Do I want my ex back? Is my current relationship toxic?
Q. So right of the bat... I know i'm kindoff selfish for having this very problem but i just need the opinion of others to be sure. Ive asked a question in this site about over a week ago about me and my month-long girlfriend breaking up...and as hard ...
A. 7 March 2016: If you are having doubts well then it is not fair on your girlfriend. Maybe you need some time alone to work out what you want. Tell your girlfriend you want a short term break to work out some issues that you have and then see how you feel when you ... (read in full...)
Rules for texting a new love interest?
Q. Hello, I met a man through friends who is very kind and respectful. We have hung out many times in our friend group and have good conversations. He asked for my number and we have been texting. I know many times, people just want a "texti...
A. 7 March 2016: If you want him to do the planning well then the best thing to do is to sit back and wait to see what he does next. Good luck.... (read in full...)
I've made a huge mistake, now what do I do?
Q. I met a man on dating website jut over a year ago. We moved in together after three months, things were going great. However, I think I have made a huge mistake. When I met him I had just been through very traumatic events and he distracted me from ...
A. 4 March 2016: You mentioned you where having a hard time and he was a distraction, that's okay, that's the way a lot of us cope with trauma. You say you love him so why are you doubting it? Have you low confidence? Talk to him about how you are feeling, or if ... (read in full...)
Is there a way to get over my anxiety about tattoos? My girlfriend has two!
Q. I have a problem with tattoos on women and don't know what it is, after a girlfriend got her second one I lost it and flipped out and my anxiety level goes up around her and everyone in her family has tattoos and that bothers me more, Is there an...
A. 4 March 2016: Well first off I hope you apologised for losing it, it's her body and her choice, same goes with her family. Why do you think you have anxiety over these issues!? Try and think why it is you hate tattoos so much, have they any meaning to you? If you ... (read in full...)
I feel I need to discuss the contact my girlfriend had with my best friend while I was away, in order to rebuild trust!
Q. When I was overseas last year my best friend began texting my girlfriend and making excuses to call around and visit, they both didn't tell me at the time, just before I got back my gf told me about it, she said some texts where inappropriate ...
A. 4 March 2016: I think it is clear she is not going to discuss what was in them messages, you could almost gaurantee the messages contain things you would not want to see, hence why she has deleted them. She does not want you asking questions because she knows she ... (read in full...)
My wife wants to end our marriage says she loves me as a friend only
Q. Firstly, I love my wife very much and dont want to split up. She has recently suggested that she is not 'in love' with me anymore, sees me as a friend and that she wants to break up which I dont and want to make our marriage work. She had a bit of a ...
A. 4 March 2016: You believe she has not cheated, but have you spoke to her about these phone calls? I think that's something you both need to discuss before use can start working on your problems. ... (read in full...)
Do I want my ex back? Is my current relationship toxic?
Q. So right of the bat... I know i'm kindoff selfish for having this very problem but i just need the opinion of others to be sure. Ive asked a question in this site about over a week ago about me and my month-long girlfriend breaking up...and as hard ...
A. 4 March 2016: I can see why you would be afraid that your girlfriend could leave, we all have that fear, however if you left her for your ex would you not fear the same thing? Your ex broke up with you for a reason, did you ever talk to her about it? My honest ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is hiding 1/2 naked photos of women in his locked app on his phone
Q. I've been with my partner for a year and a half. There were trust issues before the relationship started as he was seeing myself and my work colleague at the same time. We eventually got through the issues and all has been fine since. Recently ...
A. 3 March 2016: You need to gain more confidence, confront him and show him that this is not acceptable. Okay so you done wrong going through his phone, but I can see why you would have, curiosity got the better off you, plus I doubt you have complete trust in him ... (read in full...)
What did my ex girlfriend mean by this statement?
Q. For starters, I am aware that I need to move on and stop obsessing over my ex, but there are some things that still confound me to this day. I wonder if she ever really loved me or if she loved how I made her feel instead. Understand what I'm ...
