I'm in a stable relationship but I still can't achieve orgasm
Q. At 22 I have now found myself in a relatively new yet wonderful relationship, my first 'mature' partnership since school and college flings. My worry is a commonly asked question, why can't I orgasm? The sex is great, I used to fear sex due to ...
A. 25 April 2016: A lot of people condition themselves to be quiet during sex because of shared accommodation, try not to worry about that side of things. If you are able to orgasm yourself them just show him how to do that, if sex doesn't work for you, ensure that ... (read in full...)
I'm dating someone who isn't responding by text as fast as he used to, is this a problem or am I over-analyzing?
Q. Dear Cupid I'm dating someone younger to me for past 1 month, I like him and he says the same. Earlier he used to text often and responds back quickly , now most of the time he doesn't initiate text and if I text I get response but mostly after...
A. 25 April 2016: If you feel things have not progressed in the last month, then make some changes. Only you can tell how you are both getting on face to face. I wouldn't worry about the phone side of things, to many people rely on communication over the phone, but ... (read in full...)
How can I show him his bad times are over?
Q. Hi , Ive just got myself a new boyfriend weve been together a month . hes really nice but he hasnt had the best of times over the last year or so before we got together . He had cancer 5 years ago and beat it ( had to leave the army which he lived ...
A. 25 April 2016: It sounds like he is giving up on life. It is hard to battle cancer twice, and no wonder he is feeling down in the dumps. The only thing you can do is reassure him that you want to be with him. If he is having a bad day in the house, take him out ... (read in full...)
I need a virtual shake to get back to reality and stop chatting online with men
Q. I'm worried about some behaviours I have started to develop and want to ask advice. I've been in a happy relationship for 6 years with a kind and successful man. We moved away from our home last year for his work and I gave up my job to move. I'...
A. 25 April 2016: You feel like it is a dirty little secret because that is exactly what it is, if your boyfriend was talking to other women the way that you are I am not sure you would be so forgiven. Okay so you have been in a relationship since you where 19, that ... (read in full...)
I no longer want to see my LDR boyfriend and he's talking about moving in together!
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship. My boyfriend and I have visited each other on a very regular basis up until the beginning of this year when I took on a new job that doesn't allow much time off. I've only seen him once this year, back in Febru...
A. 25 April 2016: You need to be honest with him, don't string him along. It is obvious your heart is not in the relationship anymore, if you don't even look forward to seeing him, then the best thing that you can do for both of you is to end it, just be honest with ... (read in full...)
Should I accept social networking "friend" requests? What's a good way to reconnect with friends from my school days?
Q. Hi. Thank you for reading. I am asking for helpful advice . I have no friends. I still live in the same town I grew up in central London. Secondary school was a really good time for me, I had many friends. Everyday I would travel to and from sch...
A. 25 April 2016: Suffering from anxiety and depression probably doesn't help your situation, but you need to look at life positively. Work out ways on how you can make friends. Join clubs? Go out to the pub and get chatting to people. Reconnect on social networking, ... (read in full...)
How can I get over him and move on? My ex boyfriend is blanking me and I can't move on
Q. Hi, me and my ex broke up last Sunday. I ended the relationship. He was texting me and said "can't we still talk?" So I said "if you want to" he said "yes I do" so i said me too. I ended the relationship because my mum made me because he was ma...
A. 25 April 2016: It is okay to feel sad once a relationship ends, but you will get over it soon, you will meet other people and date other guys and you will wonder why you felt as bad as you do now.
You cannot make him talk to you am afraid, if he chooses to igno... (read in full...)
My friend and I have the same crush on this boy!
Q. I'm sorry if it's gonna be a long story, but I really need help and advice for this problem. To be clear, I will call my friend “A” and the boy “C”. And I will give some background for the situation first. A sit besides C now. Me and A are classm...
A. 25 April 2016: Maybe you should ask C straight out if he likes either off you both instead of playing a game. It is up to him who he chooses to ask out, and up to you or A if you accept.
I think you should be honest with A and tell her if you like him, it is best... (read in full...)
Help. Am I justified for being annoyed with my Gf?? I am having girlfriend problems
Q. Whilst in the club with my work colleagues and my girlfriend for a colleagues birthday, my gf and a female colleague go off to dance. I go looking for them about 20mins ish later because my gf is shy so didn't want her to think I've left her with a ...
