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2 June 2010: -Introduction- At first, I was going to call this article “You Can Get Any Girl You Want” but that’s false, and too cliché for my liking. This article isn’t telling you how to get any girl you want, it’s more any girl I want. The truth is, ...
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1 August 2008: I try to answer as many questions from other teens as I can. However, the question I have seen the most since I joined a few weeks ago is “I am afraid of rejection. How do I ask him/her out?” Well unless I’m mistaken there is no magic way to ask ...
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Feeling stuck in a too good relationship
Q. I find myself questioning my relationship more and more, and I don’t know what I should do: take things slower? Call it off completely? Stay with him? I feel as though most people who write in with a “should I stay or leave my partner” question ...
A. 12 August 2010: I have actually been through this situation myself within the last 3 months, from her obsessing about our future, to me wanting to just put her in a closet and save her for later. So i identify with you 100% from top to bottom of your post.
Its g... (read in full...)
How can I get over the pain of this break up?
Q. hi everyone, i need help. i miss my ex so much. i did a mistake by calling him the other day. he tried to be nice, but i was and still hurting for the fact that now he thinks of me as a friend (actually more like an acquaintance) like we were b4 ...
A. 12 August 2010: well said, oregongrll. I dont think it can be put anybetter than that.... (read in full...)
How can I get over the pain of this break up?
Q. hi everyone, i need help. i miss my ex so much. i did a mistake by calling him the other day. he tried to be nice, but i was and still hurting for the fact that now he thinks of me as a friend (actually more like an acquaintance) like we were b4 ...
A. 10 August 2010: Eventually, the pain will soothe. Its a matter of just you letting go. Honestly being friends makes the whole getting over process much harder to deal with.
Let go, go have fun with your friends. He’s indicated he’s only being nice, so cut him ... (read in full...)
Secrecy and Commitment
Q. [OP original title] Can a person say that they are truly commited and are in love with their partner when they are capable of harboring deep secrets about themselves...which they KNOW will affect their partner's will and desire to continue in the ...
A. 8 August 2010: I think that any secrets which they know will affect their partner's will to continue the relationship, is going aganist the meaning of commitment to a relationship.
However, some secrets just need their time to come out and wait till you have the... (read in full...)
I think I like my boyfriend's brother AGAIN. Does he feel the same?
Q. Okay, so it's been five months since me and my boyfriend (Chad) have been together, and it's been about seven months since me and Chad's brother (Nick) were talking, you know, almost dating until he supposedly ignored my texts, and that's when I got ...
A. 8 August 2010: hmm i read this question yesterday but was a little too confused to answer.. but seeing how you havent really recieved advice, rather just someone kinda attacking you imo isnt much help. so i'll see what i can do.
i wouldnt worry about being la... (read in full...)
What do I do? Forgive and forget or just forget??
Q. About a month ago,a guy I was dating but "unofficial" went to China on vacation with a group of kids our age.I told him not to have intercourse with anyone and we both knew I wasn't kidding. So as its obvious,he goes and was drunk but he knew wha...
A. 8 August 2010: agree with q/e but would also just like to point out the fact that he told you she was prettier that you, and thats why he had sex with her. You were unofficial, but still, that shows tremendous disrespect to you on his part. If you forgive and ... (read in full...)
Why did he reply to my email if he wants nothing to do with me?
Q. My bf and i have been together for a month 1/2. He's always called daily sometimes 2x a day (i didn't ask him to). We hung out daily or frequently. He's currently in the middle of a custody battle, moving, purchasing a car.. We had spent the wknd ...
A. 7 August 2010: But i dont necissarily think you were in the right either. Yous sent him the message saying it was over. I know if my gf would have sent me a message like that, and i was in a similar position, just accepting the fact that she's broken up with you ... (read in full...)
She's broke up with me, but says she'll date me later??!!!!??
Q. I was dating a 20 yr old for over a year and I'm 31 yrs old. We recently broke up but still talk. My question is she says she loves me as a person and says she would date me at a later time when I was ready. What does that mean? Also she says she ...
