. As an older virgin, how do you not let it bother you? I tried improving myself and taking more interest in my hobbies. Focusing on interacting with as many people as I can. Downloaded dating apps to raise my confidence. I'm turning 23 and n...
A. 21 March 2016: You are only 23 so you are not at an age yet where you should be panicking. Yes I do get that most people your age have lost there virginity and you might struggle to find a girl who is not a virgin. However there is more to a relationship than sex. ... (read in full...)
Any advice on dealing with tricky in-laws?
Q. Any advice in dealing with tricky in laws. Looking for advice in relation to my partners parents. I don't know if it's just me that is over thinking this situation with them, but it's affecting me as a person and I feel my partner is picking up...
A. 21 March 2016: You are in a very tough situation here, because if you avoid his parents well then you are going to be the bad one, he is going to look at you and think you are not making an effort and that this is why they do not approve off you, also if you don't ... (read in full...)
Mixed messages--is he interested or not?
Q. About 6 weeks ago I met this lovely guy from Tinder who is also 23. On the first date we didn't kiss but he immediately suggested meeting again. On the 2nd date he also didn't kiss but again, he immediately suggested meeting again. On the 3rd date ...
A. 21 March 2016: If he is not writing to you first, and taking a long time to reply then this could mean that his interest has slipped. You could suggest a fourth date and then leave it up to him to confirm. ... (read in full...)
Where are all the sexy fat women at?
Q. i turned 26 on march 10th. I'm still a virgin yes besides that my dream woman is a woman with a lot of meat on her bones i had always liked that.. i don't like skinny girls.. someday i want a family and marriage i want a fat woman do marry. where ...
A. 21 March 2016: I think maybe you could try a dating site if you are struggling to meet a woman your own type in life. ... (read in full...)
How should I proceed without scaring her away?
Q. I've seemingly had feelings for my best friend since I met her when classes started in August. I say seemingly because I'm not sure if it was always feelings, or just the thrill of a meeting a new friend-my first college friend at that. We hung out ...
A. 21 March 2016: I think you need to both take it slow. You need to really think about what it is you want from her. Because you need to be honest with her. She might like you more than you realize so you don't want to end up hurting her. Take her out for a drink ... (read in full...)
Which of these sexual issues should I tackle first?
Q. Hi I'd like some advice on how to go about tackling a few issues in relation to my sex drive. My partner and I have been together 2 years and I do love him very much, there's a 10 year age gap (he's 36 and I'm 26). We are very similar people a...
A. 21 March 2016: Have you both considered maybe going to see a sex therapist? I know this can be scary and embarrassing but they could really help you both open up to each other about how you feel and try and get to the bottom of both of your issues.
I think from... (read in full...)
Haven’t been in contact with my boyfriend for 2 years and I heard he got married! What should I do?
Q. Modnote: who advised you of what may not be true? Or could be true. Do you have the means to contact him? we're meant to be for seven years.but my parents dislike him.they separate us. so,my bf and i lost contact for two years. then my best fr...
A. 21 March 2016: I think you need to move on. Sweetie after not talking for two years I think that should have been a sign that this guy had moved on with his life, he would have contacted you and tried to see you if he really wanted to be with you. I know this is ... (read in full...)
I hate my dad! My mother is away and tells me to be patient! What should I do?
Q. I feel so upset right now. I hate my dad so much that I wish he was dead. He's so selfish and self centered. He doesn't even have any respect for his children interest. He only does things that suits him alone. I'm so angry now cause he being ...
A. 21 March 2016: The question is are you still a child? It says that you are in your 20s, and yes I am aware that life is very different in your country, but that does not mean you cannot stand up for yourself and say no. You are an adult. Yes your family might get ... (read in full...)
What activities that can bring me to meet new people?
Q. Hi everyone.. im 25 single woman and i dont have social life. I used to have good circle of friends and have good social life back in college but im so in love and hangging out only with my ex boyfriend and now we broke up and i lose everything. ...
A. 21 March 2016: There could be some courses available in your area in the evening time? It would be worth looking in to. Maybe you could also get a part time job where you could meet new people? You are still only young and you have your whole life ahead of you. ... (read in full...)
So there’s this girl... what would be the best move I can make?
Q. Hi, Ive never been one to post a heart filled question but I've got one thats been bothering for a while and I need some advice. So theres been this girl which I have been friends with the whole way through school she was one of my best friends ...