A. 3 March 2016: We can live our lives being hopeless romantics and allowing our heads to be in the clouds, but that will not bring her back. You just need to accept that it is over, and move on to someone who will show you love. ... (read in full...)
Breaking up is hard to do, how do I know if I made the right decision?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend 2 weeks ago. We had been together for nearly 2 years, everything up until a few months ago was great, I'm not really sure what happened but recently we've been having communication problems and i wasn't sure things could ...
A. 3 March 2016: Did you have a good reason to break up with him? Sometimes it can just be a gut feeling telling us things are not right, but even if they are not right off course it is still going to hurt. The advice I can give you is don't listen to anybody but ... (read in full...)
My sister has sucked all the blood out of me and I don't know what to do!
Q. Dear all, I know this is not a love related question so maybe not relevant to most readers but I have serious family issues! My sister is sucking the blood out of me. All she ever did was ask, ask, ask. When she was a student, she did not want...
A. 3 March 2016: Can you talk to your parents about this? Or another family member? You use such strong words. It worries me for both yours and her mental health. You need to tell her how you are feeling. If she puts her headphones on take them off her and tell her ... (read in full...)
What are other people's views on getting back with an ex?
Q. Hello, thanks for reading this and any advice you give me. I am in a relationship of over a year, and we had a discussion that I would really appreciate views on please. We were talking about relationships and I said I wouldn't get back with an ex,...
A. 3 March 2016: I don't think he is telling you that he can see himself with his exs, he probably doesn't even think about it, as for him he is with you and that is it. But when asked a question he probably gave a straight answer that it is possible, where as women ... (read in full...)
I didn't do well on my exams and am unsure how to tell my parents
Q. Hi everyone, my question isnt about relationships but i am here to seek some advice. Today i got my exams results and well it didnt turned out the way i hoped. In all honesty, I did study hard day and night, i put great effort into my studying...
A. 3 March 2016: Just be honest with them, yes they might be disappointed, but tell them what you have said here. Try new methods and maybe talk to a teacher about a better way to study.... (read in full...)
I messed up the relationship once and don't want to do that again. Advice?
Q. First, thank you all for reading my essay down here hehehe, I appreciate it. Well, some basic info: I am a senior in college, my ex girlfriend is a junior in college, I'm not wealthy at all, I'm trying to prove myself and make something of myself, ...
A. 3 March 2016: If you want things to start from new again well then wipe all the past. Try and forget the troubles you both had. Date her, take her out, treat her like a princess. Do all the things to make her see that you love her. Hopefully she will return the ... (read in full...)
Do I want my ex back? Is my current relationship toxic?
Q. So right of the bat... I know i'm kindoff selfish for having this very problem but i just need the opinion of others to be sure. Ive asked a question in this site about over a week ago about me and my month-long girlfriend breaking up...and as hard ...
A. 3 March 2016: Before telling your girlfriend anything I think you need to work out how you are feeling. Your ex was upset and told you she wished you had done something like that for her, and that will obviously make you feel guilty and bring old feelings back. ... (read in full...)
Did he propose to me because of his family? Or because he's been with me so long?
Q. What are some qualities to consider as a woman in choosing life partner? Ive been in long term relationship with my fiance. He is sweet and caring partner when we meet in person. He is quite supportive when im having and dealing with my problems...
A. 2 March 2016: Have you sat down and told him how it made you feel when he cheated, lied and gambled? He asked you to marry him so you would take him back, and you did. This to him shows him that he can get away with treating you like this. I don't think he needs ... (read in full...)
My husband says that I take advantage of him because I'm a stay at home mom!
Q. husband says i take advantage of him. i hurts my feelings. everyday he gets mad and tells me that.. im a stay at home mom of 3 ages 5 to 10.. i try to make everyone happy. but husband is not happy. he tells me he loves me then uts me down. i dont ...
A. 2 March 2016: Well the question is what do you want to do about it? Are your children at school? Maybe you could get a day time job when they are out, something part time, therefore you could earn your own money while also getting out of the house for a while?
Y... (read in full...)
