Do people still fall in love these days or is that an outdated concept?
Q. What is everyone's opinion on this? Since I'm back in the dating world, I have to say that it's a real cesspool out there. Everyone seems a bit jaded, and women put up these walls and hurdles that you have to jump through in order crack thei...
A. 11 March 2016: I think what you must remember is that your ex girlfriend is in your past for a reason. If you are trying to look for a replacement for her in your life well then no I don't think that will work. No other girl is going to be your ex, and comparing ... (read in full...)
Can I win her over?
Q. So I was in the library at my college the other day and as I was looking for a place to study I saw this very unique and exotic looking girl. She had the most beautiful dark hair and the most intense features. I saw her before on campus and her pers...
A. 9 March 2016: Well it is nice to see you have someone else in the radar and good luck with the date. Sometimes people don't want to come across rude so they don't say they are not interested, its not that she was being mean, she probably was just taken off guard ... (read in full...)
how do I determine if this guy is serious about me? Or is he just using me as a rebound?
Q. i just want to know if I'm overreacting or not , okay so I've been talking to my ex lately again he reached out to me and honestly it's kike a cycle with him repeating over and over again. Its like one minute he's all serious about being a relation...
A. 9 March 2016: He is an ex for a reason. It didn't work out when you where younger and I doubt it would work between you both again. When he finds himself alone and no other girl that is interested in him, well then he picks up the phone and says all the right ... (read in full...)
Is this a healthy relationship? Should I stop texting? Is he using me?
Q. Hi, me and my boyfriend met on Facebook,we've met 5 times and have been going out for two weeks. We used to text all the time, almost 24\7. Now I'm fed up and every time he texts me I ignore it and reply an hour later. It makes me sad to think th...
A. 9 March 2016: You say you used to text all the time but now you get fed up and take your time replying to him, why is that? Why don't you like having a conversation with him anymore? What makes you think that you both will break up? He says he will wait for you, ... (read in full...)
Can I win her over?
Q. So I was in the library at my college the other day and as I was looking for a place to study I saw this very unique and exotic looking girl. She had the most beautiful dark hair and the most intense features. I saw her before on campus and her pers...
A. 9 March 2016: Okay well if she has not wrote back to you, then I would leave it at that for now. Maybe she is unsure yet what she wants to do. If she is not responding then you should give her time and see if she writes back. ... (read in full...)
Why would my ex try to dance with me after being so hurtful in the past?
Q. My ex and i broke up about 9 months ago and we go to the same uni. On Friday, I was out with my friends and I was dancing and everyone started circling me, including his friends and I looked back and realised him coming up behind me to try and da...
A. 8 March 2016: He wants sex from you. So far you have done all the right things, now just keep doing what you are doing and be thankful that he is out of your life. ... (read in full...)
Can I win her over?
Q. So I was in the library at my college the other day and as I was looking for a place to study I saw this very unique and exotic looking girl. She had the most beautiful dark hair and the most intense features. I saw her before on campus and her pers...
A. 8 March 2016: Do you both not get a lunch break at college? Maybe grab lunch together, so it is casual and so you can both just have time to relax and chat. She is probably not to over enthusiastic at the moment, because to her you are the perfect stranger and ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend showed up with scratch marks after the weekend. Is this enough evidence to leave him?
Q. Please help. It will be 3 years in June I have been with my boyfriend. Yesterday I noticed a few horizontal scratch marks above his stomach. They were not there on Friday when I last saw him but they were there the following Monday. I did not...
A. 8 March 2016: If it was my man who had scratch marks on him, I wouldn't question him, and why I wouldn't is because I trust him. Something that is clearly missing from your relationship. Look I don't believe these doubts have come just from some marks on his ... (read in full...)
I've decided to give my ex another chance. Do I cancel the date I had scheduled with another guy?
Q. Tonight Me and my (ex) boyfriend have decided to give it another go, we broke up a few weeks ago but stayed friends. he was scared about moving forward . my friend is on a dating site and knows hes on there too ( he hasnt deleted his profile ). ( he ...
A. 7 March 2016: Technically you are single therefore I don't see the problem. However you say that you have decided you are going to give it another go with your ex. Therefore you have made the decision so why would you bother dating someone else? Are you really ... (read in full...)
My husband calling me fat after a baby is not cool!
Q. My husband is appearing to be non supportive and loving after I had a baby. What kills me is that he is constantly acting like he is obsessed with every beautiful woman he comes across. I feel left out in the beautiful woman praise because he ...