A. 7 August 2010: At worst, it means she already has ideas of who she wants to date after she breaks it off with you, yet wants to be on good terms with you just in case her new relationship doesnt work out so she can keep you on the side.
At best, it means ju... (read in full...)
If I get into a relationship, should I tell the guy that I have never been kissed?
Q. Hey everyone! It is a little bit embarassing but i would really like your help. I a 19 year old girl, who has never had a real kiss. The reason for that is that i am not into relationships, i prefer dating. Recently i have been meeting really c...
A. 4 August 2010: i wouldnt volunteer it, but if he asks its not much to be ashamed of. Many guys would be happy to 'teach' you how to kiss. it could really be played to your advange if you use it right. :) best of luck Nick.... (read in full...)
Low self esteem, forbidden to date by my mother, but I still really want a boyfriend!
Q. im a 14 year old girl and im not in a rush to grow up, its just that my whole life since i started 3rd grade i wasnt popular. boys called me ugly and when i would start to like a guy the whole grade would find out and he didnt like me. no boys have ...
A. 4 August 2010: i sometimes sit down adn look it the mirror and call myself ugly Well stop. thats half your problem right there. you've been tricked into thinking you're ugly, sit back, look in the mirror, and find something you like about yourself If y... (read in full...)
My boyfriend pays a lot of attention to our roommate!
Q. My boyfriend and I live together with two other roommates. Whenever the female roommate is around, he gets excited because she is usually at her boyfriend's house. He always tries going by her room to initiate conversation with her. Also, if it is ...
A. 26 July 2010: There is always a reason to worry, even a small thing could potentially be a big deal.
But you're dealing with speculations.
In 8 months, he's never given you a reason to call him unfaithful.
He's come 100% clean about it, and told you w... (read in full...)
Paranoid about losing my g/f and now she has broken things off!
Q. Hi guys, my name is James, where do I start? ok, so I have this issue, I have no idea where it comes from, basically I am not sure if it is low self esteem, low confidence, insecure, but I need help and I need help now, I am hoping someone can ...
A. 26 July 2010: I agree. I think it would be a very sweet and caring gesture if you brought her flowers to her house, and then just explained that she means a lot to you and apologize for being so needy and that you just want to be supportive, but make sure you ... (read in full...)
I want to know how to ask her about how she feels about this guy and not ruin the great friendship we have
Q. Ok so here's the story I about 1 or two months ago I met this girl at church. We started talking and we have become really goood friends. She knows about my life and I know about hers. I really like her nd I'm starting to have fellings for her but ...
A. 26 July 2010: If i were you, i'd forget about the prospect of being more than friends with this girl until she's single.
And don't push her to break up with him either. If youre happy for her, then be happy for her. It sounds like she could like you as well, bu... (read in full...)
Ex-boyfriend said eeeew referring to me in a bikini. Do I confront him?
Q. Well, me and my best fried were swimming and having a wonderful time, when my boyfriend texts me I get her phone, because mine was practically dead, and when I get her phone she gets a text message from her boyfriend and he is talking about me, I go ...
A. 24 July 2010: Do absolutely nothing. My ex's best friend texted me a picture of my ex in a bikini. I replied DAMN i didnt want to see that. Take no offense to it, you're out of his life, he wants nothing to do with you, he doesnt want to picture you in a ... (read in full...)
Would it seem that shes over it or do you think she felt the same way I did?
Q. Alright, so basically I need help for dealing with some feelings about my last relationship. I met her at my last job, and worked with her for the longest time, and it wasnt until both of us and all of my other co-workers went out one night, that I ...
A. 24 July 2010: It comforts me to know people go through the same things as me.
So with that said, near the same exact thing happened to me.
I was in an LDR for 7 months, then the summer came, and she was on her dance team and they were going to iceland for a... (read in full...)
I cheated on my ex before I knew I loved her, she found out and she left me!
Q. I cheated and led my gf on for months, but that was because, I didn't love or care about her, but as time went on, I started to gain feelings for her and now I love her so much and I can't imagine my life without her. She found out about the lies ...
