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I'm very intense and passionate but can also be very cold at times and misunderstood. I try to do what's right but doesn't always come across how I intended it to be.

I'm 25, live in the UK and have the most special wonderful man in my life who makes me feel like the luckiest girl in the world 3

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My girlfriend cant see my point of view and issued an ultimatum

Q.   I'm in a bit of a dilemma as I've just started a relationship with a girl who I really thought was the one. We've been going out for about four months now and I really do love her and she loves me. She's just been on a massive rant to me today ...

A.   25 May 2019: Personally I think males and females can be friends but not close/best. I live with a male friend but we're not close at all and it works out fine but if we were super close then chances are feelings would be there on one or the others side. None of ... (read in full...)

I have read some horrible things about a singer I loved. Should I stop listening to his music?

Q.   I have really enjoyed listening to this person's music ever since I was around 10 , I danced to all his songs and sung them on karaoke at weddings and bought his albums . I have a full bookshelf full of all his greatest hits . He is not alive ...

A.   19 April 2019: Personally I think you just need to learn to separate the individual personality from the art they created. Charles Manson wrote some good music despite what he did, and i can still enjoy songs from the Lost Prophets even though their lead sin... (read in full...)

Should I burn bridges with my new employer to move to another country?

Q.   Hi all, I was hoping for some advice. I have recently accepted a job offer after some fairly vigorous interviews. On accepting the job is was sent through a timetable stating it was actually an apprenticeship and that the first 3 weeks would...

A.   4 April 2019: Until you actually have that visa confirmed then stick with the job you've been offered. You're still not 100% gaurenteed to get it. If you're declined the visa and reject this job, where would that leave you? ... (read in full...)

Do I stay with my job with little time off and great money or go for something less stressful?

Q.   This isn't a relationship question, but a work one instead. Last year I posted a question about becoming a chef and got loads of great replies. I love most of my job and the pay is good and I have had a promotion and my manager wants to promote...

A.   10 March 2019: Thank you for all the responses so far! The thing is, at the start I thought I wanted to train up and become a head chef myself, I felt the long hours and exhausting shifts wren't too bad as I was doing what I loved. I still love it, and love to ... (read in full...)

Is ‘bird’ just slang for ‘woman’ or ‘girl’?

Q.   When a guy calls you a bird is it just slang for woman/girl. I text a guy friend to rearrange meeting up as he wasn't feeling well and joked that it was nurses orders for him to get better and that I couldn't find a nurse in uniform emoji t...

A.   30 December 2018: Bird to me, is normally a female that is sexualised. Like you hear guys saying "there was this fit bird" about a really sexy looking woman. It's not something you would normally hear a guy who was serious about you say. I read your text conv... (read in full...)

My new job demands much more of my time! Any advice?

Q.   Three weeks ago I started a job in my career path that I’ve been praying for for a long time now. Great location for me, benefits, union, pay is good, the whole nine yards. I feel so overwhelming blessed for me and my family. The only downside to ...

A.   29 December 2018: Unless you choose to be a teacher or and office worker both of which have weekday 9-5 hours then you're not going to get the exact hours you want. I am a chef and have very little social life as work every weekend, and all afternoon usually fini... (read in full...)

Boyfriend buys another woman a puppy

Q.   My boyfriend of five years ordered an unborn pedigree puppy for a female friend. She walks his dog when he is at work. During the time he sought out, and checked out breeders, I told him that I found this to be a highly inappropriate gift. During ...

A.   28 December 2018: My biggest issue is actually just buying a dog as a gift altogether, romantic or not. Animals are not gifts and they are a big responsibility and the person they are gifted to may not be able to look after it properly or even want one. This would ... (read in full...)

A month in, I hate my new career!

Q.   Dear cupid, Not really a relationship question, more a career related. Hi I’m nearly 30 years old and have been working self employed/contracting to employers in the construction field since I finished school. I have always liked my job but it’...

