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This question has 9 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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5 April 2012: Since my satirical article on how to get a boyfriend (With the real advice on the bottom) seemed to be well liked, I thought I'd write one for the opposite gender! Like the last one, please don't read the first half and then leave. The first...
The reason why so many relationships fail
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30 January 2012: I've come to realize recently that there are so many relationships that fail, so many guys and girls that break up with their boyfriend/girlfriend, and so many broken hearts. You may say it's because of the increased population, but I say it's b...
"how do I attract boys?"
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23 January 2012: (Note: The good advice is at the bottom. Read through for a laugh) I see this so often nowadays. mostly it's girls who want their first kiss, or a boyfriend, or whatever, and they ask us what they need to do to get a boyfriend. So I'm...
Shadow's View on LGBT and the like.
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8 December 2011: It's recently come to my attention that a lot of people seem to think that they can simply BECOME gay/bi/etc. And that being so is wrong. I'd just like to write down my words, and hope it helps people. First off, I'd like to address the firs...
Pointers for a meaningful, healthy relationship.
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27 October 2011: I dont claim to be a relationship guru, but I've got a few pointers that have worked for me. These are the five points of maintaining a meaningful, good relationship, and both males and females can get some use out of this. 1. Honesty- A relation...
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How do I get a girlfriend?
Q. Since my satirical article on how to get a boyfriend (With the real advice on the bottom) seemed to be well liked, I thought I'd write one for the opposite gender! Like the last one, please don't read the first half and then leave. The first...
A. 14 May 2012: Douchebags do tend to have a girl or two, but they tend to be easy or self-conscious and don't think they can get better, which is terribly sad :(
Every woman can do better than a douchebag, don't you forget that ladies! *looks into the camera a... (read in full...)
If a girl dry humps a male virgin, does it mean she has taken his virginity?
Q. Hello. I'm nervous on asking about this, on here. But, I guess my question is appropriate, to ask on here. When a girl dry humps a guy, does it mean he can no longer say he's a virgin? Like, for example, does it mean he's had sex, and, as a result...
A. 11 May 2012: Dry humping doesn't count as losing your virginity. If it did mean that, then every teenager that has ever danced on a dance floor is no longer a virgin.
... (read in full...)
My voice is high-pitched and I want to know when it's going to break?
Q. I am fifteen an my voice is really high pitched, i cant talk very loudly or shout and i think people find it hard to understand me, I really want to know when my voice is going to break and if I should be worried as it is so high pitched. It the ...
A. 11 May 2012: Everyone develops at their own time.
But just to keep you going till then, just remember this:
Abraham Lincoln had a high pitched voice. And he was an important president! ... (read in full...)
What kind of porn do straight girls watch?
Q. What kind of porn do straight girls watch? And how often do they do it?...
A. 10 May 2012: There really is no definite answer. One chick could be really depraved and like, i don't know, child stuff... (I don't know much about porn, never watched it, but I know that's one thing that's really illegal)
And she could watch it every four hour... (read in full...)
How do I get a girlfriend?
Q. Since my satirical article on how to get a boyfriend (With the real advice on the bottom) seemed to be well liked, I thought I'd write one for the opposite gender! Like the last one, please don't read the first half and then leave. The first...
A. 18 April 2012: Hello, Fatherly advice. Not sure what you mean by that, not getting advice on women from a woman...
I'd think women know their gender more, and the same would be true about men.
... (read in full...)
Should I be an asshole to get girls? Or be the nice guy? Or just give up and save myself the hassle?
Q. Im 19 and have aspbergers disorder (autism). tragicly for me, im a super nice guy. I dont think im ugly or that it had to do with my looks sense ive seen way gnarly looking asshole guys get handful's of women. I want to know if its better to be...
A. 17 April 2012: Well yeah, if you want a slutty/psycho bitch to go with that new asshole attitude, then that's the way you should go.
But honestly, you just end up hurting her and yourself, so PLEASE don't try to be an ass.
Girls are attracted to con... (read in full...)
Conservative Indian parents don't approve of my American boyfriend!
Q. so i come from a very conservative background. i'm indian, my family believes in marriages only with those who are indian, and care mostly for their own reputation. not too long ago, they found out i was dating an american boy for almost a year now. ...