A. 21 March 2016: I think you should say to her that you are really sorry that you cannot make her party, and that you are annoyed that you cannot go. Say to her after your exams are finished you would like to come and visit her and maybe she can show you around the ... (read in full...)
How do we win her mother round?
Q. my girlfriend and I have gotten together recently, but we've had feelings for each other for a while. we're 16, and it's her first relationship, but we're both certain we have real feelings. my parents couldn't be more happy for us, and really like ...
A. 16 March 2016: Aw sweetie I think her mother probably just needs to get her head around the fact that her little girl has grown up. Do you think her mother is finding it hard that her daughter is in a same sex relationship? There is not a huge lot you can do here ... (read in full...)
Should he already know that he should be contributing or is he taking me for a ride (using me)?
Q. My boyfriend hasn't got much money but he got a full time job a few months ago. He had been waiting to be paid but the company was waiting for all the paperwork to go through first so when he eventually got paid it would be in a lump sum (back dated ...
A. 16 March 2016: He is taking advantage of you and its not fair. I understand that you helped him when he did not have a good income, but now that he does he is still taking from you and not giving you anything in return, it is totally not fair and you need to talk ... (read in full...)
Can I do anything to help? My dad is in a very controlling relationship. And I don't know what to do.
Q. He's been with her for 15 years. I was 20 when they met, so I was off in college and on my own after that doing my own thing so I never had much interaction with them except when I'd come to visit periodically on short visits. Like for a weekend a ...
A. 16 March 2016: I can see why you are worried, but only he can help himself. Also when he was picking up the tab for a meal you say well no you are going to order your own meal, as he was paying, maybe you expect a bit to much from him as well. Could you not buy ... (read in full...)
He poked me in the side , is he into me??
Q. Was travelling home in the bus. I saw a guy who has started being friendly with me. I am usually quiet and reserved but I always greet people in a friendly way. Today , as I was getting off at my stop, he poked me in the side of my belly and smiled. ...
A. 16 March 2016: I would hate if a guy done this to me. I think you should stay clear off him, no guy should feel he has the right to poke a girl he doesn't even know, let alone touch other girls things. He sounds creepy to me as well. ... (read in full...)
Should I ask her out again or should I take it as her not being interested?
Q. I have the biggest crush on my coworker. We hardly see each other or have alone time at work. When we do work together I feel a lot of tension and I get nervous around her. I think she may sense that I like her because I do stare at her a lot. We...
A. 16 March 2016: Is she in to females? I would just say to her if there is any time she would like to meet for a drink to let you know that it could be fun, and then just take it from there. Asking her out then pretending it was for someone else is just game ... (read in full...)
Things ended without any explanation, now I want him in my life as a friend. Or should I leave him be?
Q. Long story short last year me and my ultimate crush were on the borderline of a relationship and I could tell he felt the same. We're both sort of shy I guess and never admitted but always spent time together and people thought we were in a ...
A. 16 March 2016: I can understand that you don't want to let go, but sweetie I really don't think he is that in to you, if he was he would not have allowed you both to drift apart. If he is going through a hard time at the moment, then tell him you are there for him ... (read in full...)
He never initiates! Is he into me?
Q. I've been dating a great guy for two months. He texts me every day and is very sweet. We have gone out on some dates but usually only on weekends. I mentioned wanting to spend a bit more time with him more than once a week and he thought that was ...
A. 16 March 2016: Maybe he is very laid back, but it is nice for someone else to make an effort now and again instead of you doing all the work. Drop hints like ask him to call when he wants to see you next, or say you would like if he took you out on a date ect. If ... (read in full...)
What can I do when she gets in a mood like this?
Q. My friend has been really difficult and I don't know how to deal with it or if it's even worth it. She's been having a hard time the last couple of years and the things we both went through in life is what made us bond in the first place, as much ...
A. 16 March 2016: I am glad to hear it, put yourself first, nobody should ever put another person down and when they do they are not a friend but someone who is jealous of what you have. You are doing the right thing moving on. Go out and meet new people, hopefully ... (read in full...)
What can I do to manage my own feelings? This relationship is pulling me down
Q. Dear everyone, I am in my first relationship with my partner for 2 years and 3 months now. During the first 12 months, everything seems so perfect and sweet and I was wonderfully showered with love and attention everyday. Eventually, the honeym...
A. 16 March 2016: I agree, texting each other is not going to help, these conversations need to be done on a face to face level. You could be over thinking her messages and vice versa. ... (read in full...)
