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writes:I have been dating this guy for about a month, we have a long distance relationship on opposite sides of the country and its really difficult. He told me that he loved me very quickly and said that he will wait for me and try to visit me again asap. But when we talk on the phone or text, he doesn't seem all that interested. He just complains about work and he's always bitter and never excited, not even to speak to me. He always ends the conversation by saying that he loves me but he just seems so indifferent to what I have to say and switches the conversation back to him. He frequently tells me that he will call and then never does, until I call him. I told him that I don't like it when he does that and he said that he has a lot going on and he's been really busy with everything. I want to believe him but I also don't want to wait for him like an idiot! He was the one that kept pushing for a relationship and was so into me when I was with him. Can one truly be too busy for the one they love? When we were together he said he might even move closer to be with me after he saves up some money. Why is he acting so differently now? Am I right in being upset with him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2011): This sounds ALOT like the situation im currently in a long distance relationship and your the one putting in all the work. and they were the ones who wanted the relationship to begin with. and thats exactly what my boyfriend said was he has just been really busy. now we havent even talked in quit a few days. but what ive decided was if he isnt talking to me or doesnt seem intrested then ill find someone who is. it makes me feel better and less ignored...im not saying cheat but if he isnt going to find time for you then your deserve someone who will find time for you!
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reader, Tom Obler  +, writes (29 August 2011):
 As it is just a month that you have been toether, it seems he is trying to adjust to the LDR. Normally, LDR tend to go very fast at the beginning and calls and texts and emails are sent at all hours. For your bf, it seems he has started off very slowly. I never like the "busy" line as it always tells me someone is not interested. I think that perhaps, you need to evaluate what exactly you are getting out of this relationship. If someone loves someone, it goes without saying that you could never be too busy. If you are genuinely busy, then it is mutually understood without doubt. I think that you could perhaps wait for him to visit again, hopefully he will soon and then judge the situation. If he puts off a meet up for another month or two, then I would let this go. hope this helps you a little.
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