I'm still having a tough time moving on from my previous relationship!
Q. I posted something a couple of months ago about my now defunct seven year relationship with this woman that started out as as a FWB arrangement, but progressed into a relationship. My social life has been packed to to hilt with activities in or...
A. 11 May 2016: Block her from your phone, social media and all other ways for her to contact her. Then forget about her and move on. If she does anything out of boundaries then contact the police and tell them.... (read in full...)
I'm still having a tough time moving on from my previous relationship!
Q. I posted something a couple of months ago about my now defunct seven year relationship with this woman that started out as as a FWB arrangement, but progressed into a relationship. My social life has been packed to to hilt with activities in or...
A. 11 May 2016: The thing with women like this, is that when they realize they cannot have what they want it is like a game to them, I bet if you where to be single in the morning she would leave you alone because she would then have lost the thrill.
Are you sure... (read in full...)
I'm still having a tough time moving on from my previous relationship!
Q. I posted something a couple of months ago about my now defunct seven year relationship with this woman that started out as as a FWB arrangement, but progressed into a relationship. My social life has been packed to to hilt with activities in or...
A. 9 May 2016: Simple answer is she is jealous that you have found someone else and you are happy. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has turned into a jerk since taking sick leave
Q. Hey everyone! My boyfriend is currently in a difficult situation - he is 41, a barman, and has been off work on sick leave since last August. He had an operation on his back in January and his sick leave ends in the middle of April, so basically he ...
A. 9 May 2016: You are right it is not your problem, he obvious didn't care about you if he jumped in to bed with another woman, time for you to rebuild your life and enjoy it. Good luck.... (read in full...)
I'm still having a tough time moving on from my previous relationship!
Q. I posted something a couple of months ago about my now defunct seven year relationship with this woman that started out as as a FWB arrangement, but progressed into a relationship. My social life has been packed to to hilt with activities in or...
A. 11 April 2016: Yes it could be that she wants sex from you, but do not let her in again, as feelings will rise and you will only end up back at square one. The best thing for you to do is not respond to her and tell her that you have moved on from him. Don't give ... (read in full...)
I'm still having a tough time moving on from my previous relationship!
Q. I posted something a couple of months ago about my now defunct seven year relationship with this woman that started out as as a FWB arrangement, but progressed into a relationship. My social life has been packed to to hilt with activities in or...
A. 8 April 2016: It's not odd behavior at all, it is the behavior of a woman who doesn't want you, but also who likes the attention from you. She doesn't want you to be with anyone else, but she also is just using you for her own benefit and to make herself feel ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend seemed too interested in my friend during our threesome
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 3 years and have had a great sex life with lots of experimentation as we both have high sex drives. He has always wanted to have a threesome so I, having had two previous good experiences with thr...
A. 8 April 2016: I am glad you are both back on track and it has not ruined your relationship. Thanks for the feedback, it is always nice to hear a happy ending, all the best :-)... (read in full...)
Is my younger BF afraid of commitment? Why would he want to take his ex out for a meal for her birthday?
Q. HELP......I feel i am going mad or is it me being unreasonable. My partner of 8 months has many female friends. In the last couple of weeks one has been to his flat (apparently she is in a committed relationship), i was not allowed to meet her, he ...
A. 7 April 2016: Sweetie I think you should block his number so that he cannot contact you anymore. It was never a good relationship if he was always putting other girls before you and being sneaky. He was without a doubt hiding things fro, you. He wants you for ... (read in full...)
Met this girl online but now I feel I've lost a new friend. what should I do?
Q. I recently made friends with a girl online and we really got on well to start with but past week we have had arguements around me being moody because I get anxious when waiting for a reply; I end up being rude. She is in a relationship but has chea...
A. 2 April 2016: You where rude to her so u both argued. Maybe you need to work on your anxiety issues first so that it can help you in the future have a bit more patience.