A. 25 April 2016: Instead of being angry and getting in to another argument I think you both need to sit down and talk to each other about what is going on in the relationship. She was letting her hair down on a night out and didn't seem to want to socialize with ... (read in full...)
What do you do for someone who made your life happy again ? my friend helped and supported me after abuse I suffered
Q. I had a horrible childhood, I was physically and sexually molested and raped by my step father for 7 years. When I was 20, I met a guy on an online adult site . He was 15 years older then me. I was still living at home and my step father cont...
A. 22 April 2016: Your story brought a tear to my eye, what an amazing man, we need more people in the world that are like him. He is your hero and you will always feel like that. Accept his fantastic gift of a new life to you and be thankful to him. Are there any ... (read in full...)
How can I change my bad attitude towards other people?
Q. What is the best thing to do so I can change my attitude towards others. I have a bad attitude and this is towards anyone I have tried changing it but when I was nice and respectful others took advantage and treated me very unfair. I was ...
A. 22 April 2016: You cannot go through your life blaming what happened you at school on your attitude now. Yes being bullied is horrible and it changes a person, but you don't need to be that person, you can learn to be a better person, go to a behavioral therapist ... (read in full...)
How do you get a spark, a true buzz or sense of purpose for life ?
Q. How do you get a spark for life ? For years now I have been drifting through with no sense of purpose and no matter what I try I can not get a true buzz or sense of purpose from life . I have tried to look at new hobbies , new goals , bettering ...
A. 22 April 2016: Do you think that maybe you might be suffering from depression? If so then I would go to your doctor and tell them how you have been feeling.
Also I would suggest getting a pup, they are great company, companionship, very loyal and much easier than... (read in full...)
My Boyfriend's Doberman comes first. It's making me miserable. What do I do?
Q. Hi I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. We have a 1 yr old son. The problem is when me and my boyfriend met he had a Doberman but the problem is he treats the dog better than me. He takes the dog everywhere with me. The dog can do no wrong. T...
A. 22 April 2016: There is not a huge lot you can do here am afraid, it sounds like they come as a package, he loves that dog and therefore he wants it up on the sofa, you don't. I guess you both need to sit and compromise. If he cannot meet you in the middle well ... (read in full...)
Should I stay or should I go? Where Would I fit in elsewhere?
Q. I am currently working in a small office for a small company.. very small company. I have been here for 8-9 months. I really can't stand the majority of the people here and I know that there will always be those situations in life where you have t...
A. 22 April 2016: Is there no way that you can try harder to get along with the people in your office so that it might make life easier?
If you are really unhappy in the work place, and you can't find a way to improve well then yes there is no harm in looking for ... (read in full...)
How does one learn to accept what is good enough? I feel like I can never do anything good enough
Q. I recently ended my marriage and have a new bf who is a national rep. His work takes him away for overnights as well as many evening meetings. I hate how I act when he is away from home. I get super moody, I almost feel like he doesn't love...
A. 22 April 2016: Hi Tammy-lee,
I am glad you are seeking counselling for this because it sounds like you need to let go off a lot of issues that you have from your past. As a child and a teenager you had to go through a lot losing both parents. A counselor will help... (read in full...)
Just stop talking to him or be straight up?
Q. I am currently talking to a guy and his been trying to talk to me for 2 maybe 3 years now and I either ignore him or talk to him but for the 1st 3 min only. Well this time i decided to talk to him and we have been talking for quite a while bu...
A. 22 April 2016: Yes don't play it out, just be honest with him about what you want. ... (read in full...)
Should I say something to my boss tomorrow?
Q. I just got in an argument with my boss well basically his my general manager.And I do not know what to do or if I should do or say anything tomorrow.. He said that I have a nasty attitude and a nasty way of answering his questions. S...
A. 22 April 2016: The thing is people might not like the way he treats them, but they will decide either to put up with it and respect him as a boss or look for another job. I know that he may be your fathers friend but that doesn't mean that he will be yours at the ... (read in full...)
Should I let my relationship influence my career? I don't know what I should choose!
Q. Hey, Friends I'm feeling very confused about my career. I can't decide my career, I want to marry my gf and her parents may get her married after a couple of years but I don't think that 2 years are enough for me to be something. I still have to pu...