Feeling muscular around a guy who loves me
Q. Okay so I've met a guy and he did admit that he loves me alot, he's really nice, a true gentleman, and treats me right and has a great personality. I do have little feelings for him but not as much as he does for me. I don't know what is just ...
A. 2 March 2016: If you don't find him attractive well then your best bet is to leave him, as you need an attraction in a relationship. If your feelings are based on what other people might think well then I would suggest that you tell yourself it doesn't matter as ... (read in full...)
Is there a chance his feelings will come back for me?
Q. I've been dating a boy for 8 weeks, he'd been admiring me from afar and approached me, things were going really well, we were both really into it and talking about the future, his family and friends all knew about me. However, at the start he seemed ...
A. 2 March 2016: It sounds to me like he simply does not want to be with you. Maybe he has realized that you are not meant for him. Yes he did like you and he did want to be with you, but dating might have made him realize that you two or not the match that he ... (read in full...)
Rules for texting a new love interest?
Q. Hello, I met a man through friends who is very kind and respectful. We have hung out many times in our friend group and have good conversations. He asked for my number and we have been texting. I know many times, people just want a "texti...
A. 2 March 2016: Its a good sign that he has asked for your number, that's the first step. Now you have both been talking that's great also. But I think you should be just upfront and ask him does he want to hang out? ... (read in full...)
He lied about his drug use in the past, but then was upset that I needed time to deal with my anger about his lying. Shouldn't we take some time to calm down when we are angry?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles, having a little problem in my relationship and I always find the advice here helpful. Recently I found out that my boyfriend used to do drugs. When we were going out, he did not tell me about his drug history. I specifically ...
A. 2 March 2016: Just explained to him you wanted sometime to calm down, because if you didn't do that well then you both probably would have had a big argument. Sometimes it is better to avoid talking when emotions are running high. Explain that to him. It could be ... (read in full...)
I am on the verge of being divorced over a dog! Dog left me for the dog!
Q. My husband and I have been together for 2.5 years and married for 5 months. Our relationship was picture perfect. No arguments, completely devoted to each other etc. Not to mention he stepped up and has been a father to my 2 kids from a previous ...
A. 2 March 2016: If the dog is dangerous then why would you want to rehome him to anyone and have that danger put on them? I hope you will tell whoever it is that this dog has attacked someone. As most people don't want an aggressive dog and need to be warned. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is pregnant and she is becoming very emotional and cries a lot. How can I comfort her?
Q. How can I comfort my girlfriend ? My girlfriend is pregnant with our first child. She's about 5 months along. She's been really scared the last couple months. I don't know why I tried asking her but she won't talk to me. She cries to sleep almos...
A. 1 March 2016: You can't make her open up to you, but you can be there for her. Hug and kiss her when she is upset, tell her you love her, that you are there to support and look after her. She might not be willing to open up about what she is scared off, but as ... (read in full...)
LDR girlfriend is back in touch with her ex- how do I avoid letting jealousy ruin things?
Q. Hi All Ive been with my partner a while now, it is LDR but we have done the usual normal couple stuff, gone on hols etc and talk every night, and see each other every week (and spend all our hols together). We are planning to move in together in 5...
A. 1 March 2016: That's pretty normal to feel like that, because once you spoke to her and she didn't get defensive and tell you it was an issue not to talk to him, it made you realize that he is not important to her at all, so this settled the nerves you had about ... (read in full...)
I am on the verge of being divorced over a dog! Dog left me for the dog!
Q. My husband and I have been together for 2.5 years and married for 5 months. Our relationship was picture perfect. No arguments, completely devoted to each other etc. Not to mention he stepped up and has been a father to my 2 kids from a previous ...
A. 1 March 2016: If he is not listening to you then show him the door. Your children safety is priority here, and they should not have to wait upstairs, and the dog should not be locked in its kennel, its not fair on your children or the dog. If he insists on being ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend's fear of commitment normal or something we should both be concerned about?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together nearly a year. It's the deepest connection I've ever felt with someone and he feels the same. Like puzzle pieces fitting together. But my other half is scared of commitment. As he puts it, half the time he...
