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2 June 2010: -Introduction- At first, I was going to call this article “You Can Get Any Girl You Want” but that’s false, and too cliché for my liking. This article isn’t telling you how to get any girl you want, it’s more any girl I want. The truth is, ...
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1 August 2008: I try to answer as many questions from other teens as I can. However, the question I have seen the most since I joined a few weeks ago is “I am afraid of rejection. How do I ask him/her out?” Well unless I’m mistaken there is no magic way to ask ...
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Caught between my parents, with my little sister. Need to find a way to improve my situation.
Q. Okay so this isn't your typical relationship question, has more to do with family, but i've always relied on you guys for help in the past so i can't think of a place i'd feel better asking this. So i absolutely hate my mom. Long story short, she...
A. 29 June 2010: First i'd like to thank you all for the overwhelming response :) i really didnt expect this much and you're responses really have helped here. Im just going to go through this from first post to last cuz thats what makes sense. Universe Man: ... (read in full...)
How can I tell if this is really just him having a laugh with his mates?
Q. I just started a brand new relationship, with a guy that I would usually ignore (he's not the type of guy I normally hang around with so our personalities are really different) he's amazing, romantic and really funny. I'm 17 and I've had a reall...
A. 29 June 2010: First, lack of confidence affects nearly everyone. Don't sweat it too much.
I personally think of me as ugly, im extremely skinny, and the girl im dating now is gorgeous and she's extremely flirty so when we first started talking i thought ... (read in full...)
Why am I a complete failure when it comes to relationships?
Q. I'm just a sixteen year old girl, who's had all the chances in the WORLD to have a great, fun relationship - yet I still can't even say a simple 'yes' to a guy who asks me out?! I'm not the prettiest of girls - but I'm quirky and fun, and if I might ...
A. 29 June 2010: I can answer your second question with 100% accuracy.
why can't guys understand what I feel? Is it really not that obvious?
Guys (especially in high school) have no idea what you feel. just tell us. Guys are usually very open. Usually when we ... (read in full...)
I want to date someone, I don't want to be alone!
Q. okay, i know im young and i have tons of time to find someone, but i really want to date someone. all my friends have a boyfriend, even though they don't treat them right. they all have nice guys that they treat like dirt. i haven't dated a guy in a ...
A. 28 June 2010: Hmm... i read your question and i think you actually answered you're own question when you asked it.
You're absolutely right you're young and have tons of time to find someone.
But... you don't want to settle for anyone yet don't want to be... (read in full...)
I know that men look at porn so why does he claim not to? I'm not the jealous type.
Q. Why do guys lie about watching porn? My boyfriend and I have been together for several years and at the beginning of our relationship would look at it together quite a lot, usually just for fun (i.e. trying to find the weirdest stuff we could) but ...
A. 28 June 2010: Ever think that maybe he is telling the truth? If you've given him the go ahead to watch porn, then he has nothing to hide. Since he trusts you, he would come clean about it.
"I know that all men watch porn" is a very poor justification to accus... (read in full...)
I discovered he's been keeping his social networking from me
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for 2 years, weve gone thru so many things. thru out the 2 years i found out he had a secret twitter , myspace ect.. and i confronted him and hes admitted to flirting 3 times andi just keep findin things . but he says that ...
A. 28 June 2010: Hmmm... my advice would have to be leave. And only by reading that last sentence. If he is serious about killing himself, then find him some help, and get far away. If he's willing to do harm to himself, then he could just as easily do harm t... (read in full...)
We had to break up because of her mom and now it's like she won't even talk to me!
Q. me and my girlfriend had to break up because of her mom. we still want to be together, but its like she wont even talk to me. her mom changed her number and when she gets on facebook she doent even reply to my comments or messages. i feel like shes ...
A. 28 June 2010: My advice? move on. If she still wants to be with you, but her mom's stopping her, there's not much you can do at your age.
No need to worry, just find yourself a new girlfriend. You'll be much happier :)
nick... (read in full...)
She's doing a really good job at keeping me guessing
Q. Just really quick. Im 17, girl in question is 16. I met this girl and her friends maybe a month ago at a graduation party, about a week before my 7 month relationship ended. Since we broke up, we only hung out once (were supposed to hang out ...
