Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
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reader, Abella  +, writes (25 January 2016):
 I have added this amazing question posted as "SITE NEWS: Wanted, your ideas for features and improvements!" to the compilation of Best Articles.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/22--great-articles-from-great-aunts-and.html
Because I want to be able to find this article showing the contributions of so many - all willing to offer suggestions to make this site better.
The amazing contributions by so many and the vision, hard work and good planning implemented to create and maintain this site were made possible by the founder of this site - Dearcupid
It is a wonderful site and your contributions make it so.
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reader, Abella +, writes (23 January 2016):
Aside from the contributions by Everstiff I think this is a brilliant post which I am going to add to my compilation of best articles - since I think the 70plus answers added to the original question qualifies as an article.
Delighted to see that a post about the font was raised all those years ago.
A fascinating historical blog detailing asked for changes, along with explanations. It was serendipity that I found this post
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reader, everstiff4u  +, writes (17 April 2009):
Andrew, I am still having a problem with finding my way around. Yesterday I posted an apeal which was really directed at you or someone appointed by you. I am looking for contact with elderly females who like me are sex starved for one reason or another and have to rely on self gratification aided by erotic correspondance..
A) Does the site cater for us and how do I make contact?
B) Does the site permit the exchange of member's personal private e-mail addresses through your own "private" e-mailing service?
C) I have written a number of ficticious fantasies. Are you interested in them and how would I send them to you?
All the best,
Dennis (the name I use in my family and to all my friends and acquaintances).
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reader, everstiff4u +, writes (16 April 2009):
I joined this site with the hope that it could help me with my problem. I know this is not a dating Site as such but I have rather specific needs. I am 77yo and my marriage has been sexless for some 30 years. I am still quite virile but suffer from lack of confidence in suggesting sex with older women. I have used masturbation for years to relieve myself and I am looking for females in a similar position for mutual stimulation through erotic e-mail exchanges. If I receive any such positive responses, is it allowable to give my personal e-mail address in a private email on this site so that I could use my ownuser friendly Outlook express?everstiff4u
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reader, Asexy +, writes (16 October 2007):
 This might help for the URL thing:
http://weblogs.asp.net/scottgu/archive/2006/01/18/435870.aspx
It's "UrlRewritingModule w/ Regular Expression Support for ASP.NET 2.0" -- I haven't checked it out closely but I think it's shareware.
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reader, Asexy +, writes (16 October 2007):
(1) ability to delete sent messages in the mailbox (I think the boxes that were supposed to be there have gone missing)
(2) ability to change our password and add a DOB if we forgot to add it while signing up (if it's already there I've missed it, sorry)
(3) once you rate an answer, it would be nice to see the average ratings of other people who've rated it (like "4.5 stars from 3 Aunts!") rather than the "thank you for rating" that shows up. That way rather than saying "me too" when someone already gave great advice, we could just add our 5 star and move on.
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reader, stina +, writes (15 October 2007):
 Hey Andrew,
I know that you have added this to a "wish list" for Dear Cupid, but I was just wondering what the status was for font alterations --
IYou said we will not be able to have linking capabilities in things such as our profiles, but will we be able to set our fonts to be bold / italicized?
I think that it would be particularly helpful in the articles. If one has different sections, each subheading could then have a bold or italic title.
Also, if you want a simple banner created for the site to make it look more appealing, just let me know! I'll create one and will not charge you (obviously!). Just let me know the size in pixels. ^_^ I could make several different banners and you could choose one to use.
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reader, DearCupid  +, writes (7 October 2007):
DearCupid is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hi Penta
That's a bug in the linking code I use. I'll take a look at it again to see if I can figure out how to improve it... if anyone is a regular expressions wizard please let me know!!!
Andrew
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reader, penta +, writes (4 October 2007):
 One last one. Is there a way when we're posting a URL for the query string to be hyperlinked too? Otherwise the link doesn't go to the right place. thanks!
