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2 June 2010: -Introduction- At first, I was going to call this article “You Can Get Any Girl You Want” but that’s false, and too cliché for my liking. This article isn’t telling you how to get any girl you want, it’s more any girl I want. The truth is, ...
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1 August 2008: I try to answer as many questions from other teens as I can. However, the question I have seen the most since I joined a few weeks ago is “I am afraid of rejection. How do I ask him/her out?” Well unless I’m mistaken there is no magic way to ask ...
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I promised I would, but now I am not sure if I should break up with my girlfriend?
Q. So here's the situation. My ex broke up with me months ago. I'm insanely in love with her. In the months following she would hold my hand and stuff, but tell me we can only be friends "for now" then she got a new bf, and i figured it was t...
A. 10 November 2009: Needless to say, one more reason you should NOT leave her for your ex. She's just messin with ya man. Enjoy the beautiful girl you have. Maybe i should give you some examples why not. Not my last ex, but the girl before her told me frequent... (read in full...)
Is my step cousin flirting with me?
Q. I am probably imagining this but still just want to make sure. My step-cousin came up behind me without knowing and there was no space(right up against me) and when I moved over so he could get by he just followed my footstep, then after a minute he ...
A. 10 November 2009: no you probably shouldnt worry about it.
If he is, he is your step cousin, no blood relation, so there is nothing wrong with it. Ive heard of step brothers and sisters dating before...
Im guessing hes not, but how long have you known him? if he... (read in full...)
I promised I would, but now I am not sure if I should break up with my girlfriend?
Q. So here's the situation. My ex broke up with me months ago. I'm insanely in love with her. In the months following she would hold my hand and stuff, but tell me we can only be friends "for now" then she got a new bf, and i figured it was t...
A. 10 November 2009: I must say you've put yourself in quite a situation.
If you are with your girl now and its fine, dont ruin it. Can't fix what's not broken, you can only ruin it.
Your ex is playing you. I was your age not to long ago, and girls at your age have... (read in full...)
Any tips about phone sex? How do I avoid being awkward?
Q. So my girlfriend and I live in two different cities and she constantly wants phone sex..I have never had phone sex before so I usually stay quiet..I need some advice on what to say to her..I want to give her the satisfaction she wants......
A. 10 November 2009: Personnally, whats always worked for me, is one of us ask the other what their fantasies are, and then we talk them out, being very descriptive and sensual.
the easiest thing i could tell you about how to avoid being awkward is be 100% honest w... (read in full...)
How can I stop all these nasty jibes about my boyfriend just because he's dyslexic?
Q. So, about two months ago, I started dating a guy. He's my first boyfriend, and the one I lost my first kiss to. He's unbelievably nice, kind, and sweet. He always treats me well and makes sure I am alright. He calls me all the time just to make sure ...
A. 10 November 2009: Dyslexia has nothing to do with intelegence. I am slightly dislexic (if i dont catch myself) yet am at the top of my class.
DrP is 100% right about the sandwich thing. If she's saying he's retarded, yet she dated him, then thats not saying m... (read in full...)
Her boyfriend is in the way!!!
Q. About 2 months ago I started school at college. In one of my classes, I saw this girl for the first time and I knew that I was going to talk to her. After class I went and had lunch with her and immediately we got along. About a week later, she ...
A. 9 November 2009: being 2 years younger than you, take my advice however you will, but im going to tell you ive had a lot of experience with girls that do that.
Take somethings into consideration. She cheated on this guy. What makes you think she won't cheat on... (read in full...)
So much drama with this girl...is it worth it?
Q. I know this looks long but the question is short. 2/3 of it is just part of the argument we had that id like you guys to weigh in on. This is kinda a follow-up to my earlier question: http://www.dearcupid.org/quest...
A. 9 November 2009: Sorry i havent been on here in a while.
Point blank, the situation probably got out of hand. Girl A who i was going to homecoming with ended up seeing a 24 yr old guy behind my back. we're both 16. great. So i broke it off with her 2 days before h... (read in full...)
So much drama with this girl...is it worth it?
Q. I know this looks long but the question is short. 2/3 of it is just part of the argument we had that id like you guys to weigh in on. This is kinda a follow-up to my earlier question: http://www.dearcupid.org/quest...
A. 7 October 2009: Aunty Em...
Thanks ive been a fan of your advise for a while.
