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writes:I met this guy on a dating app. He came over in the weekend we drank some ciroc the biggest bottle between me and him we finished it, we was in my kitchen and he was trying to take my pants off and I looked at him and I said no, so he let me be. I liked the way he was he was handsome, he is an independent man and that's what turned me on the most, he works has his own house and he is a veteran. He is 27 I'm 21. Untold him I didn't want to do anything because I didn't want to ruin our friendship and he says okay we're friends. So he went home and like he texted me always every morning but then he started texting about sex, so I told him that if he is looking for a woman to just give him sex that I wasn't the one so he says "ok bye" so I was shocked but I didn't text him back. That was in a Monday do that weekend he textd me and said hey I was confused, so we started talking again, so he comes over one day during the day and we watched tv and he bought me some food which was nice of him and then he went back to work. We kept texting and texting we had sex one day like about two weeks after and he didn't txt me the whole weekend then he started again on That Monday....... So now we had sex again the other night on Tuesday oct. 24 we textd the next day but I textd him yesterday and he didn't answer. I know I'm wrong for this but I made a fake profile LOL on the dating thing and he was talking to the girl and he gave her the number. He is a player I hate him and a liar he told me he lived in a town and he told her (which is me still lol) a diff town also. I don't get it after that night when he went home he kissed me on my forhead. We kissed in the mouth also I'm just soooo confused idk what to do. #please don't judge me I'm just looking for advice.
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reader, JogiBharat  +, writes (29 October 2012):
 What sort of guidance you need ?
What is it ? you are chasing ? sex or relations ?
Sex do not need only relations, but uniqueness. Sex partner must be unique to each other, then life became enlightened. If sex is interpreted--equal to drink and food, then life has no light--then life remain without light, means fear, depression, tension etc.
you need to understand, what is sex ? and why sex ? Read this then...sex is supreme--it need supreme understanding, by giving decision, passion, and devotion.
Right ? ask, if you need more light on the question of meaning of sex.....right ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2012): The lesson here is simple. A guy being more attractive does not mean he is more trustworthy.
I know this sounds like a smartass comment and not real advice. But its exactly the mistake you made.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (27 October 2012):
 I suggest that you not be too hard on yourself for falling for this cad's lines....
JUST consider it a learning experience and don't repeat it...
Good luck....
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm sorry I was so furious typing it I forgot my question. But you guys totally knew where I was coming from. My question would've been if I would still speak to him but it's pretty obvious. I was ignoring my senses forwards the way I felt because I didn't want to be right. My gut feeling is always right. Should've never ignored it.
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (27 October 2012):
 You didn't pay attention to your gut feelings about this guy. You didn't trust yourself, and now that your fears have been proven correct, you feel bad.
We can't offer much in the way of comfort for you right now, but we can do one thing, which is to tell you this:
In the future, trust your gut. When it comes to men...it's almost always correct.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (27 October 2012):
 What is the advice you're looking for? I didn't see any questions in your post. This sounds more like a rant than a request for advice.
You know what you need to do. This guy was using you, and you knew it from the very first when he tried to get your pants off on your first meeting.
You went into this with your eyes wide open, but you were wishing it wasn't what you pretty much knew all along. You were a computer and he hacked you. This is a lesson to you about fending off players. You thought he was handsome, so you pushed back your red flags about him, had sex with him, and hoped you were wrong about him. Now you know you were right about him.
So walk away, chalk it up to a mistake, and get on with your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2012): "He is a player and a liar, and I had sex with him!" (header)"I met this guy on a dating app. He came over in the weekend we drank [alcohol] . . ." (intro sentence)"I'm just looking for advice."Taking the lead from your header and intro sentence:If you're a female who doesn't want to have sex with a player and a liar, then don't invite a random male stranger into your home and if you do, then don't accept his offer of alcohol. Why not and why not? Because chances are he's a player and a liar, why else would any male come into a random female stranger's home and why else would he then offer her alcohol? If at first a player and liar doesn't get into a drunken random female stranger's pants, then try again, and if on second attempt he doesn't get into her pants, then try and try again, because if she's still interested in seeing him for a third time, then any player and liar knows know that's when she'll put out, otherwise there wouldn't have been a third time and otherwise there won't be a fourth.
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