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writes:Hi, Ive never been one to post a heart filled question but I've got one thats been bothering for a while and I need some advice. So theres been this girl which I have been friends with the whole way through school she was one of my best friends and she was always slightly flirty to me but I think that was just her personality but after school we went to colleges and drifted apart slightly still keeping in slight contact over holidays messaging or whatever but no where near as close as we were in school. I never tried anything with her as I was always seeing someone different and was scared of rejection as we were close friends. Now were both at different universities, Im currently single and I'm ready to just go for it and try something. But when we send texts its only a couple and she's not the best replier as I imagine she's busy with work and going out with her friends. She has invited me to her birthday at her uni with a few other friends from home but it is during my exam dates so I can't go. But what I need advice is whether to ask to see if i could come down and visit her, but I don't want to scare her off, or invite her to see me or say Im visiting a friend in London and see if she fancies a night out. And if I do manage to see her at her uni how I transition from friends to more than friends, because I can only imagine if I blurt out that Ive liked her forever that could be pretty scary for her and she might back off. I would regret never trying anything with her so when I do make a move it has to be the best move I can make. Hope you can give me some good advice thanks.
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reader, ova-valentine  +, writes (31 March 2016):
 I agree with aunt honesty and here are my thoughts: Say you can't go, and then suggest that the two of you do something together to make up for it. Take it slow. The thing that aggravates me is, if I only knew this girl I could tell you the best way to go. But I don't. And this is general advice, so you go whatever way you feel is best with it. Just BE YOURSELF and it's NOT BAD to show a little bit of your affection for her. Don't tell her flat out that you love her, but you should do things together more often, like just the two of you, until you feel ready to let her know how you feel.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (21 March 2016):
 I think you should say to her that you are really sorry that you cannot make her party, and that you are annoyed that you cannot go. Say to her after your exams are finished you would like to come and visit her and maybe she can show you around the place? See how she reacts to that then just go slowly.
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