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writes:My boyfriend started to like someone else and he told me and I've been so hurt and the question is so we stay together? But there's more...We keep almost breaking up then seconds later we tell each other we miss each other. He loves me and he's stopped with the other girl.To clear my head I said we should take a two week break On this break, I've gotten close to some other boy and he's told me he really likes me and I've started to like him. My boyfriends has hurt me a lot and often in the past and probably will in the futureI don't know about the other boy do I give him a chance, he's nicer and listens and he doesn't get mad at anything I say he's easier to talk to and understands more. He's nicer and can be olayful and funny What should I do ? Who do I choose Reply to this Question
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reader, MSA  +, writes (21 July 2015):
 It is easy to go from one relationship to another because there is security of always having someone there.I know you are young, and may be difficult for you to detach yourself from BOTH guys, take time alone to clear your mind and think about which one you truly want to be with. The best advice is really to not be with either guy and take time to decide which one you want to be with, then move forward. It's hurtful to yourself, and the guys to blindly jump into a relationship with them.Your relationship with your BF is not healthy because he is always looking for greener grass and you are following his steps.Your relationship with your new guy seems nice in the beginning... because it's the beginning. You will always encounter problems further into the relationship.. will be be the guy you imagine him to be one year into the relationship? Probably not... and at that time, will you be able to work out your issues or will you both again go look for greener grass?
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (21 July 2015):
 I think you should NEVER jump from one guy to another. End one relationship, BE done with that ex, THEN... move on.
You are your "bf" are not a good fit. You two orbit each other, because you are FAMILIAR with each other (you know what you GOT with him over a "new" guy and what HE got in you, basically) But he is still LOOKING for greener grass. He is young and immature and not really sure WHAT he wants, but.. he doesn't want to be alone either.
I can't tell you who is a better fit of these two, only YOU can. Just, don't bounce from guy to guy like a bumblebee in a flower patch.
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reader, Xx-Scorpio-xX +, writes (21 July 2015):
 Last October i had been with my boyfriend for 3 years. I'd just started a new job and i became friends with a guy instantly...we just clicked. By Christmas we knew we liked each other and by the end of January I broke up with my boyfriend to be with this other guy. I sometimes regret it a little because i know how much i hurt my ex but i know that i've made the right choice and i'm the happiest i've been in a long time.
Just think deeply about who you find nicer, get along with better and how a relationship with this other guy would be. Just be a little cautious as the guy you like could just be being nice to you as he knows you're currently on a break and might just want sex and knows your in a vulnerable position.
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