Um yeah. Me even thinking about more than 1 girl at a time is unusual for me. This is all kinda new to me... For so many girls to take notice is kinda new. Its been over a year sinc... (read in full...)
Should I carry on trying to take things further?
Q. hi. I know this might sound a bit stupid but i am totally unbearablely obsessed with this guy. We don't know each other very well but we have been going to the same hockey club for 1 or 2 years and he's recently started at the same school as me. ...
A. 6 October 2009: Atleast try. Seeing as how i cant see you/dont know you or him, i cant tell you whether he is out of your league or not. There really is, however, no such thing as "out of your league" with a little perserverance, you can get about any guy to... (read in full...)
How do I convince my mam to let me date him again?
Q. My ex,, i still like him loads,, but it was a complicated relationship before all because of the lies my uncle was telling my mam when he didnt even know the boy i was going with,, he never knew his name or out but my uncle was telling my mam that ...
A. 6 October 2009: Tell your mam this. Explain it basically the same way you said it here. If she doesnt believe you, then have her talk to him, or surely one of your friends or his friends could vouch for him. This is a tough spot, but i wish you the best of luck... (read in full...)
When will the awkward flirting/crush period stop?
Q. When will the awkward flirting/crush period stop? or well I mean, I'm just waiting for him to ask me out but he hasn't yet... I am pretty sure he has a huge crush on me because he is always doing these things: We were sitting at dinner yester...
A. 5 October 2009: Completely agreed with everything else... ...or, you can always ask. It does sound like he likes you, and you seem pretty sure yourself. Guys do find it a bit of a turn on when a girl takes charge, so id say go for it. I dont think you'll be d... (read in full...)
My love for my bestfriend
Q. okay, well i have this girl bestfriend that ive known for about two years now. when i first met her, i was dating this other girl i thought i was in love with. during that time, i never really payed attention to my bestfriend yet. i never pai...
A. 23 July 2009: Well that certaintly was long, but as someone who writes 1000+ word questions i felt obligated to answer it, because id want someone to answer mine. Well reading through it, you made a good choice getting rid of your ex that kept cheating on you,... (read in full...)
I want to be there for him, but I don't know how if he won't tell me what's wrong?
Q. Please help,I don't know what to do. Me n my bf,have been together for nearly a year now, my parents broke up last night of a 13 year relationship and a 4 year marrage. Im 15, and its my mum and step dad are the ones who have broken up. My bf, ha...
A. 14 July 2009: I am going to tell you this, because recently the same thing has happened to me.
I am rather open about it, because of how horrible my mom treated me, and all the rumors she spread about my dad and me just setting it straight.
However, i ca... (read in full...)
Is she just being herself? Or could her flirting be more?
Q. Ok... well... maybe someone could clear this up for me. Im going to try to cut this to the chase because im infamous for writing 1000+ word questions. Never could figure out when a girl was flirting with me, especially this one. She's very flir...
A. 14 July 2009: hey thanks guys. Your oppinions have been much appreciated.
I think im just going to do what you guys suggested and stay friends, especially jc's yours helped a lot!
Thanks!
Nick... (read in full...)
How can I get over my boyfriend betraying my trust?
Q. First off. I love my boyfriend and I will not break up with him so please do not encourage me to do so, your efforts would be in vain. Throughout our relationship , alcohol has never been an option. He would never let me drink and he made me s...
A. 12 July 2009: Im just going to pick out a few key statements in you question:
I mean if I had done the same thing he would have ignored me for at least a week and possibly dumped me!
I don't know what to think, I obviously can't trust him
on the other h... (read in full...)
How can I ask her out with her friend being there?
Q. Ok so I'm 13 and I don't know what to do. I know have decided to hang out with this girl I've started to like and i though We'd go to like a movie, but we're going to my house so I was like OK then she said her friend(girl) was coming. How can I ask ...
A. 12 July 2009: Youre confusing love with liking her, which is quite all right. most people think their first like is love, heck i did.
If you like her, then theres nothing wrong with her coming over to your house.
Theres nothing even wrong with you asking ... (read in full...)
How can I confront her in order to make things better?
Q. Sorry in advance that this is so long. Here's something I'd like some advice on. I've been thinking about this a bit, and it's just been something on my mind the last few days and something I'd like answered. I started talking to this girl the...