A. 7 March 2016: If it was my husband that kept telling me how beautiful these girls where I would be insecure as well. I really have no idea why he would want to make you feel like this. If he knows you are already insecure then he is making this worse. You should ... (read in full...)
Do people still fall in love these days or is that an outdated concept?
Q. What is everyone's opinion on this? Since I'm back in the dating world, I have to say that it's a real cesspool out there. Everyone seems a bit jaded, and women put up these walls and hurdles that you have to jump through in order crack thei...
A. 7 March 2016: I guess every-bodies opinion is going to be different on this topic. I know quite a lot of girls that love going out at the weekend just purely for sex with random men, they are looked upon as sluts and easy. Yet most young men are out looking for ... (read in full...)
I used to tell him that we should break up, but now that we have I feel devastated!
Q. Hi, I'm going to try and make this as short as possible. Im devastated that my boyfriend of 11 months broke up with me. I also feel a lot of guilt as I know I am to blame for it and it's eating away at me. I've always supported him, I cooked food ...
A. 7 March 2016: After giving you advice on your other post, I still feel the same, he is controlling and you are much better off without him, Sweetie can you not see that this is not normal behavior from a boyfriend? What is it that he does for you? You make him ... (read in full...)
My birthday was ignored yet again. Does my husband not respect me enough?
Q. Background is that during my Childhood, my birthdays were never celebrated, presents werent brought and it was generally glossed over. My 2 younger siblings, it was a big deal, parties every year, presents, cake, the whole 9 yards. I was oldest of ...
A. 7 March 2016: A lot of people don't really celebrate birthdays, he knows this is an issue for you but maybe he doesn't realize just how much. Ignore his next birthday and see how it makes him feel. Also maybe remind him that it is your birthday coming up and that ... (read in full...)
Did my boyfriend act unreasonable in this situation?
Q. Did my boyfriend act unreasonable in this situation? Now my boyfriend has said that he hates when I drink alcohol, I don't drink often and when I do its at family birthdays and bbq's in the house. Hes always with me when I drink because I invite ...
A. 7 March 2016: No sweetie you have not caused this at all. This is the beginning of controlling behavior which may only get worse if you allow it to happen. You are free to drink if you want to, that is your choice and not your boyfriends. It sounds like he wants ... (read in full...)
I wonder if he’s really interested in me, and whether I should tell him about his best friend?
Q. Last August I got with a guy for he first time, I went back to school and he went to college I didn't think much of it until I bumped into him a few weeks later at a party and he approached me and we chatted while both sobar. Two weeks later we saw ...
A. 7 March 2016: I think the problem here is that he is good friends with your ex, and if he really is a true friend then he would not do that. Also maybe he knows you had sex with his friend so he doesn't see you as anything more than a hook up. It is difficult to ... (read in full...)
My husband calling me fat after a baby is not cool!
Q. My husband is appearing to be non supportive and loving after I had a baby. What kills me is that he is constantly acting like he is obsessed with every beautiful woman he comes across. I feel left out in the beautiful woman praise because he ...
A. 7 March 2016: Have you spoke to him about this and told him how this makes you feel? Sweetie he probably is not even aware how much this is hurting you. Sometimes people don't think before they speak and that can be hurtful. You need to talk to him about this. ... (read in full...)
I messed up again, or maybe for the 11th time! Advice on how to get her back?
Q. I'm 20 about to be 21 she's 17 about to be 18 We meet each other in high school We worked together for atleast a year I was dating a girl Broke up with her to be with the girl I'm currently with Then broke Up with her and go back with the o...
A. 7 March 2016: I think you need to concentrate on you at the moment. You are still young, and have been in and out and back in a relationship again with these two girls. It is time to cool things off. Accept that you have made mistakes and move on from these two ... (read in full...)
I just don't feel involved in this relationship anymore. Is this normal?
Q. I need some advice regarding my LDR. During the first 2 years of our relationship, I was very eager and excited to visit him and for him to visit me. We saw eachother every month. I looked forward to our phone calls every night. I loved to see him ...
A. 7 March 2016: It sounds to me like you should end things so you can live your life how you want to. ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to live happily ever after knowing that my husband occasionally sleeps with other women on side?
Q. Is it possible to live happily ever after knowing that husband sleeps with other women on side occasionally(paid sex with high end escort/companions)? He always use protection and is very hygienic. I've got him n myself tested few yrs ago when I i...