A. 24 July 2010: I understand why you are upset, but your actions are more than slightly unresponsible.
Firstly, there is no 'one' woman for you. Yes there are those better than others, and women that you get along with very well, but the truth is, there is someo... (read in full...)
Ex girlfriend not over me and dislikes my supposed lack of grief
Q. Hi all I'm 27, and my ex is 24. I asked a question on here not too long ago about my girlfriend having become disinterested about our relationship. We broke up about 2 weeks ago and it was all mutual and amicable and we both agreed that it w...
A. 24 July 2010: Sometimes, theres not much you can do.
As you said, shes messing with your head.
She's trying to make a bigger problem out of something small, hoping to guilt you into slowing down your moving apart. It sounds to me like she still wants you ... (read in full...)
Getting jealous of my peers
Q. I'm in a pretty big state of jealousy right now, and I'm not comfortable with the feeling! In my school, there are a lot of popular and pretty girls. Even though i'm one of them, i still feel jealous towards a few of them. For instance, on Facebook ...
A. 24 July 2010: Personal story time!
I get it. Im 17, im popular, but popular in a way that everyone likes me, i basically have no enemies, yet im not the one that gets invited to all the parties, but if i happen to be there people tend to stick around me.
W... (read in full...)
Facebook: What does it really mean?
Q. Nothing! Several situations can be mistaken to mean something more, when they truly don't carry much significance. For example: The friend you've been crushing on for the last six months accepts your third attempt at a friend request, and...
A. 18 July 2010: thank you :) thank you:) thank you :)
Ive been meaning to write an article like this but just havent gotten around to it.
Even more personal things like interactions that happen between 2 people get blown out of proportion all too often. its o... (read in full...)
My ex still likes me but I like his friend instead
Q. last summer i was going out with this guy that i really liked, and i invited him and his best friend to come play baseball with me and my little brother. i kinda started to like his friend... me and my ex-boyfriend broke up a few months ago and ...
A. 17 July 2010: I stand by my previous answer. As far as momma cant stop you, well, maybe she cant but if she finds out mammas gonna have a serious problem. Sneaking behind her back, is not the smartest idea. eventually you'll slip and get caught. Your ... (read in full...)
My ex still likes me but I like his friend instead
Q. last summer i was going out with this guy that i really liked, and i invited him and his best friend to come play baseball with me and my little brother. i kinda started to like his friend... me and my ex-boyfriend broke up a few months ago and ...
A. 17 July 2010: To me, it sounds like he likes you.
Is dating an ex's friends right? well theres nothing really wrong with it. No one can tell you who to date.
This situation is very delicate. You have to weigh the fact that any actions you make could very ... (read in full...)
How do I rekindle her interest in me?
Q. Ok there is this girl that i used to like a lot and she used to like me a bit but not as much and now i have got over it but i always had a soft spot for her if you know what i mean. this girl and i drifted apart a bit and werent as close friends ...
A. 17 July 2010: Your question is false :D nice guys can get the girl.
Mostly, what girls want isn't a nice guy, or a not nice guy. It's confidence.
Bad guys have confidence because they know whatever happens with their relationships, they wont really care beca... (read in full...)
I want to give myself and my virginity as a gift for my boyfriends birthday, good idea?
Q. Ok so im 19, never had a boyfriend before, recently met the most amazing guy, he's 30. its a large age difference but we get along amazingly! we haven't had sex yet, although we have touched each other intimately during kissing sessions. he is ...
A. 17 July 2010: Right. Im going to emphisize what moo's mum said.
If it's what YOU really want go for it.
Because you can only give this gift once.
Nick.... (read in full...)
Should I be her hero?
Q. If you could, take a few mins and help me be creative :) normally, i have no problems with girls what so ever. But... this case is different. Ive tried to date her in the past. Once sophomore year. Nearly worked, except best friend was an a...
A. 16 July 2010: thank you :) it really wasnt about my ideas being grand as i know thats not really what matters. I just wanted to get a broad range of ideas.
thanks to you guys, i think i figured out what im going to do.
Nick.... (read in full...)
