I regret breaking up with her, advice needed
Q. My ex-gf and I had been together about two months but were exclusive after a month, and I told her I loved her (she said she loved me back). We had a lot in common and very similar personalities, so we fell for each other fast. We did have some ...
A. 14 July 2016: Glad to hear you tried to make the effort, I hope it works out for you. ... (read in full...)
How can I make his family see how possesive they are?
Q. Hi Cupid, My boyfriend and i have been together for almost two years now and we have a great relationship we have had our ups and downs but we always work through them and we are confident we will be spending our lives together however we have ...
A. 14 July 2016: OP someday you will grow up and regret the way you have spoke about your boyfriends family. Just because your parents have done such and such does not mean all families can, you sound stuck up and very immature. Someday you will have to live in the ... (read in full...)
I let my feelings for him make me look like a fool!
Q. Hi. I'm currently in a weird state of mind and need some clarity. I really like this friend of mine from college but he works in a different city so we don't get to see each other. The issue is, I always end up acting awkward with him. I talk too ...
A. 13 July 2016: From your message my guess is that he knows that you like him. Sweetie you act like this because you have a crush on him. My guess is that he knows but he just wants to be friends. You trying to be his friend is going to hurt you more and more, my ... (read in full...)
I feel like he doesn't even like me anymore so why does he want to marry me? And shouldn't he be reassuring me?
Q. So I've been with my bf for 8months now and we're already planning our wedding! Yes is too early I know:(. So we went to choose our rings and I chose one for him cause he couldn't choose a nice one. He told my mum I chose mine but I chose hi...
A. 13 July 2016: Cancel any wedding plans. It is much to soon, you claim you don't know much about each other, do you live together? Slow things down. There is no rush to get married only to end up divorced. It sounds like you are both not getting along, he finds ... (read in full...)
What would you do or say to a compulsive liar?
Q. I appear to have a lot of drama in my life at present. I've noticed a large chunk of it has come from a friend of mine who is a compulsive liar. So heres a list of the lies she's told me over the past couple of months; her mums got breast cancer, ...
A. 13 July 2016: I have had this happen to me, and well I disowned the friend after she told everyone in my home place that I was prostituting myself. The thing is the truth will always come out in the end. It sounds like your friend has a serious illness and she ... (read in full...)
Did I permanently mess up my chances with this girl?
Q. Okay, so I've been eyeing this girl both in person and on social media for about 8 months now. She doesn't even know I exist because the few times that I've seen her in person I was really far away for her to notice and it was at a county fair with ...
A. 13 July 2016: Why are you on Opiates? Have you an addiction to them or have you chronic pain? My opinion is to try and come off the pain killers, they can do a lot to a person. Yes the antidepressants may have altered your mood, but you are off them now and I am ... (read in full...)
I feel lost and low, and worry about everything.
Q. I'm currently in a strange place. I've had a history of depression, anxiety, eating disorders etc and I've overcome these over the passed few years and have felt better than ever really making something of my life. I have a good job whilst ...
A. 13 July 2016: It is good to see that you are aware you are in a strange place, after having a history with your mental health, it is good you notice the signs. Now the thing is you have overcome a lot, which makes you a strong person, but you still look at your ... (read in full...)
I told the truth about her boyfriend, now our friendship is over!
Q. Hello. My friend whom i met this year at uni is mad at me. We are now on school holidays. Through text last week she told me her boyfriend kissed one of her ex friends. I texted her back what i truely felt and told her she deserves better. Not so ...
A. 13 July 2016: Yes you did take it to far. She told you what happened and you should have been there for her as a friend, when she told you she took him back you could have told her that you where worried for her, but instead you took it publicly and you judged ... (read in full...)
OMG I just saw my crush on two dating sites, how do I approach this?
Q. OMG Aunts. I saw my long term crush on two dating sites. I know it is him because he used his real name the second time i saw him on the second dating site. What do I do? He is my neighbour back home (now im studying in the city), so we grew up ...
A. 13 July 2016: Contact him on the dating site, say look it matched us up, laugh about it and say maybe it is a sign. Go for it, you only live once, good luck... (read in full...)
