I masturbate to lesbian porn but only date men. Am I gay?
Q. I'm a woman who likes to watch lesbian porn for hours and masturbate to it...do you think i'm gay. The reason i ask is i only go out and have relationships with men....
A. 20 July 2009: I'm the same, I find lesbian porn a little easier to relate to. I find the oral factor a turn on and I find that it is usually done a lot more sensually in lesbian porn.
It's more about the actions and movements for me, my mind will flicker to the ... (read in full...)
Nervous about getting a blowjob for the first time!
Q. Hey, i've been seeing a girl for some weeks now. it seems to be getting a bit sexual. i haven't done anything with a girl before but is about to sometime next week. she has said she wants to give me a blowjob, but im nervous. is there any tips, i ...
A. 20 July 2009: From my previous experience I must disagree with the previous poster. I cannot think of one of my ex boyfriends that would ever, ever, ever prefer a handjob to a blowjob. Just relax, enjoy the visual and physical stimulation. Make sure y... (read in full...)
Should I change my number, or am I overreacting?
Q. Okay, so I starting seeing this guy about a month ago and we used to date about 3 years ago and I left him because I found out he was talking to another girl. I just had a baby about 5 months ago and really was hurt by my child's father and haven't ...
A. 20 July 2009: You broke up with him because he was talking to another girl? Was there anything happening beside talking? Was he saying especially dirty things to this girl? How often do you see this guy? Maybe this relationship isn't working, but I think at y... (read in full...)
My dad won't let me and my boyfriend sleep in the same bed, and he keeps checking on us! What can I do?
Q. I am 19, my boyfriend is 19, we have been together for 5 years. the problem is: My dad wont allow us to sleep together in the same bed! i have been respectful towards my dad for years always going to sleep on the couch a couple times a week ...
A. 20 July 2009: Stay at your boyfriends place.
My parents have the same rules, and while I don't agree with it in the slightest, and I relate to how you're feeling entirely regardless of whatever bills you're paying - it's your fathers house.
I am surprised it... (read in full...)
My family want to meet my boyfriend, but I'm scared of what they'll think of him!
Q. my mum and dad and the rest of my family really want to meet my boyfriend i am very scared of what they will think of him what do i do ?? do you think i should invite him round and let him meet evry1 or not ? x...
A. 20 July 2009: Why are you scared of what they'll think of him?
Do you feel your boyfriend is lacking in some way? Or do you feel your family is overly judgemental?
If it's the first one then I'd question why you are with him.
If you care for this boy eventual... (read in full...)
Why was she willing to have sex so early in a friendship?
Q. she is 20 years old and has recently had a bad break up. I dated her socially a couple of times. The first time we were really alone together she seemed to be very sexaully available for so early in the relationship, to the extent that I backed ...
A. 19 July 2009: Perhaps she doesn't view sex as a serious commitment, but rather meaningless fun. Perhaps she really liked you and wanted you instantly despite her better judgement :P
The only way to know for sure is to ask her.... (read in full...)
Do women look at teenage boys as eye-candy?
Q. Do women look at teenage boys as eye candy?...
A. 19 July 2009: No! I am 22 and already teenage guys are definitely too young looking for me. Even aside from the physical appearance issue, when I think back to my teen years, awkward fondling with guys who had no idea what they were doing - no thanks! ... (read in full...)
When it comes to sex hes stuck in low gear any ideas?
Q. I'm now 6 weeks into a new relationship with a great guy. He's fun and outgoing, and i had my hopes high for the bedroom department. But it turns out that he has a very low sex drive. In my experience of being with a new partner, i was more than ...
A. 19 July 2009: I've been in the same boat before, my last boyfriend was a sex once a week kind of guy - and even then that was with me initiating. I did the dressing up, toys, fulfilling various fantasies and none of it worked.
Unfortunately I found after a coup... (read in full...)
Why wouldn't he ask for my phone number?