A. 12 July 2009: hey sorry... if your still waiting for a response sorry. i havent visited this site in a long time...
Well, by now i've moved on, but it ended on the premise that she still wouldnt talk to me, her friends still insisted that she liked me (yet by ... (read in full...)
I like her but I'm not sure if I want to be in a relationship with her
Q. Hi, I started talking to a girl who's a few months younger than me (I'm almost 17) a couple of months ago. At first, I was very excited to get to know her. We've hung out a handful of times and she seems to be very interested in me (and her friends ...
A. 12 July 2009: as for writing so much dont worry about it... the few i have written were both overe 1000 words a piece =)
If i was you in that situation, i would very much like to know if she liked me back, especially if there was no one else i was interest... (read in full...)
How come guys always change when you get too close to them?
Q. How come guys always change when you get too close to them? This guy that I know at school always trys to make me laugh and when I'm sitting with my best friend and he's trying to talk to me he will try to dodge her head to talk to me face to face. ...
A. 22 April 2009: I think he may like you.
Or he would just rather talk to you face to face, at least thats how i prefer to talk to someone.
Some guys are just like that. If you are referring to the texting thing as selfish or narcisstic, i dont necisarrily... (read in full...)
So depressed and confused over the two boys in my life...what can I do??
Q. My boyfriend split up with me the other day and then i got with this other lad J, and i was happy at first, but now im not too sure. Lately i have been feeling really depressed and sad and emotional and have lately been crying much more than i used ...
A. 18 September 2008: OK. i feel like this alot. its tough to pick and choose. when me and my ex broke up, there was her friend that i kinda liked and liked me back, but i realized i might want to go my ex after a while when she stopped acting so childish, and that going ... (read in full...)
I met one of my girlfriend's friends and now I sort of want to date her. But if things went wrong, I'd like to go back to my current girlfriend. What do I do?
Q. ok. ive been with my gf (im 15 she's 14) for close to 2 mths. yesterday, her school had a pep rally (she lives about a half hour away). I went to hang out with her, but she's a cheerleader, and most of the time i didn't see her. I met two of her ...
A. 28 August 2008: Hey id just like to say thanks to everyone thats been helping me. Unfortunately, the only thing that worked out was she broke up with me last nite. At least i didn't have to worry about hurting her. As for her friend, my gf and her mom told my dad ... (read in full...)
I met one of my girlfriend's friends and now I sort of want to date her. But if things went wrong, I'd like to go back to my current girlfriend. What do I do?
Q. ok. ive been with my gf (im 15 she's 14) for close to 2 mths. yesterday, her school had a pep rally (she lives about a half hour away). I went to hang out with her, but she's a cheerleader, and most of the time i didn't see her. I met two of her ...
A. 27 August 2008: Unfortunately, last nite on the phone we kind of had an argument so i dont know what to think of it now. Id be nice if someone could let me know what they think of my updated situation.
Everything she has said bad about me, she lied about and took... (read in full...)
How can I talk to this guy I like!?
Q. I really like this guy, but i'm always nervous arround him, i want to talk to him. Everytime i see him i freak out, and when he talks to me..i give short answers and then just walk away..i don't know what to do. I really wish i could get over it. ...
A. 25 August 2008: Just try to make a conversation with him. If he talks to you he cleary atleast notices you. Try not to be nervous, but if you are that's ok. Everyone gets nervous when talking to someone they like for the first time. Good luck!... (read in full...)
What should I do?! I want to know if he loves me!
Q. im prego and im 15 years old... me and my baby's father planned this baby. he broke up with me shortly after we found out that im prego. im in love with him and i know u may say im to young but i know how i feel and it wont change. he is acting ...
A. 25 August 2008: Im sorry but gecko 12 is right. He wants out and nothing to do with you or your baby. The only thing you can do to see if he loves you is ask him how he feels.
I don't know a ton about this stuff but if you need help just send me a message.... (read in full...)
I met one of my girlfriend's friends and now I sort of want to date her. But if things went wrong, I'd like to go back to my current girlfriend. What do I do?
Q. ok. ive been with my gf (im 15 she's 14) for close to 2 mths. yesterday, her school had a pep rally (she lives about a half hour away). I went to hang out with her, but she's a cheerleader, and most of the time i didn't see her. I met two of her ...