You say she has cheated before but will not do it again, but are you wanting more than a fr... (read in full...)
His birth family comes before his spouse and children. It's depressing. What can I do?.
Q. What would you do if you had a husband who continuously put his family first particularly his mother, has stated to some members of his family in front of me that family comes first before a woman. Had a monthly phone contract and ran up ...
A. 2 April 2016: What are you waiting for? Am sure you know where the door is, if you are unhappy and he says he will always put them before you then leave, it sounds like he doesn't see you as family. So leave get help for the depression and start again. ... (read in full...)
Is he interested? Is he bailing, even though he's been honest with me since day one?
Q. hi everyone , so im waiting to go on my 2nd date tonight the thing is the guy im meeting did say to me he was busy last night wouldnt hear from him much as he was at his friends house and i said thats ok id text him today. I've texted him twice an...
A. 2 April 2016: Don't do to much to soon or you will come across as clingy and needy at this stage you need to play it cool. So don't keep texting him. You have texted him twice which already is way to much. Try relax. Okay so you may not have much confidence but ... (read in full...)
I feel he lies about certain things! Any advice?
Q. Hello, I've been with my boyfriend for two years he's been seperated for 4 yrs and is getting a divorce. He's very affectionate and kind, I believe we could have a future together except I feel he lies about certain things. I live about 1.5 h...
A. 2 April 2016: I think you should let this one go. He is lying to make himself in to someone he is not. It sounds like he still has a drink problem and only he can get himself out of that. I think you might be best letting this boat sail.... (read in full...)
How do I protect myself from this mismanaging manager?
Q. Hi, This is not a personal relationship question-but work related. I quit my job with a big pharma in Nov 2015 and joined a new company in Dec 2015. My old Manager who tried to make me stay back also joined this new company in Feb 2016. Sh...
A. 2 April 2016: I think you should talk to the other manager and ask can you deal directly with them. You don't need to go in to details or bad mouth the other manager but you can be honest and say you would prefer not to work under her, off course this might not ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my family about our wedding plans? We want just a small ceremony!
Q. hey everyone......my boyfriend and i have been dating for 1.5 years now. we love each other and we are ready to tie the knot and start having children. we cant cant wait to have a baby. so we have decided to get married. the problem is we do...
A. 2 April 2016: I agree, family love weddings and love to get involved. You just need to be strict and tell them this is what you want. Have you thought in anyway at all where you can celebrate the marriage? Just as an option maybe you could think of making some ... (read in full...)
Is my younger BF afraid of commitment? Why would he want to take his ex out for a meal for her birthday?
Q. HELP......I feel i am going mad or is it me being unreasonable. My partner of 8 months has many female friends. In the last couple of weeks one has been to his flat (apparently she is in a committed relationship), i was not allowed to meet her, he ...
A. 2 April 2016: Yes the end of a relationship is indeed sad, it does not mean that you need to be alone, spend time doing things you enjoy, hanging out with friends and making the most of your life, when you are ready to move on there are plenty of men out there ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has accused me of suffering BO. I shower. What can I do?
Q. My boyfriend of 4 months thinks that I have B.O. and I'm very hurt. I always shower when he comes over and he says that sometimes showering isn't enough, and that the natural deodorant I use isn't effective at times. He doesn't mind but highlig...
A. 1 April 2016: Try and not be hurt sweetie. It could be true that you suffer more than average or it could be that he has a strong sense of smell. If you feel there is a problem then change deodorant or shower gel. Maybe talk to a friend or a family member and ask ... (read in full...)
Was anything wrong with me? My Bf is my sexual partner but now he's saying he thinks I was not a virgin when we met.
Q. I was a virgin before I met my boyfriend. He found me too wet the other day when we had sex, like he just slipped in so easy I could feel it..so he claims i slept around or I masturbate but I do none of those things. He is the only guy I have ...
