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writes: Hi,I am really in love with my girlfriend of 3 months.I have given up alot for her and she knows that and she loves me like crazy. But my mind keeps saying there will be barriers that will keep us apart and there is nothing I can do about it. I really dont want to lose her.Is this normal and what can I do to deal with it.the thought of these things really eat me up and I constantly think about it. Also we believe in sex after marriage is this k.Please advice me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2009): I'm not obsessive i just think the worse all the time. The truth is she and got together out of no where. And her ex boyfriend cheated on her alot and also use to be my bestfriend.The truth is I always fear the worse it has always been like that. My love for her is very strong and hers for me too. I just want to accept it and deal with it. There is alot of pressure on me because Ive given up alot for her.This adds to the tension. Please do you no how GAD can be treated.\
Thank you so much
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reader, babymama99  +, writes (10 July 2009):
 Also: sex after marriage is just fine in fact I recommend it.
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reader, babymama99 +, writes (10 July 2009):
You are being obsessive. Creating problems where there is none. You care for your girlfriend so much that instead of living in the now and enjoying your time together you are creating these worst case senarios in your head and concentrating on that.
Look up "Generalized Anxiety Disorder" on the internet, you'll find a lot of information out there that can help you come to terms with this.
http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/generalized-anxiety-disorder-gad/index.shtml
"Generalized Anxiety Disorder, GAD, is an anxiety disorder characterized by chronic anxiety, exaggerated worry and tension, even when there is little or nothing to provoke it."
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (10 July 2009):
 This seems to be developing into a codependency relationship. Why do you say you would have nothing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe truth is we have no issues really.The thought of losing really kills me actually and it does to her 2. This becomes overwhelming and I start thinking things please can you offer more advice. Im scared fate doesnt want us to be together.She worries alot 2 because we have been treated very badly by our ex's. I honestly will have nothin if she leaves me.
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reader, sugar_sugar +, writes (10 July 2009):
 It is hard to tell whether your concerns are valid with the information you have provided. I don't think it is normal in a healthy relationship to be worrying about the future of the relationship constantly, no.The sex after marriage doesn't seem to be an issue, as you both believe in it, it should not create any real issues.Perhaps if you provide more information about the obstacles you will receive better advice.At the end of the day all you can do is know you both love, trust, and want to be with each other, if you've got that, you'll be alright :)
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (10 July 2009):
Every relationship goes through it's own problems. Don't dwell on these things. When they come, you two will hopefully work on them.
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