A. 1 March 2016: I don't think he is stringing you along, so don't worry or feel like he is taking you for a fool. He has a fear off committing, yet he loves you enough to know he wants to be with you, that is a great start. don't put to much pressure on him, you ... (read in full...)
Did my boss proposition me?
Q. I had this wiered convorsation with my boss. Think he might have propositioned me but not sure. I now feel very awkward at work. Him: Do you ever think about doing something you shouldn't do? Me: No never I'm a saint. Do you? Him: All t...
A. 1 March 2016: From this conversation I think you know exactly what you meant, and I am pretty sure you where playing along as well. You have posted this question before, or else someone else has had the same problem, either way you know this is wrong.... (read in full...)
He didn't offer his jacket--was I in the wrong to get upset?
Q. My guy and I have a lot of problems, one of them being that I feel he doesn't show he cares when it really matters. Today we were sitting in a classroom that was incredibly cold. I was taking a test online and couldn't leave the desk. At times I got ...
A. 1 March 2016: You where in the wrong yes, he is not a mind reader. He felt cold so got himself a jacket. If you wanted it and you had asked for it from him then he probably would have gave it to you without caring. But the thing is you said you where already mad ... (read in full...)
Should I ask her to delete my contact information from her cell phone? Or if I ask her that I will show that I'm hurt?
Q. I used to go out with this girl, I was in love with her, hut she wasn't into me. One night we ended on her kitchen floor and I started caressing her hair and arm, i realized she got excited when I was doing that but she turned me down at that spot. ...
A. 1 March 2016: Block her from your phone, she is just playing mind games, she wants you to see that she is wanted. She wants attention from you, yet she doesn't actually want to be with you. You don't need her drama in your life. She is the sort of woman that ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants to continue being friends with her but it upsets me
Q. I'm looking for pretty open minded advice here so bare with me lol. My boyfriend and I were together for about 4 years. We had a great relationship but towards the end we had some difficulties outside of our relationship that we couldn't really ...
A. 1 March 2016: I think you just need to say to him that it is you or her, if he picks her well then this tells you where is loyalties lie. ... (read in full...)
I caught some feelings for a guy who I think is playing me and its destroying me. What am I left to do, why do I feel the way I do?
Q. My purpose of this q is to find out WHY I feel what I do, so I can find the reason and put a stop to it. I cannot be in love. So what is it? I am tired of this sorrow and hurt but I don’t know what it IS. I’m hung up on a guy who I had sexual r...
A. 1 March 2016: You allowed yourself to enter in to a casual relationship, yet you could not handle it. You want more, which is often the case in these situations. He is not prepared to give you more, he tells you what he wants to hear so he can keep you sweet and ... (read in full...)
LDR girlfriend is back in touch with her ex- how do I avoid letting jealousy ruin things?
Q. Hi All Ive been with my partner a while now, it is LDR but we have done the usual normal couple stuff, gone on hols etc and talk every night, and see each other every week (and spend all our hols together). We are planning to move in together in 5...
A. 1 March 2016: Why do you think she will immediately get defensive and think you cannot trust her, has something like this happened between you both in the past? ... (read in full...)
I am on the verge of being divorced over a dog! Dog left me for the dog!
Q. My husband and I have been together for 2.5 years and married for 5 months. Our relationship was picture perfect. No arguments, completely devoted to each other etc. Not to mention he stepped up and has been a father to my 2 kids from a previous ...
A. 1 March 2016: You cannot make him do anything. However if you think this dog is a danger to your children then should you not have told him already to get the dog out? I'm sorry but am not sure I buy that you genuinely feel like this, because if you did you would ... (read in full...)
I've been intimate with my widowed aunt and now she wants me to live with her!
Q. Hello guys I am 30 yrs married now n I am from India where relationships matter a lot. My question is about the physical relationship with my maternal uncle's wife( aunt) This goes around 6 yrs ago due to my uncles death my aunt got disturbe...