A. 7 March 2016: He doesn't appreciate you for everything, because if he did then he would not be out cheating. Look am not going to tell you that you are being mistreated because you already know that you are, but you do not want to accept that your husband is out ... (read in full...)
I don't feel like I'm in a relationship! What should I do?
Q. I am not sure as to how to describe my current circumstance. I do not feel as if i am in a relationship. I have 3 children, 2 have left home. My youngest is 13. His dad and I have know each other for over 30 years. He has been a great dad to a...
A. 7 March 2016: Talk to the father off your child, ask him what does he want? Tell him you want a relationship and that you are lonely, if he cannot give you that well I suggest meeting up with your ex and reconnecting to see if there are still feelings there. ... (read in full...)
My reaction to seeing my ex has me wondering if I should be engaged!
Q. I am engaged to my long term boyfriend. This has been a recent engagement and I was very happy. However, I ran into my university ex at the weekend or I have rarely thought about in five years. It was nice to have a quick catch up. Since seeing him ...
A. 7 March 2016: You saw him, the good times cam flooding back, you remembered you loved his company and now BAM doubts are in your head, wondering if you are with the right man, is getting married the right thing to do if you are thinking about your ex.
Well lets... (read in full...)
How do I tell my new girlfriend I had a one-night stand with her sister before we met?
Q. I recently started going out with this girl. She’s beautiful, smart, kind and funny. Pretty much everything I could ask for in a girl. The only problem? I’ve slept with her sister. I’m 23 and she’s 22. We’ve been going out for 3 weeks now. The o...
A. 7 March 2016: Be honest with her, you did not do anything wrong. But if you hide this from her, well then you are being dishonest from the beginning and she will no doubt find out at some stage. Just be honest and say you hooked up with her sister a year and a ... (read in full...)
I'm not looking forward to any more trips with my partner's mom after this last one
Q. I'd really like your advice.. My partner and I enjoy taking holidays when we can - tramping and taking long walks and generally exploring new places together. A few years ago was the last overseas trip we took. We're home owners now so i...
A. 7 March 2016: I think you are being a little selfish here, although I do understand why you are feeling like that. Okay lets begin with the money situation, I think you took that the wrong way, I think she wanted to pay her own way, and he is her son. I don't ... (read in full...)
How do I get past my fears that he might not be ready to settle?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 months. We met on our first day moving into our university's campus accommodation, and fell for each other quickly. We decided to be "officially" a couple after 6 weeks and we've been quite inseparable ...
A. 7 March 2016: You have only been together four months, so I think you need to slow down all these thoughts and just enjoy the relationship. Yes I agree he is quite young but that does not mean he wants to be single and sleep with lots of girls. Some men do while ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant homeless lost and boyfriend ended things. How are things going to get better?
Q. I need some advice if that's possible. I met my partner abroad and moved from a northern little town to a big city to be with him. I hate city life I have a job as a manager and he works for his family business. After being together a year he's lost ...
A. 7 March 2016: Are you able to talk to his parents and tell them the situation that you are in? You are carrying there grand child after all. Maybe they might help you with accommodation so that you can keep working until the baby is due. You may not like the city ... (read in full...)
He's always staring is this personal trainer making advances?
Q. Hi guys. I'll keep it short: I am 22 he is 28. Recently I've caught him staring , to a point where it is just too much. When I catch him he continues to stare back into my eyes. Sometimes he'll stare at me with these eyes and just automatically get ...
A. 7 March 2016: He doesn't sound like a genuine personal trainer. If he was am pretty sure he should be more professional. Not telling clients that he is going home to smoke drugs. I agree with Honeypie his is probably staring, licking his lips and being so touchy ... (read in full...)
Do we just need a break from one another?
Q. Hi All, I've recently noticed a pull away from my boyfriend of 3 months. We've known each other (and have had a thing, for about 6 months). He's my neighbor in my dorm-so or anything were to happen it would be super awkward. He's been super bu...
A. 7 March 2016: The relationship still is quite new, so it is quite early to begin to see problems. If he is at school at in the ROTC well then am sure he is probably pretty exhausted a lot of the time, so the sex thing wouldn't be a big worry, at least he is still ... (read in full...)
I'm getting mixed signals from him, after giving him signs I like him. I don't want to waste my time, what do I do?
Q. About a month ago I met this guy at a conference. He was in my committee and he was very friendly, we ended up hanging out for four days. He was really friendly, a little touchy, always wanted to seat next to me. Basically there were little signs ...