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reader, DearCupid +, writes (2 October 2007):
DearCupid is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi Penta
Having been involved with online communities/forums for many years... I decided not to allow retrospective editing of posts on dearcupid. It can cause more problems than it fixes. So, it's a decision rather than a missing feature if that makes sense :-)
Andrew
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reader, penta +, writes (2 October 2007):
Sorry to keep asking for more stuff, but since you're asking... [grin].
Is there any way we can edit our own posts? (Maybe with an "edited by __" added underneath). I can't tell you how often I've hit "Add Your Answer" only to find that I've mistyped/misspelled something or said it differently than I meant it...
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reader, DearCupid +, writes (2 October 2007):
DearCupid is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi Penta
The order problem isn't solve-able because either you or the anon answerer (who went thru moderation) would be out of order.
Order is date written rather than date published, even if date published the anon answerer would then be out of sync.
I think numbered answers are the way to go :-)
Andrew
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reader, penta +, writes (2 October 2007):
It might help with knowing which anon poster said what, but it won't help the order problem, lol. But thanks.
It's just weird when someone says "Do this" and you respond "That's what I always do". But IN BETWEEN another post comes up and says "Do this other thing." You hadn't seen the "other thing" post and now the advice is off. That's what I meant by order.
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reader, brooke5426 +, writes (2 October 2007):
 that sounds like a great idea!
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reader, DearCupid +, writes (2 October 2007):
DearCupid is verified as being by the original poster of the questionEach answer will be assigned to a number e.g. this might be 50146 so if you want to refer to another answer, rather than saying something like "to female anon answer below" you could say "to 50145" so people would know who you are referring to.
Would that work?
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reader, penta +, writes (2 October 2007):
Hi Andrew,
not sure what you mean by ID numbers. What do the numbers refer to?
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reader, DearCupid +, writes (2 October 2007):
DearCupid is verified as being by the original poster of the questionPenta
Good point
I'll add a search through a specific aunt's questions, this month.
(ps. you can now browse all your answers as per my previous announcement)
Andrew
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reader, penta +, writes (2 October 2007):
Hi again.
You said: "Penta. If you have a good answer to an old question you can just copy and paste the full link and point the asker there."
Yeah, I know that, it's just that once it's off "my" page it's hard to find. Maybe if we can add to the search function the ability to search through a specific aunt's answers?
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reader, DearCupid +, writes (2 October 2007):
DearCupid is verified as being by the original poster of the questionPenta - there is no elegant solution to the order thing because someone will end up in the wrong place.
I'm tempted to put ID numbers next to the answer so people can refer to those (which will never change)
Regarding ratings. No one person can down rate you... trust me on this. There WAS a problem where the graph would show you had been down rated. This has been fixed and the actual key "number" was never effected.
Andrew
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reader, penta +, writes (2 October 2007):
It would be nice if things were posted in order. I know that some are moderated and take longer to post, but then suddenly your answer doesn't apply (maybe you responded to the "last" post, and then there are two posts in-between).
About the rating, I know you've changed the algorithm, but it can take an overnight hit if someone gets mad at you. I saw my ratings drop after responding to one guy (pretty much the way the other aunts did, too).
But what I was asking for (I think [grin]) was an aggregate rating for the advice on the specific page. Maybe once you rate something, the average rating for that question appears (where the "thanks for rating" currently shows) and if you're logged in, then rather than being able to rate your own, you'd see the average score of what's already been rated for that answer.
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reader, DearCupid +, writes (2 October 2007):
DearCupid is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk I made another update, you now see all questions answered on your column page as requested by Frank (and many others)... there is a widget to use to scroll through the pages.
Any problems please PM me.
Andrew
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reader, stina +, writes (2 October 2007):
Yay! ^_^ Thanks, Andrew!
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reader, DearCupid +, writes (2 October 2007):
DearCupid is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhat I've done so far:
* Users can now suggest their own title when asking.
* Stina, I've fixed the problem in the management section which allowed two people to login. As I suspected there was a difference in timeouts so I've corrected that. I've also added a logout button in the mod section (flower girl!) this allows you to logout and return to the main homepage, it also clears the mod section allowing someone else to login immediately (so should help improve question+answer throughput).
More to come.
Andrew
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reader, DearCupid +, writes (2 October 2007):
DearCupid is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDrastic - ok I see what you mean!