A. 23 June 2010: Yeah i dont text her that much maybe ten times a day maybe 3 days a week, and usually only to set up plans for the week or to see whats up. I text her friends more to see if they'll let anything slip about her liking me lol.
We're hopefull... (read in full...)
If She’ll Talk To You, She’ll Date You (Teen Guys)
Q. -Introduction- At first, I was going to call this article “You Can Get Any Girl You Want” but that’s false, and too cliché for my liking. This article isn’t telling you how to get any girl you want, it’s more any girl I want. The truth is, ...
A. 22 June 2010: Lol, 17 year olds who think they are gurus. Nah not me. but i have to atleast sound like i know what im talking about. ;) I really welcome the criticism. I believe i actually wrote this less than one week after breaking up with my girl of 7 mos th... (read in full...)
Should I stay with him or go have fun?
Q. Ok so, I've had boyfriend for a year and 3 months now and we never have any problems just a couple small arguments, you know normal stuff... but the problem is lately I have been feeling just kind of like I wish I was single. My friends have been ...
A. 7 June 2010: Trust me. Go have fun. 17 yr old guy telling you this.
I was with my ex 7 months, my parents really liked her, but i just wished i could be single, or atleast experience someone new, even though my girlfriend never did anything wrong and was amaz... (read in full...)
Advice please! How can I get my ex off my back???
Q. How can i get my ex off my back without hurting her too badly? We were together 7 months and i broke it off about a week and a half ago. Mostly she was becoming way too obsessive (one of the last emotional texts she sent me before we broke up w...
A. 6 June 2010: I think going into whether or not she's lying is getting way off topic.
For the record, im not stupid but i believe her. I've stated that multiple times. but if shes lying or not is not the issue.
Moo's Mum:
Alright thank you. I'll definate... (read in full...)
Help! Who do I choose?
Q. well.. i have a friend who is very important to me, and we are very very best friends, and we understand each other, make each other laugh and etc.. i have known him for 2 years, and the thing is few years back his girlfriend died in his arms. he ...
A. 5 June 2010: Do what's going to make YOU the happiest.
Im not going to tell you who to pursue, you need to figure that out on your own. Youre going to want to be in a relationship that you can tolerate.
When it comes to relationships, i've found out the ha... (read in full...)
I really like him, but sometimes I need my space
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for 5 months now. It's been a kind-of rocky 5 months, but we've still been pretty happy. Just sometimes, I go through these phases, where I just need space and time away from him, but I put his happiness before mine. ...
A. 5 June 2010: I know exactly how you feel.
Just got out of a very similar relationship.
Ours lasted 7 months,
I put her happiness before mine always
we both have problems with our family
"The hard part is, I know he REALLY loves me, and somedays I ... (read in full...)
Advice please! How can I get my ex off my back???
Q. How can i get my ex off my back without hurting her too badly? We were together 7 months and i broke it off about a week and a half ago. Mostly she was becoming way too obsessive (one of the last emotional texts she sent me before we broke up w...
A. 5 June 2010: Zayla: My dad gave me that advice because she honestly has been the most amazing girlfriend i could ask for, aside from the emotional side. She does do a lot, is very sweet and caring and supportive, more so than other girls i know. I guess... (read in full...)
Help! I don't know where we stand...
Q. heyyy (: ok, so there's this boy i really like, and we admitted we liked each other quite a while back now, and ever since then we've been acting pretty much like we're going out. because we go to different schools, i don't see him that of...
A. 3 June 2010: Explain your feelings to him, basically say this to him.
Tell him it hurts that after all this, he doesnt trust you enough to commit to you.
The easiest way to make him commit is to give him a choice. Either he commits to a relationship, or... (read in full...)
Two potential relationships but I can't decide!
Q. Long story short. 2 girls, ones the ex, one I just met about a week and a half ago. Me and my ex broke up after 7 mos together a week ago after going downhill for about a month (more took a break, but we’re still single) because I can only...
A. 2 June 2010: thanks g, thats the way i was leaning just wasnt sure.... (read in full...)
He thinks he's too young to settle down!
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for 2 years. we never argue and we are great together. recently he has been thinking that hes too young to settle down because hes only 17 and says hes bored. he tells me he loves me, but he wants more excitement in ou...
