Am I wrong in wanting to go out with a friend even though I have a boyfriend?
Q. Let me get to the point, Am I wrong for wanting to go out with this guy I call a friend; even if I do have a boyfriend? I like this guy (friend) physically and he has a good personality, but I don't want to be doing anything wrong that can affect my ...
A. 6 April 2009: No you shouldn't. It definitely seems like you view this guy as more than just a friend. Plus to be honest, unless there's a movie you're absolutely dying to see I don't know many girls in relationships that go to the movies with their single m... (read in full...)
He cheated and lied, I am trying to forgive him...
Q. hey guys i recently found out that my boyfriend cheated on me with his ex girlfriend... when i confronted him he lied to me but then i found out the truth from his ex and it turned out to be true i once again confronted me and this time he told me ...
A. 2 April 2009: It is hard because being betrayed by someone you love IS hard. The fact you are so upset over it does not mean that it's the wrong choice. The right decision is usually the hardest to make. Even when something is not working, or is bad for you it c... (read in full...)
Friends don't want to keep in touch after school
Q. Hi I guess I'm an average 16 year old who loves her friends immensly. Many I have known since I was 4 years old, whilst others instantly became best friends when we met at high school. Recently, we've been disussing our futures, what careers we ...
A. 2 April 2009: Wow, did they actually say that they didn't WANT to keep in contact with you? Or that they could just imagine that you would all drift.
I think the natural response amongst good friends is to try as hard as you can to stay in touch until in some ... (read in full...)
Am I boring because I don't like to go clubbing?
Q. Hi, i don't really like going clubbing but i do socialize alot in different ways i go to house parties and like meet new people quite often but clubbing just isn't my scene. because i don't like clubbing does this mean i am boring? ...
A. 2 April 2009: No it doesn't mean you're boring. Everyone has different interests and just because you don't share what may seem a common interest amongst others your age doesn't make you boring. House parties can be just as fun, and MUCH cheaper than clubbing... (read in full...)
I can't decide whether to move to be with him!
Q. Hi - really need help and soon as I am desperate to make a decision on my relationship. I have had a relationship with my boyfriend for 3 years - 2 of which he has been living in Oz. It became clear when we first got together that he was not going ...
A. 2 April 2009: You clearly already know the answer to this question. You have listed 11 points against it, maybe you just needed to get it all out in a clear, concise manner. You say life is slipping by, but it seems as though you would be throwing it away if y... (read in full...)
I call him sometimes up to 16 times in an hour or send 60 text message...could I lose him because of this?
Q. Hi, this is my short story... I have been seeing this guy for about 11 months now, we get along and like being with each other, we spend a lot time together, even in his busy schedule he puts time a side for me, he has his own business and is ...
A. 2 April 2009: What good do you think your messages and missed called would do if something did happen to him? They wouldn't assist him, they wouldn't do anything. If something happens to him, the only role your phone MIGHT play is being the device in which he... (read in full...)
I can't stop calling or checking my EX's myspace
Q. I need help I keep calling my Ex and I think he knows. I broke up with him about a year ago, any normal person would prob get over their EX. I guess that I never had closure at all, he broke up with me through a text/phone call. I asked him for a ...
A. 20 March 2009: Firstly, the reason your ex cites as his reason for wanting to break up seems perfectly valid to me. Unless you have some other reason for suspecting he cheated, I see no reason to question his explanation.
I think post break up a lot of people chan... (read in full...)
How can I hook this guy?
Q. I'm 19 and the guy I'm after is 20. We've known each other for about a month and a half now and I don't think I've gotten anywhere with him. At first, I think I came on a little too strongly and then I had to calm down for a while and wait until he ...
A. 20 March 2009: How did you come on too strongly in the beginning, and how did he respond? From what you've said so far it sounds like he reacted a little awkwardly? Do you have any mutual friends? Where do you know this guy from? It sounds like you've already g... (read in full...)
