He says he doesn't believe in love but still kisses me....
Q. he has been hurt before and now he doesn't want a serious relationship,we kiss each other everytime we're togther,how can i make him get into a serious relationship?he says he really likes me but doesn't believe in love..is there a chance i might ...
A. 16 November 2008: This is a very, very common issue with guys in that age bracket. Kissing someone and investing the time, effort and emotion that a relationship requires are worlds apart. You can't change his outlook. A quote I always try and remember when de... (read in full...)
Porn in relationships? Healthy or not?
Q. I just wanna get your feedback on how you feel about Porn in relationships. tell me as much as you can please! answers from both sexs is appreciated!i feel as if him watching porn is affecting my sex drive with him and im not wanting to have as much ...
A. 6 November 2008: Porn can be healthy in relationships it just depends on the two people in it. It can definitely be taken to an unhealthy level (like anything in life).
If sex becauses noticeably less frequent then I would say there's a problem.
There is NO way t... (read in full...)
Why is he telling me about all these other women if he supposedly likes me?
Q. I met a man through an online dating site. (First time I've used one) and he is very christian which I like. He was emailing 4-5 times a day and finally we talked on the phone for about a week. Our conversations were 3-4 hours long, so we were ...
A. 6 November 2008: To me it seems a little like game playing. There seems to be a pattern, he tells you about all of these beautiful women who seemingly want him, but then reassures you he would rather you.
It seems like he is trying to talk himself up and score brow... (read in full...)
Why won't my Mom let me go on the pill?
Q. the relationship between me and my mum is rapidly changing and i dont know what to do. me and my boyfriend of 6 months recently lost our virginities to each other, hes the best thing in the world, treats me like a princess and he and my mum do get ...
A. 6 November 2008: Have you asked her why she doesn't want you on the pill? Maybe as the shock wears off she will come to her senses and look at the situation rationally.
She may have her reasons, a woman I once knew who suffered from cervical cancer believed that... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he is in love with an older woman.
Q. I have a problem and I don't understand what I can do. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years and I truly believe that he is my true love. I want to marry him, and spend the rest of my life with him and I've known this every since ...
A. 30 October 2008: I'm happy that you have some closure, it is an awful situation to be in but things will get better from here if you let them.
Spending time alone will allow you to discover more about yourself, examining your past relationship will allow you to disc... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he is in love with an older woman.
Q. I have a problem and I don't understand what I can do. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years and I truly believe that he is my true love. I want to marry him, and spend the rest of my life with him and I've known this every since ...
A. 30 October 2008: I think any person with commonsense would have an inkling that you wouldn't be happy about the prospect of your partner being with someone else. So if her excuse is that she isn't sure how you'd feel about it - she's kidding herself and your partner ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he is in love with an older woman.
Q. I have a problem and I don't understand what I can do. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years and I truly believe that he is my true love. I want to marry him, and spend the rest of my life with him and I've known this every since ...
A. 29 October 2008: Well your belief system is your own as are your choices, and I don't expect to change them but from my perspective I wouldn't mind at least making you think about them a little. Where is the line? How badly could he treat you before you would... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he is in love with an older woman.
Q. I have a problem and I don't understand what I can do. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years and I truly believe that he is my true love. I want to marry him, and spend the rest of my life with him and I've known this every since ...
A. 29 October 2008: Why do you have no choice? There is ALWAYS a choice. You are young (as am I), there is nothing but choice, and the choices you make now will lay the foundation for the rest of your life. If he doesn't fulfill his fantasy with this woman, how do yo... (read in full...)
Why didnt she listen to what I said?
Q. My ex-boyfriend broke up with me in August and started seeing someone else straight away. A few weeks later I found out I was pregnant by him. I told him and he said he would support my decision of what I wanted to do. I wanted to keep the baby and ...
A. 29 October 2008: Honestly if I ever received a nasty, emotion driven email from an ex girlfriend of one of my boyfriend I would just assume she was some bitter ex who didn't have her stuff together.
If you had spoken to her one on one, calmly and rationally with... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he is in love with an older woman.
Q. I have a problem and I don't understand what I can do. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years and I truly believe that he is my true love. I want to marry him, and spend the rest of my life with him and I've known this every since ...
A. 29 October 2008: You are still attached to him emotionally, and you are still talking to him, hearing of his conquests with this other woman.
So while you may not officially be with him, you are close enough. You are with him mentally and emotionally, the only diff... (read in full...)
After having sex with me he told me "I don't want to be with you!"
Q. I am 25. My boyfriend ended things almost a month ago. Since then we've pretty much spoken everyday, and on sunday we met up for sex. I know, I know, absolutely terrible idea and I know that now. We had a great night and he stayed the morning after ...
A. 28 October 2008: I'm sorry but how have you tried to move on over the past month if you've spoke every day and met up for sex?