A. 2 June 2010: Recent Personal Experience:
I love my ex-girlfriend. Told her i would be with her forever. Big mistake. Slowly, i realized that i just want to experience new people.
I do love her, and she loves me. But im 17, i dont want to spend the rest o... (read in full...)
He says there is "no spark"
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for over 7 months now, and lately we've been having a few problems. He says there's no 'spark' in our relationship anymore. when i asked him what he meant he said that he doesn't miss me as much as he used to ...
A. 1 June 2010: de ja vu. I was with my girlfriend for 7 months, told her i felt the spark was gone, she didnt know what i meant. 2 weeks later i decided maybe we should take a break. so a week ago, we broke up, still as friends and with plans to date a... (read in full...)
Is it true blowjobs taste awful?
Q. My gf wont give me one because she says they taste awful, but could it just be because of the guy she was with before? She said he had hygiene issues so I was wondering if that could be it. Is there anything that could make it less disgusting if ...
A. 1 June 2010: Certain things you eat can make semen taste better or worse.
Not that im an expert, but i do believe citrus (orages, limes, lemons) will give it more of a sweet taste while proteins (meat, nuts, eggs) make it more sour.
I think. you can d... (read in full...)
How do we communicate more effectively? And how do I keep from bugging him too much?
Q. my boyfriend of a year and i are great together, when we're physically together. i only see him about once a week, and all is well. the problem is, when we're not together during the week, i feel like things are a bit tougher emotionally. we'...
A. 27 May 2010: I just left a relationship that was very similar.
We're both 17, she drives, i dont. she lives maybe 40 miles away. Usually, i saw her once a week. there were times when i didnt see her for a month, and this summer had we still been together... (read in full...)
I told him how I felt and he stopped all communications with me. What happened?
Q. There's a boy I love and I told him how I feel for him. After that, I tried to contact him to talk to him more about it and find out how he feels for me. He stop all comunicational links to me and, now, I don't understand much. We were very good ...
A. 27 May 2010: here. a little personal story. Me and my girlfriend just broke up 2 days ago. Why? its not that i dont have feelings for her, i still deeply care for her, its just that she came on too strong. Started talking about marriage, having kids in the ... (read in full...)
It's getting hard to wait
Q. i like this guy and he claims he likes me back but every time i see him he is with his neighbor. when i ask him about it he claims there just friends. and when shes not around he flirts with me....... also he used to like my bff and then he broke up...
A. 27 May 2010: well then ask him to be your boyfriend! theres nothing wrong with that in fact he may like you more for being bold.
I cant think theres a better way to figure out how he's feeling about you than to ask him.
Good luck
xnickx... (read in full...)
How to tell her its time to take a break?
Q. Ugh. I hate that its coming to this. Im going to keep this as short as possible. My girlfriend and i have been together for 7 months now. I undoubtably LOVE her. She is the most amazing girl ive ever met. She's the type of girl i would want to...
A. 27 May 2010: well i cut it off last night around midnight. she was on the phone crying and i was finding ways to just put it off longer until she finally said i know its coming so just tell me...
Yes it killed me. At this point we're still talking as friends,... (read in full...)
How to tell her its time to take a break?
Q. Ugh. I hate that its coming to this. Im going to keep this as short as possible. My girlfriend and i have been together for 7 months now. I undoubtably LOVE her. She is the most amazing girl ive ever met. She's the type of girl i would want to...
A. 25 May 2010: I'm almost certain that i want to break up with her. And i know a break probably wont work either. Whats bothering me most is that i dont know how to break it to her without crushing her.
She's crying so much (i'm guessing) because things we'd use... (read in full...)
Help! Her past is freaking me out!!!
Q. Hello dear cupid, here I am again. Yesterday I had the strangest day of my life. With my Gf we are together for 7 months, and we really love and live together in same appartement.May be in future she will be my wife who knows. So yesterday she was ...
A. 3 January 2010: Im not sure.. maybe im the only one seeing this. maybe im just looking for the wrong thing, or maybe i looked passed the title. idk. the question i think here is
"But after yesterday fight I really got scared, don't know why, maybe she still fl... (read in full...)
Men and Rejection
Q. I once heard that once a man has rejected by a woman he will never pursue or respect her again. I am very curious to know how bad does rejection hurt the male ego. Is it really that hard for a male to get over the rejection and just be friends with ...
