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*hula90h9
writes:so i just found out that my sons father is back! apparently his new girl just had his baby. he keeps saying he's gonna come see my son. he didnt want my baby he walked out when my son was 1mth old. he threatened me that he was going to take my son away from me. he got deported so hes back ilegally (like before) and he says hes just going to come into my house and snatch my son away from me :( ive never been this scared before. should i go to court and get full custody? will they even consider the case even if he's deported? i dont know how to tell my fiance that hes back? should i not tell him? please i need some advice
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reader, chula90h9 +, writes (19 July 2011):
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reader, Tom Obler  +, writes (19 July 2011):
 Tell your fiance and go to the Police. You can walk into a Police office and get their advice first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2011): Forget the courts for now tell your fiancee and go to the police. Give them his name tell them hes illegal and that he threatened you and your son theyll take your statement probably file a claim against him and he will be deported. Then go to court get full custody and and hit him with child support. In this case he deserves it. Good luck.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (19 July 2011):
 Yes, go to the courts, also, keep a record of what he says and when he says it. You will need to write down every time he says he is going to take your son, who he says it to, the day and the aproximate time, and if he says it to their face, or by phone or by text.
The court will be able to 'build a picture' of his behaviour if they know what he is saying, to who, and when.
Good luck!
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reader, paigeme142 +, writes (19 July 2011):
 Wow sounds rough hun. What I would do is talk to your fiance. Never leave loved ones out of tough decisions. He will be so hurt if you don't fill him in on whats going on. If you still don't feel like you should I would reconsider marrying him. Second you do not have to worry about your babies father. The U.S. has so many rules and regulations against illegal's taking children. Your child cannot leave the country without a passport issued by both you and him. If he threats you again and you are seriously frightened I would get his location and go to your local police station. Tell them your situation and that you fear for your child's well being. With all the new laws on immigration I am pretty sure, though it depends what state your in, he will be deported then you can go to court and get full custody of your child. I hope that helps!
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