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reader, drastic knowledge +, writes (2 October 2007):
 no what i ment was that i could delet it from where i click on my questions not from the site
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reader, DearCupid +, writes (1 October 2007):
DearCupid is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAnother batch :-)
1. Stina, I'm working on getting more mods but it takes time to recruit them and if I get too many in one go it's hard to manage. I hope things will be better by xmas!
The mod area should alert people not to login when there is someone else active in there. I suspect that the message and the actual timeout are not the same which is when you get problems and two people in there at one time. I'll look into fixing this. I'm also going to provide a logout button which will immediately clear the mod section for others to use. I'm going to do those changes this month.
Ratings with answers and a full list of questions answered I've covered elsewhere. Ditto age on questions/answers.
I didn't progress with video answers because no one seemed keen on creating them... if there is any interest in people doing video answers I will do the change to let them happen, it's only a small change really! Any volunteers email me.
HTML in profiles I'll add this as a "wish" it's a little tricky though with how the site is setup and some HTML tags have potential to be dangerous.
Password change is not yet possible I'll add that functionality in October.
2. DanielEPew I can look at seeing how many 5* ratings other aunts have given an answer but as I've said before here most answers on average get under 1 rating. I'll look again though because it's a good suggestion.
3. Rhythm. There is already a weighting factor in the algorithm (but not for ratings by question asker where I simply present the average of the scores - and don't intend to change this). If you have specific examples of aunts whose ratings you think are "wrong" then please PM me them and I can look into it. I am may raise the number of ratings required before the user has their official "number" and goes on the top aunts list because this is probably the cause of the problem.
4. Rhythm (again :-) I am always reluctant to provide links to "expert" sites because those sites tend to change, they can have their own biases, they change over time and it's something else to maintain. But that reluctance can be overcome if you have example sites you think should be linked to, please PM me and I'll take a look.
5. Trev, interesting idea regarding forum with some criteria before you can join. I'll look at doing this.
6. Oblivia. I thought it worked that way but checked and it didn't. I've changed so that it now also gives follow ups on questions you've answered anonymously... well spotted, thank you!! The ratings formula is secret but is largely just an average of ratings (after careful filtering to ensure that no-one can cheat up or downrating people).
7. Female anon who can't find answers. When you ask a question anonymously you get a secret code. You goto http://www.dearcupid.org/find and enter the code and it will take you to your question. If that isn't good enough then you probably should register it takes like 60 seconds.
8 Loser. Sometimes mods get things wrong and sometimes that feature helps flag up answers that shouldn't have been published. It's not an automated process. Questions are posted on the homepage in date order and at the bottom of the homepage you can browse by year/month/day asked.
9. Flower girl, I'll add that link.
10. Brooke yes that's right.
11. Brooke (2), no, everything goes through some kind of approval.
Ok I'll try and finish off last few comments shortly. Some real good ideas here folks.
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reader, DearCupid +, writes (1 October 2007):
DearCupid is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk I've un-sticked here are more followups to the feedback :-) Great work, guys. One more post from me to come.
1. Frank, ages are always present unless the user joined the site before age was a mandatory sign-up question... if asking anonymously age is captured. I'm going to allow people who joined before the age question to set their age, during October.
I'm going to ensure that all questions you've answered are listed from your column page.
2. Superbunny; people will rate according to their feelings I don't intend to stop that. Also, the ratings are designed such that one person can't affect the outcome.
3. Penta. Individual answers get so few ratings (less than one, on average) to make the counting and displaying of those rating meaningless. Given how the ratings algorithm is designed and how the site is used, it is highly unlikely one answer will seriously negatively affect your rating.