A. 1 April 2016: You where wet because your body was ready for sex, maybe you where not as nervous as some other women so it made it easier for him to enter you. That is all perfectly normal. He obviously does not trust you when he talks to you with such disrespect. ... (read in full...)
He keeps flaking on our plans but then he keeps on coming back a few days later. Why would he do this?
Q. I recently had a guy who flaked on me when we made plans to hang out. We made plans to meet up when he gets off work at 3pm but I didn't hear from him until 9pm -he just said sorry something came up. Then he texted me 2days later again apologizin...
A. 1 April 2016: He is messing you around and seems to think it is funny, sounds like he has not matured yet, I agree with Honeypie block his number he is just wasting your time. ... (read in full...)
Is my younger BF afraid of commitment? Why would he want to take his ex out for a meal for her birthday?
Q. HELP......I feel i am going mad or is it me being unreasonable. My partner of 8 months has many female friends. In the last couple of weeks one has been to his flat (apparently she is in a committed relationship), i was not allowed to meet her, he ...
A. 1 April 2016: I don't think you are being sensitive here at all, I think he is treating you very badly and being very disrespectful. If it was me I would not be putting up with this behavior.
It is okay for him to have female friends, however it is not okay for ... (read in full...)
Is he a genuine guy or not? he seems to start liking anything I like
Q. Actually I met this guy beside my office he too working there. At first it was just a physical attraction. After 1 year we started talking. I knew that he was going for dating with other girls. Once a situation has happened which we got intimate....
A. 1 April 2016: Maybe he took up the same interests in you to try and get to understand you better? If you are able to have a sexual relationship with him, then am sure you are able to talk to him about this and ask him what he wants? Does he want a relationship? ... (read in full...)
Together 15 years and I've never cheated. How do I ask my partner about some health concerns?
Q. I have been having some health problems for two months now. Finally I saw a doctor yesterday who prescribed comprehensive blood tests, others just treated my various symptoms. I was petrified when I saw that he wants to test me for Hepatitis B ...
A. 1 April 2016: Okay I think you are beginning to panic for no reason at all. Take a deep breathe. This is a standard thing to look for, therefore it does not mean that the doctor thinks you have it, he is probably just ruling out a lot of different possibilities. ... (read in full...)
I have social anxiety. Where can I eat my lunch during my break?
Q. I just started working this week, and everything has been going well except for the fact that I never know where to have lunch. I can't go back home even if its a 15 mins drive because that will be a waste of gas. I can't eat at the cafeteri...
A. 1 April 2016: I don't think the issue that you need help with is where to eat, but more like what it is you would like to do about your anxiety? Do you want to get help for this? I think you should see your doctor who can put you on to a therapist or even give ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend seemed too interested in my friend during our threesome
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 3 years and have had a great sex life with lots of experimentation as we both have high sex drives. He has always wanted to have a threesome so I, having had two previous good experiences with thr...
A. 31 March 2016: Am sure his intentions where not to make you feel invisible. I doubt he would have wanted to do that to you. You where allowing him to have sex with another woman, so it was like he was the cat that got the cream, he was probably looking at her ... (read in full...)
After we had sex I assumed he would not be back!
Q. I met a guy on a dating site. We met up and ended up sleeping together. This was my first time involving myself in something like this. I watched him during the date and he is mature, understanding and well-balanced. I had a feeling that we would ...
A. 31 March 2016: It all depends on what you want from him, you thought it was casual but he surprised you. Do you want more than casual? If not well then enjoy the two days and see what happens, if you want more well then hold off on the sex and see if he sticks ... (read in full...)
I have a LDR but have reconnected with an ex!
Q. I have been with my current partner for 4 months now, and everything is fine. It's long distance (100 miles). But I drive to see her once a week. However, my ex has recently come back in to my life. My ex and I both moved cross country for ...
A. 31 March 2016: If long distance does not work for you well then end things. You say everything is fine but you don't sound to enthusiastic about the relationship, so my advice would be to end it.