Q. This guy in my class approached me and we had a small conversation. When we got to the subway we went out seperate but he never asked for my phone number. Why would he do that? What are the reasons why a guy wouldnt ask for my phone number?...
A. 19 July 2009: Wow, perhaps a little patience is needed?
Maybe he wants to get to know you better, maybe he has a girlfriend, maybe he's not interested.
Why didn't you ask for his?... (read in full...)
Should I be burning bridges? Or be Mr Complacent?
Q. I didn't have any enemies in high school. Things stayed that way in university but over the past 4 years of my life I've started burning some bridges. This was unthinkable when I was younger but now there are some people that are simply sources o...
A. 17 July 2009: I understand what you mean completely.
In high school I was in the same boat, friendships were easy - you see each other every day and for the most part friendship is the number one priority.
I found after high school, everyones prioriti... (read in full...)
For the Ladies: What do you mean when you say, "Hey, you're cute!"
Q. Dear Ladies and Girls, Would you please enlighten me, and many other men no doubt, as to what you ACTUALLY mean when you say to a guy the following:- "Hey you're cute". Thanks. ...
A. 17 July 2009: I use the word cute very frequently, guys always seem to think the worst. "I'm ugly, but interesting?" NO! I use it whenever someone looks, or does something particularly endearing to me. I use it on my boyfriend frequently whenever he does... (read in full...)
My boyfriend watches a lot of porn and it makes me feel insecure about my own body!
Q. i just turned 17 and im a cup A :( i have a boyfriend. he is my first ever boyfriend and i am also his first. last month i told him my bra size. he told me it's fine and he doesnt mind small breasts as long as there's something to touch. lat...
A. 16 July 2009: I don't mind my boyfriend watching porn, but if he called me up afterwards and started talking about how yummy their bodies were - that's where I'd draw the line!
If it bothers you tell him to tone down the conversation, if he wants to discuss othe... (read in full...)
The first date was great but he hasn't called to me ask me out for a second, what's going on?
Q. I work at a rehersal studio and this guy comes un once a week... For a few months he would come and buy a soda and flirt with me... One night he started asking me questions about myself and I ended up giving him my business card... He had it for ...
A. 16 July 2009: I think you've shown as much interest as you need to, to get your point across. You like him, you've let him know you want to see him again, I wouldn't push the subject any further.
How much time has passed since the first date?
Leave it, if he or... (read in full...)
I have a lazy bf and pay for everything HELP!
Q. My boyfriend has no job, no money and won't make an effort to even try to get a job. He'd rather smoke pot, I take us out everywhere we go.. I pay! Im tired of it.. How do I convince him to get a job?... I mean he loves me and is there for me but I ...
A. 15 July 2009: Yes.
Stop paying for him. That simple. Unless he's growing his own pot then he's getting the money for that from somewhere. Interesting priorities, mooching off his girlfriend so he can save his own money for pot?
Niceness doesn't build a life wit... (read in full...)
Am I asking too much of this man?
Q. me and my boyfriend of 6yrs split up last week. Due to his unreasonable behaviour and attitude toward our relationship. i have had my share of being a bitch and i have also regretted it. I have done everything possible to make him see im sorry and ...
A. 15 July 2009: There are some things that once you have to ask for them, you render them completely void.
Love is one of those things.
Either the feeling is gone or he doesn't have the same expectations of what a relationship should be as you do.
If he was willi... (read in full...)
Whenever I try to tell her how I feel she changes the subject!
Q. So, there's this girl I've been friends with for about six or seven years now and she's starting to drive me a little bit crazy. When we first met, I didn't see her in a romantic way at all, but I always thought she was really nice and ...
A. 14 July 2009: Has there been any physical interaction between you two? With the information provided I would have to question how interested she is. Personally, I would only ever attempt to steer conversation in another direction under those circumst... (read in full...)
His mom keeps telling him to break up with me and meet new people! Should we ignore her, or do as she says?
Q. Hi! okay well me and my boyfriend have been going out for 3 years now and I am in love with him. I have had many boyfriends before and have experienced a lot and so has he. I feel that he has every quality that I am looking for in a guy and he is ...