My life's okay, it just all seemed to fall into place.
Q. Hi guys, I just wanted to ask whether there's other people out there in a similar situation to me. Basically, I'm 25 years old, I still live at home with my mum and brother, I'm single (not speaking to anyone serious either) no savings, I h...
A. 13 July 2016: I had to move back to my family home for a while when I was around your age, and if I am honest it really got me down and made me feel useless. Now that is just how I felt about it. If you are content living at home with your mother and brother well ... (read in full...)
I regret breaking up with her, advice needed
Q. My ex-gf and I had been together about two months but were exclusive after a month, and I told her I loved her (she said she loved me back). We had a lot in common and very similar personalities, so we fell for each other fast. We did have some ...
A. 13 July 2016: This relationship moved very fast and small arguments do happen but I do think breaking up with her was a huge mistake on your part. So she was impatient that you where not getting back to her, but that was probably because you both had plans. Now I ... (read in full...)
I can't put up with her issues any longer
Q. I have know my best friend for 11 years we are family, ever since she was diagnosed with depression she lies to me about everything, who she's with, where's she going. I can't trust her anymore, it makes me really upset because all I want to do is ...
A. 13 July 2016: Sweetie as you said she is family to you so off course you want to look after her and care for her. But the sad truth is you can't. She needs to look after herself and make herself feel better. I think she lies to you probably because she does not ... (read in full...)
How can I make his family see how possesive they are?
Q. Hi Cupid, My boyfriend and i have been together for almost two years now and we have a great relationship we have had our ups and downs but we always work through them and we are confident we will be spending our lives together however we have ...
A. 13 July 2016: You are very judging and critical off his family, and I can see why they might not like you, you should not judge other people, especially if this is the man you want to marry, you should be trying to be kind and considerate to his family, you need ... (read in full...)
O reply from potential date with friend do I block them
Q. Hi , i recently asked on here for advice about asking a friend on a date he said he would think about it and the advice was to let him have 3-4 days to get back to me . well its been 8 days he hasnt made any effort to contact me at all , i have ...
A. 12 July 2016: you say you don't intent to be childish therefore you shouldn't tell him you are two good for him. That makes you look childish and arrogant. You knew he was flaky, so why even bother? Did you think you could break the mold? Just get on with your ... (read in full...)
I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 12 July 2016: Oh well the thing is you tried and you should be happy you had the confidence to do that. It is a shame she is already taken but there are plenty more women out there. ... (read in full...)
How do I bear this deep hurt?
Q. Thanks in advance to anyone who reads this to help. How do you move forwards after your husband has betrayed your trust? He has, in my eyes, emotionally cheated on me with another woman who he messaged more than he's bothered messaging me in ...
A. 11 July 2016: The best thing that you can do at this very moment is to pack a bag and go away for a few days, to a friend, or a motel or anywhere that is away from your husband. You are hurting and you need some space to get your head around what has happened. ... (read in full...)
I feel he doesn't put enough into this relationship
Q. Please don't judge, I have never had a LDR. That being said I have had a crappy relationship and I know how I want to be treated. I made the decision just recently to be exclusive w/a guy I had known for a month, who had to move out of state. I ...
A. 11 July 2016: If you are feeling that he is not putting enough effort in to keeping in contact then I think you know that this relationship is not going to last. He may have said its what he wanted, but words are cheap, and his actions speak louder. ... (read in full...)
I have been in a relationship with a married man for 3 years. How do I walk away from him?
Q. I have been in a relationship with a married man for 3 years. We have known each other for 40 years. We were together 38 years ago went our own ways and ran into each other for lunch and the rest is history. We love each other very much but I can't ...
A. 11 July 2016: I can sympathize that this is difficult for you and that you do love this man, but do you believe he loves you? Surely if he did he would leave his wife to be with you? Nobody wants to be a homewrecker, you just need to be very strong and avoid all ... (read in full...)
How can foster love between my mothe and my son?