A.   13 November 2018: Shift work isn't for everyone~ I started a new career as a chef back at the start of the year and whilst I love my job so much the hours are long, tiring and antisocial and I never get weekends or evenings off which clashes so much with my ... (read in full...)

I hate my boyfriend’s best friend and don’t want him at my wedding!

Q.   I got engaged to my boyfriend and we are currently planning the wedding, making guest lists etc. My partner wishes to invite his best friend to the wedding. The thing is i can’t stand being in the same room as my fiancées best friend as he severely ...

A.   21 June 2018: It's not just YOUR wedding, it's both if yours. He has just as much opinion on guests as you do. I can understand how you feel but it's a little petty to say he can't be there at all if he's close to your partner. I would ask him not to be best ... (read in full...)

I was working towards a goal that doesn't exist now.

Q.   I know this isn't a relationship question but everyone on here gives good honest advice. I feel so lost. I was training for the job position higher than mine, and I moved to another department and increased my hours hoping that will leave a goo...

A.   4 March 2018: Thank you both for your advice :) After spending a few days obsessively job hunting late into the night after work I applied for a job nearby that didn't require experience and got an interview and trial shift and have got it :) I start next mon... (read in full...)

Why the strange reaction to my bridesmaid offer?

Q.   Hi Everyone :) I have a best friend who is acting strange. She recently started acting odd ever since I got engaged in August of 2017. I asked her if she would be my maid of honor? She said yes, then I met up with her at a restaurant and got...

A.   6 December 2017: She could be jealous? Do you keep mentioning your wedding/engagement to her and when you want to meet up is it always stuff to do with it like planning, or is it just general things you used to do? Ask her directly, if it's because of your enga... (read in full...)

Why do people say a couple is being ''selfish'' if the couple make a conscious decision to have one child only?

Q.   Why do people consider you selfish for making the choice to only have one child? My boyfriend and I have thought hard about this. We have decided to have only the one child when we marry. It's a thought out decision. We are both self employed a...

A.   5 October 2015: I'm an only child and I love it :) I've never felt as if I've missed out, if anything I feel luckier as I've been able to do things that I wouldn't otherwise as my parents could afford it just for me. I've decided as well that if i have children I'm ... (read in full...)

He booked tickets to come visit me, but I don't want him to visit me. What can I do?

Q.   I was traveling Western Europe for a month with a friend and when we were in Lisbon, we stayed at the same hostel for about 3 nights. I got to know one of the guys from the reception, we were making out one evening (me intoxicated), and the next...

A.   3 October 2015: If you haven't told him he can visit he might've just assumed you were free, but you can just tell a little lie and say you're not going to be around as you're on your own holiday? ... (read in full...)

I realize we aren't compatible but feel obligated to stay with her. What shall I do?

Q.   Dear everyone I started to date a girl about 6 months ago and we started a relationship. We both knew it would become long distance but we both accepted it and said we'd give it a go, but we both understood they often don't work out. we accepted...

A.   29 September 2015: I would just break up with her as soon as possible (as nicely as you can) so it's not dragged along any-more than it needs to be. Unless one of you intends to move to be living in the same area as the other, LDR rarely work out, especially if you've ... (read in full...)

How can I stop worrying about the future?

Q.   How can I stop worrying about the future? I graduated with a 2:1 degree last November but in a subject that I don’t want to do anymore and won’t help me get a well paid job (Film). I have goals I want to achieve in the future, me and my boyfriend...

A.   22 July 2015: Thank you for all your replies, it makes me feel a little better to know I'm not the only one feeling like this. And MSA i would take a second job but over here in the UK (i'm not sure if it's the same in the USA) we get taxed highly (20%) fo... (read in full...)

Do I leave him....or stay? Or breakup and choose the other boy?

Q.   My boyfriend started to like someone else and he told me and I've been so hurt and the question is so we stay together? But there's more... We keep almost breaking up then seconds later we tell each other we miss each other. He loves me and he's sto...

