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writes:Ive been dating a older man for a couple of weeks, we have only kissed but im scared of the whole sex thing as him being 6 years older then me im worried hes had much more experience then me as ive only had one sexual partner, also im a curvy girl a size 14 but then found out his ex is a size 8 which has made me very body insecure!
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reader, Fiona xxx +, writes (22 May 2009):
 I am sure guys are less bothered about our figures than we think, or else they wouldn't be with us.
Perhaps it's a good thing he's more experienced, then at least he knows what he's doing ha-ha.
I also think good sex is about the connection and chemistry too.
Just because he's more experienced, doesn't mean you have to rush into sex if you don't want to. You do what feels right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2009): If he wanted the size 8, he'd still be with her, or be dating someone else of the same size if it was really that important to him. He's not. He's with you. Congratulations for finding one of the few guys who isn't totally shallow...now enjoy the hell out of each other! Good luck =]
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reader, Klara  + ♥, writes (21 May 2009):
i was once conscious of sleeping with an more experienced guy, but then my brother of all people said " well atleast you are sleeping with someone experienced as opposed to the opposite, he will probably have way more to offer" and i was like yeah , that's true..and it was true
In the body thing..try forget it, it is really all in your head. Size 8 is too small for many guys and also i have found, that all the guys i've dated and am friends which (which is ALOT) love curvy girls WAY more. I'm a little curvy..but these guys just go on and on about it.. it's funny how we girls see it SOOO differently. It's in your head, and if by the odd occassion he is the odd one out, then forget him.. but you will grow out of this.. trust me , i did ..it's just a bit of insecurity which is not needed for you to be happy :) best
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2009): Obviously, he is attracted to you. Try not to compare yourself to his ex.
Regardless of his experiences and your lack of it, the first time together with a new person is awkward, but very exciting.
Try to relax and just enjoy it!
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reader, sugar_sugar  + ♥, writes (21 May 2009):
 He wouldn't be with you if he wasn't attracted to you. Just because size 8 seems like a favorable thing to you doesn't mean it was to him. Everyone has different tastes and you clearly fit in with his or he wouldn't be with you.
With any partner regardless of how many people they've slept with it all comes down to finding out what they like, and all that takes is a little communication. So relax, and enjoy discovering what works for him - because it should be a very enjoyable little adventure :P
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