A. 21 April 2016: Why would being married effect your future career wise? Can you still not be married and get the career that you want? You can still be married and study afterwards no? I don't really understand, it sounds like you feel that marriage will stop you ... (read in full...)
Just stop talking to him or be straight up?
Q. I am currently talking to a guy and his been trying to talk to me for 2 maybe 3 years now and I either ignore him or talk to him but for the 1st 3 min only. Well this time i decided to talk to him and we have been talking for quite a while bu...
A. 21 April 2016: He has been chasing you for two or three years and it is only now you think to let him know the truth? Why did you entertain the idea with him at all, are you scared he is going to stop giving you attention? Find someone else he likes? It is almost ... (read in full...)
Should I say something to my boss tomorrow?
Q. I just got in an argument with my boss well basically his my general manager.And I do not know what to do or if I should do or say anything tomorrow.. He said that I have a nasty attitude and a nasty way of answering his questions. S...
A. 21 April 2016: If you cannot stand the way he treats people then I think you need to look for another job. Unless he is bullying or harassing there is not a lot you can do here. He is your general manager and therefore you need to talk to him with respect and if ... (read in full...)
Who is right? Why can't he compromise?
Q. My bf says we always do what I want but that isn't true at all. I want a treadmill, to be able to workout in our apt because I have a lot of anxiety and I also have stomach issues and exercising really helps. So I tried tling him all this, but he ...
A. 21 April 2016: I don't think it is a case off which one of you is right and which one of you is wrong, it is not a competition between you both. You just need to both work on the relationship and make sure you both make enough effort to keep each other happy.
I... (read in full...)
Is this normal co-worker behaviour?
Q. A male coworker, who I joke around with and vice versa, asked me if I was working the next day as he was leaving work. I told him no, and he said "oh mann!" In a disappointed way. Then he asked what day I worked next. I told him the day after ...
A. 21 April 2016: It could be that he just sees you as a friend, it is clear he is happy to see you, but it doesn't seem like he is giving any vibes that he is interested romantically, so you should not be worried. Am guessing that if you see him as a kid brother you ... (read in full...)
My partner or my daughter? I feel so very upset about what has happened. What should I do?
Q. I have lived with my partner for around 5 years. My daughter (now 24) lived with me....(or between my ex husband and her b/f's parents) She never paid any board money and rarely did any housework. (but that's my fault for letting her). We often ...
A. 21 April 2016: Okay first off you need to concentrate on you and getting yourself better, if this means finding a new job and going back to your house well then you should do that. If you feel your partner is not good for you then you should leave. You should tell ... (read in full...)
Should I continue with this relationship? Or break up with him?
Q. Hello Aunts! I'm not sure if I'm in the right relationship. My bf and I have been dating for two years now. Sometimes I feel I love him very much while sometimes I feel I don't love him that much to get married to him. I broke up with him about a ...
A. 21 April 2016: Leave him. It is clear that you don't love him. It is best to make a clean break and move on with your life. Allow him to move on with someone who will give him the love he needs, while also allowing you to be with someone you love. Life is to short ... (read in full...)
I like this guy. But should I heed my brother's concerns about this guy?
Q. I met a guy on tinder. It turns out that my brother has known him for 7 years. My brother told me he didn't see us as a couple but said that he's a good guy. I'd like to add that my brother is a recovering alcoholic himself and has been sober for 2 ...
A. 21 April 2016: Your brother is right, this man cannot drink casually, he says he has it under control, but he knows deep down I bet that when he drinks he does not know when to stop. Okay so he might not be drinking every day or every week, but I bet when he does ... (read in full...)
He seems to have lost interest, how can we get the positive energy back?
Q. I met someone recently and it seemed mutual that we were both hitting it off. Looking back at the beginning when we first started texting, the messages seemed more fluid and open between us. Currently they don't look or feel the same. Even though we ...
A. 21 April 2016: I agree with honeypie, if you feel he is not making much off an effort any more well then don't write to him, allow him to contact you, if he doesn't well it shows that he has lost interest but just does not know how to tell you. ... (read in full...)
Could a man lose interest in a sex buddy as fast as a few weeks?