Yes it was a bad move meeting up for a drink, I bet it was behi... (read in full...)
I have feelings for the boy I am texting and having sex with
Q. The past 2 month I've been texting and sleeping with a guy and recently found out I am 4 weeks pregnant. We have spoke about it and argued a lot over the past few days due to him telling all of his friends after me repeatedly asking and telling him ...
A. 31 March 2016: Please honey talk to your parents. Or a family member. I know this is scary. But a termination is a huge decision and one you don't want to take lightly. The thing is at the end of the day their is a baby growing inside you, and I would hate for you ... (read in full...)
Was my boyfriend insensitive to praise this new employee to the extent he did? Or am I being too sensitive?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend a few years now and we love each other but a comment he made this morning really upset me... He was interviewing this woman for a job and he texted me afterwards saying she was excellent and that he would be hiring h...
A. 31 March 2016: You obviously have trust issues because you are being unfaithful with a married man, I guess people do say what goes around comes around. That's karma for you. The thing is why would he be sensitive to you anyway when you are the bit on the side and ... (read in full...)
Unfinished business? Should I leave my current GF for an ex?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been going out with my current girlfriend for roughly 5 months now, and everything was going fine, until my ex recently came back on the scene. I had a strong connection with my ex and we were each others best friends. I do n...
A. 31 March 2016: When you say everything was going fine, do you mean you where developing feelings for her or do you mean you where just happy enough to go with the flow?
It is a strong indicator that if after five months you don't have a strong connection with your... (read in full...)
Should I end this relationship? It hurts me to end something that has so much potential and beauty to grow
Q. Hi guys, I'm in a dilemma. I come from a very traditional Pakistani family but born and raised in the states. I grew up wanting a Pakistani guy who looks like me and has similar values and upbringing because it's so complex and detailed. An...
A. 31 March 2016: I can understand that you come from a traditional family and that is always what you have wanted for yourself. Believe me their is nothing wrong with that. It is up to us what we do with our lives. However you do mention that you don't seem to click ... (read in full...)
Am I a woman who just can't help herself? I've fallen in love with a married man
Q. He is married, I have fallen so deeply in love with him I can't let go. My feeling is since we both can't and don't want to let go we should just ride the situation that we are in and see where it takes us. Every man who is single only wants to sl...
A. 31 March 2016: Abella has really taking her time to give you a fantastic answer and you should take what she says on board.
You say you have falling so deeply in love with him, even though you know he is married and he is not available. This tells me that you ... (read in full...)
Did I make a mistake when I decided to let him go? Broke up last night
Q. i really don't know how to express myself still i will try. Its been 2 years since i am dating my boyfriend. Both of us are in our late twenties and this is the 2nd relationship for both of us. We started dating in 2014 before that we were ...
A. 31 March 2016: You loved him, but he just could not love you the same way. At least he was honest with you. You see him as your future but am afraid I think he saw you as a friend who he did not want to hurt but who he didn't want to have as a life long partner ... (read in full...)
How long its acceptable to wait, between texting episodes with my LDR? Should I wait for him to text first?
Q. Im currently seeing a guy who i go to university with, we're not in an official relationship but have agreed not to see anyone else. We're both at home at the moment as its the holidays but we live a long way from each other so haven't seen eac...
A. 31 March 2016: You don't need to text each other every day to show that you are interested in each other. Maybe when you head to bed send him a text tell him you hope he had a good day and that you are looking forward to seeing him when he gets back. Then end it ... (read in full...)
Help! My boss thinks I have a crush on him. How do I deal with this situation?
Q. Help! My boss thinks I have a crush/ i'm in love with him. I've been working with this guy for a little over a year, he's quite reserved and a bit shy with other people, he can be even rude sometimes, but with our team he's quite funny and niceish....