4. Jmum, check out my reply above to Penta, think I cover your point.
5. Drastic Knowledge, agree that time to publish questions+answers needs to go down. I don't give a public option to remove questions asked because the whole point of DearCupid is that it is free and public. Without being public it couldn't be free (the site manages to cover its costs by showing adverts). People can PM me to ask that questions are removed but I would ask in return that they don't ask further questions. Logout is just one click away :-)
6. Lilli b. I think ordering by rating would be very confusing because replies tend to form a natural "narrative"... plus, individual answers get too few ratings to use as a statistic for ordering by. I'm going to provide access to the full list of questions answered by an aunt on the column page :-)
7. Richard_Emids, The result is seperated on the top aunts page. Users can leave feedback to a question where they can address individual answers but they can't leave feedback per answer as such. I'm fairly content with this granularity to allow feedback to each answer would probably reduce the amount of folks leaving feedback and adds complexity where I'm not convinced it enhances the site. The forums is just a place for free-form chat. The articles page does need tidying up!
8. Phiatiger, I've considered allowing questions to be allocated to aunts but I have never been able to conceive a process which was sastisfactory. If you have any specific idea how this could work please PM me.
9. CD206. If someone thinks the advice is good I'd hope they'd rate it as such I'm not sure I see any advantage with some kind of split ratings system.
10. Stina!!! Coming in the next post.
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reader, Ms.Sweet dreams  +, writes (1 October 2007):
 this site will be popular if u just put some design that make a reader encourage to ask question or be one of us. this site looks ordinary but helpful. i just wish that the ranking will not shown on to reader coz its just insulting for us that some of agony feel down that no one votes for them and the readers think that don't get advice for that person coz he/she doesn't know what she was talking about. i hope i can able to help u to improve ur site.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2007): show age range on main page or have different pages for different age groups so people who understand people their age can talk to each other.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2007): I would like to see a separate site to help out abused and battered partners (male or female). i do speak from experience as i was a battered, tortured and abused wife for 20 years. I cannot believe i went so long before if got away, so i would be able to give some helpful advice. Often when you are in a situation like this all you want to correspond with is someone who understand and listens to everything that you have to say.
Often people are quick to judge and tell you to get out but honestly, it is not that easy, i know, my own mam even took his side, which was hurtful then and still is.
A separate site where they can key in and have a friendly and helpful ear at hand.
Another point, i can never get back to the main homepage when i do moderator questions. I have to arrow back out or jump out of the whole thing altogether and log back in. What am i doing wrong?
I also think it would be nice to have a site just for moderators to meet up, compare notes or just ask for help once in a while, a little helpful chat would not come amiss.
Do people still rate us? I try and rate all the answers and questions that i read, but does everyone else?
I think you (Andrew) are doing a great and worthwhile job and i just wished i had more time to help out more.
Keep up the good work!!!
Take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2007): i can see your point of view about the suicide etc but couldn't you just create a page linking to some websites etc or some places they can go for help, as you say you aren't professionals but other people are maybe that page could help them to find the advice or support they need.
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reader, DearCupid +, writes (30 September 2007):
DearCupid is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust a quick note on self-harm / suicide.
We will never accept such questions because as Irish points out, we are not professionals and this is not the right forum for people with serious, potentially life threating problems to get help... for lots of reasons.
Will get back to all the other points on Monday.
Andrew
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2007): I think it clearly needs to be pointed out that approving questions where people are threatening suicide and self-harm, will put this website into asituatin where there could be possible legal 'liability' ramifications . What's to say, that a victim's family won't come back and claim that this site contributed to the demise of their loved one. And the ethical/moral aspects must be considered, as well. We are not professional therapists with the proper training to deal with people, who are troubled to the point where they are considering some harm to themselves. As a moderator I can speak for myself..I will continue to disapprove any and all questions pertaining to suicide and self-harm.
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reader, brooke5426 +, writes (30 September 2007):
i dont really think its a good idea to refuse questions because they relate to self harm. i get that nobody here is a professional therapist (at least i dont think any of us are!) but if people are in that frame of mind i dont think its a good idea to deny them someone to talk to or to reject them.
then again, there are websites like the Samaritans and others who are set up specifically for that purpose.
so maybe i'm just talking myself round in a circle here....
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2007): Maybe a separate page or area that changes each week (but also then gets archived) that takes a particular focus or topic perhaps some of the really big subjects (e.g. rape or domestic violence etc) so that 'experts' or website links and a lot of additional info can be shared as well as the brilliant aunts input. Just want to say this website is great and a real lifeline for many people. Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2007): it would be great if you livened up the pages with abit of colour!! and it would be cool if anonymous users could recieve an email when someone has posted a response to their question!
