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writes:Hey me and my boyfriend have been sexually active for around 5 months and weve been together for seven! Where both 16 by the way! Well anyway before we had sex my boyfriend was fingering me quite hard and when he went home i went to the bathroom and noticed i had some blood in my pants not alot, hardly any actually and it was very light. This was it and that was all i had, and i assumed my boyfriend had broken my hymen. Then when we had sex about a week after he had broken my hymen( we were both virgins) it didnt really hurt, it felt a bit tight but thats all and there was no bleeding. Anyway ive never really enjoyed sex, it doesnt feel horrible but it doesnt feel nice either it feels normal i guess. But i no most women only orgasm or enjoy sex when there clit is rubbed etc so i never really questioned it, but about a week ago a girl was talking in my class and said shes had sex 3 times but she hadnt been "broken into" yet, i assumed that her hymen hadnt popped yet. But today i was putting a tampon in and i felt around like ball sort of thing and it had a hole in, like the opening for the vagina it was a bit like that but inside me, i was just wondering if the boys penis goes inside this hole and that when you have been broken into, or had my boyfriend penis been going in this hole or is this nothing to do with sex? if so could you tell me what this is? God im so embarressed because i thought i was really clued up on sex but obviously i wasnt! Thank you so much xx
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reader, Liwa420  +, writes (16 August 2016):
@sugar cookie, the vagina is on average 3-5 inches long, and most women can touch their cervix with a finger.
To answer the original post, It does sound like you are describing your cervical opening. Leave it be, messing with it, touching it, or sticking the tip of your finger in it can cause bacterial infection. Normally you can't enter the cervical opening at all, however it is more open during your period and close to child labor. If you experience discomfort, or just need to be sure what's going on, go see your OBGYN.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2008): I had the same thing - a large bump with a hole in the bottom. At first i thought it was a tampon; i had my period only a week earlier, but then it bleed and i realised that it was something else.
I went to the doctors' and got a female to take a look. She told me that it was my cervix, and it had swollen from a small infection, whether it was too much sex or a tampon left in for too long.
I was told to give it time, and not do anything sexually active (aka intercourse, fingering, etc) for a few weeks until the swelling went down.
The best thing to do if you have an abnormal lump or swelling is to go to the doctors. Keep in mind - they have seen A LOT worse than a few bumps!!!
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (22 September 2008):
 It is DEFINITELY your Cervix. You can feel it with your finger, up on the inside wall of your vagina. The cervix feels like the end of your nose and has an opening in the end. It is the entrance to your womb and nothing but sperm and your menstrual flow pass through. The opening on your cervix may feel a bit more open when you have your period because it will dialate slightly to allow your "monthly flow". Some muscles in your body are "voluntary" and you can control them, others are "Involuntary" and your body functions control them, like your cervix.
Some women have an IUD (Intra-Uterine Device) inserted through the cervix into the womb AFTER having a child as an effective contraceptive device (failure rate of .08 %), and this is the only STERILE thing that should ever pass through a cervix, other than a newborn baby (barring any medical interventions).
The cervix is what your Doctor "scrapes" with a tool in order to get cells to examine when you have a "pap smear". You should have a pap smear, to detect cancer, EVERY YEAR from the age of 18 OR START WHENEVER YOU HAVE BECOME SEXUALLY ACTIVE, so YOU should ask for a pap smear THIS YEAR as part of your yearly physical exam. At the age of 16, you can ask for a private exam without your Mother, and your Doctor cannot give your Mother the information, according to the law - you have that right - so please make sure that you get one. Part of being sexually active is being responsible for your sexual health and responsible with your partners sexual health too, so get tested for STI's too.
When you are pregnant, your Doctor gives you an internal exam to check and see if your cervix is softer than "the end of your nose", which is a sign of pregnancy. The cervix dialates to allow a baby to be born, and a Doctor can generally tell how many pregnancies you have had by examining the cervix. That's about all I know on that subject and probably way more information than you need... LOL! Hope it helped! :^D
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reader, NessaK94  +, writes (21 September 2008):
 OMG i felt that too, my boyfriend discovered it. He described it as a penis (u no like the head of a penis), neway i hav no idea wot it is (i find it hard to believe that its the cervix tho....tad weird, neway i once hadblood come out from there....
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reader, SugarCookie +, writes (21 September 2008):
I'm not really sure what you are descibing. However if i read it right you said that you felt it with your finger so there is absolutely no chance at all that it is you cervix. Your cervix is at LEAST 5 inches in mine is 7 so unless you have one freakishly long finger you cant feel that. Your explination isn't very clear so its hard to even tell where you are talking about so try to say it more clearly.
Also the more likely reason that you cant cum is because climaxing is very mental for girls and it will take a little while for you to get comfortable enoung with your body to let yourself get to that point and learn what you like.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2008): Your friend sounds like an idiot.
Be that as it may, I would advise you to tell your man-friend to stop being an asshole and get YOU over the line once in a while. I mean if YOU don't tell him how you like it, how the hell is he gonna know?
Flynn 24
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reader, chrissy32789 +, writes (21 September 2008):
 I am not sure you better really see a doctor before you continue to do anything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2008): That would be your cervix, entrance to your uterus; NO, his penis doesn't go there, only sperm goes in and menstrual flow or a baby goes out. Bad, Bad idea for anything else to go in, as you can get an infection in your uterus.
Not likely to happen, though; it's closed really tightly until you have a baby. Labor pains are the cervix opening up as well as uterus pushes.
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