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The first date was great but he hasn't called to me ask me out for a second, what's going on?

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Question - (16 July 2009) 5 Answers - (Newest, 16 July 2009)
A female United States age 51-59, anonymous writes:

I work at a rehersal studio and this guy comes un once a week... For a few months he would come and buy a soda and flirt with me... One night he started asking me questions about myself and I ended up giving him my business card... He had it for 3 weeks and out of the blue he called and asked me out! I was very happy and said yes we went out the following Friday, we had an amazing time, I thought, we ended up making out but when he grabbed my breasts I pushed him off and told him I liked him and didn't want to have sex... he said he didn't even expect to do what we had already done... we were watching a movie and at the end he took me home... he said he would call me but 4 days later I emailed him asked him if he wanted to go out again. He said sure but he went out of town last weekend to take his daughter to his parents, he told me to " try not to burn off and away", what does that mean? Anyway , he never called saw him at work he said he would call me but he hasn't! I really like him how do I get him to ask me out again??? I will see him at least once a week how do I deal with this? Please help I'm too old for this to keep happening to me!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2009):

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I know ... I gave way too much info it sucks !! We went out 2 weeks ago tomorrow , saw him last Monday he said he would call saw him again Tuesday ( he practices where I work) he said with a smile " I see you everywhere I go". I told him I worked there , we have 2 locations, anyway I looked like hell I was working in our warehouse in 105 degrees and make up running clothes pasted to me, so after we chatted I left didn't say anything pertaining to another date!

I want to be desirable to him again!! How can I do that? I am gonna have to see him every Monday!

Thank you so much everyone¡! Worst case scenerio , I learn finally how to get that 2nd date! I am too old to go thru this again!

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (16 July 2009):

Honeypie agony auntI think I have to agree with bobbles. I don't think he is interested in a relationship. You two had a really good date and then he goes cold.. When a guy says he will call you and then he doesn't, that is a "polite" way of saying I'm not interested.

I would (if you are looking for a guy to date) look elsewhere. Just be yourself and courteous to him, but stop telling him anything personal in the future.

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A female reader, bobbles32 Canada +, writes (16 July 2009):

bobbles32 agony auntIf he doesn't make the effort, in all honesty, he's probably just not that into you. If you want to draw him back in, stop making that effort. Once he thinks that he can't have you, he'll probably work harder.

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A female reader, sugar_sugar United States +, writes (16 July 2009):

sugar_sugar agony auntI think you've shown as much interest as you need to, to get your point across. You like him, you've let him know you want to see him again, I wouldn't push the subject any further.

How much time has passed since the first date?

Leave it, if he organises another date - great, but in the mean time I would try focus my attention elsewhere if I were you.

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A female reader, pinktopaz United States +, writes (16 July 2009):

Do not chase him, do not ask him out. Giving "hints" and asking when you'll see him again shows that you're thinking about him and can even come off as desperate. Leave him alone as in don't email him or call him. If he wants to see you again, he'll ask. If he just wanted to have sex with you, then you don't need him anyway.

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