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reader, brooke5426 +, writes (30 September 2007):
hold on a second, have we stopped approving questions and answers now? or is that just temporary. did i miss something?
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reader, brooke5426 +, writes (29 September 2007):
to the female reader who wants to remain anonymous -
make an account, when you post a question it says "you are currently logged in as ..... check this box if you want to post this question anonymously"
so you have the option to post anonymously if you are a member and you will be able to find all of your questions and the responses they got much easier than looking through all of the questions. especially when you dont even know what the title would be.
brooke
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reader, flower girl +, writes (29 September 2007):
 Don't know if it's already there, but for the mods is there a quick route back to home page without having to back arrow.
Sorry if i'm being blonde and it's already there.
Take care.xx.
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reader, L.O.S.E.R.  +, writes (29 September 2007):
 I think that "Vote to remove unhelpful or hurtful answer" is pointless (and un-democratic) cause there's a moderator who aproves the answers before they're posted already.I know I wouldn't wish to post a question now that I know I'll get censored replies to it.On my opinion ANY reply is "helpful" and if people who post the questions can't "handle the thruth" (hey,it's just an advice,one side of the medal-how can it hurt anyway) they shouldn't post them in the 1st place.
Also I find this site a bit confusing and I'd love to see all of the questions in any kind of chronological order.
It's GREAT site other than that,support to the idea of creating it:))
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2007): I think the site is really great, but I have a really annoying problem.
I don't want to make an account but I'd like a way to be able to see questions I've asked and answered without having to go through every question on the site.
How do I remain anonamous and still find all the questions I've asked and answered.
I know you'll come up with something - but it's doing my head in! Pleassseeee sort it out!!!
Thanks (:
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2007): i hav posted an answer on here once. I'm glad your gonna make spomething that epopel can make up their own titles just wondered though wouldn't this also help the questions to get approveed quicker because the mderators won't have to keep reading them to think up of a title they will just be able to proof read it if you see what i mean?
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reader, Oblivia  +, writes (29 September 2007):
 It would be good to be able to get follow ups on questions answered anonymously (logged in but with the anon box checked)
I also think it would be good to be able to get alerts and follow-up alerts from the Forum site.
Not that I think it is necesaary to have a rating system at all, but now that it is there, how does it work? My ratings can for ex differ from time to time with 0.03 points, how is it calculated? What is the formula?
Thanks for a very good site!
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reader, Uncle Trev +, writes (29 September 2007):
How about a forum area for those of us who help out others.
I feel a forum for agony aunts and uncles where we could add views and get to know each other a bit through an area where we could all post for all of us to read. Maybe set a criteria of 25 or 50 replies as a qualification to get into the forum to stop anonymous spite.
Just an idea but I feel this as a concept would be good for all of us wanting to help others.
Maybe also a general open forum where anybody could get involved socially too.
Cheers
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2007): There are a boat load of questions on here from 13 year old kids about having sex and how to do it.
I am wondering if it would be possible to have some links to expert web sites about the health and welfare of kids having sex and having children when they are children....you know some sobering fact filled information that these kids are not asking perhaps because they have not had the adult guidance they need or don't know what to ask.....something has to be more important to them about having sex than whether or not to shave down there, lol.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2007): I think the ratings for the aunts should be a weighted average based on the number of questions they have answered and the positive responses received in number not just an overall average. I have noticed that new people to the site as aunts receive the highest scores simply because they have not had as many posts on the site so their overall average is high, this seems not only unfair advantage, but inaccurate as well. Someone who has answered a thousand questions and had a lot of positve responses over a certain percent should receive a weighted positive score..it is much harder to be answering numerous questions for people who don't like hearing the truth or an answer they don't want to hear or face and rate you poorly, when the majority of your answers are received positively. Also, other aunts should be encouraged to rate each others advice and maybe have a seperte score for that...as in tenure or number of responses giving them sort of an elite status on this site. We have a lot of teenagers giving other teenagers bad advice with little hearts by their name, because they have answered three questions for their peers.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (28 September 2007):
 One improvement that might help the moderators, too, would be to add an option to show how many other agony aunts and uncles agree with a post. Often a post does not get many answers, probably because the agony aunts and uncles think everything has been said in that regard, and the agony niece of nephew cannot know whether a lot of people agree with a particular point of view, or nobody does. If the niece or nephew gets to know that, for example, ten people FULLY agree with an answer, then he or she can feel more confident about a course of action, I guess.