Am I setting a good example by staying for the kids, or am I setting myself up to be alone with a stranger when the kids leave the home?
Q. Hi, I am 28yrs old and have been married for 9 years. I am not sure exactly what answers I am seeking, but am compelled to tell my story in hopes of gaining some advice, or at least a different perspective from those in similar or different ...
A. 15 July 2010: No its fine that you vent, thats what this site is made for. I hope you dont mind in return if i tell you my story from personal experience (as a kid who went through this), as i think it would be more beneficial to you than me just giving you ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure how to find out if he likes me back or how to make a move?
Q. Im 16 and I really like this guy who is 19. I have liked him pretty much ever since I met him but I have never told him because I have always been too scared of rejection. Lately we have become good friends and we go for late night walks quite a ...
A. 14 July 2010: If there was something else you didnt know, but wanted to know, what would you do?
Its no different here. Just ask, or find out for yourself. Trust me, i understand what rejections all about. But if you dont get over it, you will always be left ... (read in full...)
Why does my hubby want me to lick, finger, and penetrate his arse. Does this mean he is gay or bi?
Q. "OP Own Title" Why does my husband want me to play with his butt so much? He always wants me to touch it, finger it, even lick it. He is often putting it in my face during 69. I don't particularly like it, but do it sometimes when I am drunk or ...
A. 14 July 2010: no no no. He's not gay.
Yes, it could easily be performed by a guy. But it's not being performed by a guy, its being performed by his wife. I severely doubt he'd let another guy do this.
You could also have everything he's done performed on you... (read in full...)
Did you ever love someone you couldn't have?
Q. This isn't really for advice, more for opinions. Is there anyone whose ever loved someone before or had feelings for someone, but there was sort of an obstacle to get to that person? Did you ever get to them? Was it worth it to risk the things y...
A. 14 July 2010: Before sharing my story, i think everyone has someone in their life that they've had feelings for that the other wont reciprocate. It comes with territory, i guess.
and im actually sharing this because writing things down helps me solve my probl... (read in full...)
I don't feel the spark in my relationship anymore, so I should just leave, right?
Q. there is no spark in my relationship with my girlfriend (a year and some months) who i love or loved (i cant tell which it is). should i talk about not feeling the spark with her or just wait a little longer to see if they come back. its already ...
A. 14 July 2010: Judging by your last question, and you saying "why stay in it when you can be doing other things that you want to be doing and enjoy?" tells me that your girlfriend is very demanding. Let me ask you this. why are you with her if you dont enjoy b... (read in full...)
He doesn't want me to come out with him on his work nights out, is it normal for couples to go out drinking without each other?
Q. This is going to be long, sorry :X My boyfriend and I have been dating since our high school days (started when we were 17, now we are 23/24). We've been living together for 2 years now and are both in university. However, lately we've bee...
A. 14 July 2010: dont go spend the night in a hotel room. Dont make him wonder. thats asking for trouble. First, your only going to be dwelling on him and what he's actually doing the whole time. And second, by you acting sneaky, thats going to invite him to ac... (read in full...)
She says if I hang out with my friend she is going to act single and do whatever she wants. How do I take care of this?
Q. my girlfriend of a year and a few months is trying to tell me that if i hang out with my friend (that she doesn't like because he doesn't like her) she is going to act single and do whatever she wants. how do i take care of this...
A. 14 July 2010: hang out with your friend.
If you do, then either she will act single and give you a good reason to get rid of her. She's basically holding you hostage over this issue, which is rather childish. Not to mention she's showing she has no regard f... (read in full...)
Am I correct in thinking - "this is flirting"?
Q. Hi Readers. I’m looking for other peoples views on flirting... I’m in a situation at the minute where I’m falling for a friend of mine (yea I know – difficult situation!) Thing is I think the feeling may be mutual... So I’ll give you so...
A. 12 July 2010: I'll give you my opinion as well as a warning on each, just for future knowledge. It does seem like he's flirting with you :)
1) could be a big sign of flirting but also could just be him trying to make up his mind if he wants the friendsh... (read in full...)
