He asked about my past, I told the truth and now he's acting differently
Q. I don't know why, but my boyfriend asked me how many guys I had slept with, I believe in honesty so I told him the truth even though I don't understand what the point is, it's him that I want. After I told him he kind of went all silent then said ...
A. 4 June 2009: It's funny, people ask so many questions they don't really want the answer to. There is only one right answer to the questions they ask, and apparently yours was not the right one. I think it's great that you were honest, as for how you can make him... (read in full...)
Microgynon 30 experiences?
Q. Hey, just a quick question. I know this isn't really a relationship question but the root cause of this is to do with my relationship. Anyway...would just like to know of anyones experiences when they have stopped taking microgynon 30. I was taking ...
A. 4 June 2009: I haven't tried that one myself but there's microgynon 20 available - which is a lower strength version and therefore might have less of an impact on mood. If you've been feeling depressed you really should see a doctor though as medication effects ... (read in full...)
We argue all the time, he makes me cry, how do we make it better?
Q. dear cupid: i have a problem, i want my relationship to work. i dont know what else to do' i hate arguing and it seems like we are always arguing about the littlest and stupidest things, and he makes me cry each time. i just dont know what to ...
A. 4 June 2009: Arguing over tiny little things constantly suggests there is a much bigger problem underneath the surface that isn't being resolved. So what is that problem? What are you guys fighting about?
The first logical direction is to discuss it with your... (read in full...)
Does my lesbian friend have any feelings for me,or am I naive?
Q. I hook up with my lesbin friend. She calls me all the time to pick her up. When I ask her to be my lady she tell me all we are just friends and we hook up for money. I feel like she love me or am I fooling myself?...
A. 4 June 2009: Based on your post, no. There is absolutely nothing in there to suggest that she has any feelings for you, or any regard for you beyond how you can assist her.... (read in full...)
He does not acknowledge the existence of his ex-girlfriend, any cause for concern?
Q. Should I be concerned if my boyfriend is bitter about his ex-girlfriend? He won't acknowledge her existence. ...
A. 4 June 2009: I would be concerned yes. Do you know the story of how they ended?
I think being so bitter that he does not acknowledge she exists suggests he's not over the relationship.... (read in full...)
Have had two abortions and I used to smoke weed, can I still get pregnant?
Q. I am 21 and my boyfriend is 30. I have had two abortins in my life I use to smoke weed but I have stop now. My boyfiend still smokes weed we have been trying to have a baby for about 8 months now. It is getting realy stressful he wants to go an...
A. 4 June 2009: Please see your doctor. That will get you a far more efficient answer than the guess work of strangers.
There are fertility tests both of you can take.... (read in full...)
I found condoms in my husband's pockets and he says they were for a friend!
Q. I Found 6 condoms in my husbands pockets and he said his friend asked him to bring it. I didn't believe him, and he was crying. could he be telling the truth?...
A. 26 May 2009: SIX condoms? What kind of friends needs 6 condoms and can't go to a chemist or a mens bathroom, or one of the many other places in this world that condoms are readily available.
Crying doesn't equal honesty. In my experiences people are more like... (read in full...)
Mom won't let me go to Greece to be with my b/f!
Q. My boyfriend of 3 months is Greek, but study's over here in the city i live in for most of the year. I see him every day, and although we haven't been together for a very long time, as we have spent so much time togther we have quickly fallen in ...
A. 25 May 2009: How do you know you would be in no danger? There are plenty of dangers for people travelling in a foreign country - particularly when they are young and not travel savvy.
I'm 22 and I don't think it's appropriate either. There's no way my pare... (read in full...)
He only wants fun and I want more!
Q. I'm not sure I have done the right thing. A bit of a long story - me and a guy at work have been flirtng for years and we have both said we like each other - the problem - he only wants "fun" and I want more. We have kissed once, very...
A. 25 May 2009: If you've blown your chance by saying no to having sex with this guy, then clearly it isn't going anywhere.
Seriously, think about it - you are worried a guy will not like you anymore because you didn't have sex with him. Really think about that... (read in full...)
Why can't he be happy just having sex with me?
Q. Okay well i guess this is a really common topic but.. ive been dating my boyfriend for 3 years now and ive always been pretty self concious about myself but after being with him for so long i just feel like dirt. hes been cheating on me a...
A. 22 May 2009: The problem is HIM. If you take anything at all from my advice, let it be that sentence. I'm sure you understand that to some level, but to actually make yourself believe it is another thing entirely.
There is nothing you can do in this situ... (read in full...)
Should I hold out for a great relationship, or just experiment?
Q. I'm only 16 and I know that's still kinda young but I've only dated 2 guys over the last year. The second lasted quite a while but eventually things just got really messed up between us. It ended back in feb. So I've been single for about 4 months ...