This would help the moderators because it could be automatic, I think, as the ratings are.
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reader, stina +, writes (28 September 2007):
...and, of course, we wrote at the same time so a lot of my questions/comments were probably addressed in your last post!
But I just thought of something else, believe it or not! Is it possible to change your password on your account? I know that it's possible to change your email, but don't see anywhere for a password to be changed. Did I just miss that?
^_^
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reader, stina +, writes (28 September 2007):
Hi there Andrew,
I think it would be good if we could get some more active moderators signed up to help out with the HUGE amount of questions and answers that have been pouring in recently. It's like the site has exploded all of a sudden! ^_^
I'd also like to know how long moderators have until their session has timed out from inactivity.
Can we make it so that the area to log in is not available when another moderator is already logged in (except for you, of course!) Sometimes I'm approving questions and answers and I notice that other people log in and approve the same questions, with different titles. I know that this can get confusing for the question asker because then he/she gets multiple emails about their questions being posted - with different titles/links - so the information they're sent ends up not being correct. This also poses a problem because then that link is used for a non-existant question when it could have been saved for future use.
Also, from a moderator standpoint, I think that we need to be more careful of the kinds of questions and answers that we approve. Specifically I think we need to make sure that NONE of them mentioned suicide or self harm. I've run across several questions/answers that mention these topics and have had to erase them.
I agree with letting us know the ratings for each of our answers; however, I don't think it needs to be displayed for everyone to see. To me, ratings are only important to the poster so that he/she knows if they need to improve their advice in a certain area. I don't see how it would be beneficial to display the ratings for each answer on every single post. If the question asker sees an answer that suits him/her better than any other answer, then it's not going to matter what the rating is of that piece of advice. Do you see what I mean?
I think, as Frank mentioned, it would be great if we should see an archived list of all of the questions we've answered. I know that I've had to hunt all over the place for a while to search for answers in the past that I'd provided to people that would help out in other questions. The search feature is great, but it pulls up way more than what I actually need.
Also, would it be possible to be able to do some basic html in posts and in our profiles? Basically just being able to bold and italicize words and provide clickable links.
Can it be mandatory that you have to sign up with an age when you post a question? Also, would it be possible for people who signed up before the age determination was an option to be able to pick an age bracket to be assigned to their profiles? I'm thinking that this is maybe why there are no ages posted to some questions sometimes.
And just one question: what happened to video answers? ^_^
Okay, I'm done now...I think. lol
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reader, DearCupid +, writes (28 September 2007):
DearCupid is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy feedback on your feedback (from bottom going up)
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Female, anon. Approval times vary depending on how active our mods are on the site. Sundays I guess people are doing other things. I'm always looking for mods but not everyone is suitable; I've actually recruited a lot of new mods over the past month. Anyone else interested should PM me. I monitor the average time to publication each day and would ideally like it to be below 60 minutes. At the moment it's above that but I am working to bring it down.
The articles page defo needs improving, good point.
If people want to save questions I'm inclined to let them book mark them using their browser or online bookmarking service rather than re-invent a whole load of technology here.
The secret code (findcode) you get when you ask an anon question should ALWAYS work if you have ones that don't pleaes PM me.
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Phil, point taken on sent mail :-) I'll do this before the end of the year.
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Sugarbuns - thank you
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Female, anon. Point taken. We have mods create questions because most people when asked to choose their own question don't do a good job they enter things like "need help", "help please!!!!", "what should I do?????" which mean less than nothing. I'm going to add an optional field that you can enter your own title shortly because I understand some people can summarise their question better than the mods and I take it on board. I'll do this next week.
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Mandy - thank you. Sent mail deleting point taken.