The guy I like is giving mixed signals. Should I stop initiating contact all together? Am I being needy? Is this a lost cause?
Q. We have been friends for an year. At first he was very flirty and would say how I was his type and he wanted a collage of my pictures on his birthday etc. I was 100% he was into me. Soon I developed feelings and confessed to him. He turned me down ...
A. 15 March 2016: No he is not in to you at all. He likes the flirting because it boosts his ego, he is using your feelings to make himself feel better. My advice would be to steer clear, unless you want to end up feeling hurt and rejected.... (read in full...)
Ex moved on with someone else quickly. Does this mean he was over me before we even broke up?
Q. Hello maybe someone can help me out, thank you in advance. My ex and I broke up back in late January and within almost a month he got into a new relationship. We were together 3 1/2 years so him moving on in just a month kind of hurt me because ...
A. 15 March 2016: You need to let this go, it is not doing your mental health any favors, it doesn't matter any more if he cheated or he didn't what matters now is that he is with someone else and they are together now. So you need to move on with your life and focus ... (read in full...)
Time and time again I take him back, only to be rejected again!
Q. I am seeking advice, I have been involved with a man whom ive been on and off with for 5 years. we were together for a solid year and a half, and he broke it off. The breakup was devastating for me, I thought he was the one. since then we have bee...
A. 15 March 2016: You keep taking him back because you want him to change, you want him to love you and you want him to choose you and nobody else. Will he change? No. Deep down you know that he won't but it seems that a small bit off you still hopes that he wants to ... (read in full...)
I need a birthday gift for him! Help!!
Q. Ive been dating this guy for a couple months, hes a senior in highschool and his birthday is coming up, i have no clue what to get him, hes not really into sports or cars he loves adventures and i need help! Any ideas? Its hard to know this early ...
A. 15 March 2016: He likes adventure so why not plan a day outdoors doing something you both love? It doesn't need to be an expense, just spend time together. Go for a run, or a bike ride. Go to a fair for the day, whatever there is to do in your area.... (read in full...)
What are some tips on how to get on better with work colleages?
Q. I have no problems but I am older than 90% of my work colleagues. I have NO issue with younger colleagues, my boss is 9 yrs younger and shes fine. but i'd like tips on getting on better with them. My workplace is super cliquey, I have no wish t...
A. 15 March 2016: You seem to have it worked out on being friendly to those you work with, why not invite people out for drinks after work? Or even for a coffee?... (read in full...)
If I am to do so, how do I tell someone they have been creatively inspirational?
Q. I am a singer/songwriter, who like many artists, is at times inspired by a member of the fairer sex, as the old phrase goes. There is someone I get to work with every so often, and to say she has piqued my interest is an understatement of the ...
A. 15 March 2016: I don't think it will be harassment if you just say to her hey here is a demo off some stuff I have been working on, you where an inspiration for some of the songs and I just wanted to thank you. ... (read in full...)
How can I deal with the disruption of my BF's mate? The mate visits us almost every evening?
Q. Hi I have been with my boyfriend now for 3 years we have a son together. We are happy apart from the fact we get no time together because of his mate. My boyfriend finishes work. I have tea ready, then halfway through eating it his mate turns u...
A. 15 March 2016: This is your home and you should be getting the respect that you deserve from your boyfriend, but he is not giving it to you. He kept you happy by asking his friend to stay away for a few days until it settled down. I think you need to talk to his ... (read in full...)
My Boyfriend's ex just will not let go. Shall I attend the wedding we're both invited to, or stay away?
Q. My boyfriend is taking me to a wedding and his ex, who is Very much clearly still in love with him, will be there. Should I go to this wedding? I don't want to end up causing a scene. FYI, my boyfriend has told her to move on and that they won...
A. 15 March 2016: Off course go to the wedding, and enjoy the day with your boyfriend. Don't cause a scene, just be polite and civil to her. Your boyfriend needs to break all contact with her though so that she can move on from him, being her friend is only going to ... (read in full...)
Despite his reassurances, there’s something telling me not to trust him. What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 6 months and in the first month we started dating, I found out that he was messaging other girls on Facebook wanting to hang out with them. I just found out recently and when I called him out on it, he ...
A. 15 March 2016: No he would not have told you. It was early in the relationship and he was keeping his options open, he was checking to see what other women where available out there. You never would have found out if it wasn't for your friend, so off course I can ... (read in full...)
Was I wrong to offer something from my Mom’s estate to my brother’s ex-wife?