A. 25 August 2008: I would never cheat on anyone. When I was in elementary school and when ppl had gf’s just to have gf’s I was cheated on. And even then it hurt. I didn’t flirt back. I didn’t even let her know I wanted to be more than friends. The only reason ppl ... (read in full...)
I'm shy...should I invite her to do something together?
Q. I'm 14 and I have a crush on a girl with the same age. I met this girl in the ending of July and I talked with her for three days (long enough to develop my crush). In August, she went on vacation to a far place, but we kept talking by ...
A. 24 August 2008: dont worry. if you never ask youll never know. everyone gets nervous, its normal. She'll more than likely to be nervous too. you really cant make a mistake as long as you be yourself, if she doesnt like you for yourself, she wont like you at all. If ... (read in full...)
I met one of my girlfriend's friends and now I sort of want to date her. But if things went wrong, I'd like to go back to my current girlfriend. What do I do?
Q. ok. ive been with my gf (im 15 she's 14) for close to 2 mths. yesterday, her school had a pep rally (she lives about a half hour away). I went to hang out with her, but she's a cheerleader, and most of the time i didn't see her. I met two of her ...
A. 24 August 2008: btw, i just talked to my gf and she told me the girl that i met was telling everyone i was her bf. My gf also told her best friend that the girl did that. Who knows who else she told. Now my gf and her best friend are telling me she's psycho and... (read in full...)
We broke up even though I think it was love. He's mentioned dating again; should I consider it?
Q. me and my boyfriend had been dating for 3 of 4 months...we did almost everything together. in march my daddy passed away and he had stayed at the hospitol w/ me the whole time..i thought adn still think it was love...after he broke up w/ me he ...
A. 9 August 2008: Well i think maybe you should. He seems like he's into you because talking on the phone for hours every nite takes up a lot of his time. A lot of guys wouldn't just talk on the phone for hours with just a friend. He's obviously trying very hard to ... (read in full...)
Any advice as to how I can ask this boy to go out with me?
Q. Ok i need some love advice... Im 15. I have a friend, i want him as more than a friend though he is also 15. How do i get him to notice me? [he already talks to me as we hang out in the same group of friends, but i want him to notice me in a l...
A. 9 August 2008: If i'm going to notice someone, i'm going to look for someone who shows interest in me.
Just start being a little more flirty. Make eye contact, give him a bashful wink or something. Just give him a sign, and if he's interested he'll flirt ba... (read in full...)
My girlfriend broke up with me because she said I'm no good in bed.
Q. Hey i am a 15 year old male. I recently lost my virginity to a girl who i love she is 3 years older than me, we were going out at the time. She recently broke up with me saying that because i was so bad in bed she ahd to go somewhere else for...
A. 7 August 2008: Being a 15 year old male myself i understand a lot of what you're saying. You love this girl and will do any thing for her right?
Agreeing with dearkeljia, why do do you want to win her back? do you love her only cause she is hot or she gave you... (read in full...)
How can I build up a friendship with a teacher having someone to lean on when I'm upset?
Q. Heya All I need a teacher i can trust and talk to, when im upset ect... Ive gota couple of teachers that i get along with.. soo thats a start. How can i build up a friendship with a teacher having someone to lean on when im upset. I find it h...
A. 2 August 2008: I see where Ask oldersister is coming from, but some times it's just easier to talk to a teacher who you see alot, rather than a counselor who you only see when you need help.
You said you have a couple of teachers you get along with. Are any of t... (read in full...)
My friend doesn't seem to fancy anyone. Is something wrong with her?
Q. I have a question on behalf of a friend. She is 14 and last year she had a serious - I mean serious - love for a male actor (she is female btw). She often talked about wanting to bed him etc. However, now she has not mentioned a crush of any...
A. 1 August 2008: Yeah definately don't rush her. She'll come around. I (at 15) wasn't interested in anyone at my school and kinda wondered the same thing. I went to a party, not to find someone, just to have fun, and i found a perfect girl for me. It could be as ... (read in full...)
Why does he give me random attention and then ignore me for days?!
Q. Hey. Im just wondering if you can help me understand something about this lad. Ok, so one day he'll give me all his attention, talk to me, flirt with me, compliment, text me, Msn and everything then the next day he won't even aknowledge me - Im as ...