A. 14 April 2012: Well, your parents are not in India, and you need to tell them this. You need to sit them down and explain to them that America has different culture than India, and although you respect the Indian culture, you are in America, and you really love ... (read in full...)
I feel like a freak because I don't want children!
Q. Is it weird that I don't want children? Sometimes I feel like a freak. All the women in my family are VERY fertile, they all have kids and most started at young ages. Even all the men in my family have or want children. So when I tell my mother and ...
A. 13 April 2012: That's actually kind of how I am too! I really do not like children. I don't really care for changing some smelly thing's diapers, or carrying ANYTHING in my womb for nine months, or anything to do with babies.
My whole family is highly family-f... (read in full...)
My boyfriend liked a picture of another girl on facebook, then lied to me about it after I confronted him!
Q. Today I was on facebook when it came up on my newsfeed that my boyfriend "liked" a photo of some girl who went to his school. I clicked on it more than once so it was definitely him and I definitely wasnt seeing things. I texted him telling him that...
A. 13 April 2012: Actually, I see no reason to be annoyed. So he liked a picture that didn't have you in it, it's not like he's proclaiming his love to her.
I've liked pictures of my male friends plenty of times, and my boyfriend has liked pictures of his female f... (read in full...)
One too many gay children in the family?
Q. Hi, I'm a gay girl, who is absolutely petrified to come out to her family or friends. My brother is gay and my family are totally fine with it but i can't build up the courage to tell them as i'm scared they wont accept having two gay children...
A. 13 April 2012: Exactly like Person12345 said!
They won't hate you, and it really is better to be true to yourself and those around you :) ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend smacks other girls butts and lies about it!
Q. Okay my boyfriend is really sweet but he keeps smacking other girls butts and he lies everytime i bring it up what should i do? I have been going out with him for 5 months and i don't want to lose him. Please answer this...
A. 13 April 2012: This guy obviously doesn't have any regard for your feelings! That's not love, dear....
You need to find someone better than him. He's obviously a liar and a pervert (To some, his behavior is considered cheating), and you can do better! ... (read in full...)
What do women 'really' think about blowjobs and swallowing semen?
Q. I'm wandering what women think of performing oral sex on men? Do women actually spend time thinking about or desiring to do it or is it merely something they do for the pleasure of their man? I know it varies from person to person but I kno...
A. 13 April 2012: It really does all depend on the person. Just like how some guys like performing oral on a woman, and some don't.
As for my personal opinion, I enjoy giving and receiving, and I do swallow. Not the most pleasurable taste, but it's far less mes... (read in full...)
Should I press charges because she uploaded a photo of us on facebook?
Q. Hi. I'm new, here. Last week, I have had a photograph of me with a female friend. I thought she would NOT post the photograph on the internet. However, just yesterday, I check her Facebook, just to see her photo album, as she mentionned a nea...
A. 12 April 2012: I don't really think it's a violation of the law. Just a violation of trust.
But perhaps she just forgot you had asked. Just ask her to take it down, I'm sure she will. ... (read in full...)
10 months into our relationship, he's decided he wants a complete makeover!
Q. So I've been with my boyfriend for a little over 10 months now, and I really love him, but recently he's been talking about how he wants to change his look. Grow out some facial hair, cut his hair short, change his wardrobe, and other stuff. Hone...
A. 12 April 2012: I don't know if that's the case, that it's a fear, but I guess it could be, and I just don't realize it....
I do know I would never want to lose him, though. I truly would be distraught if I lost him, he means a lot to me, and so does his happines... (read in full...)
10 months into our relationship, he's decided he wants a complete makeover!
Q. So I've been with my boyfriend for a little over 10 months now, and I really love him, but recently he's been talking about how he wants to change his look. Grow out some facial hair, cut his hair short, change his wardrobe, and other stuff. Hone...
A. 12 April 2012: I know...
I just hope he doesn't change too much, because if he does, I might not like the person he becomes (I'm not just saying looks wise, so please don't think of me as shallow.)... (read in full...)
10 months into our relationship, he's decided he wants a complete makeover!