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Brooke. A single answer gets on average less than 1 rating. So displaying the ratings for an answer is almost meaningless. This is why at the moment only aunts have ratings and even then they are only calculated after a certain number of ratings have been gained (which usually means they've given a good number of answers). I'll revisit this to check that my under 1 rating stat is still valid next week and update.
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Penta. If you have a good answer to an old question you can just copy and paste the full link and point the asker there.
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Female, anonymous. Agreed. I am trying to recruit more mods and reduce time to publication to under 60 minutes.
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Female, anon. There is a link to go back to the question after answering but it might only be for registered users.
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Samohir. I agree that search isn't ideal but I think it's pretty good. I'll create an experimental title search page next month to see if it adds any value.
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Jamer70. Question askers already do get an email when their question is published and when they have new answers, if they have verified their email address. They can also check their questions through the "my questions" link if they're logged in. If they've not logged in they get a unique code they can use at http://www.dearcupid.org/find to go direct to their question. If you can think of specific things I can do to make this process easier please PM me.
I like the idea about "your favourite questions" and will add it as an experimental feature next month :-)
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Abacadaba, check out my answer #6
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Female, anon, point taken. See one of my previous answer about question titles I'll be adding a new optional title box next week.
Ok gotta take a break will get back to everyone else shortly. Keep the feedback coming, it's keeping me on my toes!
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reader, cd206 +, writes (28 September 2007):
 It would be good to add a rating option for question askers who think the advice is good even though they don't like it. I've asked questions on this site myself and answered many more and sometimes you can hate the advice someone has given you even though you know deep down its right
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2007): I think it would be an interesting twist to the site if certain questions posted were allocated to particular aunts. Everyone elses ideas are great too.
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reader, Richard_EMids +, writes (28 September 2007):
 1)My point also concerns the rating of answers. It appears that both the 'original poster' and general viewers are able to rate the answers given. Could this be separated?
A feedback from the original poster along the lines of the Ebay feedback format, where the poster could either rate and /or leave brief comment.
2)I don't understand how the 'forums' section works , or is supposed to work. A page somewhere explaining the intention of Questions, Forums, Articles and how they should be used might be useful.
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reader, Lilli b +, writes (28 September 2007):
 I agree with things said, it would certainly be good to see individual feedback on the other hand I wouldn't want it to prevent people from giving honest feedback. Answers being listed on the page as they are rated might be good though if everyone gets the same rating might be tricky and also might mean an excellent is at the bottom of the list because they all are and readers perceive this automatically as poor. But definitely would like to be able to access all past answers posted in some kind of archive. So if the column only allows the last 10 answers it would be good to have a clear route to previous. I would like others to access previous answers that I might direct here too.
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reader, drastic knowledge +, writes (28 September 2007):
i think making it were the questions and anwsers come in alot faster and then letting you write your own title to it and also letting you delete your past questions you have asked if you want to under your account where it says your questions because i like my account but i need advise some times and rather not have it around were my guy can see it on my lap top since i would rather not log out
thanks
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reader, penta +, writes (28 September 2007):
I'd love to be able to see (in aggregate for each question) how my answers were rated. It would be nice if that could appear on my page or on my account. If my rating takes a hit, it would be nice to know which advice did it...
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reader, superbunny +, writes (28 September 2007):
 Ooo, I initially thought of the whole "being able to search old answers" but I think that these make the answers a lot less personal to the individual and are therefore less helpful than individual advice. :] x
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reader, superbunny +, writes (28 September 2007):
A big notice saying "Please don't give our aunties crap ratings just because they don't say that you want to hear"! :] x
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (28 September 2007):
 Oh, one more thing...I would LOVE to see a feature on the site that would allow people to do a search for all the questions they have answered.
In my column, I only have the last 10 questions or so, and it would be nice to have a complete list based on a search.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, Frank B Kermit +, writes (28 September 2007):
I would like to see the ages of the people asking the question should be present in the question listing. Also, I would at least like to see the ages of the people posting anonymously.