He treats me like shit but I'm head over heels for him
Q. All right, where to start..? I guess first off let me start by saying I am crazy about him and don’t want to loose him… My man and I have been going out for a half a year now, but he still doesn’t consider me his girlfriend. He told me from the begi...
A. 11 March 2009: When you fall in love with someone, you fall in love with the whole package. You want to do things for them, and with them because it makes you happy to do so. So the line about not falling in love with your family, an absolute cop out. You guys ... (read in full...)
He can be so charming but I think he's playing games
Q. So here's a long story, but it has no ending yet...i'm trying to figure it out. A month ago I met a guy, I had seen him before, and I always thought he was really cute, but he never paid attention to me. That night, he approached my friend and let ...
A. 11 March 2009: Why were you mad with his response of "soon"? You wouldn't make out with him because of his beard, you expect this guy that you are attracted to - but have no hold over, are not going out with - to shave his beard before you will kiss him? Ho... (read in full...)
In it only for the sex?
Q. This guy and I have known each other for about two months and just started to fool around last week. We have a mutual friend and he told me that he said that he is looking for something long term and he doesnt sleep around. The first time we kissed, ...
A. 11 March 2009: Seems like this is one of the situations where actions speak louder than words.
If he wanted something more serious, or at least was interested in seeing where things went, then surely you guys could do something that doesn't involve alcohol, comi... (read in full...)
19 year old girlfriend and her frequent visits to Bars... :(
Q. Ok, I am 18 years old. i have met a beautiful girl, who means everything to me. I love her personality, the way she smiles, and the way she laughes. everything about her is inviting. I met her 6 months ago. We werent offcially going out, but we w...
A. 11 March 2009: When you say random guys, do you mean she is asking guys SHE doesn't know to meet up with her at bars? Or are these male friends of hers that YOU dont know? If it's the first one, then I personally would end things if I were in the same boat. It's ... (read in full...)
How does a guy know when a lady claims she is in love with him?
Q. How do a guy know when a lady claims she is in love him and wat trick wil d guy use 2 proof her. Cos one of my g.fs is claiming she doesent sleep at nite bcos of me which i doubt....
A. 11 March 2009: One of your girlfriends? How many are there? Why are you suspicious that she doesn't love you? There are no tricks to proving someone is in love with you, it is not necessary. You need to trust the other person enough, and value yourself enoug... (read in full...)
Advice please: To shave or not to shave?
Q. My fren recommended me to shave my vagina and if possible wax it so that sex feels better. Is it really true? Cuz' i feel too naked walking around like that....
A. 11 March 2009: If you don't feel comfortable like that then don't do it. Go with whatever you prefer in the end. In my experience, all the guys I've been with have preferred no hair or a small amount. But at the end of the day you're the one that has to main... (read in full...)
Do you think he likes me? I'm too shy
Q. There is this guy who used to always come into my work when I would be working and he would come through my counter, so I would serve him. I quit that job, and moved to a different retail outlet to work. I never told him I was quitting. But hes now ...
A. 11 March 2009: So when you're serving him I'm guessing you guys chat to each other? Or at least exchange hellos? Use the customer service aspect of your surroundings to get a little more chatty, ask him if he's doing anything exciting on the weekend? This is p... (read in full...)
Will he leave me if we have a child together?
Q. Im months away from being 30 and for the last two years I've been wanting a baby. I already have 2 girls ages 10 and 12 and I've been with my boyfriend for almost 9 yrs.Ive talked to my boyfriend and he seems to not have a problem with me havi...
A. 11 March 2009: You mention he doesn't have a problem with you having his baby. That wording is a little curious to me. Is he happy about it? Is he looking forward to it? Has he does anything at all that makes you believe he won't stick around and help you raise th... (read in full...)
Should I confront him? It's driving me nuts
Q. Hi all. First time posting, and I'm sure you've heard it a million times already...so here goes. There's this guy (at work) I've {really} liked for some time now, and we had become pretty good mates... and I couldn't help but notice the littl...