Q. So I've been with my boyfriend for a little over 10 months now, and I really love him, but recently he's been talking about how he wants to change his look. Grow out some facial hair, cut his hair short, change his wardrobe, and other stuff. Hone...
A. 11 April 2012: I just feel weird about it, since he just out of the blue decided to COMPLETELY change. Like, I'd understand if it was like "I want to get a hair cut!"
But he wants to change every aspect of himself, it seems. I don't know if he means to change h... (read in full...)
10 months into our relationship, he's decided he wants a complete makeover!
Q. So I've been with my boyfriend for a little over 10 months now, and I really love him, but recently he's been talking about how he wants to change his look. Grow out some facial hair, cut his hair short, change his wardrobe, and other stuff. Hone...
A. 11 April 2012: Ah, he doesn't say it like he has an ego, mostly it's just because he's confident about his looks, like how I say "My boobs are awesome!" because I'm confident with my tiny breasts now.
And i don't think he means it like his hair has a personal... (read in full...)
Why do older men date younger women and Visa Versa?
Q. It's just i noticed a lot lately that women in their 20's seem to be going for men in there 40's even 50's . Some with even a 25 to 30 year age difference my friend is actually 24 and dating a 49 year old. It puzzles me because sometimes the men are ...
A. 11 April 2012: Some women tend to enjoy the maturity of another man, I guess.
Older men like the youth of a younger woman?
I'm not 100% sure what the reason is, though, since all guys I've dated have been younger than me (I think that's because I don't ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and confused about my sexual orientation
Q. Hello, I'm 13 and I am really not sure about my sexuality. I have had many dreams about having sex with women, eventually one ending in a wet dream. But I keep on thinking about kissing the boy I'm sitting next too, but then I shudder. I try to look ...
A. 11 April 2012: My advice is to just go about life like you are straight for now, and in a few years, once you've got more of a grip on who you are as a person, you should re-evaluate what kind of person, be it male , female, or both, that you are attracted to, ... (read in full...)
My Husband Seems to Prioritise Cats Over Baby Daughter
Q. My husband and I have a 3mo old daughter. The other day I mentioned it was time to start thinking of what methods we needed to use to childproof the house in the near future. I said I would like to move all the cats' litter boxes upstairs cos if B...
A. 10 April 2012: A good idea is to get a nail clipper for your cats. It's perfectly humane to clip their nails, even though they tend to squirm and complain. Dogs do that too. They just don't like you holding their paws.
My grandmother has two cats, and to keep ... (read in full...)
Is every relationship different?
Q. Is every relationship different?? and when I say that I mean on how quickly things move or how slowly?? I got a promotion at work back in September and therefore moved departments which is where I met this guy (whom I dont actually work al...
A. 10 April 2012: To quote my favorite dinosaur from land before time... "Yup! Yup! Yup!"
All relationships are different, and yours is not going to be exactly the same as all the others.
All I advise is to make good decisions with this, since sometimes ... (read in full...)
My Husband Seems to Prioritise Cats Over Baby Daughter
Q. My husband and I have a 3mo old daughter. The other day I mentioned it was time to start thinking of what methods we needed to use to childproof the house in the near future. I said I would like to move all the cats' litter boxes upstairs cos if B...
A. 10 April 2012: I think you need to sit your husband down and talk to him about this. Tell him that you are just concerned about your daughters safety, and you just want what's best for her. Tell him you do love the cats too, but you do need to move the litter box, ... (read in full...)
How do I become a jerk to attract girls?
Q. what does it take to get a gf? im honest, nice, smart and above average looking. i am 16 but it seems that guys who are jerks usually attract girls attention. How do i do that?...
A. 10 April 2012: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-i-get-a-girlfriend.html
I think you should read my article on how to get a girlfriend. It's a follow-up from my other article, How to get a Boyfriend, and I think it might help you.
... (read in full...)
Men & Women: How long have you gone without sex?
Q. How long have you gone without sex with another person? ...
A. 9 April 2012: 18 years and still going strong :D ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to remain strictly friends after a break up?
Q. Is it possible to remain friends after a break up? Are there specific situations where there is no possibility of friendship? Are there any rules? I have never wanted to remain friends with any of my ex's just ended it and moved on, however I am ...