Q. There's this guy who I have started having sex with. (I told him that I wasn't looking for a relationship. He's fine with that.) So we started to have sex and he was my first time. A couple times he has gone a two weeks without needing to see m...
A. 21 April 2016: You told him you did not want a relationship, so to him you are someone he can call when he wants, you might want to see him every week, but maybe he is out chasing other girls. ... (read in full...)
I feel a lot of resentment for my husband because of the way he has behaved this entire pregnancy and made me feel lonely
Q. Hello , I'm a 30year old female expecting my first child . It has been a roller coaster ride the last few years . Me and my husband had trouble conceiving and took treatment for 4 yrs . Last year I also suffered an accident and had to have surgery ...
A. 21 April 2016: The things we want and need most is out partner to be by our side, and I can see why you found it hard to let go, think of the little baby growing inside you, some day you might have a disagreement with their partner and they won't know who's side ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about his comment? Makes me worry about his bisexual side!
Q. Last August I befriended this guy. We remained friends until December, that's when we both admitted they we were attracted to each other and decided to see where things lead too. The thing he is bisexual, I have no problems with this because I am an ...
A. 21 April 2016: I am sensing that you are insecure because you are worried about getting intimate with him, and off course you would be if he has never been with a woman before, I can see why you are worried, and why you might feel that you won't satisfy him.
B... (read in full...)
I now feel like a spare part in this marriage
Q. Hi everyone, I hope you will be able to offer me some advice to stop my marriage sliding towards problems. I am a 51 year old man. Re-married after a divorce and have been happily married for the last 4 years. We have a lovely son together (2...
A. 21 April 2016: If she can not compromise with you, then pack your bags and leave for a week, tell her you cannot take it any more that you feel you are making all the effort and she is not. If you leaving doesn't make her see that she is not meeting you in the ... (read in full...)
These old friendships are haunting me, any advice?
Q. I was excluded quite rudly from a group of uni friends over 6 years ago. The ringleader suddenly decided her friends at home didn't like me, so when her friends came to visit she refused to mention the night to me - a couple days before the night I ...
A. 20 April 2016: It is not worth your time or energy to let them know how they made you feel. At the end of the day if they where decent human beings they would feel guilt and shame for singling someone out the way the did to you. I can see why you would still think ... (read in full...)
How do I get back to an even keel with my longtime manager?
Q. Not a love question but I am fighting to understand my current problem and dearcupid has always been useful for this. Now this could be long so bear with me. I've been at my current job for 6 years. My manager has always been a bit of an enig...
A. 20 April 2016: You need to remember that she is your boss not your friend, yes it was great that you helped her, but now you are cutting back work hours because you are in a relationship doesn't sound to good, unless you are doing crazy hours why would you need to ... (read in full...)
He’s stood me up not once, not twice, but three times! Is he just unlucky or is he married?
Q. Ok I'm in a little shock right now. I've been stood up not once not twice but three times. I know many will say why would talk to someone who did this to you. Well he was so charming. He would say how beautiful caring I was then ask me out then at ...
A. 20 April 2016: Get rid, don't give him the attention of replying if he writes to you, and ignore his phone calls, you deserve better than this. ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about his comment? Makes me worry about his bisexual side!
Q. Last August I befriended this guy. We remained friends until December, that's when we both admitted they we were attracted to each other and decided to see where things lead too. The thing he is bisexual, I have no problems with this because I am an ...
A. 20 April 2016: I think he meant it as a joke, he probably thought you would laugh. I don't think you should read to much in to this. If you are feeling insecure talk to him and hopefully he can reassure you. Just because he likes both sexes does not mean he will ... (read in full...)
Why do men hold on to memories of the ex?
Q. Many of you may think I'm rather immature and childish for doing this, but in my current relationship (and only this relationship). I like watching my boyfriend's reaction when I merely hint at a connection with his ex. You see, I perform this ...
A. 20 April 2016: You will never be happy if you are always out to catch your boyfriend and make him feel uncomfortable. You seem to have more off an issue with his ex than he does, and it is scary how much you know about their relationship, to me that is borderline ... (read in full...)
How do I handle this? My friend and I have a problem because of our arguments
Q. So I have this 'friend' (we have a very complicated relationship and sleep together), and we have a bit of a problem with arguing. I consider myself to be a very easy person to get along with, and I absolutely despise fighting. Yet for some rea...