A.   21 July 2015: Last October i had been with my boyfriend for 3 years. I'd just started a new job and i became friends with a guy instantly...we just clicked. By Christmas we knew we liked each other and by the end of January I broke up with my boyfriend to be with ... (read in full...)

Am I being an unfair roommate?

Q.   Hey aunts... quick question Me and my 2 friends decided to get a three bedroom apt and split the bills. My situation is I want to try living on my own, I do pay bills at my mothers house but I want to see how it is to be on my own. My best friend s...

A.   4 June 2015: I agree with you....I've lived in a couple of student houses whilst i was at uni and usually the people with bigger rooms paid up to £40 more in rent a month than those with tiny rooms...... (read in full...)

I need ideas for a vegetarian meal for our upcoming party

Q.   Definitely not a relationship question but sometimes help and inspiration come from the most unlikely sources.... One of the hobby groups I'm in has an annual "long weekend away" shindig (party) which is coming up in about 3 weeks. Everybody...

A.   6 August 2014: being veggie myself, i'd also go for vegetarian substitutes for a BBQ like quorn and linda mccartney range :) tescos meat free stuff is also very tasty :) baked sweet potatoes with cheese and beans? make some vegetable kebabs-chop up onions peppers ... (read in full...)

I don't know who to chose as a room mate!

Q.   Hi there, I am trying to decide what to do regarding living arrangements next year and it's making me have sleepless nights with worrying over it. I am living with two guys at the minute, one is moving away to university and the other is a gu...

A.   8 July 2014: i would say live with whoever has better living habits...i've just finished my degree at uni, and i'm relieved I never have to live with my housemates again! One of them was so messy and noisy even though she was a lovely person. On your ... (read in full...)

Need tips on how to lose weight, put together healthy meals, and exercise. Advice?

Q.   Hello! Basically I have struggled with my weight throughout most of my life, I have always been a bit chubby even as a child. I got really big when I was about 13/14 but managed to lose about 2 stone and ended up get...

A.   19 March 2014: I've just started Slimming world (I'm in the UK too) and their way of dieting is so easy :) In 2 weeks i've lost half a stone without any exercise and you can pretty much eat anything you want to, just fatty foods and sugary stuff are limited. ... (read in full...)

She's upset because I didn't change my FB status, am I in the wrong here?

Q.   Thanks for reading - not sure who to ask so going to ask you lovely people :) I have been on a few dates with a girl - i am 26 and she is 24 and she is very pretty and when we had our first date, we hit it off. She gave me butterflies and ...

A.   28 February 2014: I'm going to say the other viewpoint. If i knew my new boyfriend was only not changing a status to protect his ex's feelings, I'd be extremely irritated and hurt. You broke up, that should be the end of it. you can still be friends, but you shou... (read in full...)

If I make him dinner do I have to include meat?

Q.   This is really, I guess, a question about etiquette. I am a vegetarian and the guy that I am seeing is not. He's been doing a lot for me lately and I want to try and return the favor, so I said I would cook him dinner one night soon. My issue is, if ...

A.   25 January 2014: i'm vegetarian too, and i cooked veggie meals for my boyfriend :) i wouldn't touch meat at all.... (read in full...)

I need tips to look my best when meeting his work colleagues!

Q.   hi, im just looking for some help if any of you can provide please. my new husband works away a lot, he comes home in 2 weeks and the week after that we are going to a fancy charity evening set up by his work. not I know I don't have to dre...

A.   16 January 2014: my eyes are pretty small and I wear glasses too, but i find that a bit of white eyeliner on the water line and the corner of my eyes, along with a thin black eyeline on the top lid, and slightly thicker on the bottom stopping about halfway across ... (read in full...)

Does it turn you on to watch your partner masturbate?

Q.   Do you masturbate in front of your husband? Does it turn him on to watch you play with yourself? Do you like to watch him play with himself?...

A.   12 January 2014: I've watched my boyfriend play with himself, and it turns me on a lot :) He likes watching me too ^^... (read in full...)

What's the answer? Buy a dildo? Think of images? Watch porn? How do I learn to turn myself on?