A. 29 February 2016: Your poor wife. Relationships are important all over the world. A marriage means something to most people. To you it obviously doesn't mean much when you have sex behind her back. Nobody can force you to do anything. But what you should do is be a ... (read in full...)
We broke up in November but still coming to terms with it
Q. Hello everyone! So my boyfriend of 6 years ended our relationship back in november, just as we were about to move in together. We left it a few weeks then started meeting up again. But the past week he just ignored me, so I finished it. I don't d...
A. 29 February 2016: You will heal in time, but you need to allow yourself to do that. Having any contact with your ex is going to slow down or stop you from healing. You know now that the relationship is over, it is not fair on yourself to keep seeing him without the ... (read in full...)
Is my ex manipulating me?
Q. Dear cupid, is my ex boyfriend trying to manipulate me? My 3 year relationship ended several months ago. He told me he was no longer happy and that he met another woman and was very sorry for hurting me. Only about 3 weeks after our break up, he...
A. 29 February 2016: Yes he is manipulating you. Follow your gut instinct. He is scared now he has made the wrong choice, and needs you to be there in case things don't go to plan with this woman. Be the stronger person, delete him from all aspects off your life and ... (read in full...)
I need to break my duck with girls
Q. How to get over being a virgin? I'm turning 23 and no matter what I've tried it hasnt worked out. I've dated a couple girls in high school but we were "too young" to have sex according to the girls. We loved each other when we were dating but ...
A. 29 February 2016: So you have sex tonight with what you imagine to be a beautiful woman, then she leaves and all off a sudden you are fixed? You have confidence? You have less chance of dying alone? Do you really believe this to be true?
If you want a girl... (read in full...)
Could my personal trainer have a crush on me?
Q. I am 20 and he is 36 and is married according to his FaceBook. When I first met my personal trainer, he kept looking deep into my eyes with the biggest smile. He then texted me asking how my day has been and when I am starting, to have a good ...
A. 29 February 2016: It sounds to me like he is just doing his job, he is getting paid to make people feel good about themselves, he sets them up with training and exercise but he is also massaging your ego so that you will keep coming back, and in turn keep paying his ... (read in full...)
Is there a better way to try to date girls who'll like me, and not see me as their 'second choice'?
Q. What's the point of dating/settling down with girls who have dated/had sex with better guys before you? In high school/ college the loud fratty tall guys were getting looks/getting talked about and relationships/sex while I had to struggle for ...
A. 29 February 2016: You have a very one track mind when it comes to girls. We are not all the same, and we look for different things in guys. In your head the world is against you and there is always someone better than you around the corner. With this attitude no you ... (read in full...)
I transferred all my contacts to my new iPhone but I think this girl thinks I stalked her account for it. What should I do?
Q. So I used to hangout with this girl 2 years ago we stopped hanging out cause I stopped showing up or didn't get the ques she wanted to hangout.She usually texts me first but I havnt really had a good conversation with her in a year but I kept her ...
A. 29 February 2016: She wrote to you first, therefore she kept your number also. Even though you got a new phone, it doesn't mean she will think you are weird because you transferred her number. Lots of people have old contacts on their phone. ... (read in full...)
Might my friends with benefits be developing feelings for me?
Q. This might be a silly question but I am seriously wondering if my friend with benefits might be developing feelings for me. So for the past three months or so he has been very attentive, calling and texting me all the time. He keeps asking que...
A. 29 February 2016: Is there a reason you are both just having sex instead of being in a relationship? Whats holding you back? Talk to him and ask him how he feels, that's the only way you will know where you both stand with each other. ... (read in full...)
LDR girlfriend is back in touch with her ex- how do I avoid letting jealousy ruin things?
Q. Hi All Ive been with my partner a while now, it is LDR but we have done the usual normal couple stuff, gone on hols etc and talk every night, and see each other every week (and spend all our hols together). We are planning to move in together in 5...
A. 29 February 2016: You just need to be honest with her about how you feel, if you don't you will begin resenting her. This is not controlling, it would be if you where telling her she cannot talk to him, but you are not you cannot help how you feel and I think you ... (read in full...)