A. 1 August 2008:
I don't know if this is the case or not, but some guys will play kind of "hard to get" because it gets the girl thinking and wondering about him and if he really likes her or not. Apparently you're thinking about him now and confused. This real... (read in full...)
This guy seems to like me but is acting strangely, I don't know where I stand.
Q. Okay, here goes nothing. March 8th, 2008. I'm sitting on the computer bored as hell, when I get an e-mail from Facebook. This cute guy at my school added me, though I didn't know who he was. Turns out he added me because he found out we had somet...
A. 1 August 2008: Hmm. You said you fessed up over MSN. First did you actually tell him you have feelings for him? Second how did he react? Initiating hugs is definately flirting, so he wants to get to know you better. Next is he a guy who typically gets g... (read in full...)
My friend asked the boy I fancy if he loves me; I will took to him soon, what shall I say to him?
Q. I'd like to begin by saying thankyou to those who are going to help me with my current predicament and if you need any help i will be there for you also! i love this guy. i have for three years. and i know some would think i'm to young to know lo...
A. 31 July 2008: gecko12 is right. What you call love changes as you get older. But if you think you love him, you probably do. What exactly did your friend and the boy say? i think i understand but it's a bit confusing. Trust is one of the most important thi... (read in full...)
I'm afraid my girlfriend will be scared off by my parents! they yell all the time.
Q. Sorry, this is gonna be long but I need your help. Please. I’m 15. great parents but they don’t get along. Constant yelling and verbal abuse. Mom yells 24/7. dad has made me grow up too fast and routinely gives me 30-60+ min speeches on how ...
A. 26 July 2008: Thank you guys so much for taking the time to help me.
rcn: My parents have tried counceling in the past and recently too. My mom stopped going and the situation got worse after it. I definately agree she's controlling. I'll tell my dad to stand... (read in full...)
I made out with another boy and I swear I can't tell my boyfriend. I feel terrible!
Q. hi, well im 14 and i have been going out with my boyfriend for 6 months. i went to a party and i got really drunk. we made out on the beach. this other guy means nothing to me, at all. we both agreed that we shouldn't tell anyone. it will never ...
A. 23 July 2008: If you've been together 6 mths and you love him, chances are he loves you back. If he loves you, he'll definately understand, although he might be mad.
My oppinion is you should tell him what you told us:
The other guy means nothing, you'll swear... (read in full...)
I met a realy nice guy and I thought we liked each other - then he's telling me he's really depressed because he likes some other girl! Should I tell him how much I like him?
Q. recently ive met a few new people, this one guy, i really like we've metup a few times, and the last time we met up he put his arm round me and things and it was really nice. that night after he left he asked me if i enjoyed it, i thought that...
A. 23 July 2008: This guy could be doing a couple of things. First, he may want to see how you'll react, or two he might be playing games with you to see if you're jealous or something. If you two went out and had a good time he probably likes you and just as ... (read in full...)
She says she likes me as a friend - what can I do to change her mind?
Q. Hi everyone, I need help. Tonight i kinda got rejected by this girl i like. We have been getting along really well and talkin on msn all the time and we always send each other kisses and that sorta thing. Well anyway we were going to go out t...
A. 23 July 2008: Angel dust is right that there isn't a whole lot you can do if she just wants to be friends. The "friend zone" is a tough place to get out of but if you show her you can be more than friends she may reconsider.
Keep in contact with her like you... (read in full...)
How do you define "love" ?
Q. I read a question posted recently that got me thinking: Can you fall in love before sex? Well, the answer is plain and simple: of course! But what I started thinking about was, how do people view love and sex? I know for a fact, for instance...
A. 23 July 2008: You're 100% right.
Sex doesn't mean love. If you have sex before you love it's probably just lust.
About finding that "special person" though, never give up. I personally say if someone shows interest in you, you should at least try to get... (read in full...)
Any advice on how to talk to a girl I like without getting so nervous?
Q. hi. im 14 years old and i like this one girl a lot but whenever i try to talk to her i get really nervous, bt i can talk to other girls just fine. any advice? thanks in advance...
A. 22 July 2008: i don't know if this is helpful at this point or not but i had the same problem and only 15. Im assuming she doesn't know you like her. I was at a party a few weeks ago and met this amazingly hot girl. But when my buddy left for a few minutes to get ... (read in full...)
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