That's not trying to move on, that's basically a relationship without the monogamy.
Don't send him an email, don't announce your plans, j... (read in full...)
Having trouble ejaculating!
Q. ppl help pls i have a problem ejeculating when having sex takes me very long. what can i do? tried medicine, uroligist, all stuff. help! ...
A. 28 October 2008: Can you ejaculate when masturbating?... (read in full...)
He wont contribute finacially and I am drowing in bills!
Q. I am having a problem with my relationship, me and my boyfriend argue all the time. He got sacked from his job 4 months ago. We have been together for nearly a year but he used to work abroad so I only seen him for weeks at a time. Anyhows after ...
A. 28 October 2008: Say NO!
Don't give him any more money. Your security is more important than his luxuries. Do not give him another cent, do not even feed him with groceries you have paid for.
That is a huge red flag, you cannot depend on him when it really matters ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he is in love with an older woman.
Q. I have a problem and I don't understand what I can do. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years and I truly believe that he is my true love. I want to marry him, and spend the rest of my life with him and I've known this every since ...
A. 28 October 2008: Does it matter what her reasons are for not going ahead with it?
Why are you still with him?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he is in love with an older woman.
Q. I have a problem and I don't understand what I can do. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years and I truly believe that he is my true love. I want to marry him, and spend the rest of my life with him and I've known this every since ...
A. 26 October 2008: The only reason he isn't lying to you is because he doesn't need to, you have given him permission to do whatever he pleases without any consequences. Him being honest is probably more for his own peace of mind than for yours.
Him being in love ... (read in full...)
He's not fulfilling his promises to me...should I still date him or not?
Q. Ok so I work in the nightclub industry as a dancer for three years, and have begun to really hate it. Then about a month ago, I met a guy in there whom i liked, and he promised to take care of my bills and whatever i needed, so long as i didn't ...
A. 22 October 2008: Some of his behaviour is inconsiderate, and rude but I think you seriously need to look at yourself.
Are you planning to strip for the rest of your life? If so - are you planning to be in a relationship ever again? Based on what you have said in y... (read in full...)
I don't know if my boyfriend is serious about me or just playing around...
Q. I dont know if my boyfriend is serious about me or just playing around. He said that he really likes me a lot. Everything was going fine last week, but now hes acting different. Last week he would call me every night. He even called me at 4am...
A. 27 September 2008: Where there's smoke there's fire, something has changed his behaviour this week and I guess there's a few possible options, he could be having issues in his personal life or it could be that he has lost interest in the relationship. The fact tha... (read in full...)
I have not had my period for two months, what could be wrong? I'm 13.
Q. I'm 13 years old, and have had my period since i was 11. I've never had sex before, but i haven't had my period for 2 months! What's wrong with me?...
A. 27 September 2008: I would recommend going to a doctor to check this out. If you have been unwell lately or are underweight that could explain why you haven't had your period, but rather than let a bunch strangers speculate on what the problem might be I think the ... (read in full...)
He threatened he'd stay in the rain, suicidal, so I invited him to my house where he continued his abuse, when I refused sex he said his ex was better, etc. Is this emotional blackmail?
Q. Hello there, I have been with my boyfriend for almost 16 months now. When i first met him he was a depressant after splitting up with his ex girlfriend, i helped him through it and he has been on and off them for some time know. He often says he ...
A. 24 September 2008: He is not your child, he should be your equal. You should not be the one to solve all of his problems. He clearly has issues but I don't think being suicidal is one of them, that seems to be to guilt you into staying with him. The best thing you c... (read in full...)
He said he would stay with me, but I can't get his comments out of my head!
Q. Hi, I'm so confused and upset. I have been with my bf for over 4 yrs. I have been ill and out of work and he has been living in my house and supporting me. We argue because he's not good at communicating and therefore i keep second guessing...
A. 24 September 2008: I think you already know the answer to this question.
Would you really be happy knowing that he was sacrificing his own happiness for yours? It might sound romantic on paper but you BOTH deserve to be with people you love, and that love you in retu... (read in full...)
Before I met him he was quite the ladies man, now I need to forgive him, but I'm not sure I can...
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been in a relationship for almoust three years now. Yesterday i found out that my boyfriend was planning to cheat on me, meeting a girl for the first time, while he was telling me that he was going to the doctor's with hi...
A. 24 September 2008: From everything you have written it doesn't sounds like he particularly cares whether you forgive him or not. From the information provided he doesn't sound remorseful, so I am very confused as to why you are trying to work things out.
You spen... (read in full...)
What's most important in the kiss?
Q. I was wondering how much of pleasure from kissing comes from technique and how much is from connection. If you're in love with a person, and they suck at kissing, will it still be fun?...