A. 2 January 2010: Honestly, it depends on the man.
If the man is about pride and you damage his pride and ego, there is a chance he will never pursue or respect her.
If the man is more easy going, and lets things slide, then maybe he will.
not all guys ar... (read in full...)
Not sure what to make of her signals please help me interpret them
Q. She is sending me mixed signals and I do not know what to make of them!!!!!!!? I met this girl a month or two ago and it seemed like we immediately hit it off. Lately we have hung out a few times with friends and **** and that is always cool, bu...
A. 2 January 2010: shes probably getting frustrated if shes not getting the same response back from you.. I could go on and on but to answer your question simply: Yes. It seems like she likes you. If you like her back, take a chance. the worst she can say is... (read in full...)
Agony Aunts... please help. My girlfriend is getting abused at home...
Q. Dear agony aunts, please help... Ive been talking to this girl for 2 months now. Shes gorgeous, smart, funny, sexy, has good morals, and i can hold a conversation with. Basically shes the perfect girl for me.. We're both juniors and 16.. Beca...
A. 2 January 2010: Okay haha. I guess im in love then. =D
Yeah i really dont want to put her into care and i know that would happen... i just didnt know if there were any alternatives..
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Soon after i woke up, i thought about that.. if my decision was sel... (read in full...)
What to do when the ex who messed you about wants you back? I never got over him!
Q. what do you do when you were with you're ex boyfriend for nearly 2 years, so in love.. but it all fell apart, because of his mistakes, he changed, started to treat me horribly, messed me about and so on.. nearly a year down the line after breaking ...
A. 18 November 2009: I have a friend in a similar situation as you. Im going to give you the same advice i give her. She refuses to listen to me, keeps going back and keeps getting hurt. You have a great guy now, stay with him. You're ex just wants you back so he can ... (read in full...)
Will I catch up to her? She's 6 feet tall, I'm 5'9"!
Q. I've been dating my girlfriend for 5 months and I love her a lot but she's taller than me she's 6 foot. And im 5 feet 9 inches will I catch up or pass her in height. ...
A. 18 November 2009: umm just curious... should height really matter? Im 6 feet 1 inch. My girlfriend is just over 5 foot. So you dont have that much of a heighth difference.
To answer your question, it depends on how old you are, and how old she is. Maybe you'll h... (read in full...)
One thing finally goes right for me, and now my dad is being unreasonable. Please help me understand this!
Q. Ok so i need some quick advice. Bad. I've had a rough time with relationships. Out of the 3 ive been in, ive been cheated on 3 times. Ive finally found an amazing girl, we've been talking since this past friday, so not so long. But we both thin...
A. 18 November 2009: grubbyduckling- actually it wasnt an online dating thing, i met her through a friend that my dad doesnt think too highly of. He knows her through his youth group. And i understand he's not ignorant, its just i dont understand this. And i know... (read in full...)
How is the best way to handle her text messages?
Q. Quick question, I have been having issues with a new girl I met after a really romantic weekend, and when I tried to talk to her, I get these phrases when we tried to talk on Monday (the day after). I'd sent her a few messages on Facebook, sent a ...
A. 11 November 2009: Yes... id have to say she's made it very clear she wants you to back off. After "I need you to please give me some space!!!! I'm not rushing into anything", you should have listened. Obviously this woman has no problems communicating, and knowing ... (read in full...)
I need your help aunts... Should I ask him out?
Q. Ok here goes, I'm 13 an I've liked one of my best friends for a year, but for a while he was being a bit off wiv me for a while but then today he was being really nice to me an sitting next to me in class and we were having a laugh, and it was such ...
A. 11 November 2009: Well, if you've liked him for a year, thats an awfully long time to wait! I say go for it. Like caring guy said, you need to be brave. Hopefully he'll say yes, but if he doesnt, dont worry, at least you tried, and theres nothing wrong with that.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend, my "friend" and I...
Q. so i love my girlfriend we've been goin out for 6 months n its been great...the problem is i lost a friend because of it well this is the story when i met her she had a boyfriend we talked and talked for hours we became really close friends my frien...
A. 11 November 2009: You did a great thing, your so called friend is being selfish.
What he's saying is if i cant have her then no one should be able to.
