I'm a terrible housekeeper and I need tips...badly!
Q. I was diagnosed some years back with attention deficit disorder...it has not be a big hindrance to me professionally but I have paid a price in my private life. I struggle with keeping my condo neat and clean...no matter what I do I cannot seem to ...
A. 20 January 2007: Well you should do the cleaning in little chunks. When you notice something doesn't look too tidy then clean it at that moment (if you can). Don't give yourself too much tasks to do at one time. And when you put things 'down' try and put them ... (read in full...)
We're now known as the "6-sluts-of-scool" even though only one was really slutty!
Q. omg help please i was at my friends sleep over (im 13) and her parents left to go to the store which was 60 mins away. aways we were watch this funnny movie and doing nails and hair. when this really popular girl who happens to be my neighbor says ...
A. 20 January 2007: Of course it was ok to say no!!! You did the right thing. But had your parents still been on their way would you have gone ahead with it? Like you said, you are way too young to be having sex. If you know you didn't do anything slutty then there is ... (read in full...)
Did our landlord have the right to just "pop by unannounced"!?
Q. Ok, I moved into my first apartment about six months ago. It's a small studio apartment, which means it has one big living room, a kitchen, and a bathroom. That's it. When my friend moved back from out of state, I agreed to have her live with me.(I ...
A. 20 January 2007: I know exactly how you feel. Where I live there's always some plumber or someone in the house and I never know what's going on. They come in my room all the time and move my stuff around. Sometimes without informing me first they've even ... (read in full...)
My bf ex told me they were still together so I dumped him. He said she was lying. Who should I believe?
Q. Ok well the thing is that me and my boyfriend had just started going out. The sweetest guy ever but in the back of my head i thought he was too good to be true so when his ex girlfriend wanted to start talking mess to me about them still being ...
A. 18 January 2007: Hey, I got your message. :) Ok so maybe she was telling the truth and they are still together. Sorry to hear that. Well the only thing you can do now is move on from him and find another guy who you know for certain is 100% single. Forget about this ... (read in full...)
How comes no one has replied to my question? What's goin on?
Q. Hi. Last week I posted few questions on the website’s other option of “just post my question without registering”. By now I still have not receive any reply. Again here are my questions. Whether registered or not and when posting questions, can ...
A. 18 January 2007: When you post a question, yes everyone can read it and anyone can respond to it. You don't have to be a registered agony aunt. You can write as much as you like in a question however.... not a lot of people will read it and not a lot of people will ... (read in full...)
Can anyone tell me why men are such commitment phobes?
Q. Why do men fear relationships/commitment so much, even if they fall in love? Why can't they just "go with the flow"??...
A. 18 January 2007: To sum things up...It is inaccurate to make generalisations about males (or anyone for that matter) and not all males are commitment phobes. Some?Yes. Most?I don't know. All?Definately not.
It depends on the type of guy you attract and the sign... (read in full...)
We have a lot in common and I love him thing is... we've just met! What should I do?
Q. hey everyone I got this problem ok here it goes I like this boy who is 17 and he lives in South Carolina and he called me last night and we have been dating for a day but my problem is i love him and yes we have alot in common but we just met so ...
A. 18 January 2007: You are aged 13-15 and think you are in love? I'm not being funny but I seriously doubt that. Usually at this age love is often confused with infatuation and I think that that's what's happening here. You've only been going out with him for a day. 1 ... (read in full...)
Been together for 20 years and she still can't remember my likes and dislikes... including sex-wise!
Q. how can i get my wife to remember the things that i like without always having to repeat myself. this goes for almost everything sex included. i pride myself in trying to please her but she just dose not seem to want to know and complains when i ask ...
A. 18 January 2007: It sounds to me like your wife is being a little selfish. Have you tried talking to her about it? You know, sitting her down with her undivided attention and telling her what's on your mind? Maybe she doesn't realise the effects her actions have on ... (read in full...)
Our 1 year anniversary... ruined when I found the pics on his camera of another girl being all slutty!
Q. For me and my boyfriend's 1 year anniversary we went to the Morakami Museum, took a camera, loads of pics, everything was perfect. We sat down and ate, so I wanted to see some of our pics that we've taken so far. Going through them I saw pictures he ...
