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writes:Hello and thank you for taking the time to read this. I'm not exactly the best looking guy at my school (not by a longshot). Yet, I am the kind of guy who treats a girl right. I like romance (yes I'm straight), i write poetry and will do anything to make a girl feel loved. Most girls end up just ignoring me and it drives me mad. I thought that girls were supposed to like guys who were sensitive and treated them right. What am I doing wrong? How can I get them to notice how I am without being creepy? What do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Staceily +, writes (5 November 2012):
 I wouldn't say it's all about wanting a bad boy, but it is all about wanting to fit in and be popular in high school. A guy could be cute and sweet and nice but if he is a little different and not exactly what everyone finds to fit in then he will be ignored. High school is a very shallow place. It won't be of much help now but your personality traits will be strengths for you when you are older and out of school. For now I would take Cerberus' advice and learn the guitar. He is quite right, huuuge girl magnet. Poetry I never cared for but a guy who could play guitar??? Romantic and dreamy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2012): Teenage girls want a bit of a badass OP. Your type is what they want as a friend so they can bitch to you about how much of an asshole the badass they're dating is.
Plus OP you'll find it's not just teenage girls. You'll see throughout your life what women say they want is not what they go for and it's just luck of the draw that they end up with a guy who excites them but is also nice and respectful.
What makes a badass different to you? They don't doubt themselves OP. You say you're not the best looking by a long shot? Looks are irrelevant, teenage girls like looks of course, everyone does but it's how you make them feel that really makes them like you. A badass makes them feel excited, he's unpredictable, he makes moves on them and makes them feel wanted and special by doing so because he is confident about who he is and not afraid to try. Being a badass isn't a personality trait OP, you can like romance (and being gay or straight has nothing to do with it by the way) but still be determined and fearless in your pursuit of them.
You can write beautiful poetry but it's rather pointless if it's you alone in your room. Learn to play the guitar and make your poetry songs that you can perform for people. OP teenage girls love musicians, love them. Play guitar and be able to play in front of people and you can play to the sensitive romantic thing perfectly, seriously a guitar is one of the best pussy magnets going. Women, especially teen girls go crazy for guys they think "bare their soul" musically. You can sing a song about diarrhoea burning your arse and how wiping it is painful and they will still gush over your "deep soul".
You like poetry? Turn into lyrics, write and perform songs. Like romance? Then start asking girls out and stuff.
Being popular and liked comes easy to some guys, guys like you and me have to make the effort. Most of all though OP, you have to believe in yourself without question. Teen girls have their own self image issues, body issues, confusion about who they are and whether they're good enough, they don't want a guy with the same issues they want one who can make them forget those things and whose self belief may rub on off them.
Got to be a hunter OP, have to make plays for girls, have to kiss them, ask them out etc and not be afraid of rejection. Want girls to notice you? Learn the guitar and play your "deep" songs for them any chance you can get. Learning to play popular hits isn't such a bad idea either.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (5 November 2012):
 " I thought that girls were supposed to like guys who were sensitive and treated them right. "
Yes, when they are 30+. When they are teenagers they just want the popular boys, same as the boys only want the popular girls.
When girls are 20-30 years there's a whole mix of what they want, some are more immature than others and still want the popular guys, some will be more open to the romantic and sensitive guys.
"What am I doing wrong?" You're a teenager. That is what is wrong. Girls your age have no idea what they want in a guy, the only core rule about teenagers is that they want to be like everyone else and do everything their friends do, look like their friends do, and date the same type of boys that their friends do. So... look at her friends and figure out how you can be most identical to her best friends boyfriend. That would probably be your safest bet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2012): It is well known that young boys don't know their own mortality, they jump of bridges into ice cold fast streaming waters and... well most survive actually but lots don't which is why despite that more boys are conceived we end up with more women.Young females (and a lot of old females) have a similar blind spot but then with regards to relationships. They are not naturally good at avoiding danger. Boys think they are invincible, girls think that they can fix the boy.It also simply true that the more aggressive boy stops the girl from having to take action. All she has to do is allow the rollercoaster to drag her along and sooner or later dump her for the next ride to drag her along. It takes no effort and once it inevitably goes bad she blames the boy, never herself.Sooner or later they might learn and the trick is to avoid these women at all costs unless you enjoy a life as bagage handler.But outside the talkshow dating circle, there are the normal people, they just are less visible because a talkshow with happy people would be very boring.Unless you want to create a harem with being sensitive, the only advice is to stay yourself and spot that girl who likes you, not for pretending but for who you are.She is out there but she too, like you, tends to be overlooked.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2012): Its more about popularity in high school, the nice guys tend to just blend in an be "there", they rarely get noticed. Its the "Bad boys", the naughty ones who never obey the rules and are always in the spotlight and getting in trouble for something they shouldn't have done, that are popular and get noticed. The teens of today don't like obeying rules hence why they find themselves attracted to those who actually aren't afraid to break them... I guess that's what makes a person popular in high school and let's face it, who doesn't want to be popular? The world is far too obsessed with glamour and popularity these days.
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