Q.   I am new to this site- I will ask this question anyway. I would like to know what is the best ways to turn yourself on (masterbate) and make it so good? so you watch porn or just picture dirty things ? Does anyone suggest buying dildos? I...

A.   10 January 2014: recently i bought my first sex toy- a small vibrator for my clit from ann summers "golden bullet" for £10 and i LOVE it, it's amazing- i reccommend so much :) i also watch porn clips of my fetishes and look at sexual pictures :) ... (read in full...)

Do most guys like performing oral sex on women?

Q.   Hi Everyone, I'm hoping you can provide me with some insight here! I have been with my boyfriend for a year and he almost never goes down on me. In the 10 months we've been sexually active, he's gone down on me maybe 5 times. I can't figure ou...

A.   7 January 2014: i'm a bit like this too~ my ex used to ALWAYS go down on me, and it was amazing, but my current boyfriend is more reluctant since he doesn't like the taste too much, but there are times where he'll do it without me asking. I trim as well, ... (read in full...)

Should I get my boyfriend's mom a gift for Christmas?

Q.   I've been dating my bf for 3 months we get along great. I have said hello/seen his mom several times on skype, since she lives overseas. For Christmas my bf will be going to see her, should I buy her Christmas gift?? Would this be a nice detail or ...

A.   19 December 2013: Just something small maybe, like some chocolates or bath stuff, nothing expensive :) ... (read in full...)

Would you say it is rude to ask visitors to take their shoes off before entering your home?

Q.   Would you say it is rude to ask visitors to take their shoes off before entering your home? I have a small wooden sign hanging up in my hallway saying "Please remove your shoes," and am wondering if this may appear rude. I wouldn't throw a tantrum ...

A.   19 December 2013: hmm, over here in the UK it's kind of mixed. I've noticed older generations don't remove shoes, whereas younger people (mainly girls) do. it's not something i've ever really thought of, but i always take mine off round others homes unless it is just ... (read in full...)

I'm thinking of divorcing my wife because she isn't pretty enough

Q.   I will be as honest as I can, so i can have some honest responses.I need some suggestion from people who are on the same shoes or from anyone. I have been married for 3 years. I am 26 and my wife is 24. In my opinion i think my wife looks 6/10....

A.   16 December 2013: beauty isn't permanent- personality is. even the most beautiful woman in the world in your eyes, will still get wrinkles, saggy skin, grey hair and age. If she has children she'll most likely get stretch marks, saggy breasts and gain a little weight ... (read in full...)

Should I cut my really long hair because my boyfriend likes short hair?

Q.   I have really long hair. Myboyfriend an i really love each other. but he likes hair short so he is asking me to cut them. should i do what he says. i cant make up my mind but i do want to make him happy...

A.   2 November 2013: No, i wouldn't. Long hair's hard enough to grow and i wouldn't get rid of my hard work/dedication just because a guy has a preference for short hair length. But I liked the other suggestion on here, to buy some short wigs maybe? :) ... (read in full...)

My mother thinks I should use birth control but I disagree

Q.   Well my mom saw my bf just yesterday but she has frequently heard about him and i that we dating. Today on the radio they were talking about how parents should oversee how their children behave. she brought the issue of taking birth control pills. ...

A.   15 September 2013: Assuming you're using condoms, then you shouldn't need birth control pills as well. if you're using them, tell your mum you're using condoms and that you're having safe sex. She can't physically force you to take anything :) I personally use ... (read in full...)

Who takes off the condom after sex?

Q.   Dear Aunts and Uncles, I've been sleeping with my boyfriend for a few months now, and we always use a condom. Thing is, it kind of gets awkward when it's time to remove the condom. After the act, I always remove the condom for him and wipe the mes...

A.   9 September 2013: I usually put the condom on, but he always takes it off/cleans up after~ though I do get him tissue and a glass of water. ... (read in full...)