A. 18 January 2007: Sorry about your anniversary...and I know you feel really dissapointed right now but you just have to try not to think about it too much. Don't dwell on it try to focus on positive things.Don't bring it up again just move on from it and try to get ... (read in full...)
My bf ex told me they were still together so I dumped him. He said she was lying. Who should I believe?
Q. Ok well the thing is that me and my boyfriend had just started going out. The sweetest guy ever but in the back of my head i thought he was too good to be true so when his ex girlfriend wanted to start talking mess to me about them still being ...
A. 18 January 2007: Well just incase he is telling the truth you don't want to miss out on a good thing do you? Can you think of any times where he's been acting suspicious? Can you think of any legitimate reasons why there would be a possibility of him still being ... (read in full...)
I'm 24 and I feel embarrassed and ashamed that I met a guy online. Any thoughts?
Q. hi how u doing i met this man online about a year ago we get on really well got the same sense of humour hes really caring when things were going wrong for me he rings me up we have talked on the phone and sent each other one pictures im just...
A. 18 January 2007: I've met people online before and I don't really think it's anything to be ashamed of.I mean ideally you'd meet them in real life but it doesn't matter that much. Is this what you're thinking...? "internet dating is for old/middle aged pathetic ... (read in full...)
This guy keeps flirting with my girlfriend because he likes her. And I want him to leave her alone but she doesn't have the heart to tell him. What should I do?
Q. This guy likes my girlfriend and always tells her that he likes her, and that i don't deserve her, that he wants to be with her and all that stuff. My girlfriend is 100% loyal and im with her 90% of the day and the other 10% we're on the phone with ...
A. 17 January 2007: Why is she asking him to leave her alone? She should tell him. If I were her I'd blank him, ignore him, not talk to him, avoid him and talk about you non-stop when he tries to talk to me. There are so many ways to do this. Are you really telling me ... (read in full...)
Should I choose Sociology or Religious studies as a GCSE subject? plz help me choose.
Q. i'm 14 from England, London and i'm in year 9 and its time for my GCSE options. i already know which ones i'm going to take as i really really really would love to become a lawyer, i have my career planned out already. but the thing is i hate my ...
A. 17 January 2007: I think you should choose Religious studies. I did that for my GCSE and I got an A. So if I can do it, you can do it. What exam board are you with? AQA, OCR or what? RS is just common sense really. It doesn't take a genius to do it at GCSE level ... (read in full...)
This guy keeps flirting with my girlfriend because he likes her. And I want him to leave her alone but she doesn't have the heart to tell him. What should I do?
Q. This guy likes my girlfriend and always tells her that he likes her, and that i don't deserve her, that he wants to be with her and all that stuff. My girlfriend is 100% loyal and im with her 90% of the day and the other 10% we're on the phone with ...
A. 17 January 2007: Yeah I think you should go and talk to him man to man. Let him know that you are her man and he has no chance. Don't be violent or anything just be calm and sensible and make him understand that he needs to stay away. Also tell your girlfriend that ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my friend that she smells of BO?
Q. Hey my friend smells of BO.I don't want to hurt her feelings but I reaaly want to tell her, because she's my friend and I care for her a lot. I don't want things to change between us if I tell her this. I don't want it to be awkward. Could you...
A. 16 January 2007: The annonymous paper note in her bag is ok but make sure she doesn't recognise our handwritting!... (read in full...)
How do I tell my friend that she smells of BO?
Q. Hey my friend smells of BO.I don't want to hurt her feelings but I reaaly want to tell her, because she's my friend and I care for her a lot. I don't want things to change between us if I tell her this. I don't want it to be awkward. Could you...
A. 16 January 2007: Buy her a massive gift basket full of cosmetic stuff and really nice soaps and deoderants. Wrap it up nice and say "I was thinking of you so I got you this, I got one for myself at home coz it was on special offer - buy two get one half price. So ... (read in full...)
I have a lot of guy friends and when I get drunk I end up sleeping with them. Do you think they are taking advantage of me?
