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I think I led him on and now don't know what to do

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Question - (12 July 2010) 3 Answers - (Newest, 8 September 2013)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hi,

I am 17 and just had my first kiss with a guy. I went to prom with him, had a good time, but then haven't really talked to him since last night. I never really liked him even though he's the perfect guy and now I'm afraid I've led him on with that kiss from last night, and the things I said. Should I tell him I don't want a relationship or go into it anyway because I'm probably just nervous?

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A male reader, adfadfadfadf United States +, writes (8 September 2013):

It depends on the guy. If he is trustworthy, then tell him you don't want a relationship. He will thank you for it later. If you don't trust him and you don't like him as a friend then just stop talking to him.

If you really love somebody, you will know in your heart, as another poster said. You will have no question, it will be obvious.

If you never fall in love, but you need somebody anyway, just be honest with them and tell them you don't love them, but you want to be with them. Never tell someone you love them when you know you don't. These are lessons learned from painful experience.

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A male reader, xnickx United States +, writes (12 July 2010):

xnickx agony auntJust want to say... dont 100% agree with strongfp. I mean that's one way to approach it, but us teenage guys arent always the best at figuring things out on our own.

If he comes on strong and asks you out, unfortunately, politely telling him you're busy, wont cut it. The more polite you make it, the more sincere he'll think it, and then will continue to ask you out until you do tell him the truth, and then he'll feel used and led on, not to mention that could potentially label you a liar.

"telling him the truth will ease the process of him moving on, and quicker as well." That part is definately true. Just tell him the truth.

Im speaking from recent experience, after going on a few dates with a girl, we held hands, nearly kissed twice, basically were extremely touchy with each other. Just by the act of almost kissing, and how flirty she was with me, i assumed she was into me. but she wasnt. She let me figure things out on my own, and i did after a week or so of her keeping putting off our next date, but now i havent talked to her since then, and have said some rather not nice things about her to my friends.

I guess honestly it all depends on what you want out of it.

Nick.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2010):

Well it could be that it was just a kiss for him and he won't contact you anyway, so only worry if it happens!

But if he does want more, apologise straight away and don't lead him on any more.

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