Q. Help someone, Thanks you to all who help here. My mom died.three years ago.My sister and I went.through boxes of things that belonged to mom....I have some China which will help me to remember my mom. My brother and his wife split a decade ago....
A. 15 March 2016: Well this all really depends on who the China belongs to now, was it left in a will to you? If it was then well it is up to you if you want to give it away. But if it was left to you and your siblings, well then you are not the only one to have a ... (read in full...)
Why did his mood and intentions change rapidly, and did he take my number in the first place if he really wasn't interested?
Q. I met this guy over a year ago at a family function that at the time claimed he liked me and wanted to speak to me again. After taking my number, he never contacted me so I let it go and moved on. I met one of his relatives at a party and he asked...
A. 15 March 2016: Am afraid he is just not that interested in you. He was out enjoying himself, he asked for your number and he never followed up the next day, normal enough, then you both met and again exchanged contact details, but he has went off the radar again. ... (read in full...)
How do I stop? I'm constantly craving male attention and end up obsessing over those who give me this attention
Q. I have a recurrent issue that seems to be getting out of hand and worse. It seems that every time a man flirts with me or shows interest, I start to revel in this attention and I start liking them. For instance, a guy has recently joi...
A. 15 March 2016: Well its about being a decent person to begin with, if a man has a girlfriend and you are aware off this and you continue to tell him you want him, well then it means you don't respect others, or yourself for that matter. Have you low confidence? ... (read in full...)
What can I do when she gets in a mood like this?
Q. My friend has been really difficult and I don't know how to deal with it or if it's even worth it. She's been having a hard time the last couple of years and the things we both went through in life is what made us bond in the first place, as much ...
A. 15 March 2016: Again I don't think she needs to be in your life. She is not being a friend, the best thing for you to do is block her number and find new friends who are kind to you. ... (read in full...)
Is this the sign of a break up? Should I text him?
Q. Dear cupid...my boyfried and i have been together for 3 year we were so in love we do every thing together, at least we use to until his ex gf came back in town. He speaks to her and ever since she has came back he and i do not comunicate at all. ...
A. 14 March 2016: If you are not comfortable doing something then you even if you have been together 3 years or 30 years he should not sulk if you don't want to do it. I can see why he was confused when you said you where not ready, I think telling him straight out ... (read in full...)
He seemed like a good guy. Now it's pretty much nothing. Why?
Q. I was dating this guy casually for a few months and he was really in to me. He would text me every day and ask to see me every couple of days. He'd talk to me constantly and then one weekend I was too busy to go to one of his parties and suddenly...
A. 14 March 2016: It sounds like he may have met someone else. You say you where dating casually, therefore really he wasn't in a committed relationship to you. I think if he was really serious about you it wouldn't have been so casual for so long. ... (read in full...)
I'm 20 years old and my overprotective parents are driving me crazy!
Q. Hello everyone, I'm really needing some help right now. I'm 20 years old and still have to tell my parents where I'm going who I'm going with what I'm doing and if they think I'm lying they will check up on me and ask my friends if I'm there. I...
A. 14 March 2016: You say you where not in any danger, but they didn't know that, all they knew was that you had lied to them, therefore it might have had them worried, someday you will have children and you will understand, even though you are an adult they are ... (read in full...)
He has a new girlfriend, so what does he want from me?
Q. Hello everyone. A little back story, my boyfriend and I have been broken up for about 4 months now. The break up was a lot harder on me than him because he is the one who broke up with me, and told me he didn't feel the same about me anymore. It was ...
A. 14 March 2016: Block him from being able to contact you, exs cannot be friends, as it was a lot more than a friendship you both shared, and to try and be friends now would only hurt you, as you would start falling for him again. I think he contacted you to make ... (read in full...)
Why? He hates when I become sexy and flirty with him.
Q. I'm normally like this but he seems to have a go at me when I've been drinking. He hates it. Like even if it's behind closed doors and only to him, he would hate when I dance for him sexily and strip so to speak. I don't drink much and never g...
A. 14 March 2016: What exactly is it that you feel you have done wrong? It is obvious from all your posts, your ex did not like you when you had a drink. That doesn't mean you done anything wrong. It was him that did not like you drinking. Therefore you both should ... (read in full...)
He's my boss and ten years older. Should I end the relationship?
Q. Basically, I am 19 and in university I work part time and for a while I really hated my boss, I met him on a night out one night and seen a side of him that I didn't see in work (a side I liked). At first I thought I was just having a crush bu...
