How could he love me and still be on dating sites?

A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I just reunited with my ex. We broke up for about a month, during that month it was a back and forth deal, he would text me missing me terribly and vice versa. I can't say what my status is with him right now. He's been on dating sites while we were apart and is still on them and communicating with someone he met. He spends time with me, but is communicating with her via text messages during the week while he's at work. He does not know that I know this. He's told me he loves me, but I just can't seem to understand if you love me and claim to not seeing someone else, why are you still on dating sites and communicating with this girl. What should I do?

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