Q. Hello! I have a 9-year-old son. He's a very loving child, but he is also a know-it-all and he talks back a lot. I'm trying to reel this in. The problem is my mother chooses not to deal with him a lot of times. He's been this way since he could ...
A. 11 July 2016: It should never be okay to treat children different. They are children and deserve to be treated equally. Have you tried talking to your mother about this? The thing is if your child talks back a lot what do you do to discipline him? Off course ... (read in full...)
Have my feelings changed towards my married lover?
Q. I've been with my married lover for a few years. He has gone on vacation with his wife several times over the course of our affair, leaving me behind. I know it's an affair and nobody approves. But I am not here for that part of it. I am just tr...
A. 11 July 2016: I guess your feelings have changed. Maybe you have come to realize that you need more than sex. He may buy you gifts and keep in contact with you, but you deserve more than this. His wife has the full package, while you have the bit on the side. Off ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my bullying sister-in-law off?
Q. What do I do if my nerving bully of a sister in law comes in and says something smart about me not going to my husband s doctors appointment. Its at 11 30 my daughter attends a day support program 5 days a week her van has certain times ca...
A. 11 July 2016: Don't tell her off or give in to her. If she is a bully it will only fuel her if she knows that you are getting annoyed by her comments. The worst thing you can do to a bully is ignore them, it annoys them the most. My advice is to bite your tongue ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's assistant is inappropriate! How do I get him to set boundaries?
Q. My boyfriend has a new assistant of 3 months. She is too comfortable around him and especially in our home. He invited her to hang out with our friends and she made a very bad first impression. She starts smoking weed, talking about how she deals, ...
A. 11 July 2016: Your boyfriend is taking this girls side over yours maybe because he does not see a real issue here. If someone came in to my home and smoked weed I would kindly ask them to leave. Was she the only one doing this or was there anyone else?
G... (read in full...)
I'm having trust issues with my girlfriend, is she cheating?
Q. I recently had my phone stop working, so i was using my girlfriends phone to contact people for awhile and she recieved a message of a screen shot of a message she had deleted on her phone. The message was her trying to pick up a guy she met at a...
A. 11 July 2016: Do you feel you can trust her now? If not well then am sorry to say that this relationship is probably coming to an end, which is probably better off in the long run for you, as you deserve to be with someone who loves you and won't mess you around, ... (read in full...)
The rumors of a crush are ruining my work life!
Q. Hi I love my job it's not a chore to go. Someone is spreading rumors that I fancy this guy and everyone is laughing behind my back. I've been friendly but no more than with the other guys there. He does make me feel awkward. he's taken this all the ...
A. 11 July 2016: This really is playground stuff. Making up rumors in the work place. They might find it funny, but it can ruin your happiness in work and that is not okay. If he makes you feel awkward, then just tell him unless it is work related and you have to ... (read in full...)
How should I explain this strange relationship?
Q. Dear All Just wanted a quick question answered if you have the time! My husband years ago brought up his ex's son (husbands stepson) called Oliver. Oliver was/is a good kid but full of negativity and a bad attitude, but as I said, a kind ...
A. 11 July 2016: Am afraid I am not sure what exactly it is that is worrying you here, is it the fact that Oliver can sometimes be negative? Because most teenage boys are the same. I think it is great that your husband stood by him, he is a gentleman not many men ... (read in full...)
Can't understand why she cheated with a homosexual?
Q. Hi. What does it mean when that my wife has cheated me with a gay guy, and prefers gay friends?...
A. 11 July 2016: His sexuality should not matter in this case. Your wife was unfaithful to you, maybe she is attracted to a certain type of man, or maybe she sees gay men as a challenge. Who knows? Either way she has cheated on you therefore you need to work out now ... (read in full...)
It worries me he hangs out with students
Q. Hello all, I met a guy several months ago. We started seeing each other because we liked each other's personalities, despite the fact that we are both busy and it is often difficult to see one another. We have a good relationship besides a fe...
A. 11 July 2016: If it does not feel right to you and it is a deal breaker well then I suggest just finishing with him. I don't know what good it would do talking to him about his friends who are younger than him because he is going to think you are judging him and ... (read in full...)