Q. I have a lot of guy friends, and when we all get together we get really drunk. I usually end up having sex with one of them. I love my friends there my emotional support. I am starting to second-question that? I live with my roomate (who is guy) we ...
A. 16 January 2007: Let me start off by saying that you might not like what I have to say and I will try and be tactful here:
Why are you sleeping with all these guys? Do you have a low self esteem? Do you need to have sex with different guys to know that you are desi... (read in full...)
I'm 17 and getting irregular periods...
Q. Ok, well i got my first period probably when i was 13, i'm now 17 and i don't think i've ever really had a regular period. I've had months between my periods, sometimes less than a month between them, i've also had heavy periods and ones that go for ...
A. 15 January 2007: What's your diet like? Do you have a regular eating pattern because I've heard that your diet affects it. Maybe you should see a nurse or a doctor about this and I'm sure they could tell you what's up.... (read in full...)
Does he only want me for sex even though he is really sweet towards me?
Q. I've been out on a couple of dates with my old high school teacher. He has been divorced for a little over a year with a daughter from his previous marriage. He's 26 years old, and I am 20. I can't help, but think, that he's only trying to sleep ...
A. 15 January 2007: I don't think you should give up on him and I don't think you are wasting your time. But whenever you have doubts about things like this you should always bring it up and get things straight.You should ask him one day, just to be sure and tell him ... (read in full...)
Tend not to like a guy until I've slept with him... then I'll obsess about him!
Q. hi. i hope someone can give me some reassurance or advice on a problem i have. every time i sleep with a guy i start to really like him, and i won't be able to stop thinking about him for months and months. Every thought i have is somehow related ...
A. 11 January 2007: As you've said yourself, you know that you have been sleeping with guys too early. You've accepted that that is where you've gone wrong. So the next step is to stop doing what you've always done. As I've heard once on 'wife swap' "If you do what ... (read in full...)
I'm 19 and a virgin and met a 41-year old woman on webcam... We're meeting this Saturday!
Q. Ok. I’m 19years old and have been desperate to lose my virginity for years, I’ve had chances to with decent girls but have stop our relationship getting to the next level because they where not virgins too. I don’t know what’s wrong with me, as I’ve ...
A. 11 January 2007: Don't be desperate to have sex. Because I'm telling you you will regret it. Believe me when I tell you I have been in your situaion except I went ahead and did it and now I regret my first time. Like you, I met the guy off the internet the guy ... (read in full...)
I'm chubby around the waist...when I start my period, will it go away?
Q. okay well im 14 and i have not started my period and okay i am chubby around my waist no where else and i try so hard to loose it but i never can is this baby fat and when i start my period it will go away plz help...
A. 10 January 2007: Nope I'm afraid not. The chubbiness is still gonna be there. But I wouldn't worry about it too much. This is easier said than done but try to do abdominal crunches, sit ups and drink more water and cut down on some of the unhealthy stuff that you ... (read in full...)
How do I draw the hair on my girlfriend's face to her attention, sensitively?
Q. I would like some imput on the best way to go about asking my girlfriend to remove some hair on her face. I know its not a huge deal and its natural, but this is the only flaw she has. The more i think about it, the more im drawn to look at it ...
A. 10 January 2007: Start by giving her lots of compliments and reassurance. I will now attempt this difficult task. lol. "You know I think you're really pretty that's one of the many reasons why you're my girlfriend. I think you are absolutely gorgeous. And I really ... (read in full...)
He still talks about other girls in front of me even though I have asked him to stop because it upsets me!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for just over a year and am quite an insecure person. Whenever he talks about other girls, be they famous or otherwise it really gets me down and i get upset. I have asked him to stop and even broke down crying one day ...
A. 10 January 2007: Think of it this way... Let's say your bf says Jordon is really fit. But guess who his girlfriend is? That's right. YOU! You're his girlfriend so you must be doing something right. He says that girl down the road is fit...guess who his girlfriend ... (read in full...)
Do I stop snooping and just confront him, demanding an answer?
Q. While paying the phone bill I found that my boyfriend sent 33 text messages in the past month. Not that unusual except that he has only sent 1 or 2 a month in the past and when I asked who he had sent so many messages to, he responded with a smile ...
