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writes:Hi, My partner and I have been together for 4 years. If we have sex regularly he's able to go on for a while without coming. If we don't have sex for a few days or week he comes quickly. He has always said afterwards "Its because I havent had sex for a while". We had a big row recently and we didn't sort it out for 3 weeks and we didn't have sex for 3 weeks. When we did, he went on and on for ages and I just don't get it. The argument was over a txt from a woman I didn't know on his phone. I can't help thinking that there's something untoward because this had been the routine for so long or do you think I'm just being paranoid? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2012): What did the text say?
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (5 November 2012):
 Could be he's been "spanking the monkey" a LOT that 3 week time period, doesn't mean he cheated.
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reader, Staceily +, writes (5 November 2012):
 I'm also curious what the text said. But outside of that the reason he may have lasted is long is he has been taking care of himself frequently if you get what I'm saying. If he has still been able to get off on a regular basis, on his own, the that could have him lasting longer. I'm sure 3 days or a week without sex he doesn't feel the need to masturbate so it builds up and goes quickly. But 3 sexless weeks and fighting I'm sure he was taking care of himself in that time. Do you have any real reason to believe he would be cheating? Has he changed? Did the text suggest something? Does he leave at random hours or hide his phone from you? If everything has remained the exact same and he doesn't keep his phone hidden or attached to him at all times then I'd say it's your paranoia kicking in.
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reader, CJH  +, writes (5 November 2012):
 What did the text on his phone say?
A huge row can put a dent in anybodies sex drive - male or female so don't jump too quickly to conclusions there.
Without any more information its going to be very hard to give you any straight answers.
In general, your own intuition is probably going to be more accurate than any advice given on the basis of what you've said so far.
As ever, communication is the key here, why not stop concocting scenarios in your head and start asking your partner questions? If he blows up every time you raise the subject then, yes, be suspicious.
Try it?
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