I'm feeling guilt and shame about meeting up with my ex when my now fiance and I were first dating
Q. Hi, Hope you can help with a dilemma. I met a great guy 18 months ago and now we are engaged. Our first two weeks were strange though. He was convinced it was the real deal me less so. Two weeks later we split before getting back togeth...
A. 29 February 2016: If your Fiance has said it was early days well then leave it at that and move forward. I am not sure why you are beating yourself up over this, do you feel you don't deserve to be this happy? Are you completely sure this is the man you want to ... (read in full...)
I am on the verge of being divorced over a dog! Dog left me for the dog!
Q. My husband and I have been together for 2.5 years and married for 5 months. Our relationship was picture perfect. No arguments, completely devoted to each other etc. Not to mention he stepped up and has been a father to my 2 kids from a previous ...
A. 29 February 2016: He has not choosing the dog over you, in fact you are the one that has asked him to make the choice, the dog in his eyes has not made him pick, therefore yes he is not going to part with the dog.
Now you said that you feel this dog is a danger to y... (read in full...)
What did my ex girlfriend mean by this statement?
Q. For starters, I am aware that I need to move on and stop obsessing over my ex, but there are some things that still confound me to this day. I wonder if she ever really loved me or if she loved how I made her feel instead. Understand what I'm ...
A. 29 February 2016: I understand that seven years is a long time with someone, yes it will take time to get over that person, but looking at your age, you lived a lot longer without her, and you can do the same again once you accept that you need to delete her from ... (read in full...)
I am on the verge of being divorced over a dog! Dog left me for the dog!
Q. My husband and I have been together for 2.5 years and married for 5 months. Our relationship was picture perfect. No arguments, completely devoted to each other etc. Not to mention he stepped up and has been a father to my 2 kids from a previous ...
A. 26 February 2016: If he doesn't put in the effort to look after her, then that changes things. He needs to walk her, show her attention and train her. No you should not be expected to do it yourself, especially when you are looking after children and working. I would ... (read in full...)
What did my ex girlfriend mean by this statement?
Q. For starters, I am aware that I need to move on and stop obsessing over my ex, but there are some things that still confound me to this day. I wonder if she ever really loved me or if she loved how I made her feel instead. Understand what I'm ...
A. 26 February 2016: Nobody here can tell you if she loved you or not. Going by how the relationship was and if you felt loved or not should be enough. Think back to when you broke up and try and work out why you both did not work out.
Now you say you need to stop obse... (read in full...)
I am on the verge of being divorced over a dog! Dog left me for the dog!
Q. My husband and I have been together for 2.5 years and married for 5 months. Our relationship was picture perfect. No arguments, completely devoted to each other etc. Not to mention he stepped up and has been a father to my 2 kids from a previous ...
A. 25 February 2016: Obviously no parent wants there child hurt, I can totally understand that, and it is great that you put your children first, I totally agree, however I think maybe you both should have discussed this more before getting a dog. Maybe a Labrador would ... (read in full...)
I am on the verge of being divorced over a dog! Dog left me for the dog!
Q. My husband and I have been together for 2.5 years and married for 5 months. Our relationship was picture perfect. No arguments, completely devoted to each other etc. Not to mention he stepped up and has been a father to my 2 kids from a previous ...
A. 25 February 2016: A dog is a big commitment, and also people get attached to dogs just like they do to other people. You telling your husband the dog has to go is showing that you are boss. It shouldn't be like that in a marriage. It should be discussed. I don't ... (read in full...)
My wife wants to end our marriage says she loves me as a friend only
Q. Firstly, I love my wife very much and dont want to split up. She has recently suggested that she is not 'in love' with me anymore, sees me as a friend and that she wants to break up which I dont and want to make our marriage work. She had a bit of a ...
A. 18 February 2016: I am sorry that you are in this situation. It is hard being a new mum, but people often forget that its just as hard being a new dad and that you need support as well.
Being diagnosed with PND can explain some off her behavior off course. Howe... (read in full...)
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