A. 31 March 2016: Tell him straight that you are not interested in more than friendship, tell him that naturally you are a flirty person but you will try and cool it down as you did not mean to give the wrong impression and leave it at that. ... (read in full...)
Happily married but feeling terrified out of my wits as my pregnancy has been confirmed. Need advice, please?
Q. Thank you all for taking the time to read my question. I know I'm going to be severely judged for posting this but please bear with me. I got married about 8 months ago to a wonderful man. I'm 33 and he's almost 40. He is the best husband and frie...
A. 31 March 2016: I think you need to talk to your husband about how you feel? You do have options but you do need to remember that this baby is also his, a baby that you both made. So therefore you both need to talk about this? If abortion is in your mind, you need ... (read in full...)
How do you deal with loneliness and low self-esteem in a world where everyone around you seems to be busy doing things
Q. How do you recover from being an achiever and surrounded by peers who admire you and inspired by you to becoming the one that has fallen off the tracks careerwise, money wise, and even relationshipwise? Yes, there's family and friends but how can ...
A. 30 March 2016: If you are suffering from depression my advice is to go and get help. Go see your doctor he can give you some tablets, get you some counselling and have your life back on track. Talking really helps, even though it is scary at first, it may be the ... (read in full...)
He's asked for a second chance and I said no. Should I let him back? He's so jealous.
Q. I was in a relationship with this guy and at the beggining everything was great.it was my first relationship so i was really excited so was he. he was really in love with me and after a month he first told me he loved me. BUT he was jealous all ...
A. 30 March 2016: Two months is a very short time in reality, and because this is your first relationship you really want it to work out. You spotted signs that you should get out and you did, but you are still staying in contact with him, and eventually he will ware ... (read in full...)
Should I be happy for my ex fiance after he cheated on me and hurt me so badly?
Q. About 3 months ago, my fiancé of 4 years ended our relationship. I would later find out he was cheating on me behind my back for about 2 weeks with a new woman at his work who he barely knew. I knew he met her and I actually knew her somewhat bac...
A. 30 March 2016: Delete all contact with his family friends and him, that means phone numbers blocked, social media blocked, email blocked. Then allow yourself sometime to accept that what he done was wrong, and no you should not be happy for him. You need time to ... (read in full...)
I don't love my husband and I'm in the marriage because of our children
Q. I have come to the conclusion that I have to stay in my marriage for the sake of the kids. I know, it's a cliche, but it's the responsible thing to do. My husband has done things to me that I feel are deal breakers, and most other women w...
A. 29 March 2016: You use some strong words, like he has done things that are deal breakers and that he ruined your life? It might help you to talk to someone about these feelings, there are people out there who will help you.
It was a mistake on your part marr... (read in full...)
Should I propose to him? He has said in the past that he wouldn't mind.
Q. My BF of 3 yrs and I are travelling to California and Vegas in October and have decided to elope while there.. secretly! Anyway I know he's been looking been looking at engagement rings bur I also know he does not have the money for one ( he sta...
A. 29 March 2016: Why not talk to him about it and tell him you know he is not in a financial position to buy a ring, maybe offer to pay half. ... (read in full...)
I'm still having a tough time moving on from my previous relationship!
Q. I posted something a couple of months ago about my now defunct seven year relationship with this woman that started out as as a FWB arrangement, but progressed into a relationship. My social life has been packed to to hilt with activities in or...
A. 29 March 2016: Maybe you are just not ready to be out dating again. You still have feelings for your ex, and am sure all these other women you are comparing to her and making yourself feel even worse. I think you should be alone for a while and concentrate on ... (read in full...)
My new boyfriend wants me to shave EVERYWHERE!
Q. helo. My new boyfriend is 8 years older than me, we met on a dating site (i didn't mean to join the site i was only there for fun so we met). He is muscular, very smart, very clean, handy, hygienic but what i find odd is he doesn't like hair. He ...