A. 14 July 2009: Honestly I cannot help but wonder how at your age, after having been in a relationship for three years how you have had many boyfriends before, and experienced a lot? I don't mean to be rude or condescending but I can't imagine the boyfrien... (read in full...)
I don't feeling comfortable exposing my breasts to my BF
Q. I am very paranoid about exposing my breasts, I'm not sure why. My boyfriend is very respectful of it and never asks me too but I can tell it is beginning to hurt his feelings like I'm not comfortable around him or something...any confidence ...
A. 14 July 2009: Has anyone ever given you reason to feel insecure about them before? Maybe try starting out wearing sheer bras, so you're not fully exposing them but you get a little more comfortable doing it one step at a time?... (read in full...)
Am I being cold or does he just not want to discipline her?
Q. my bf has a 2yo daughter. Its hard for me b/c he makes me feel like i dont belong (never informing me if she is coming over etc) but i try my hardest. I read her stories, dress her sometimes, help with making her food and bathing her but he says i ...
A. 12 July 2009: I don't think it is unreasonable that you do not wish for your items to become the toys of a child. It sounds like he is on the path to spoiling her. It is only natural that a child learns some boundaries regarding the possessions of others. Does h... (read in full...)
How can I get over my boyfriend betraying my trust?
Q. First off. I love my boyfriend and I will not break up with him so please do not encourage me to do so, your efforts would be in vain. Throughout our relationship , alcohol has never been an option. He would never let me drink and he made me s...
A. 12 July 2009: So breaking up with him is not an option, and yet he doesn't seem to feel what he has done is worth earning your trust back. What does this guy do to give you any indication that he values you? The fact you are quite certain he won't try suggests... (read in full...)
He tells me he needs a break but his actions speaks a different tune
Q. i've been with my boyfriend almost three years my boyfriend just told me earlier this week, that he didn't feel the same anymore and that he wanted a break and that he really really cared about me. i love him so much he literally means the world to ...
A. 10 July 2009: At your age his behaviour will change, as will yours. You're both growing, learning and (hopefully) progressing. I think it is probably the logical side of him that thinks you guys need a break, and based on what you've described of your interact... (read in full...)
Barriers in our Love
Q. Hi, I am really in love with my girlfriend of 3 months.I have given up alot for her and she knows that and she loves me like crazy. But my mind keeps saying there will be barriers that will keep us apart and there is nothing I can do about it. I r...
A. 10 July 2009: It is hard to tell whether your concerns are valid with the information you have provided. I don't think it is normal in a healthy relationship to be worrying about the future of the relationship constantly, no. The sex after marriage doesn't ... (read in full...)
Why is he so mean to me when we've broken up?
Q. Hi, me and my boyfriend broke up a few weeks ago, I'm feeling really down and depressed, because we ended up in ugly terms, he was so mean and rude to me, telling me things like these: - I don't wanna talk to you, whats the part you dont get? -...
A. 10 July 2009: The more you contact him the worse it will get. The way he is acting is horrible but unfortunately for some people when a relationship is over, they want to bury it entirely. What were his reasons for breaking up? Has he been that rude the entire ... (read in full...)
My Ex wants to still have Sex when his new Girlfriend is pregnant!
Q. I was with my ex for 5 years he cheated on me 3 times but I love him and still ended up back with him. We got married last year and I got pregnant. He left me for other women when I was 2 months prego. He told me thay it was a mistake to leave me ...
A. 10 July 2009: Why on earth does it matter if he loves you? This guy is clearly scum. Not just a good guy that has made a few honest mistakes and thus is worth considering forgiving, this guy is lacking some basic, necessary morals. So that aside, I will sa... (read in full...)
What do girls think of a man who cries?
Q. alright hi girls this for you: what do you think of man who cries ( emotional person) can you be with him, do you think he is weak I can't be with such a person or ... tell me, what if he cries for you, beg u ... ...
