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*annytreehorn
writes:Hi allI'm 27, and my ex is 24. I asked a question on here not too long ago about my girlfriend having become disinterested about our relationship. We broke up about 2 weeks ago and it was all mutual and amicable and we both agreed that it was for the best. Since we broke up we have spoken a couple of times by text, basically just supporting each other through the break up, which didn't get weird until earlier on. We're still friends on facebook (now i know this is going to sign juvenile) and i got a text saying she can't bear having to see on my facebook page the fact that i'm going out with friends and arranging nights out etc because she seems to think that this means i am moving on with my life and leaving her behind while she is still mourning our relationship, which is just not the case.Any help greatly appreciated as to what to do. I don't want to break contact with her but her sending messages like this is messing with my head
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2010): (I wrote the first message)
Well you know what? Taking her off could be heartbreaking. Dont do that. Just dont let her see that dating side of you for now. She wants to feel that she meant enough to you to take a while before dating.
Get into a conversation one day and tell her that you shouldnt have to be afraid to leave things on your facebook if its going to mean constructive criticism on her part. And if it continues youre going to have to remove her as much as you dont want to. This way you let her know where you stand and that you still respect her enough that it will hurt you to delete her.
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reader, xnickx  +, writes (24 July 2010):
 Sometimes, theres not much you can do.
As you said, shes messing with your head.
She's trying to make a bigger problem out of something small, hoping to guilt you into slowing down your moving apart. It sounds to me like she still wants you to be more than friends.
If she cant bear to see you on facebook, tell her if it would help her get over the break up, you can de-friend her on facebook for a while, and still keep in contact via text, and maybe down the road re-friend her.
But if this is a last ditch effort on her part to get your attention again, then she may instead just lose interest and start falling by the wayside
Nick.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2010): Its normal in these cases. Whats really going through her head is that she cant believe youre already dating only two weeks or so after breaking up. She feels you never really loved her in the first place. Maybe you ought to be discreet in your dating. Personally i would take her off for this same reason. Its like youre still her man.
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