A. 20 April 2016: To me it sounds like you are both just not compatible at all. It doesn't sound like even a friendship would work as you are both very different. I know this is hard to hear when you like someone and want them in your life, but sometimes the truth ... (read in full...)
Should I cancel the date? Or am I overreacting?
Q. Hi. Bit of advise needed here please! Been chatting to a guy online this past week, and we are meeting for a date tomorrow. We have both made no secret of the fact we are both dating others at the moment, and he went on a date last night. I pl...
A. 20 April 2016: Okay well the thing is you have only been chatting to him for a week and not even met yet so I guess the choice is yours really if you want to give him a shot or not. You both are at very early stages and it is okay to go on dates and see how it ... (read in full...)
I feel a lot of resentment for my husband because of the way he has behaved this entire pregnancy and made me feel lonely
Q. Hello , I'm a 30year old female expecting my first child . It has been a roller coaster ride the last few years . Me and my husband had trouble conceiving and took treatment for 4 yrs . Last year I also suffered an accident and had to have surgery ...
A. 20 April 2016: At the moment your hormones are all over the place and it sounds like you are quite emotional.
Okay so you and his mother had an argument, the best thing he could have done was stay out off it instead of sticking up for his mother, but you cann... (read in full...)
I know it cannot be. So how can I overcome this crush and this jealousy I am feeling?
Q. dear cupid, i have a huge crush on a teacher at my school, he is just amazing, when i see him i get butterflies in my stomach and when ever someone mentions hom i go crazy. today at lunch he spoke to my best friend and i was not there but i real...
A. 20 April 2016: Sweetie the feelings that you are getting are completely normal, and a lot more common than you think. At your age you are changing from a teenager to an adult and hormones can do silly things to us. I guess at your age a girl develops feelings for ... (read in full...)
Does anyone else think that D*cks and sex are overrated?
Q. Now that I've been with a few guys I realize how small guy's d*cks are. Like when he's pushing it in, it can kind of feel big but once you get used to it, it's just not a big deal. And long and short lengths don't make a difference. The ...
A. 20 April 2016: I guess everyone has different views on sex, but I must admit that I have never heard a woman saying that all men's genitals are small and pointless. Me personally I feel that this post is very harsh and if it was said to a man it can dent his ... (read in full...)
How do I address this situation and this cheating?
Q. I got involved with my friends boyfriend A , we still dating even now behind her back.i always feel awful about it.I tried to break up with him but its not working we always find a way to get back to each other. Now A and my friend S have beautifu...
A. 20 April 2016: Well if it took you so long to get over your boyfriend then imagine how much harder it will be for her with a child also you say you only ever loved this guy so that makes me think you didn't love your boyfriend yet you found it difficult. She needs ... (read in full...)
How do I address this situation and this cheating?
Q. I got involved with my friends boyfriend A , we still dating even now behind her back.i always feel awful about it.I tried to break up with him but its not working we always find a way to get back to each other. Now A and my friend S have beautifu...
A. 19 April 2016: Its not called dating, its called being used for sex behind his girlfriends back am afraid. He enjoys having sex with you that is why you always find a way back to him because he is always wanting you to do the dirty behind his girlfriends back, he ... (read in full...)
I now feel like a spare part in this marriage
Q. Hi everyone, I hope you will be able to offer me some advice to stop my marriage sliding towards problems. I am a 51 year old man. Re-married after a divorce and have been happily married for the last 4 years. We have a lovely son together (2...
A. 19 April 2016: I can tell that your wife wants to be a friend to her son and not a parent, which in turn will effect him growing up and learning to become an adult, what is she like with the two year old? Does she help with their learning skills?
I guess some... (read in full...)
I now feel like a spare part in this marriage
Q. Hi everyone, I hope you will be able to offer me some advice to stop my marriage sliding towards problems. I am a 51 year old man. Re-married after a divorce and have been happily married for the last 4 years. We have a lovely son together (2...
A. 18 April 2016: It can be really difficult when it comes to parenting a teenager, especially when he is your wives son and not yours. Yes you are his step dad but is his real father around?
You both sounds like opposites when it comes to parenting, while this is o... (read in full...)
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