He's obviously not being too friendly by trying to steal her off of you is he?
If you’ve been with her 6 m... (read in full...)
I'm scared to give him a hand job in case I do it wrong!
Q. I'm 17 and i've only ever kissed and made out with guys. I'm now going out with this guy who's 18 and more experienced and i want to give him a hand job, but i dont know how to do it and i'm scared he might judge me if i do it wrong. Should i tell ...
A. 11 November 2009: Dont lie, then he'll judge you and expect you to be great.
Instead, simply tell him you've never done it before, want to do it right to please him. He'll more than likely gladly show you/explain to you what he wants you to do.... (read in full...)
Why do guys say I'm not attractive?
Q. Hi SO what to do! I have been told in my ols school i am really pretty and was popular and had many bf but know if we play spin the bottle no guy wants to kiss me. Ok not true they do but WHY do guys say I am not attractive? When I used to get ...
A. 11 November 2009: Heres my spin on it (not that the sex thing is wrong), Here’s just a different take (seeing as I have a similar problem.
Why dont others think of you as “pretty”? In my case, its reputation. I used to be a quiet guy. Very emotional, kinda aw... (read in full...)
How would I date an amputee without making him feel uncomfortable?
Q. I moved into a new place and caught a glimpse of a guy who is lives few blocks away. I was very drawn to him. Only on the fourth time i saw him completely to realise he didn't have an arm. I was shattered! i was hurt and felt like throwing up. I ...
A. 11 November 2009: i wouldn't say you love it... that may come off the wrong way, and would probably make him feel uncomfortable.
Treat him as a normal human being. YOU have to be comfortable with him. Only talk about it if he brings it up, or ask him about it. He's... (read in full...)
How can I get my ex boyfriend back?
Q. Hey, Recently my boyfriend and I broke up and I want him back. We broke up over a week ago and are on speaking terms. I see him at school every day and today he told me that the reason he broke up with me was because he was the one doing most of ...
A. 11 November 2009: Think about he might feel. If you are on speaking terms, thats good. PROVE to him that you are willing to put more effort into a relationship, by doing things for him now without letting him know you expect a relationship in return. And yes, Dr Bex ... (read in full...)
I want to fight for this girl...so anyone got any good tips?
Q. Its me again. This one will be short and sweet i promise, no 1000 word questions this time. Background----------------------- 6 mos ago I had this little crush on a girl, except my vulgar best friend (unintentionally) complicated th...
A. 11 November 2009: Thanks! yeah it does help a little. I already made the fact that im interested and not going to bug her clear via text. Honestly, id find a card a little creepish.
And at this point its too early for me to tell if theres anything i could do to ge... (read in full...)
I promised I would, but now I am not sure if I should break up with my girlfriend?
Q. So here's the situation. My ex broke up with me months ago. I'm insanely in love with her. In the months following she would hold my hand and stuff, but tell me we can only be friends "for now" then she got a new bf, and i figured it was t...
A. 10 November 2009: Needless to say, one more reason you should NOT leave her for your ex. She's just messin with ya man. Enjoy the beautiful girl you have. Maybe i should give you some examples why not. Not my last ex, but the girl before her told me frequent... (read in full...)
Is my step cousin flirting with me?
Q. I am probably imagining this but still just want to make sure. My step-cousin came up behind me without knowing and there was no space(right up against me) and when I moved over so he could get by he just followed my footstep, then after a minute he ...
A. 10 November 2009: no you probably shouldnt worry about it.
If he is, he is your step cousin, no blood relation, so there is nothing wrong with it. Ive heard of step brothers and sisters dating before...
Im guessing hes not, but how long have you known him? if he... (read in full...)
I promised I would, but now I am not sure if I should break up with my girlfriend?
Q. So here's the situation. My ex broke up with me months ago. I'm insanely in love with her. In the months following she would hold my hand and stuff, but tell me we can only be friends "for now" then she got a new bf, and i figured it was t...
A. 10 November 2009: I must say you've put yourself in quite a situation.
If you are with your girl now and its fine, dont ruin it. Can't fix what's not broken, you can only ruin it.
Your ex is playing you. I was your age not to long ago, and girls at your age have... (read in full...)
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