What I did was dangerous, & I want to forget him but I also want to see him again.
Q. Hi. Okay so where should I start. Last year I met this guy online and after a few months we met up (publicly and locally of course). We...well after a little while I guess we got carried away and started making out etc (minus sex). I realised ...
A. 11 July 2016: You knew it was a mistake, but it gave you a thrill, you are at an age where hormones are raging, mix that with the thrill of being with a stranger and being intimate and you have fireworks. Am guessing you want to feel that thrill again, I would ... (read in full...)
How can this be fixed? Dysfunctional family, I feel depressed when I'm near them but don't know how.
Q. I live about two hours from my family (mum, grandparents). I try and visit every two weeksfor the weekend but lately it's the biggest struggle. I love them dearly but I cry on the drive back home and feel so depressed and drained. My mum sits ta...
A. 11 July 2016: You should go and see a therapist. The thing is mental health issues does not just effect the person but there whole family. Your grandparents are just thinking your mother is fragile, but more and more is coming out in recent years about mental ... (read in full...)
Should I leave everything and everyone I know for love?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for around 2 and a half years. We go to college together, and graduate in May. He is from California; I am from NYC. I love NYC and he loves California, and we love each other very much -- we want to stay tog...
A. 11 July 2016: The thing is, if you both really wanted to be with each other then you would both compromise so that you could be together. I can understand you both don't want to leave your home. You are both still young so you have your whole future to think off. ... (read in full...)
Who and how do I ask what happened to my Mom and about my Mom? My Mom died 8 years ago.
Q. I will make this short as I can since I'm to upset and had to keep starting over. My mom died when I was 6 and I was always told she was real sad and sometimes people get too sad to live any more so they live with Jesus. I don't know why but I a...
A. 11 July 2016: Be honest with your dad, I am sure he knows that someday you are going to want to know more. Tell him how much this is upsetting you, ask him can you talk to your grandparents if he is not wanting to tell you himself. ... (read in full...)
After being cheated on, I hate myself
Q. During my most recent relationship, I got cheated on by my girlfriend. She did it once fairly early in the relationship, and even though I hated the guy before it happened, she claims to be blackout drunk so I forgave her. She cheated again and ...
A. 11 July 2016: I know how you are feeling, as it has happened to me in the past as well, I blamed myself, thought I was not enough for him, that I wasn't attractive enough, I was boring ect ect. But I grew to learn that he was the one in the wrong, he slept around ... (read in full...)
Saw 6 Condoms in His Travelling Bag
Q. Please my big brother and sister in the house, Am married for two years now, we have a daughter. Recently my husband job entailed him travelling a lot. He was travelling today and he took six condoms,he ought to be away for 6 days. I saw it in his ...
A. 11 July 2016: He is more than likely lying to you and while he is away on his travels he is hooking up with girls. I think you deserve better than having a cheating husband. I would have his bags packed for him and ask him to leave. ... (read in full...)
Does a guy being skinny put women off?
Q. I'm a skinny lad and I was wondering is this a turn-off? I mean I know some girls like guys to be teddy bears but is there really any market for us skinny guys? I'm 5'11"/180 cm and 143 pounds/64 kg and feel as though I'm not bulky enough for women ...
A. 11 July 2016: Not all women are looking for a man to protect them. My guy is skinny, but I still feel safe with him, I am independent and can look after myself. If you are under weight or unhealthy then I suggest maybe going to a dietitian or working out if you ... (read in full...)
I'm having trust issues with my girlfriend, is she cheating?
Q. I recently had my phone stop working, so i was using my girlfriends phone to contact people for awhile and she recieved a message of a screen shot of a message she had deleted on her phone. The message was her trying to pick up a guy she met at a...
A. 11 July 2016: I think you know deep down that she cannot be trusted, she has lied to you, she is hiding messages from other guys to you, so if it was me I would end it with her, because it does not sound like she can be trusted, she blamed her friend instead of ... (read in full...)