A. 22 May 2009: I have to say I really loved your question. You seemed pretty damn clued in comparison to many other posters of your age group.
In my opinion I think you should hold out for that someone special. By experimenting with boys that you aren't espe... (read in full...)
He loves me but doesn't want to get engaged
Q. hi all.I need some help. I have been with my bf for 2 yrs we always talked about marriage, when i sat him down he told me he wasn't ready to be engaged. So I was ok with it but he got mad cause he wanted me to be devastated. Should I stay with him ...
A. 22 May 2009: Honestly, from your post you don't sound mature enough to be engaged. I think you both have a lot of growing up to do. It seems like you feel he should be so grateful that he has you that he should want to lock you down straight away. Personal... (read in full...)
Is he with her for revenge?
Q. My ex boyfriend and I were together for a year and a half the first time. We broke up, he got a new girlfriend 3 days later, I knew that she was just a rebound. Well they broke up after 7 months because she didn't want to be with him anymore and ...
A. 22 May 2009: It doesn't sound like revenge to me, he was with her for 7 months so there must be a little more to it than revenge. It seems as though he's focusing more on the destination than on the journey. He wants marriage, kids, all of those things on the s... (read in full...)
Dating an older guy and nervous about sleeping with him!
Q. Ive been dating a older man for a couple of weeks, we have only kissed but im scared of the whole sex thing as him being 6 years older then me im worried hes had much more experience then me as ive only had one sexual partner, also im a curvy girl a ...
A. 21 May 2009: He wouldn't be with you if he wasn't attracted to you. Just because size 8 seems like a favorable thing to you doesn't mean it was to him. Everyone has different tastes and you clearly fit in with his or he wouldn't be with you.
With any part... (read in full...)
Do good looks mean a better life?
Q. do good looking guys have more options of girlfreinds and more freinds and be very popular ...
A. 20 May 2009: I think maybe when people are younger physical appearance is likely to be beneficial. The good looking guys in high school will get the girls, get the friends with very little effort. It doesn't always equate to being successful later on though as ... (read in full...)
Why did he talk about "us" if he had no intention of their being "us"?
Q. hi i hope someone can help. nearly 2 years ago i met a guy on the net and we developed what i thought was a close friendship and relationship even though we are long distance. we have met up a few times and been intimate etc. just over a week ago he ...
A. 14 May 2009: It sounds like he may already be in a relationship? That seems like the most obvious reason for deleting someones number - if you don't want your partner to know you are communicating with this person.
We can guess at what the reasons may be, but ... (read in full...)
How tall is too tall?
Q. So, uh, ladies... what height do you prefer on guys? What's gotta be the bare minimum height you like on a guy? And if there's such a thing as too tall, beyond what height would that be?...
A. 11 May 2009: For me I LOVE tall guys. I'm 5'8 so my ideal guy is a guy that will allow me to wear 9cm heels and not tower over him! I don't think I've ever really encountered too tall and if I liked a guys personality it wouldn't matter in the slightes... (read in full...)
If a guy is into you...wouldn't he text you a lot!?
Q. its been just a week and i have been seein a younger guy (14 years) he is so sweet and attentive when i see him and says he wants to see how things go, but when we r not together he is very quite maybe a couple of texts a day, if a guy is into (like ...
A. 11 May 2009: It's been just a week? A couple of texts a day is more than most guys would do after that short period of time. A guy may be very into you and still have other hobbies, obligations and priorities, especially given it's only been a week! If I were... (read in full...)
I want advice on older women
Q. Hey all I'm 16 almost 17 and I'm talking to this 19 year old... She thinks I'm a bit older - 18. I think she wants a casual relationship thing. I want to know a couple of things: 1. Do other people find that weird? 2. To the women, are you...
A. 8 May 2009: 1 - The strangest thing about the situation is that you're lying to her. I will be honest, people are likely to find it strange given the older person in this relationship is a female. It's ridiculous given that men date younger females all the time ... (read in full...)
Why can't I be articulate and say what I want to say?
Q. Question: Do any of you know why I have so much trouble articulating what I want to say to people? Almost everytime I want to tell someone something, I just have trouble saying what I'm thinking. Usually when I wanna communicate something to ...
A. 8 May 2009: I think when we are younger we are less aware of the importance of words, we are less conscious of what is right and wrong to say. As we get older we become very aware of saying/doing the right or wrong thing, how others may perceive it, and us.
C... (read in full...)
Will anyone else be just like me and be okay with my lifestyle and habbits?
Q. Is there anyone else out there that would adapt and/or be just like me and be okay with my lifestyle and habbits? Im not a party person, I dont drink or smoke. Now that Im out of high school life seems a whole lot more boring. Im home alot and go ...
