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writes:I had a few dances with this guy I met on holiday but didnt have sex.When we got back we e mailed a few times but he got funny when I told him I liked him which is fair enough as it wasnt long-then he emailed and said I msutnt take it as a slight on me that he didnt want to take it any further. He said there were far too many things much to personal to tell me and some not so good. I know he isnt married-he is widowed-but on holiday he told me he does sleep with women which is fair enough.Why wont he keep in touch with me when he said he would, and what does he mean by there were too many personal things "some not too good" I havent asked him to marry me or move in with me-so whats the harm in a weekend or soemthing now and again-if he doesnt want a full time thing with me- why has he put the block on me completely?
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (14 August 2008):
 People share at a different level for different relationships. It could well be that in order for the relationship to continue he would have had to tell you things that would have been too personal for him to share or that if he had told you, you would have lost your interest in him.
We all have baggage and for some reason, he just didn't feel like going further with this relationship because of his personal situation. Nothing you can do about it. If he wanted to take it further, he would have and he would have eventually told you his (bad) life story.
I can relate to some of this. I have personal things I don't feel like sharing right now and so sometimes I just figure it's better to be alone or to date people casually and then I don't have to go into the long story. One day I'll probably meet someone or I will be at a different place in my life and I will feel like sharing my life story.
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reader, superrrshawna +, writes (13 August 2008):
 what happens in vegas stays in vegas... that is probably this man's mentality towards vacations. he goes out, has a little fun, and then ends the relationship when the vacation ends.
he might have had intentions to keep in touch with you, but when you said you actually had feelings towards him he probably realized the no-strings affair wasn't going to happen. so he is cutting you off with the mysterious personal things as his excuse.
at least that is my take on it.
so forget about him!
good luck!
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