He called me nasty names. No apology. We broke up. What should I do, in the circumstances?
Q. Hi there everybody I recently had the biggest argument with my now ex boyfriend. It all started because it took him 7 hours to reply to my text Anyway after 2 days of arguing over text he tells me I'm a heartless gutless liar. I did not e...
A. 11 July 2016: six years is a long time to be together, therefore I would usually suggest meeting up with each other and talking about it in person, I assume that you broke up with him over the phone? The thing is your comment was ugly, why judge other people? It ... (read in full...)
Am I going crazy? Should I embrace that he wanted that type of video from me?
Q. I'm 34 weeks pregnant. My baby's dad and I just got back together today.. We've been apart officially for only 3 weeks. In that time, he hung with an ex girlfriend, took her on a boat and beach, and to a theme park. They kissed but claimed he d...
A. 11 July 2016: Sweetie are you sure that this relationship is strong at the moment, I feel sorry for you because you are heavily pregnant and he was out on dates with his ex as if he did not have a care in the world, now he is asking you to send naughty pictures/ ... (read in full...)
I really do like him, but I also love my boyfriend. Help!!
Q. Hi guys, So there is a guy who left my work last week that I have grown extremely close to during our time as colleagues. I have spoken to him via text message since he left and received messages such as "I'm missing you so much :( can't wai...
A. 11 July 2016: It is simple really, if you love your boyfriend and you are happy and want to be with him, then delete this other guys phone number and don't meet up with him if you cannot trust yourself. ... (read in full...)
We fight, we flirt, we hug and kiss, does she want to date, or for me to leave her alone?
Q. So i work with someone thats been showing inconsistency in her behaviour, just wanted to know whats wrong or going on. So the story goes, we both annoy each other, ignore each other, hate each other, backstab each other. She deleted my phone number, ...
A. 11 July 2016: Are you really in your 30s? If so then it is time to grow up and act like an adult. ... (read in full...)
Help ! What should I do? He treats me like someone he wants to string along
Q. I was with a relationship for 2 years. A few months ago i found out he had been two- timing me with his ex (i was apparently the side chick). I broke up. He pursued her like a crazed stalker for a month but she left him for good. Then he came for...
A. 11 July 2016: Sweetie you are far from over him yet, you are wishing that his ex does not take him back because deep down you still want to be with him. Please cut all contact. Erase him from your life. Delete his number, email, social media. It will hurt and it ... (read in full...)
Does this girl like me? I can't tell
Q. So i talked to this girl over the phone and she kept giggling and saying I'm cute. Then we met in person and she told me that i have a nice body and she told me I'm cute again. She was acting super nervous around me and said to me "Sorry for ac...
A. 8 July 2016: The thing is though that you felt this escort liked you before she even set eyes on you, just over a phone call? She is well capable off trying to get a man feeling like he is wanted and special and one of a kind. Now am not saying that you are none ... (read in full...)
Will I come to regret my contented life?
Q. Dear Aunts, I would like to know if my current situation is normal. A few years back I was in love and I had decided to marry her, but I couldn't go through with it since her parents were opposed to it (We were of different religions). I...
A. 8 July 2016: My advice to you, is if you are happy and healthy and you are out working and providing money for your family, then you should remain what you are doing. Those are the important things in life. Love will follow at some point I am sure but if you are ... (read in full...)
Should I insist on marriage before sex?
Q. Hello am 37 and dating a man of 60, I have never had a boyfriend or even kissed a man due to my fathers control of me for a long time. I am still a virgin. Recently I wanted to wait until marriage, but I wonder if I can find a man who can wait until ...
A. 8 July 2016: I will admit that it is rare for a woman at your age to be a virgin therefore he might be quite shocked, so you should be prepared for that. The best thing for you to do is be honest with him and see what he says. Don't have sex with anyone unless ... (read in full...)
Does this girl like me? I can't tell
Q. So i talked to this girl over the phone and she kept giggling and saying I'm cute. Then we met in person and she told me that i have a nice body and she told me I'm cute again. She was acting super nervous around me and said to me "Sorry for ac...