A. 11 March 2009: Don't be subtle about it, you won't really get closure on it if you decide to drop a subtle hint that you're moving on - and who's to say he'll even get it. I think you should just come straight out and ask him about it, you've done this much l... (read in full...)
Question to the ladies: do you like it when a guy goes straight to the point?
Q. Girls pls can i know d qulities dat makes a guy caring and attractive b4 u ladies. and do u girls lik when a guy go straight 2 d point witout beating about d bush....
A. 11 March 2009: It depends how it's done. One persons version of not beating around the bush can be another persons version of being way too forward. Being direct is great, telling someone you like them without playing any games is welcomed by most ladies I'm ... (read in full...)
I just don't understand why I can't get a boyfriend.
Q. I just don't understand why i can't get a boyfriend, not been big headed but everyone tells me how beautiful Iam and how well i present myself, but the trouble is it's getting me down, no man ever chats me up, is it because i look to what some say ...
A. 11 March 2009: I'm no expert on what attracts males. I can only note what I've observed, and been told by various men along the way. Personally I've noticed whenever I go out dressed to the 9's, these are the times I am least likely to get approached by a guy. The... (read in full...)
He said he wanted to kiss me..why didn't he?
Q. Someone please ease my mind! I have known this particular gentleman for about 5 months. We met at Walgreens where we exchanged smiles and had a pleasant conversation. He seems to be very busy with his job, his club and his fitness. So I figured ...
A. 10 March 2009: This is something we can only speculate on. There are a number of reasons any guy might be hesitant to kiss a girl, the most obvious being shyness.
If he won't take the lead then maybe you should.
I notice you say he has been married and cheated ... (read in full...)
How long should I wait before texting?
Q. hey i recently met this girl at my school only for 2 day pretty much and yeah i got her number like after school like at 3pm when do you guys suggest it be good time to text her coz i dont wanna text to early n like seem desperate or i got nuthing ...
A. 3 February 2009: If you want to play the waiting game I think the general waiting period is three days.
But if you really like her I would forget about playing games and just send it when you want to. When you really like someone you won't think they're desp... (read in full...)
Problems during fellatio, any ideas?
Q. well my girl has a problem in giving me a blow job. she likes to suck,rub and perform the whole foreplay. but wen she sucks the head I am not climaxing/dont even feel like I am gonna cum but then she says she gets a very salty taste. I am confused! ...
A. 2 February 2009: Sounds like pre cum. Perhaps suggest she adds a little hand action to her oral routine, maybe you require more pressure than her mouth provides.... (read in full...)
I'm seeing a 'party boy' and I'm not quite sure what to do in some situations
Q. hi, this is a silly question.. but im 18.. and lately i've been seeing this guy thats 24 and unlike me he's pretty much a party boy and i dont mind that, dont get me wrong. but he picked me up at night and we went for a drive around and the thing ...
A. 2 February 2009: I think you have to take each situation as it comes. For that particular situation I think he's probably just playing it loudly because he likes it, not because he expects you to bust out some car dancing :) If you want any further advice on deali... (read in full...)
What can a 25 year old female do to meet guys?
Q. Okay, I know you guys are going to be like "boy, her life is soooo sad" and I'll be the first one to agree with you. That's why I'm hoping people could offer me tips on what to do. I am a 25 virgin. I have only had one "technical" boyfriend and th...
A. 2 February 2009: Fixed it... (read in full...)
What can a 25 year old female do to meet guys?
Q. Okay, I know you guys are going to be like "boy, her life is soooo sad" and I'll be the first one to agree with you. That's why I'm hoping people could offer me tips on what to do. I am a 25 virgin. I have only had one "technical" boyfriend and th...
A. 2 February 2009: If you don't enjoy pubs, clubs or bars then I think the next logical places would be through friends or work. Ask your friends if their boyfriends, friends, or brothers know any cute guys you might like? What are your interests? If you like music, s... (read in full...)
