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writes:Dear all, I want your opinion on this:I met this girl and we went out on 3 dates. Some dates I initiated and some she initiated. We had such a good time, we talked, laughed and flirted for hours and we had so many things in common, but I didn't make a move to kiss her because I didn't get the "green light". I felt she kept a little distance. Then on the 4th date she hit me with the truth: Her ex boyfriend was back and she decided to give him another change. She insisted we should stay in touch because she really liked me, but to this proposal i didn't reply positive nor negative. I didn't show any disappointment nor anger. I just told her i had no problem with that, she shouldn't feel bad and basically do as she wishes. We hugged and I left and never contacted her again and neither did she.What do you thing of this story and how do you comment her and my behavior. Thanks for yor time!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2011): I had a very similar experience. I felt used, in a way, because this other guy was always in the back of her mind but she never told me while we were having such a great time together. After she told me she wanted to give him a second chance, I was heart-sick. I never wanted to see her again. Later I realized she was very confused at that time and hadn't intended to be unkind. She was a nice person, and did really love me. She married the other guy but I got back in touch with her and we are still friends many years later. No longer love-blind, I now really enjoy our friendship.
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reader, Advice_man +, writes (21 July 2011):
Advice_man is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for your comments Tom Obler & Danielepew. I really liked this girl and I was dissapointed that didn't work out. I was puzzled if i made my moves right, if I did something wrong. Thanks for giving me peace!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (20 July 2011):
 Her behavior: She told you she doesn't like you.
Your behavior: Correct, except for the hug.
What I think of this story: to each his or her own. Move on and find someone else. BUT, make sure you never take her back. She already found you second best, and that is something you don't need.
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reader, Tom Obler  +, writes (20 July 2011):
 I think you played it really well. She obviously was starting with you but still thinking of the Ex. This was why she slightly pulled back on you. She may have you as a back up if the Ex doesn't work out again. But don't worry, you acted very well.
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