A. 7 March 2016: It sounds to me like you where both playing games with each other, he told you he liked you, but you asked him did he want you to set him up with your friend, so he probably took this as you are not interested. I am not sure if he is playing a game ... (read in full...)
How do I keep him while convincing my parents that I trust and love him?
Q. I have been dating this guy for 2.5 years .He lives in Europe and I live far away in asia . We are 9 years apart and have huge size and height difference . He is 98kg, 185cm and im a little hobbit ? 40kg and 155cm ( im anorexic I have weight p...
A. 7 March 2016: When you say you have been dating his guy what exactly do you mean by that? You have not went to see him, so I guess he comes to see you in your country? Or is this a purely internet relationship? As if it is, you need to be very careful, the ... (read in full...)
I want to save my marriage but I feel bad that she knows how I feel and doesn't care!
Q. I have a wife whom we have 5 children, I left and upon return my wife left and live with the her former boyfriend, there was no fight between us but she left because I was not home and she find the exboyfriend and they connect back again, her reason ...
A. 7 March 2016: I am sorry that you are hurting but your wife does not love you, nor does she respect you. She only cares about her own feelings. She knows that she is hurting you but she does not care, she wants to be with other people and be a part time wife. You ... (read in full...)
I need help dealing with my sexuality, relationships, and love! Help!
Q. So I have a complicated relationship type thing with this guy I've been seeing for over 6 months here's the story and the problem. I met this guy back in September he was like the 3rd guy I met and we had a great connection. When we slept togethe...
A. 7 March 2016: I think he likes you but he probably feels like you are messing him around because all you are offering is sex. He is in a relationship and he doesn't seem to want to cheat, it seems he wants to be with you, but you don't want the label. Therefore I ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is always looking at asian women?
Q. I feel like sometimes when my bf and I go out, he looks at girls. But not just at any girl, but asian girls. I am the first hispanic women he has ever gone out with you. He has always dated white and asian women. And his last girlfriend was asian. ...
A. 7 March 2016: I think you are being over sensitive. At the end of the day if he wanted to be with an asian girl well then he would. But he wants to be with you, you need to believe him when he calls you beautiful. He choose to be with you out off everyone. Take ... (read in full...)
My husband calling me fat after a baby is not cool!
Q. My husband is appearing to be non supportive and loving after I had a baby. What kills me is that he is constantly acting like he is obsessed with every beautiful woman he comes across. I feel left out in the beautiful woman praise because he ...
A. 7 March 2016: Why did you marry this man? Okay so him calling you fat is unacceptable. You need to be able to be honest with him and tell him that his comments is effecting your confidence. You shouldn't have moved church if you did not want to. He is your ... (read in full...)
I’m with the wrong sister! I need advice!
Q. Hello!My name is Cameron and I'm 20.I desperately need some help because I have no idea how to deal with the situation that I'm in right now. My ex gf Natasha(25) and I dated for nearly a year.Prior to getting together we were really good frie...
A. 7 March 2016: Fist off get out of a relationship with Maria. Maria has admitted to you that she likes you, and well basically what you have done is use her, and you are still continuing to use her, the more you do this well the more you are going to hurt her. So ... (read in full...)
Do I want my ex back? Is my current relationship toxic?
Q. So right of the bat... I know i'm kindoff selfish for having this very problem but i just need the opinion of others to be sure. Ive asked a question in this site about over a week ago about me and my month-long girlfriend breaking up...and as hard ...
A. 7 March 2016: If you are having doubts well then it is not fair on your girlfriend. Maybe you need some time alone to work out what you want. Tell your girlfriend you want a short term break to work out some issues that you have and then see how you feel when you ... (read in full...)
Rules for texting a new love interest?
Q. Hello, I met a man through friends who is very kind and respectful. We have hung out many times in our friend group and have good conversations. He asked for my number and we have been texting. I know many times, people just want a "texti...
A. 7 March 2016: If you want him to do the planning well then the best thing to do is to sit back and wait to see what he does next. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Is 4 months of dating too soon to ask her to marry me?
Q. I am in love with my girlfriend.. I can't imagine life without her. She is everything I could have ever asked for and more. We have only been dating 4 months but it seems like longer. We have known each other for 4 years. I know she is the girl for ...
A. 4 March 2016: Talk to her about where the relationship is going, get a feel for if she wants marriage etc. After that well then you do what you plan to do, And good luck ??... (read in full...)