Stretch marks make me very self-conscious

Q.   I got LOTS of strech marks (arms/legs/back) when i was 14 years old. I wasn't thin but wouldn't call myself fat. I think it was perhaps growing too fast and maybe not realising i was putting on a little too much weight. The thing is, for all my ...

A.   10 August 2013: I know how you feel~ I've got loads of stretch marks on my stomach and I have no kids! (I'm 20) I also have some on the tops of my arms and my breasts, but I don't really remember when I got them, maybe when I was about 16. But I've had a couple of ... (read in full...)

He said I should pay our bills because I don't have kids

Q.   Hello Aunts and Uncles. My boyfriend is always short of money, I have to pay for our all our travel, the whole rent and he pays 1/2 our food. He says he can't afford any more because of maintenance for his daughter who is 8. I do not know what he ...

A.   31 July 2013: Leave him~ It's unfair for you to have to pay towards everything, and especially when you said "He also stays out of work a lot because he says he doesn't enjoy it". who really enjoys their job? If you want to live, you need a job no matter what. If ... (read in full...)

I'm wondering if girlfriend was a virgin?

Q.   hello dear aunts, I have recently start dating this girl, she has just turned 21. she recently confessed she was a virgin when we did it for the first time, however I've been skeptical. (sorry for being graphic) I gave her oral a few times, only ...

A.   19 July 2013: I'd say she was a virgin; "easy to penetrate her"~ she was probably very turned on, and may have played with herself before so she was used to penetration? "trimmed bush"~ many girls shave/trim their hair down there for themselves and not for a gu... (read in full...)

What are your views on no sex before marriage?

Q.   I am Christian but nondenominational and I honestly can't decide whether I should wait till marriage and the most committed relationship possible to have sex or have fun, play the field and get experienced with boyfriends at college. I would love to ...

A.   14 May 2013: I'm not religious at all and I personally don't believe in no sex before marriage. But I don't believe in sleeping around with just anyone either. For me, I need to be in a loving long term relationship.... (read in full...)

I'm ready for a baby now but my fiance wants to wait a few years

Q.   I am having a bad case of baby fever, I'm afraid. I've always loved kids and adored the thought of having my own. I work at a daycare, and I am responsible for 4 infants on my own. I love it. It's difficult at times, especially when they're all ...

A.   13 May 2013: as much as you don't want to, i'd say wait. Too many people in my opinion now have babies too young and can't afford them. Why not offer to babysit, or do more hours at your job to look after children more frequently to try and ease the desire. ... (read in full...)

Am I too young to be thinking of marriage?

Q.   Hi guys. Just a quick question. I'm 20 and my boyfriend is 26. We have been together for 8 months. I really love him and he loves me. Everything is great. The trouble is we have started to talk about marriage- I want to marry him and think that he ...

A.   9 May 2013: There's nothing wrong with maybe discussing marriage for the future and thinking about it, but personally I think anything under the age of 25 is a bit young to actually 'get' married. If you're going to be together forever, then there's no rush to ... (read in full...)

How do guys feel about direct approaches like the one I'm thinking about trying?

Q.   Hi. I currently go to college. In one of my classes, there's this really attractive guy who I keep checking out [I can't help myself] and he usually catches me looking, but I quickly look away and mentally nag myself that I should've kept ey...

A.   8 May 2013: With my boyfriend, I had noticed him in a shared lecture once a week and he immediately caught my eye. After a few weeks I left the lecture hall the same time as him and walked the same pace as him. I then made a little comment about the lecture to ... (read in full...)

Do you hang out with your friend's? or the friend's of your boyfriend/girlfriend?

Q.   Hey all. I want to get some personal opinions about this. It's not really a problem but more so a question I have. My boyfriend is a very popular guy, he has a ton of other guy friends and even has a lot of female friends. I know this is ...

A.   4 May 2013: I can't really hang out with my own friends much sadly as i'm in a different town to them due to my uni being a few hours away and none of us really drive. My boyfriend is from my uni's town so he has all his friends here and i've hung out with a f... (read in full...)

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