A. 21 September 2008: I guess it's a personal thing but for me I don't think I could get much pleasure from someone with a bad technique no matter how much I adore them.
Some of the best kisses I've had have come from people I didn't know very well, but kissing some... (read in full...)
Techniques on how to cover blemishes by using make up?
Q. Im 17 almost 18 and really need help in the make up department.I get blemishes like every other teenager and untill i finally get rid of them i thought that i could mabye improve my confidence with make up.Problem is i don't have any idea which is ...
A. 16 September 2008: Firstly look at the skincare you're using before you think about the make up to cover up your skincare issues. If your skin is rather bad then you should see a dermatologist.
Using a gentle cleanser as well as moisturiser for your skin type is a mu... (read in full...)
I am just so outraged! Is he some kind of pervert? What should I do?
Q. I recently made a horrific discovery that is making me questioning the man I thought I loved. While helping to clean out his room, I came across a stash of some 30 or more porn magazines and several DVDs stashed away. I was shocked. He told me ...
A. 16 September 2008: He might be telling the truth about having it before you two got together. Just like some women tend to keep a tonne of gossip magazines they've accumulated over the years, men generally stash porn magazines or dvds away, maybe even without a second ... (read in full...)
How do you know if a person is just being friendly or if they want to be friends?
Q. I have come to the realisation that I dont have any true friends. All my friends pretty much treat me like dirt (emotionally abusive, use me, manipulate me, lie to me etc...) and ive finally had a enough of it and am giving up on them. Some of these ...
A. 15 September 2008: The best way to approach seeing uni/work mates out of those areas is to find common ground. Do you like to go out to pubs or clubs? I think start by asking what she is doing on the weekends, mention you're bored of your usual activities and looking ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for me, as a female, to enjoy watching porn?
Q. Hiya, I am just wondering if I am normal, or this situation is normal. Well, I have been in a relationship with my fiance for nearly three years and I have always looked at porn on the internet. He does not know this, nor will I tell him beca...
A. 15 September 2008: Im a female and i enjoy it too, I think its pretty normal though just spoken about less.... (read in full...)
Is this his way of keeping me attached or is he just bored?
Q. I was dating a known player for a short while and he got super serious. He asked me to moved in, insisted I got to know his family (hes 27 and only ever brought 3 girls home), and even said he loved me numerous times (I disagreed with him, tho to ...
A. 10 September 2008: It is difficult to say without knowing him personally but it does seem a bit like gameplaying. He texts you to gauge how you feel then when you "bite" he seems to dismiss it.
Maybe his feelings for you are as real as his is capable of at this poin... (read in full...)
Underwire bras have left brown marks under my breasts, any suggestions on how I can remove the marks?
Q. I am very slim and have very big breasts. I have always ensured I wore correct bras, even when sleeping at times to help with good posture and prevent sagging etc. My boobs are fine because of it and have no sagging, back problems etc. However, ...
A. 10 September 2008: Hey there
I'm not entirely sure if this will specifically help your problem as I've never encountered it myself but I know that rosehip oil is supposed to be wonderful for removing marks/scars of all varieties, as is calendula cream or palmers coco... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says I don't ask him enough questions, what am I supposed to ask him?
Q. I need LOTS of answers !!! PLEASE !!! My boyfriend says I don't ask him enough questions... He's usually doing all the talking, I'm just sitting there listening mostly because I love hearing his voice, (but I would never tell him that)and I don't ...
A. 2 April 2008: What are his favourite things to do? If he's passionate about music or politics get him talking about those.
Ask him about the best/worst moments in his life. Who and what has shaped him most in a person. Talk about people you both know (not bitc... (read in full...)
Should I trust him even though he has admitted he cheated on his ex while with the same group of mates that he might be meeting up with tonight?
Q. Hey everyone, I don't know what to do. I have a problem. I love my boyfriend very much and he says he loves me and wants to marry me. We have been together for six months but he has admitted that he cheated on his ex with a girl that he is meeting ...
A. 1 April 2008: Your boyfriend is old enough to have been married, so it is safe to assume he is certainly old enough to ensure he is not taken advantage of!
I think it's a load of crap that this girl is going to take advantage of him. If anything happens it will... (read in full...)
Why does every man I have ever been out with feel compelled to mention how ‘hot looking’ girls are to me?
Q. Why does every man I have ever been out with feel compelled to mention how ‘hot looking’ girls are to me? I have been going out with a guy for 8 months. I appreciate that men look at other girls (they wouldn’t be men if they didn’t), but the ...
A. 19 February 2008: I guess we all have a type we are attracted to, it seems you are attracted to the types who feel it is okay to stare at other girls in front of you! I think you are being fair, it seems your boyfriend is pretty immature (at least in that aspect o... (read in full...)
After how many dates should you discuss your relationship?
