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Is sex with and in-law incest?

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Question - (21 September 2006) 13 Answers - (Newest, 22 April 2010)
A female , *dge writes:

I have a close girlfriend, who just confided in me about her sexual encounter she had with her brother in law, that would be her husband's brother.

She has been married and known him for over 10 years.

I really do not know what to tell her; that is why I am posting this for back up referrence to anyone out there whom can give me something to respond to her with this Big Question.

After a long while, they finally admitted to eachother of how they have been feeling for eachother and then they both committed adultrey on their spouses.

She had asked me if this was incest? I didn't know and that is what I told her, now I am also wondering myself. They aren't blood related but then again I gather I really can not tell her how to ruin her life unless this man is better for her.

I suppose that will be her problem when that time comes.

I am just doing the asking.

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A female reader, heather108 United States +, writes (22 April 2010):

heather108 agony auntNot incest... and about that "adultry" thingy, it's just another one of those words like "fornication" that was made up by a Pope and added to the Bible sometine during the Dark Ages around the fifth century.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2009):

yes these relations are strictly prohibited by norms and values of society.

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A male reader, TheAnswer Australia +, writes (27 September 2009):

It's really only considered incest in relgious terms, like 'adultery'. And adultery to me isn't that bad. If it is comitted out of love, that's fine, but if it is done out of spite, hate, or using other people, then I am totally against it.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2009):

No how can this be incest when the blood line is not there? Of course spiritually you could argue it is but then thats if you believe all that crap

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A female reader, J-LOVE United States +, writes (24 February 2009):

if you believe in god it is considered incest leviticus 18,6.

when you marry you become one, so the place of your brother in law is brother. your place is sister. its the thought of becoming a family and to me and god it is still considered incest.

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A male reader, masti India +, writes (4 December 2008):

no this is not incest. but this is not ethical as well. but if it were fun who cares

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2008):

atleast i would like to mention one thing if some body is eating shit are you going to taste it if yes than no problem you get screwed by your brother-in-law .

But do remember one thing when you will die i will just ask one thing from you because i will be scrutining you in hell and i am sure you will give me a company but if you can get rid of it try to repent ASAP .DONT think I AM JOKING Its an indication because cheating any one is the biggest sin .

May God Bless you

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2006):

kudos to yo my dear I too had sex with my brother in-law we both have had strong feelings for each other for along time

so we took the chance and played it out he and my husband were really close when he started to pursuade me he knew at that time my husband was having an affair, but i didn't know .when i did find out my husband had been having an affair and had been for many, many months I could'nt wait to tell my husband of my affair you don't know how grateful I was of my broher-inlaw for I to had something to feel good about I don't think I ever in my whole life ever felt so good as the day I saw my husbands that day.The sucker thought he had me fooled all along who was fooling who? I have no regrets in what I did I look back now and I am so grateful to my brother-inlaw for being there for me.SO no honey no incest involved just 2 people enjoying each other and playing out their fantasies.GO DO IT AGAIN GIRLFRIEND

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A female reader, Edge +, writes (23 September 2006):

Edge is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Thank You, all for clarifying this to me, your answers will help me hopefully help her find direction in her life.

I appreciate your responses and Thank you, again!

Now, I know where I can turn to for future referrences.

God Bless you all!

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A female reader, Toria +, writes (22 September 2006):

Toria agony auntThe only thing your friend is doing here is Adultery and betrayal of the people that love and care about her and this guy although this is wrong this situation is not incest as incest is when you have intimate relations with a blood relative.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2006):

It is not incest. No blood relation.

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A female reader, bonym United Kingdom +, writes (21 September 2006):

bonym agony auntIncest is when you have sexual relations with blood relatives, this is not incest, its simply adultery. xXx

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A reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2006):

I don't think sleeping with your husbands brother is incest. Incest is when the family member is more closely connected, e.g. a brother with a sister. It's when the connection is blood-related and more importantly, illegal that is is considered incest.

It is hardly unheard of for partners to cheat on, or get together with a sibling of their original partner. In cases, such as this, it is wrong because they are being unfaithful to their partner and breaking the vows of their marriage, but in more innocent circumstances, where people are just dating it can sometimes work out for the best; e.g. their partners sibling is better suited for them than their original partner.

I don't think the problem here is whether or not incest as occured, it's more about commiting adultery against someone you're supposed to love and be faithful and dedicated to.

Your "friend" has some big decisions to make, namely to work out her priorities and either try and save her marriage, or end it and follow her heart with this other man.

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