A. 4 July 2009: Depends on the tears. I don't mind a guy that cries from time to time, for valid reasons. I can't say I'd be terribly turned on if my guy was crying while watching The Notebook with me :P
I find guys that will cry at the slightest hint of a disa... (read in full...)
I want to orgasm too, but she finishes before me
Q. Dear Cupid, Ok well i have been with my girlfriend for about a year now, and we have been having sex for about 6 months...my question is that now since we have been having sex a lot more lately, she finishes before i do, and for about like the l...
A. 4 July 2009: If going again after she has had one orgasm isn't an option, then the next most obvious solution is spending lots of time on foreplay beforehand, for you that is, it's sounds like she's doing fine as is :P It's really not fair that she's always ... (read in full...)
I want to orgasm too, but she finishes before me
Q. Dear Cupid, Ok well i have been with my girlfriend for about a year now, and we have been having sex for about 6 months...my question is that now since we have been having sex a lot more lately, she finishes before i do, and for about like the l...
A. 3 July 2009: Most girls can multiple orgasm. In my first sexual relationship I never did for some reason but after a little self exploration I became a machine! I suggest testing out that avenue, after the first orgasm change to a position that puts less ... (read in full...)
There are two girls I like: my 'dream girl' and my girlfriend
Q. I have an interesting question. Well, there was this sexy blonde girl who seems to have taken a like to me and I haven't known her name until yesterday. Here's the weird part about it: I dreamt about her having sex with me, even though I'm happily ...
A. 3 July 2009: The thing that surprises me most about this question is your age. You have just found out the name of this girl, you list nothing about any of the attributes she possesses other than her physical appearance and you are wondering whether you should ... (read in full...)
Do I try to get back with him in the hope he'll give 100%, or try to move on completely?
Q. The last year i was dating a man that he didn't give a lot of importance to our relationship so i don't call him any more. He doesn't call me either although in the past he used to call me once in a while. Although i don't want to continue with him ...
A. 2 July 2009: You know the answer to this one yourself, you're just having a hard time accepting it and taking that final step.
He didn't place a lot of importance on your relationship, even after the time you two have spent apart he hasn't had any grand real... (read in full...)
Why is he telling people that I'm an atheist?
Q. I am not a religious person but I do have a high focus on my spiritual health. This guy, I really like him and he likes me too, we get along great, the only thing recently we somehow got to talking about God he's a Christian, I'm not. I totally ...
A. 1 July 2009: Contrary to the previous users post, not subscribing to a particular religion does not make you an atheist, agnostic perhaps, but not atheist.
Are you still dating him, who is he telling you are an atheist? Have you asked him about the subj... (read in full...)
Free shot: What's wrong with me? Am I a dirty secret?
Q. We met, talked, fell in love - (happens when you're not looking for love). I was 39 (divorced, kids not with me) she was 23. I lived on the other side of the country. Long distance was a pain, but we made it work and saw each other as often as ...
A. 1 July 2009: It's not so much what she feels is wrong with you, as what she believes others expect of her. I think even those of us at that age who are independent in every way can still often have that subconscious desire to make choices that will please o... (read in full...)
Why do good people always get hurt in relationships?
Q. So why is it that good people always get hurt in relationships? Why is it that when you really are good, caring, honest, and above all loyal to another person you always get screwed over in the end? I have (and not to brag but) been told before by ...
A. 28 June 2009: To answer your question, it is because even nice people make bad choices. If you are finding yourself constantly in relationships where you're being lied to and manipulated then you need to question the decisions you are making, rather than the ... (read in full...)
Is he expecting sex just because we're in a relationship?
Q. Today my bf and I started talking about each others relationship and sexual past, i.e. how many relationships we have been in, why they ended, how many sexual partners etc...Me and my bf havent had sex. He knows that I woudlnt just sleep with ...
A. 25 June 2009: To be honest, yes I imagine he is expecting sex. Not everyone places the same value on sex and based on the fact that he has had casual sex in the past it's pretty clear that his views on sex vary from yours.