A. 9 January 2007: Please stop snooping. Snooping doesn't get anyone anywhere. It's not good. You say you wouldn't like it if he was doing it to you so don't do it to him. I know you're curious and all that but curiosity killed the cat and what you don't know won't ... (read in full...)
My bf looks at gay porn and we hardly have sex anymore. I have to beg him to have sex.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year now, we were together once before but I broke up with him after the birth of our son. Now I catch him looking a porn and pictures of men with men on the computer but I have to beg for two or ...
A. 9 January 2007: He's probably in an experiemntal stage of his life right now or maybe he's bisexual or gay even? He's gotta be one of those because I've never heard of any completely straight guy who likes gay porn. You should discuss it with him and ask him what's ... (read in full...)
We went out for his birthday and he got drunk and let a girl touch all over him! I felt so stupid and small.
Q. Hi there, Just wondered peoples opinions on this situation. I have been seeing a guy for a couple of months now I am having doubts because of something he did which to be honest made me feel very small. It was his birthday and we met up with ...
A. 9 January 2007: Yes it made you feel small and I totally understand, I would feel the same. And yeah of course it's gonna bother you, some other girl is all over your man. But hey! He was drunk. Just don't think about it too much and push away the thoughts by ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's addiction to porn is ruining our relationship
Q. Iv been with my bf for 3 years, im 20 and his 25, the problem is I work all day and when I come home I often find evidence that he has been getting off to porn, it really bothers me because he says that his sex drive is low do to some medications he ...
A. 9 January 2007: Well since you're unhappy and he's the one causing it and you've asked him to do something about it and he isn't then... I think you'd be happier with someone else. You can't stop him from looking at porn. I think you should make him choose. Ask him ... (read in full...)
He lives on the other side of the world. I want to emigrate to be with him. Is this a good idea?
Q. Heres a question for you the only guy I have ever really liked - I think he is my soulmate (if there is such a thing) lives on the other side of the world we usually see each other once a year either I go there or he comes here, but realistically ...
A. 9 January 2007: Go and see him there (in the country he is in)for a holiday because you've said you both do that sometimes. So the next time you go just think while you're there if you could live there. If you'd like it there, if you'd cope well living there away ... (read in full...)
Since the birth of our child, he never wants to have sex. I feel ugly and low on confidence.
Q. my boyfriend never wants to have sex with me. i had a baby a year ago and since then he never seems to want sex. it's really upsetting me and i'v tried to talk to him about it but he gets upset and angry with me for mentioning the problem. he says ...
A. 9 January 2007: You've done the right thing by talking to him about it but since the problem is still there then I don't think you two have discussed it enough. You should talk to him about it again and tell him exactly how you feel and ask him to tell you exactly ... (read in full...)
Just casual sex buddies..but now I think I like him a bit too much! Advice?
Q. im need ur help plz ppl!!!! went to uni this year, drunk nite out, 1 nite stand. I dont want you to think i have one nite stands all the time, but it felt right, i wanted to and i REALLY fancied the guy, so i did. Anyway, he carried on texti...
A. 8 January 2007: You are not in a very good situation right now. And I am talking from experience because I have been in the same situation as you. I started liking this guy waaayyyyy too much and then I got hurt. I even posted a question on here (my very first ... (read in full...)
When we talk on msn messenger, he always ends up ignoring me. Is he chatting it up with other people?
Q. I am mates with a guy at college. We have been messing around (physically, but not having sex) after college alot the last few months. When we are at college, he is great with me and a good laugh. He takes me home after college a lot and we spend ...
A. 8 January 2007: Well MSN is such a thing where this can happen. I myself am guilty of ignoring people sometimes. It's not because I diliberately say "I don't wanna talk to _____ today I've got better things to do." It's because I'm busy reading eamils or on some ... (read in full...)
When my gf and I are together, she calls her male friend to join us. And when he's around, she pays more attention to him than me!
Q. I'm dating a lovely girl but I fear she could be hung up on someone else! I've been dating a girl for 2 months and everything seemed to be going great. When I'm with her she's thoughtful, very affectionate in and out of the bedroom. for the...