Keeping relationship secret but I'm worried he's seeing others
Q. Okay so i'm 16 and i've been seeing this older guy. He seems to like me, but we can't let anyone know that we talk, cause he's just above the age limit for my families approval. So he tells me that he wants to be with me when i get older, and we ...
A. 2 February 2009: How much older is he? I'm going to work with the assumption that he's in his late teens or early 20's - in which case it's quite likely that a stereotypical guy of that age bracket will be meeting and hooking up with other girls if he's not in a ... (read in full...)
It means he cares, right?
Q. hi. so.i had a problem,the guy i love (we arent going out yet but i think he is in love with me too,we are close friends).well..i had texted and called him a lot of times from the past 2 days without getting a reply.i got really scared and assumed ...
A. 2 February 2009: I think you should trust him, and maybe cool your communication down a little anyway. I'm not suggesting you should suddenly play it distant, but maybe keep it to a couple of texts and one phone call - one missed call is all he needs to know you ... (read in full...)
How to get rid of hormonal breakouts?
Q. Urggg! My period just ended, so naturally, i'm a hormone fest... so i'm breaking out! joy. i tend to break out around my nose, and chin around my mouth if that helps. it's not too bad, luckily, but still! what can i do? what do you do when you get a ...
A. 2 February 2009: Do NOT use a whitening toothpaste on your skin! It will bleach it as well as possibly burning it. You run the risk of burning your skin when using toothpaste as an acne treatment.... (read in full...)
Am I really starting to fall in love with my brother?
Q. My older brother and I have been sexually active with each other for some years now. I know this started as him abusing me but I no longer see it that way and I think I might be falling in love with him. He is 4 years older then me and started uni 2 ...
A. 2 February 2009: Posts won't be rejected if they are missing a full stop. However if they are very difficult to read they may be rejected, so while you are very understandably upset your posts don't have to be PERFECT, but legible. Makes it easier for everyone... (read in full...)
How to get rid of hormonal breakouts?
Q. Urggg! My period just ended, so naturally, i'm a hormone fest... so i'm breaking out! joy. i tend to break out around my nose, and chin around my mouth if that helps. it's not too bad, luckily, but still! what can i do? what do you do when you get a ...
A. 2 February 2009: Hormonal breakouts are pretty impossible to control. Make sure you take off your make up before bed if you wear any, cleanse and moisturise daily. Use products that are suited to your skin type (dry/combination/oily). I recommend buying your ski... (read in full...)
Does my ex fiance want to get back together? hH sent me a picture mail of his penis!
Q. Does my ex fiance want to get back together? hH sent me a picture mail of his penis!...
A. 2 February 2009: Out of the blue? My ex boyfriend recently sent me some pictures and a few videos - we're not even living in the same state so in my particular case I knew he didn't want to get back together - he wanted me to send him some pictures in return! Unless... (read in full...)
Should I ignore his texts or reply to them?
Q. Hello! I am in a stupid quandry. I have asked only a few of my friends what I should do and they both say IGNORE! Back in October a cooworker and I became attracted to each other and he proposed that we start having some fun together. Which ...
A. 1 February 2009: I think what you should do depends quite largely on how you feel about him. Do you want this to develop into something more or is it purely sexual? Also keep in mind the fact that you have to work together - ignoring him would make things pretty u... (read in full...)
Serial cheater?
Q. My question is this..Is the following characteristic of a serial cheater? A man whose cell phone goes dead always over night and usually for 8-12 hours? He says he loves you but needs time to figure out why he is not happy.... talks to girls...
A. 17 January 2009: You definitely need to provide more information. I've had many lazy boyfriends, male friends, brothers and (just the one!) father who are very careless with their phone and recharging it. And I know without a shadow of doubt that none of them are ... (read in full...)