It's not a bad thing, and it does... (read in full...)
He loves me...asks for number...but didn't call!
Q. Hi there I was wondering if a man said he loves a girl and he can't stop thinking of her, then wants her number very much. She gave it to him but he rarely calls her. How come?...
A. 23 June 2009: I have to suggest that if a man is telling a woman he loves her before he even has her number, he is either saying what he thinks she wants to hear, or he doesn't have a clue what love is.
How frequently (or infrequently) does he call? Has he made... (read in full...)
I'm single, he's married..should I let him leave and see if he comes back?
Q. well im new to this an i have been viewing other peoples questions and it seems that my "issue/need of advice" on this topic isnt as uncommon as i thought it would be.. wellllllllllll to start off im a young female between age of 21-24 i met my g...
A. 15 June 2009: Let me tell you something I've learnt from a couple of years of dating. They ALL come back! At some point every guy I've dated has contacted me again to catch up or to reunite things, it doesn't mean they love me, it doesn't mean they valued m... (read in full...)
Self esteem issue--I don't understand why he likes me?
Q. My ex boyfriend recently came back to me. Our break up was mutual - it was not like he cheated on me or something like that, we were just sick of arguing a lot. Well, before we got back together, there was some "competition" - one of his exes ...
A. 15 June 2009: This other girl doesn't sound so sweet. She sounds two faced and lacking morals - really, what kind of "sweet" girl makes a play for another girls boyfriend so blatantly. Desperate comes to mind too. Objective standards don't mean much when it comes... (read in full...)
Is a good idea to sleep with a good friend?
Q. I have had a few boyfriends in my time, but i have never gone 'all the way' with any of them, coz i have never felt like they deserve it. but im now almost 18 and my best guy friend and i have been talking alot. then it ended up with us both ...
A. 15 June 2009: I think it's a bad idea. The first time you have sex with someone can be embarrassing enough when it's with someone you love and trust absolutely, let alone someone that's just a friend. Not to mention what it might do to the friendship if something ... (read in full...)
Difficult flatemate/pets
Q. I live in a share house with one other person, the situation is we are not on a lease as such, we pay rent to the owner directly. My flatmate has two cats, one of which has recently began to throw up on the carpets in the house. She will not clean ...
A. 15 June 2009: What a filthy situation. Can you speak to the owner directly about the situation? There's no way you should be forced to put up with that, the house belongs to both of you and if she really feels there is no solution to the cat throwing up on the ... (read in full...)
Mother trying to force her religious views on me and break up my marriage
Q. My mom (she's christen) doesn't like my wife (of 3 years) because she's atheist. My mom has been on my case about it since she read her facebook religious status. She says if I don't find someone who believes god or I'll cut out her will and I'll go ...
A. 15 June 2009: You're not being unreasonable in the slightest. It is your mother who should be a little more tolerant of others religious views (or lack thereof). Did your mother like your wife up until this point? You need to stand up to your mother on behalf o... (read in full...)
What can I do to get my lazy boyfriend motivated?
Q. i dont know what to do with my boyfriend. he has no direction in his life, and he just wants to do things "his way". i tried telling him to go to collage with me to make our future easier, but he says hes not ment for collage.i even asked him if he ...
A. 14 June 2009: It's hard to say exactly how extreme the situation is having heard only your version of it. It seems a lot like you want him to be doing things your way. At the end of the day it's his life, and if he has no desire to go to college why should he do ... (read in full...)
He asked about my past, I told the truth and now he's acting differently
Q. I don't know why, but my boyfriend asked me how many guys I had slept with, I believe in honesty so I told him the truth even though I don't understand what the point is, it's him that I want. After I told him he kind of went all silent then said ...
A. 4 June 2009: It's funny, people ask so many questions they don't really want the answer to. There is only one right answer to the questions they ask, and apparently yours was not the right one. I think it's great that you were honest, as for how you can make him... (read in full...)
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