Q. If you go on a few dates with someone new, and see them alot during the week, talk on the phone, go over each other's houses etc - would you be bf/gf? I was wondering, what is the usual amount of time before you should start assuming you are...
A. 19 February 2008: I would never make that assumption personally speaking. After seeing someone for long enough/developing that emotional attachment I would have the inevitable conversation about being exclusive to each other.
If you're exclusive I would consider that... (read in full...)
I have a small penis,,how can I satisfy a female?
Q. Hi im a guy in my late teens and im really embarrassed ive got a very small penis just on 2 inches fully erect ive never had a girlfriend im to embarrassed what can i do can i even satisfy a girl?...
A. 19 February 2008: A boy I dated was on the very small side, but he manages to get the most gorgeous girlfriends! He always has girls chasing after him and they are always stunning.
Perfect the other areas of sexual interaction - fingering, oral.
As everyone... (read in full...)
Boys consider me ugly and I feel very low about it, whereas the school regulation does not allow make up or other forms of embellishment. What can I do?
Q. i am really ugly, i am dark and my hair is sooo curly and frizzy... my face gets so oily and it looks really bad..we wear uniforms in school and not allowed make up although i do put eyeliner...and im not allowed to straighten or colour my hair or ...
A. 19 February 2008: The first thing you should do is go to a dermatologist for your skin, having bad skin is an awful feeling and not one you should have to put up with. In the mean time if your skin is oily get some oil blotting sheets, I think clean and clear might ... (read in full...)
Do you think he's hiding something from me?
Q. Give me some feedback, my boyfriend always hides his phone, keeps in his pants and hardly lists any phone numbers, they are unlisted, just by digits, to top it off he turns his cell phone off when he charges it, the ringer is always silent, to me ...
A. 15 February 2008: That is what my ex boyfriend used to do, he even listed a few girls numbers under his brothers names in his phone (didn't find this out till much later). It turned out he was cheating, but that's not reflective of your situation.
Is there anyt... (read in full...)
Why has my boyfriend saved those videos?
Q. Ok, I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. We were both in realationships prior to us being together. I snooped and found a camcorder, with some videotapes. I find out he had been filming various types of females, while he was in his old ...
A. 15 February 2008: Your self image shouldn't lie entirely in his hands! I completely understand you being annoyed, and I can certainly relate to your feelings but you should not give anyone the power to make you feel less about yourself.
If it was a recent thing (tho... (read in full...)
Afraid I won't be good at kissing
Q. I kind of like this girl and well her friend knows it and keep trying to hook us up, and well it working. But she is playing hard to get, which i sort of enjoy. But her friend is trying to get her to just kiss me, and it was pretty close to ...
A. 14 February 2008: Mouth hygiene! Brush your teeth and keep some mints on you at all times! Also, general body hygiene too - make sure you smell nice(sure this is basic stuff but from my experience many teen boys overlook this).
Be conscious of how much saliva is in y... (read in full...)
Staying with his sister every night.
Q. So my fiancee lives 4 hours away, his sister travels and sometimes ends up in the same city as him. Whenever his sister is in town, he stays with her at the hotel. I think the rationale is that since her sister's paying for the room anyhow, he ...
A. 14 February 2008: How often does this happen? Weekly, fortnightly, monthly? That is a very bizarre situation and I would be inclined to question whether it is his sister as well? Very cynical yes, but I just wonder why she would be renting a hotel room with more than ... (read in full...)
I've had to come home alone on the night before valentines day. I feel like I've missed a big chhance tonight. What can I do in future?
Q. Hi. I've had a brilliant night!: I walked around with a women's football team, who were playing something called Pub golf. They walked from pub to pub ordering different drinks each time, and downed them as quick as they could. Most of them wer...
A. 14 February 2008: Catch a taxi!... (read in full...)
Would it be wrong to wish my ex "Happy Birthday"?
Q. I was wondering what you would do in this situation: I went out with a guy during January this year. He was my first boyfriend (I'm 18). We were strangers, but we worked at the same place, and he was the one who asked me out. A couple of weeks ...
A. 13 February 2008: Honestly it's not inappropriate, but I really think that most guys of that age group would take it as a sign that you want him back. I don't think it's clingy, it is a nice gesture.. but based on the guys I know personally I think most would ta... (read in full...)
My feelings died for him, will they come back?
Q. Hi all, Please, I need some advice. I have been in a relationship for 12 years, and am now 28. It has been a mistake from the start, but I did love him. He has spent alot of time critisizing me, bad mouthing my family friends, my ways, and tryi...
A. 13 February 2008: What is it you love, if it has been a mistake from the beginning it does not sound like it's worth salvaging. He can say the kind words and do the right things now that he is faced with the dilemma of being alone, but if he really loved you he would... (read in full...)
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