I'm sexually clueless, very unconfident about my body and sex never leads to orgasm, help!...
Q. I am 20 yrs old... ive been married for almost 6months.. i know, young. but anyway. My now husband n i started havin sex about 5 months into the relatinship. he was my first everythin. I had only kissed 2 othr guys and never did ANYTHING else wit...
A. 17 January 2009: I think it's going to be hard for you to achieve an orgasm while you're so concerned about it. Even when I'm entirely in the mood, and masturbating (and thus know exactly what it takes for me to orgasm) when my mind starts to wander it becomes ... (read in full...)
He lies but expects my help
Q. I have a small question which i would love some help in deciding. Have you seen those websites where you can send sms off to other people, well my ex uses them when he has no credit. I asked him the other day how come he never text's me off this ...
A. 17 January 2009: He's either doing it to hurt you or he's incredibly selfish.
It is NOT a healthy situation to be dropping your boyfriend off and picking him up from dates! He is NOT a teenager, you are NOT his mother, and it is the furthest thing from acce... (read in full...)
I want to give my boyfriend fellatio, but he has a LOT of pubic hair.
Q. I want to give my boyfriend fellatio, but he has a LOT of pubic hair which is a turn off for me. I want to ask him to trim it, but I don't know how to ask him. He's very insecure and I don't want to make him feel bad. How can I suggest it without ...
A. 16 January 2009: Ask him what he prefers on a girl, bare, trimmed, natural etc.
In my experience guys of our age group will always go for option one or two. If his preferences require you to look after your own pubic hair (or lack thereof) then that's a fairly easy... (read in full...)
He lies but expects my help
Q. I have a small question which i would love some help in deciding. Have you seen those websites where you can send sms off to other people, well my ex uses them when he has no credit. I asked him the other day how come he never text's me off this ...
A. 15 January 2009: Why are you still so heavily attached to your ex? That's the real question?
Why are you allowing him to treat you like a doormat? Believing what he says shouldn't be an issue anymore. He is an ex for a reason so I suggest you cut him out of your... (read in full...)
Advice on trimming pubic hair
Q. I am an 19 year old male living in Canada. I see there is a trend for pubic hair removal in men. I tried trimming my pubic hair once because i figured girls would find it unappealing left alone as it seems unfashionable to have a "bush." I used a ...
A. 7 January 2009: I'm a 22 year old female who's dated a reasonable number of guys, and discussed such topics in depth with all my female friends - I really don't think having pubic hair is an issue. If a guy was exceptionally hairy then I think trimming would be... (read in full...)
What do I wear???
Q. Help, it's my 18th birthday very soon, and I don't have a clue what to wear, I'm going for a meal with my family and then going to pubs and clubs afterwards, I want to dress up but really don't know what to wear, I don't want to over do it but then ...
A. 6 January 2009: I think a happy medium in terms of dress code that would be appropriate for restaurant/pub/club is fitted skinny/straight leg jeans, HEELS, fitted top with a jacket that can be removed if you do decide to go to a club.... (read in full...)
Revenge dressing! Make yourself irresistible to your ex!
Q. How do you do it? What do you wear? How do you look like the breakup didn't hurt you and you're flourishing, on the market, and he's replaceable?...
A. 6 January 2009: I've only ever done this once. It was an event I'd known my ex would be at for a few months in advance, I couldn't get out of going to it and I knew that it would be mostly his friends and family (who he had badmouted me to) so I was pretty ... (read in full...)
He says he doesn't believe in love but still kisses me....
Q. he has been hurt before and now he doesn't want a serious relationship,we kiss each other everytime we're togther,how can i make him get into a serious relationship?he says he really likes me but doesn't believe in love..is there a chance i might ...
A. 16 November 2008: This is a very, very common issue with guys in that age bracket. Kissing someone and investing the time, effort and emotion that a relationship requires are worlds apart. You can't change his outlook. A quote I always try and remember when de... (read in full...)
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