Should I ask my LDR's relative more questions about his cheating with his ex?
Q. My current LDR's brother's wife has just hinted to me that my boyfriend was cheating with his ex while he was dating me a year ago. My LDR boyfriend's brother recently got married and I traveled to visit during the wedding and got to know his brot...
A. 4 March 2016: Talk to him and let him explain. My guess is they figured you deserved the truth. It's up to you what you do now but I would be dumping him and showing him he cannot treat women like that. He obviously has no respect for you or his ex when he two ... (read in full...)
Will he go through with his secret online dating thing, and meet up with them? Should I leave him?
Q. Hey, I'm in a bad situation at the moment and don't know what to do. Ok, so my partner is VERY secretive about his laptop and phone(yet expects my codes!) and today he went out, anyway, I decided to do something wrong, I know, I opened his lap...
A. 4 March 2016: If this was me in your situation I would tell him to pack his bags and go. How dare he think it is okay to treat you like this. He is putting your little family in jeopardy by mailing these women. Obviously he doesn't care what pain he causes you, ... (read in full...)
Is this guy into me? Flirting when a simple email would do?
Q. So this guy, seem to get my attention and make small conversation with me any given opportunity he can. Example, at the end of a lecture he pull me to the side to ask a tiny question and make conversation. He has done this on several occasions, and ...
A. 4 March 2016: It's impossible to know, but it is a step in the right direction if you like him. If so well then you can make more off an effort as well and see how it goes. ... (read in full...)
I'm bereft after this break up, I feel I have no hope, at age 47. Please help!
Q. Hi everyone. I am feeling desperately sad after breaking up with my partner. My marriage ended 5 years ago, my choice, and I found new strength and freedom on my own. I met my partner after about a year and I was so in love. I had such high hopes ...
A. 4 March 2016: Don't put yourself up on the shelf yet. You are as young as you feel, you need to move forward and get on with your life. Spend time with friends, do things you love, treat yourself to a nice new outfit, eat good food and keep healthy, it will make ... (read in full...)
Why does he treat me like a last priority?
Q. Its been two year i am dating my boyfriend. Last year when my birthday came,i thought he will plan something special for me. I went to his home and when i asked him " where is my birthday gift" . He said i don't have any, i am always like this and i ...
A. 4 March 2016: Maybe he doesn't do buying birthday presents, what kind of things do you buy him for his birthday?
You need to decide what you want from a man, if it's him being thoughtful and this guy is not trying hard enough then maybe it is time to move on a... (read in full...)
I've made a huge mistake, now what do I do?
Q. I met a man on dating website jut over a year ago. We moved in together after three months, things were going great. However, I think I have made a huge mistake. When I met him I had just been through very traumatic events and he distracted me from ...
A. 4 March 2016: You mentioned you where having a hard time and he was a distraction, that's okay, that's the way a lot of us cope with trauma. You say you love him so why are you doubting it? Have you low confidence? Talk to him about how you are feeling, or if ... (read in full...)
Do I want my ex back? Is my current relationship toxic?
Q. So right of the bat... I know i'm kindoff selfish for having this very problem but i just need the opinion of others to be sure. Ive asked a question in this site about over a week ago about me and my month-long girlfriend breaking up...and as hard ...
A. 4 March 2016: I can see why you would be afraid that your girlfriend could leave, we all have that fear, however if you left her for your ex would you not fear the same thing? Your ex broke up with you for a reason, did you ever talk to her about it? My honest ... (read in full...)
Do I want my ex back? Is my current relationship toxic?
Q. So right of the bat... I know i'm kindoff selfish for having this very problem but i just need the opinion of others to be sure. Ive asked a question in this site about over a week ago about me and my month-long girlfriend breaking up...and as hard ...
A. 3 March 2016: Before telling your girlfriend anything I think you need to work out how you are feeling. Your ex was upset and told you she wished you had done something like that for her, and that will obviously make you feel guilty and bring old feelings back. ... (read in full...)
Rules for texting a new love interest?
Q. Hello, I met a man through friends who is very kind and respectful. We have hung out many times in our friend group and have good conversations. He asked for my number and we have been texting. I know many times, people just want a "texti...
A. 2 March 2016: Its a good sign that he has asked for your number, that's the first step. Now you have both been talking that's great also. But I think you should be just upfront and ask him does he want to hang out? ... (read in full...)
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