A. 4 January 2007: ok heres what to say:
"I like you alot and I think you're great but there is just one thing that is bothering me. Sometimes I feel like you pay more attention to your male friends than you do me. It's not that I'm jeleous it's just that as your... (read in full...)
He broke up with me. Now he's calling. Do I give him another chance or change my number?
Q. i met a guy back in july he seemed at the time to be everything i wanted we broke up in october he seemed to have 2 personalities one minute he seemed to be the best person i have ever known the next he was the worst. he seemed to have issues about ...
A. 4 January 2007: Do you want to get back with him? If you do then go for it. If you don't then simply don't and ignore his texts.
If you are not sure what to do then you must ask yourself some questions:
If you did get back with him what are your reasons for gett... (read in full...)
How do I flirt without looking like I'm showing off?
Q. i like a boy who is a says he's a lady's guy so im never sure if he really likes me. how do i find out? and how do i flirt whit out trying to show off 2 him?...
A. 4 January 2007: Don't worry about showing off. Just do what you feel like doing. If you want to flirt with him then just go for it. Have conversations with him and get to know him and pay him some compliments also drop hints. He'll get the point eventually.
O... (read in full...)
When does an age "difference" become an "age gap"?
Q. When does an age difference become an "age gap"? I'm always confused by this. I kind of always thought that an age gap relationship was when there is 10+ years between the partners, but I've just found out that my 8 year age difference puts me under ...
A. 4 January 2007: Age difference = Not the same age. One person is older than the other and vice versa. An age difference is neither positive nor negative it is neutral. It just is.
Age gap = Not being able to get along well, not having alot in common due to the age ... (read in full...)
I feel like we're perfect for each other because we just get along so well... except he has a girlfriend
Q. I'm 20 and I'm in love with a 29-year old guy. He's of a different nationality. We met in my University, he told me he had been watching me for a while and he would like to get to know me. At first I thought he liked me more than friends because he ...
A. 4 January 2007: Cut him off, stop talking to him. He used you and he is taking advantage of you because he knows that you have feelings for him. You may be good friends but he does not have your best iterests at heart. Please move on from him especially since he ... (read in full...)
When my gf and I are together, she calls her male friend to join us. And when he's around, she pays more attention to him than me!
Q. I'm dating a lovely girl but I fear she could be hung up on someone else! I've been dating a girl for 2 months and everything seemed to be going great. When I'm with her she's thoughtful, very affectionate in and out of the bedroom. for the...
A. 4 January 2007: As a woman, when I'm going out with a guy and if I really like him he gets my undivided attention and I will only have eyes for him and I will want to spend as much time alone with that guy as we both can stand. So to me it seems like she doesn't ... (read in full...)
Mistakenly told a friend I really like I loved her. She's distant to me now. What can I do to fix this?
Q. I met this girl a couple of months ago and we became good friends quite fast. She really likes my friend although he doesnt like her back. Anyway I ended up drunk a few nights ago and told her on the phone i loved her. Now I apoligised to he...
A. 4 January 2007: We all do dumb stuff sometimes when we're drunk so you are not alone. Apologise to her and tell her you were drunk and you didn't mean to freak her out and hope that things won't be too weird between you. Also it would be better if you told her in ... (read in full...)
I wrote this speech to sum up all the problems we have together... let me know what you think!
Q. i have writen a speach for my bf that will sum all the problems up can you tell me if it any gud and what can i do to improve it. names will be replaced by numbers " When you asked me out I was so happy as from the first moment I met u I knew yo...
A. 4 January 2007: This speech was good until I read the part about two girlfriends. Why are you with a guy who already has a girlfriend? Or a guy who has you as a girlfriend as well as some other girl? What's going on there?
Anyway it's good that you're going to talk... (read in full...)
How can you forget somebody you love?
Q. I split from my ex because I was constantly cheated on and lied to. She slept with a guy over 100 times over the space of 6 months. I finished her many times, only to take her back about 90 times. I felt like I needed her in my life, because there ...
A. 4 January 2007: I'm a little confused here. Are you talking about an ex wife or girlfriend or both? You separated from your wife (so shes your ex wife) and met your ex girlfriend? How can you meet your ex girlfriend? Do you mean you separated from your wife and got ... (read in full...)
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