I think I led him on and now don't know what to do
Q. Hi, I am 17 and just had my first kiss with a guy. I went to prom with him, had a good time, but then haven't really talked to him since last night. I never really liked him even though he's the perfect guy and now I'm afraid I've led him on with ...
A. 12 July 2010: Just want to say... dont 100% agree with strongfp. I mean that's one way to approach it, but us teenage guys arent always the best at figuring things out on our own. If he comes on strong and asks you out, unfortunately, politely telling him you'... (read in full...)
Too old for me??
Q. Ok, so I just need some opinions on this. I am really interested in this guy, and he is interested in me. He is 26 and I am 17. Is this too much of an age difference?...
A. 8 July 2010: I think if you have to ask this question, you are answering it for yourself. Why are you asking this? because you feel there's something wrong with the age difference? Because family/friends feel something wrong? In theory, no. There is nothing... (read in full...)
What do I do when he kisses me?
Q. hi im 14 ill be 15 in a few weeks and i havent had my first kiss yet . is that wierd.i have a boyfriend and hes 17 and we are about to go on a date really soon and im really nervous.any tips on wat do do wen he tries to kiss me??...
A. 30 June 2010: No its not wierd that you havent had your first kiss yet :) i didnt have mine until i was 15. I happen to think thats a pretty good age to get your first kiss :)
If he tries to kiss you and you want to kiss him back, then go for it!He's a few year... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is refusing to eat properly, what should I do?
Q. Dear Aunts and Uncles whom have helped me many a time, I have grown concerned about my girlfriend - she had eating issues before I knew her, she was constantly concerned about her weight, and now it's come back to haunt her. She's on a diet that ...
A. 30 June 2010: hmm this is a toughy. my ex was like this.
She would go days without eating, and this was my exact same reaction i had. i knew it was hurting her but she couldnt see it.
There was a brief 2 month period where i actually did get her to eat atlea... (read in full...)
How can I get my boyfriend to take pictures with me for facebook?
Q. Dear Cupid, I know this sounds sooo soo stupid and its a really stupid thing to ask. But I see some of my friends on facebook who have pics with their boyfriends really cute ones...Im just wondering how do I get pics with my boyfriend and how do ...
A. 30 June 2010: Just ask. He won't think you're a wierdo ;)
Nothing to worry about at all :)
Nick.... (read in full...)
I like my best friend's first love and she likes me back!
Q. So i have a best friend. That i have known for some time now maybe a year or two we met and just really hit it off and got really close and know we live together for College and reasons that we are poor :(. He recently got this girl and we where all ...
A. 29 June 2010: Hey :) anytime... (read in full...)
My parents seem to over do it with me, any suggestions to change this??
Q. Im having this problem with my parennts and my family. They just alwayss look at what im doing on facebook everywear they always findout what im doing. I aint doing nothing wrong tho, They always take it too far by taking my phone of mee and ...
A. 29 June 2010: I had a little difficulty understanding your question but. i think youre they look at your facebook which is how they find out what you're doing, and grounding you?
If i beleive that you're not doing anything wrong then my suggestion is kick the... (read in full...)
I like my best friend's first love and she likes me back!
Q. So i have a best friend. That i have known for some time now maybe a year or two we met and just really hit it off and got really close and know we live together for College and reasons that we are poor :(. He recently got this girl and we where all ...
A. 29 June 2010: Sneaking around will only get you caught eventually. Here's your options. You could have something amazing with ths girl at the expense of your best friend. He will be very hurt by this. He's grown attached to her, for whatever reason, and he... (read in full...)
Caught between my parents, with my little sister. Need to find a way to improve my situation.
Q. Okay so this isn't your typical relationship question, has more to do with family, but i've always relied on you guys for help in the past so i can't think of a place i'd feel better asking this. So i absolutely hate my mom. Long story short, she...
A. 29 June 2010: First i'd like to thank you all for the overwhelming response :) i really didnt expect this much and you're responses really have helped here. Im just going to go through this from first post to last cuz thats what makes sense. Universe Man: ... (read in full...)
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