A. 6 July 2016: I just think you are reading to much in to it, you paid for her company and that is what you got, if you feel there is a genuine interest then ask her out on a date, but I know you are not willing to do that because deep down I think you know she ... (read in full...)
Does this girl like me? I can't tell
Q. So i talked to this girl over the phone and she kept giggling and saying I'm cute. Then we met in person and she told me that i have a nice body and she told me I'm cute again. She was acting super nervous around me and said to me "Sorry for ac...
A. 5 July 2016: I honestly don't think that an escort would date one off her clients, so if you where to go again and pay a second time well then I think it would be lessening your chances of actually going on a date with her. ... (read in full...)
Does this girl like me? I can't tell
Q. So i talked to this girl over the phone and she kept giggling and saying I'm cute. Then we met in person and she told me that i have a nice body and she told me I'm cute again. She was acting super nervous around me and said to me "Sorry for ac...
A. 5 July 2016: Yes you where the only one that was there so you have to go by your gut instinct, but in my experience, these girls want there clients to keep coming back, so they need to be really good at what they do, now am not saying you are not good at picking ... (read in full...)
Does this girl like me? I can't tell
Q. So i talked to this girl over the phone and she kept giggling and saying I'm cute. Then we met in person and she told me that i have a nice body and she told me I'm cute again. She was acting super nervous around me and said to me "Sorry for ac...
A. 5 July 2016: Did you pay her for this date? If the answer is yes, well then she is paid to do what it is that you want, she is paid to call you sweet names and the be safe text was to keep her in your mind so that you would come and visit again. Do you actually ... (read in full...)
We fight, we flirt, we hug and kiss, does she want to date, or for me to leave her alone?
Q. So i work with someone thats been showing inconsistency in her behaviour, just wanted to know whats wrong or going on. So the story goes, we both annoy each other, ignore each other, hate each other, backstab each other. She deleted my phone number, ...
A. 4 July 2016: Again I answered your previous post and I still think it is very inappropriate, if you like her well then ask her out and stop acting like a pair of children, she may like you or else she may just like messing with your head, there is only one way ... (read in full...)
Does this girl like me? I can't tell
Q. So i talked to this girl over the phone and she kept giggling and saying I'm cute. Then we met in person and she told me that i have a nice body and she told me I'm cute again. She was acting super nervous around me and said to me "Sorry for ac...
A. 4 July 2016: She might not be to good at texting. Is it the first time you met? If it was then I would suggest slowing things down, if it was the first time and she was this forward then I would questions what it is she wants from you, maybe it was just a hook ... (read in full...)
I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 22 June 2016: I really feel that you have over complicated things for yourself, really asking a woman out should not be this big off a deal at your age. You are an adult, and yes it takes confidence to ask someone out, I do understand that, but I think you are ... (read in full...)
Help ! What should I do? He treats me like someone he wants to string along
Q. I was with a relationship for 2 years. A few months ago i found out he had been two- timing me with his ex (i was apparently the side chick). I broke up. He pursued her like a crazed stalker for a month but she left him for good. Then he came for...
A. 21 June 2016: The thing is OP you need to love and respect yourself before anybody else will, and it is clear that you keep taking this guy back and allowing him to use you instead of standing up for yourself and telling the world that you deserve better than ... (read in full...)
I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 16 June 2016: Maybe you could ask her did she receive the business card that you left her and tell her you would like to take her out, if she refuses, then the best thing you could do is avoid eating there for a while, but if she doesn't hopefully it all goes ... (read in full...)
I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 15 June 2016: I don't think leaving a note is a great idea at all, it is always best to ask face to face. Practice in the mirror if you must, but keep it simple, ask her what time her shift finishes as you would like to take her out for a drink if she is ... (read in full...)
| *unt honesty's friends
These are mutual friends, so *unt honesty has
added them and they have added *unt honesty!
|
![[?]BitterSweetFinale;[?] agony aunt](/avatars/7bb1e9ea-6c2f-43b8-a4f7-0635b7eff08c.png){kind=small}