A. 14 March 2016: For me the age difference shouldn't make a difference as you are both adults and know what you are doing. However dating your boss is a big no no, if it was not to work out imagine how awkward it would be at work? Not to mention that you would ... (read in full...)
Why? He hates when I become sexy and flirty with him.
Q. I'm normally like this but he seems to have a go at me when I've been drinking. He hates it. Like even if it's behind closed doors and only to him, he would hate when I dance for him sexily and strip so to speak. I don't drink much and never g...
A. 14 March 2016: It seems you want to do things to please him, where you able to perform these strip shows while not having a drink? I think it is possible that he just did not like to see you drink alcohol because it changed you. It probably gave you more ... (read in full...)
Are we actually together or just exclusive FWB?
Q. A few months ago I started a friends with benefits relationship with someone at uni, it went on for four months and we saw each other regularly. Eventually I started developing feelings and i thought it was only fair to tell him. He actually ...
A. 14 March 2016: We could all sit here at tell you he is using you for sex, he doesn't want you but he doesn't want anybody else to have you, or that he is having his cake and eating it as well but we could all be wrong, and what you need to do is just ask him what ... (read in full...)
Why do some people like my boyfriend feel the need to embellish the truth or just outright lie?
Q. Have been with my boyfriend six years, all is very good except one thing, his bad habit of telling silly lies. He knows how much I detest lying yet still keeps doing it, he doesn't lie about anything important so I don't get it, what is the point! I ...
A. 14 March 2016: Sounds like he could be a compulsive liar. If this is a deal breaker for you, then you need to tell him he needs to get help or else the relationship is over. Yes there is help available out there for people with these issues. It is part of his ... (read in full...)
What can I do to manage my own feelings? This relationship is pulling me down
Q. Dear everyone, I am in my first relationship with my partner for 2 years and 3 months now. During the first 12 months, everything seems so perfect and sweet and I was wonderfully showered with love and attention everyday. Eventually, the honeym...
A. 14 March 2016: Generally the honeymoon period does phase out, maybe you are expecting a bit to much from her.
You want to not feel these feelings. Therefore try and look at the good things she does. Okay she might not write you letters any more, but there must... (read in full...)
If I am to do so, how do I tell someone they have been creatively inspirational?
Q. I am a singer/songwriter, who like many artists, is at times inspired by a member of the fairer sex, as the old phrase goes. There is someone I get to work with every so often, and to say she has piqued my interest is an understatement of the ...
A. 14 March 2016: I think you should give her a copy of the songs you have wrote about her. Tell her that she inspires you and that you would like to thank her. Sometimes age doesn't matter to people. I am sure she will take it as a compliment. Good luck.... (read in full...)
What can I do when she gets in a mood like this?
Q. My friend has been really difficult and I don't know how to deal with it or if it's even worth it. She's been having a hard time the last couple of years and the things we both went through in life is what made us bond in the first place, as much ...
A. 12 March 2016: No sweetie I don't think that you should reply. Be the bigger person here. She has made it clear she wants nothing to do with you, she is hoping you will take the hint. It's sad yes, but I think you need to accept she no longer wants you in her ... (read in full...)
What can I do when she gets in a mood like this?
Q. My friend has been really difficult and I don't know how to deal with it or if it's even worth it. She's been having a hard time the last couple of years and the things we both went through in life is what made us bond in the first place, as much ...
A. 22 February 2016: I bet you miss her as she was a friend, but not a very good one. I think she needs to help herself and if you contact her she will not be getting the help she needs. Off course it is up to you which path you choose. Am not sure how you would start ... (read in full...)
What can I do when she gets in a mood like this?
Q. My friend has been really difficult and I don't know how to deal with it or if it's even worth it. She's been having a hard time the last couple of years and the things we both went through in life is what made us bond in the first place, as much ...
A. 28 January 2016: I understand that it can be hard to be blunt, especially to a friend, but you need to try, for your own sake. You need to stand up for yourself in life. ... (read in full...)
What can I do when she gets in a mood like this?
Q. My friend has been really difficult and I don't know how to deal with it or if it's even worth it. She's been having a hard time the last couple of years and the things we both went through in life is what made us bond in the first place, as much ...
A. 27 January 2016: Well done for being there for her and for supporting her. But something has got to give. You cannot allow her to lash out at you all the time and for her to think it is okay. She is negative about her life, although she tries to put you down further ... (read in full...)
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