A. 8 May 2009: I dated a guy with a similar kind of social life, he loved his video games, he wasn't especially social, didn't have any desire to go out anywhere. Even aside from partying, it was kind of hard to get him out of the house to do anything I wanted to ... (read in full...)
Should I try now, later, or never to get back togeather with my ex?
Q. My boyfriend of three months and I just broke up two weeks ago. For both of us it was our first real serious relationship. We pretty much broke up because I was upset by the fact that although his residents hall was a 3-5min walk away i only real...
A. 5 May 2009: For all the issues listed in this question it doesn't seem as though you've digged any deeper than the surface - such as the obvious - WHY? Why were you only seeing him at meal times - Im assuming you mean communal meals at a college where you woul... (read in full...)
Does he love me enough to stand up to his mother?
Q. Hi everyone, I need some serious advice. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost five years. During the third year of our relationship we had some problems and both of us were to blame. We broke up for about six months at the most and have ...
A. 23 April 2009: I recently dated a 20 year old guy who behaved similarly to your description of your boyfriend. Even for a 20 year old I thought his behaviour was ridiculous, immature and unbearable. So for a 30 year old man to be behaving that way is unfathomable. ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid that he's into stuff that's not me
Q. my boyfriend had an adult friend finder account. i deleted it for him but i just cant get it out of my head what he did. also even after i deleted it i went on his computer and and found really wierd porn and pictures of alot older woman then me and ...
A. 23 April 2009: How are you approaching the situation? In a situation like this where you're feeling hurt it can be easy to approach it yelling, demanding or just plain emotional - which is the more raw approach but not necessarily the most conducive to a rational ... (read in full...)
Why do guys ignore girls they're attracted to?
Q. do guys ignore the girls your attracted to even when she shows you interest . she even attemtps to be with you.. do you behave like this BUT WHY ?...
A. 23 April 2009: As a previous poster asked - are you SURE this guy is interested? Personally I don't think I've encountered any guys that liked me but ignored me. Even when I was younger. So assuming he definitely is interested the only reasons I can imagine ... (read in full...)
Ex g/f still wants phone sex
Q. my seventeen year old ex girlfriend says that though we have broken up we can still have phone sex chats and masturbate and she said it will be only for personal pleasure ... is it ok to do it ? ...
A. 23 April 2009: I wonder if she's using the sex angle to keep you in her life to some degree? Are you both going to be able to move on if you continue doing that? Honestly if she wants some aural stimulation to assist with masturbating couldn't she just downloa... (read in full...)
Should I pursue my ex who I love? I need my new g/f for money matters.
Q. so i am unemployed and live with my gf of 2 years almost and been thinking. And i have come up with the conclusion that i am in love with my ex she is who i dated when i was 17-18 and i now 20 and she i still heart broke over me and i have not seen ...
A. 22 April 2009: Why don't you have a job? Like the previous poster said - move out into your parents place. Move in with a friend, do anything - just get out of there.
Look for a job, it doesn't have to be the job you intend to pursue as a career, get a casual job,... (read in full...)
I have to see my g/f secretly as her controlling mum dislikes me, any help?
Q. My girlfriend is 22 and i am 23 and she is totally dominated by her mum, she has her own car and she has her own job but her mum controls her like mad. my Gf cannot go out without her mum's permission and it seems the only time her mum will allow ...
A. 22 April 2009: This is beyond you, this is between your girlfriend and her mother. Your girlfriend needs to assert her independence in a serious way! Regardless of whether her mum thinks you are the right one for her daughter - at the end of the day it's your gir... (read in full...)
Falling for a friend; leave my husband?
Q. My situation is that I am a married woman with a child, my husband and I have not been on the same communication level for about a year. He and I both work all the time and I am also a full time student---never have time for each other. I have tried ...
A. 21 April 2009: It's easier in the beginning, of course with someone new there will be a million topics you haven't yet discussed. I also wonder if the fact that you are spending HOURS talking to someone other than your husband means that by the time you speak to... (read in full...)
Any tips on asking if she is interested in continuing the relationship?
Q. My situation involves my old high school sweetheart. In jr. high school I met her and thought she was cute. We became friends and had a lot fun. In high school we dated. I went to the high school prom with her and we had a fun time. We wanted to t...
A. 21 April 2009: I think maybe you should focus less on the sexual side of things and more on getting to know her again.
Start out with asking her if she'd like to catch up for a drink, for coffee, whatever strikes your fancy.
If there's still a spark take it ... (read in full...)
Any tips on asking if she is interested in continuing the relationship?
Q. My situation involves my old high school sweetheart. In jr. high school I met her and thought she was cute. We became friends and had a lot fun. In high school we dated. I went to the high school prom with her and we had a fun time. We wanted to t...
A. 21 April 2009: I think maybe you should focus less on the sexual side of things and more on getting to know her again.
