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writes: Hi, So me and my ex boyfriend have been on and off for about the past 2 1/2 years. We are both in college, but 1000 miles apart, and the distance is the reason for the on and off. The reason why we first broke up was because he was cheating. But when they would break up we would start talking again, and then we would stop because we knew we couldn't make the long distance thing work. So he would go back to her. Now he is seeing her again, but I still miss him. His birthday is coming up, and I don't know if I should tell him, and if I do, how? He is also graduating this year which means he will be coming back home, and I go to college very close to home, so I always wonder if we will get back together when he comes back. Just need some advice from an outsider looking in. Thanks
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reader, Toria +, writes (22 September 2006):
 Tell him how you feel, be honest with him about your feelings for him and the situation, tell him you understand the long distance has been the problem and you would like to sort things out when he comes home and go from there, that way you will be able to see if your relationship will be any different close to home or long distance, the problem you might face is because you already have forgiven him for cheating in the past that now maybe inbedded in him that you always will therefore he may still cheat even when he is home and close to you therefore showing you that the cheating wasn't down to the distance, we can only try these things and learn from each and every situation if you really want to be with him then you need to at least try when he gets home and see how it goes, you never know things maybe different when he is home and this could all work out for the best, the other thing that concerns me is surely if you both want to be together although the distance is a problem and can be very trying if you want to be together you don't allow it to cause a problem just need to work harder at it but when wanting to be with someone you are prepared to work harder.
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reader, AgonyAuntLisa +, writes (21 September 2006):
 you should tell him how you feel unless you tell him he will never know how you feel because he could be feeling the same way you are and not knowing how you will react if he tells you how he feels!go 4 it girl and tell him!let me know how it goes!
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reader, Raen +, writes (21 September 2006):
So, he cheated which is why you broke up in the first place. And you guys keep ending up together… sounds like you guys are in stuck in a loop, and get together because it’s safe/easy. You haven't said whether you’ve dated anyone else either. If you don’t fully break it off with an ex, you don’t give new relationships a chance because you’re always thinking of the ex.
I’d try to forget the ex, and think about what keeps making you get back into a relationship that isn’t good for you or what you want – and then look for someone new.
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