One of the big issues that comes up is legal questions about age, sex and relationships. If you have the resources, maybe some links to sites that have all the age/sex laws that apply for each territory around the world.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2007): Let people make up thier own titles to their questions, maybe you need to get more moderators because it takes forever for new questions ans answers to be posted, when a couple months ago only it was a lot quicker.
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reader, Abacadaba +, writes (27 September 2007):
 Only thing i can say is if there isnt already (i cant find it :P) it would be good to see what ratings on what answers you got rather than just an overall rating, because if your giving bad advise on certain subjects, it could help the cupids change or adapt what they are saying or trying to say.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (27 September 2007):
 How about the abilty for registered users to have alist of favioute questions.
Also for the question askers to have a sort of notification sent to their e-mails about their questions being answered, or a link to their questions as some people cant find theirs.
And i second with brooke being able to see the best rated answers, maybe have them ranked from best ranked to worst, putting the best at the top.
Also agree with penta being able to direct people to similar questions. I mean ever since school started there.
have been ALOT teacher love questions.
And it takes ages sometimes for new questions to come up.
And deleting sent mail is a must!
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reader, DearCupid +, writes (27 September 2007):
DearCupid is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSome good feedback here folks, please keep it coming. I'll be keeping the question sticky'd over the weekend and do a response to everyone's points before de-stickying.
Andrew
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reader, samohir  +, writes (27 September 2007):
 Think more aeasily searching the older questions (either by title of tips of title ) would be good benefit. Somethimes i like to read the older ones but find it difficult to "locate" them. Otherwise everythhing is good.:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2007): Dear Cupid
Is there a way you can make it easier to jump back to a specific question on the main questions list, once you have answered that question. Normally you have to either have go "back arrow" (on browser) wait and "back arrow" again" or if you choose the back to the main page option it takes you right to the top of all the questions and you have to work your way down again. Unless I am just stupid..
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2007): The site will be much better if you'd post the questions and answers more quick.
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reader, penta +, writes (27 September 2007):
I'm not sure how this would be programmed, but there are lots of questions that are basically variations of other questions, and I feel like I'm typing the same thing I said to someone else. Is there a way to just say: go to this question and read these responses? Is there a way to find it if the answer is older? (Well, the search function is already pretty good... [grin]) Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2007): Yes delete sent mail thats the one ta phil, Apart from that brill, And it must be really hard being a moderator so generaly I take my hat of to anyone doing that, I take it so seriously that sometimes it takes me ages to answer as I worry not to get it wrong, Its all good though andrew have met some wonderfull friends TA MANDY
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reader, brooke5426 +, writes (27 September 2007):
the only thing i can think is, you know where you have the option to rate an answer? would there be a way to make it so you can see what other ratings that particular answer has got? right now it just says "thanks for rating" and thats it but i think it would be helpful for the people who asked the question to know if other people think the advice they have been given is good or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2007): I use this site a lot and it's no joke to me. DEFINITELY!!! YOU have to let people in general write their own title for their questions. I'm sorry but moderators keep writting some titles that are not based in the main concern of the questions. Sometimes good questions are posted with lame or confusing titles and agony aunts and other people don't respond because they are not interested in reading them. When this happens usually I get only one response and have to wait like 16 hours to get it.
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (27 September 2007):
 At the moment, can't think of a thing. I think this is the greatest site and it seems to function really well. I've had no problems with it at all but if I come up with any brainstorms, I'll let you know. :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2007): Yeah - let me delete unwanted sent mail! Other than that, this is a fun site with a serious purpose and is rather addictive! Well done mate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2007): well as for the posting of the answers why is it always that questions are alot slower going up on a sunday?erm i know you have the articles page but it does get abit confusing you could split it up into setiosn with one for people to write their real life stories.Also add a feature to where you post to let you ick the title and if that title already exists then you could just alter it but let the people give you an idea of the question because sometimes i've noticed that the title of the question isn't the mian important part of the question and then people sort of answer the question by the title without fullly reading the question. Have a place for people who don't have an acount but just visit to have somwhere they can save their favourite questions that will just save to their pc.Sometimes the codes your given to find your question don't always work on the find page. hope this helps if i have anymore ideas that i come across il post on here for you.
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