Start out with asking her if she'd like to catch up for a drink, for coffee, whatever strikes your fancy.
If there's still a spark take it ... (read in full...)
I want to play hard to get..just don't know what to do . . .
Q. i like this guy but he has a girlfriend BUT i know he has to be a bit into me. we hang out and when we do he puts his arm around me and gets sad if i move and touches me etc. but we havent kissed. i want him to want me more but i dont want to seem...
A. 21 April 2009: You should grow up and stop chasing after other girls boyfriends. If he is behaving like this while he's got a girlfriend - he will do exactly the same to you.
Real relationships don't involve playing hard to get. If a guy likes you and is ready... (read in full...)
Is it okay to date a guy that's younger than me?
Q. I like this guy at school, we're both in college and he is a bit younger than me, I don't know if its okay to date a younger guy? What do you think? and I'm not sure what he would think of it?...
A. 21 April 2009: How much younger? I think it's okay to do, though from previous experience I would be very reluctant to do it again. In my own experience even though my ex was only a couple of years younger than me I found him worlds apart in terms of life experien... (read in full...)
I need help with a friends with benefits situation.
Q. we see each other once a week, have a great time, laugh, talk and carry on, occasionally go to dinner or a party together, and then we have sex. i don't hear much from him when we aren't together which is fine, whatever. he tells me in bed that ...
A. 20 April 2009: Why did you guys stop dating? I don't think there's such a thing as a lost cause when it comes to love, things can turn around in a heartbeat. You mention he's leaving town in a couple of months - is that something you will be able to work aro... (read in full...)
One and a half year, and he still has not proposed to marry me!
Q. dear cupid, i been in relationship wd my bf for one year an a half but he hasnt proposed to marry me yet... he says he loves me and serious about me but he hasnt proposed yet...i tried opening the subject to him...he said to keep things ...
A. 20 April 2009: One and a half years? Maybe it's just me, but I don't think that time frame is anything to get worried about. Have you discussed where you want the relationship to go with him? Like others have said, marriage is no guarantee of not losing ... (read in full...)
What to do for anniversary
Q. Hi, i need some suggestions.It will be first year anniversary for me and my boyfriend and i have no idea what to do .what i know is that i want to do something special for both of us....
A. 16 April 2009: Depending on your budget you could book a hotel room for a night, go away somewhere for a weekend (as we're from entirely difference places I cannot recommend specific destinations :P) Those of course are slightly more expensive options. For some... (read in full...)
A couple questions about masturbation.. *girls*
Q. when i'm on my period and have a tampon in while i watch porn, i still come! how can this be if a tampon is in me... no blood comes out, just come? also, is it normal to orgasm continuously? i mean, if i was to count how many orgasms i have in ...
A. 16 April 2009: Satindesire answered the first question perfectly so I won't go into that any further. I don't know if it's normal to have that many, but I'm the same as you. I could probably go on for hours if I didn't get sleepy and tired. Embrace the luck... (read in full...)
Am I too short, as a male?
Q. I went on two really great dates recently with a girl I met at my college through a friend. It seemed as those we connected in every way. After the second date things seemed to fizzle out. I wonder why until a friend on mine told me that he had ran ...
A. 16 April 2009: Ultimately it is the fact that this girl is shallow that ended this. Surely she realised what height you were before the first date? That is irrelevent though. Sure you're not going to be the tallest male in the room, but I really don't think it... (read in full...)
How do I tell her how I feel? I love her so much!
Q. Hello, I love my girlfriend more than anything! (We've been together a year.) She says she had a "bad experience" while back, and hates giving oral. I didn't really mind. She does, however, LOVE for me to give her oral. As of late, she wants me...
A. 6 April 2009: I can see how that would be very frustrating. As much as you like pleasing her it can be difficult to be giving in that sense when the other person does not seem as enthusiastic about returning the favour! You can discuss it with her, before t... (read in full...)
What should be used to shave "down there"?
Q. hey how do u shave down there i mean can i use a guys shaving razor??if not how else can i shave down there(pubic hair)please let me know...
A. 6 April 2009: Easiest way to do it is with a brand new, super sharp razor. I find mens razors better to be honest, I've tried all the womens razors that are supposed to be the better ones (venus etc) and I still find mens to get a much closer shave. I mean a g... (read in full...)
Am I wrong in wanting to go out with a friend even though I have a boyfriend?
Q. Let me get to the point, Am I wrong for wanting to go out with this guy I call a friend; even if I do have a boyfriend? I like this guy (friend) physically and he has a good personality, but I don't want to be doing anything wrong that can affect my ...
A. 6 April 2009: No you shouldn't. It definitely seems like you view this guy as more than just a friend. Plus to be honest, unless there's a movie you're absolutely dying to see I don't know many girls in relationships that go to the movies with their single m... (read in full...)
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