A. 29 March 2016: He obviously doesn't like hair so he has asked you to shave, it is a fair enough question to ask, but if you would rather not then just tell him, no sorry I am the way I am. Simple. If he doesn't like it well then he knows where the door is. You ... (read in full...)
Husband is complacent, and I am fliriting with a co worker.
Q. I have been married for 3 years now and I love my husband very much. There is a problem and I do not know how to overcome it. I have been gaining feelings for a coworker and I know that my coworker feels the same, we are always flirting and I cannot ...
A. 29 March 2016: Both off you should book a week of work and go on holiday. Do fun things together, talk to each other, be spontaneous. Remember you can add romance in to this marriage as well, and maybe it will be enough for him to do the same, imagine how he must ... (read in full...)
If I stop smoking weed will I stop having gay thoughts?
Q. Okay. So I'm a 20 year old male. I have always been straight. I masturbated a lot in the last 2 years, excessively to straight/lesbiano porn. I smoked lots of weed in my day and realized I can't really get hard while high or drunk. About 8 months ...
A. 29 March 2016: First get help with giving up the weed, secondly give up alcohol, thirdly stop watching porn. Be healthier, get plenty of good food and exercise. After you do this then see how you feel. If you are still having gay thoughts it could be possible that ... (read in full...)
Do all women like to be watched while they are bathing?
Q. When I ask my wife how she will feel if some one peek in her bathroom and watch her bath, she got extremely horny. Is that normal... how do I know she got extremely horny?, I was doing an intercource with her when I asked. So she basically went ...
A. 29 March 2016: No. ... (read in full...)
The messages are turning sexual. When is it a good time to tell him I've never had sex?
Q. I've been talking to this guy for a couple of weeks now and everything seems to be great and going really well. We've been on a few dates that have also turned out well and we both are starting to enjoy each other's company. I'm really starting to ...
A. 29 March 2016: I am glad it is going well, but it sounds very early to be talking about sexual things, just make sure he is not wasting your time and wanting a hook up. Wait until things get more serious before telling him, if he talks sexual to you, then tell him ... (read in full...)
My exes are trying to get back with me
Q. Can any body tell me what's going on ,in th,making ple past three weeks,four ex girlfriends, have been wanting to see me,one l am seeing again, we were together four years ago, two from two years ago, or so, an now one from thirty five years ago, ...
A. 29 March 2016: Sometimes people are an ex for a good reason, so you need to ask yourself can it really work? Is there a spark there? Do you actually want to be with any of these women? Think about what you want in your life and take it from there, good luck. ... (read in full...)
I feel like the rebound...
Q. Ok so I've been chatting online to a guy for the past 3 months casually enough but then we decided to have our first date, that's about 6 weeks ago now and we're now on date 14. I'm a very shy and insecure person so this is a massive step for me. H...
A. 29 March 2016: It sounds like he is not fully over his ex at the moment, however you have been both talking for three months so therefore they must be broken up for a while now. He opened up to you and you didn't like it, which is understandable. Yes at one time ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has turned into a jerk since taking sick leave
Q. Hey everyone! My boyfriend is currently in a difficult situation - he is 41, a barman, and has been off work on sick leave since last August. He had an operation on his back in January and his sick leave ends in the middle of April, so basically he ...
A. 29 March 2016: I think you need to take a step back, you are doing way to much for him, and it sounds like he is not even thankful. Yes I can see why it is tough on him, but he needs to stop taking his stress out on you. You have done nothing but support him. A ... (read in full...)
How do I pursue friends and a relationship with an intimidating face?
Q. Hi, I have too much problems to list out here today, but my main concern is a lack of a relationship and friends. It seems I have intimidating face based on how people respond to me and these days i have a hard time smiling so it makes it even...
A. 29 March 2016: Yes start by getting yourself to a doctor, it sounds like you have depression, you need help with that first. Second if you are working well then move out and get your own place if your mother is abusive. The people you work with who say they don't ... (read in full...)
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