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*unbun
writes:So, i've been in love with this guy for 5 years. We have dated for 2 years broke up, dated another year and broke up. He broke up with me both times. We've been broken up for almost 10 months and earlier this summer things started again with us but we realized we couldnt be in a relationship just yet because neither of us was ready. Lately, he has been really pulling away from me. Not taking any initiative to hang out or talk. If we talk its because i said something first. I'm so confused with his quick change of heart. Sure, we cant be in a relationship BUT that didnt make my feelings for him go away. Why did it make his feelings for me go away? Do you think he just comes back to me because he knows I'll always love him? Should i just stop my worthless efforts and wait for him to come to me? I'm scared he never will. I just want him to miss me. What do i do? I really want him in my life, even if its just as a friend, but he just doesnt seem to care..
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reader, superrrshawna +, writes (13 August 2008):
 i'm sorry hun, but i agree w/ phil. i think the guy is half hearted about wanting to be with you - thus he is with you have the TIME as well. part of him wants you to be that person, the other might see you aren't and can't be. who knows.
any case, it is time to move on. you are wasting your time and energy loving and waiting around for him when there are so many wonderful people walking right by you every day who could give you a proper relationship!
good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2008): I'd say that as far as he's concerned your 'relationship' has run its course and he isn't really interested in you in that way any more. Maybe he came back to you after 10 months just to see if anything was different between you and found it wasn't.
I wouldn't waste any more time or emotion on this one. Get out and meet new people. I don't think this guy is the one for you, and no matter how fondly you think of him, he doesn't feel the same way at all about you.
Cut your losses and move on.
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