A. 8 April 2012: If it didn't end badly, and you broke up because one or both of you just didn't have feelings anymore, then yeah.
I used to date this one guy, it was for about a month or two, mostly it was to help him figure out his sexuality, and he ended up... (read in full...)
My transgender girlfriend has low self esteem. How can I help?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for almost two years now. When we first got together she informed me that at birth she had no sex, she believes that her parents chose the wrong sex. She is attracted to woman, she is more masculine, and does ...
A. 8 April 2012: My best guess is just to give her love and tell her that you love her and make her feel worth stuff. Just be there for her and tell her you support her. ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and I fancy my woodshop teacher!
Q. I'm 13 and I do woodwork in school. It's very hard,and the teacher lets me away with EVERYTHING!I take out my phone in class,and he doesn't mind. I walk around the classroom all the time and I never do my work! And I didn't do my homework,and ...
A. 8 April 2012: Ok, that guy is obviously a pedophile if he is looking up your skirt!
That is not ok!
You need to tell someone about this right away, pedophiles can be dangerous, and besides that, it is extrememly inappropriate!
Please find someone y... (read in full...)
How do I get a girlfriend?
Q. Since my satirical article on how to get a boyfriend (With the real advice on the bottom) seemed to be well liked, I thought I'd write one for the opposite gender! Like the last one, please don't read the first half and then leave. The first...
A. 7 April 2012: xD Oh goodness! I didn't think of it like that!
But since it is part of the humorous side, yes, by all means, go to the restroom on her leg!
O.O My dog did that once as a puppy....... (read in full...)
I have red hair & very fair skin, I am always the subject of jokes, do people really find this unattractive??
Q. Okay so I am cursed (or blessed depending on how you look at it) with naturally red hair and super pale skin(even if I get sunburnt it just becomes even paler) and I was wondering if people actually find this to be such a bad thing. I have had to ...
A. 5 April 2012: Some people find it attractive, some don't, just because it's a matter of opinion. I'm a natural blonde, and I love to bash on blondes, and make blonde jokes, because I think it's funny, and the girls who dye their hair blonde at my school kinda act ... (read in full...)
I know I'm a lesbian but can't tell anyone, so how do I find a girlfriend?
Q. Hi. I'm 13. I haven't been asked out much but the relationships I did have didn't last long. I just don't feel attracted to guys. So now I know I'm lesbian. I know everyone says not to be embarrassed or don't pretend to be someone you're not but I ...
A. 5 April 2012: Let me elaborate on what the other aunts are saying.
Firstly, 13 is a little young for anyone to date, simply because they are just on the cusp of teenhood, and their hormones are running haywire right now, so most will be trying to figure o... (read in full...)
Ladies: shaved or natural 'downstairs' on a guy?
Q. Ladies thoughts opinions needed: When you are about to have sex/or oral with a guy for the first time and see his thing, is hair down there a turn off? is shaved more a turn on? or trimmed? also what about hairy thighs? shaved? leave alone? I am...
A. 5 April 2012: Neat and hygienic. If it looks like a gross, sweaty, jungle, then trim it a bit and make it less like a jungle, but not completely. Hairless (on a man or a woman) is just too.... much like a kid. It'd be creepy. Leave your legs alone, though. Men ... (read in full...)
She has destroyed my life with her sexual past that I never knew about.. Just to marry her!!
Q. Ive been married 13 years, have 2 children. my wife has been very good to me all 13 years. but never thought in a 1,000,000 years this would happen to me.. I feel like my marriage was nothing but a fairytale. So this is what...
A. 5 April 2012: You're surprised that you're the only white guy she's dated and married? Dude, she loved you, and married you. You just happened to be the first white guy she dated, and she happened to like you enough to want to marry you.
And honestly, I'm she ... (read in full...)
Women: What are the real secrets to winning and keeping your hearts?
Q. This is a question for all of you women who are, or who have been, married or in a long term relationship. What are the things a man can or should do to keep his wife happy and fully committed to him? What would be yourbest advice as to what a ...
A. 4 April 2012: Just be yourself.
Unless you're mean and smelly, then yourself should be good.
But it's always nice to be nice to girls, do romantic things, make them feel special, all that jazz.
... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to spank your kids?
Q. My mother thinks im cruel because i spank my two year old. I am not ashamed that i do. I only spank him on the rump when hes doing something he knows he shouldnt do. For instance getting into the trash, taking silverware out of the dishwasher, ...
A. 3 April 2012: Also, I feel I should add that time-outs are NOT the answer to everything.
If your kid is defiant, then how in the world do you expect them to sit still in a corner?
I know as a kid I used to sneak out of time-out, because I could. It was po... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to spank your kids?
Q. My mother thinks im cruel because i spank my two year old. I am not ashamed that i do. I only spank him on the rump when hes doing something he knows he shouldnt do. For instance getting into the trash, taking silverware out of the dishwasher, ...
A. 3 April 2012: I was spanked as a child, and I turned out just fine.
Well, that's a lie, I'm not just fine, but those issues are due to genetics, or that abusive friend I had for the longest time. Not being spanked.
I remember I'd want to follow my parent... (read in full...)
Should I become a bad girl to get his attention?
Q. Hi i am 16 years old and have never had a boyfriend. I really like this guy but I know he doesn't like me in return and even if he does I don't have the confidence to ask him out. The thing is I am just too nice: i have good manners, i am polite and ...
A. 2 April 2012: You need to stop thinking like that! Bad girls don't get the guy, that's a stereotype!
Bad girls get the stupid horny teenage douchebag boys who only want to get laid.
Good girls get good guys who actually like them.
If you like this guy ... (read in full...)
Is it unreasonable to ask your girlfriend to dress a certain way for sex?
Q. Hi everyone, I've been going out with my new girlfriend for a few months now and we've had sex a few times. While it's been great, I find it incredibly arousing when a woman 'dresses for sex' (i.e. lingerie, especially thigh-high stockings). She'...
A. 28 March 2012: Onlny if you do it nicely.
If you demand it or pressure her, it's rude, but if you just suggest it or ask nicely, it's not unreasonable at all.
My boyfriend has asked me to dress up before, and we haven't even gotten to the sex part yet, he jus... (read in full...)
Guys: Would you prefer a girl not swallow and spit in a tissue?
Q. okay guys i need to know:the guy i'm seeing said he personally doesn't matter if i spit or swallow when giving him a blowjob. so my question is, if we aren't going to swallow, ( i do occasionally) would u prefer to pull out and cum on the woman's ...
A. 23 March 2012: Most guys seem to prefer swallowing to spitting.
but I know the only time my boyfriend didn't cum in my mouth from oral was when he came on my stomach, so hopefully that helps answer your question! ... (read in full...)
I feel insecure about my 34C breasts!
Q. Hi this is gonna seem a really cliché question. I've always been really small like a size 6/8 and 5 2" so this is going to seem inevitable but I am really self conscious about the size of my boobs. On paper they should be fine ( 34C) but they look ...
A. 20 March 2012: C is small?
Hun, my OFFICIAL bra size is Almost an A. Like, when I buy bras, it's not even an A cup!
A good way to think about this problem is by remembering, the size goes from A, to B, to C, D, DD, And then E and F, but those are USUALL... (read in full...)
I gave my crush a hickey. His Mom flipped. Now he will not see me. What should I do?
Q. dear cupid i just called my crush, the one who i gave the hickey to, by mistake yesterday. It was an accident. We both got caught in the moment I bit his neck and when we were done i looked at his neck and saw bite marks and a giant hickey. I pan...
A. 19 March 2012: Just give him some space, and also let his mom cool down. That's how mothers are. They need time to cool down.
Eventually, all will forgotten, and everything will continue on.
It seems that it's mostly just his mom that flipped, so she'... (read in full...)
Nervous about my first kiss!
Q. Im nervous about my first kiss, I've had plenty of chances to kiss people but I just get so nervous and back out. I'm going to meet the guy this weekend and he wants to kiss me....
A. 19 March 2012: It's kinda a nervous thing, your first kiss, probably won't be that great, but eventually, you'll get better with practice.
If it's with the right person, just close your eyes and let it happen. :) ... (read in full...)
Is it a red flag if husband is facebook requesting a hot chick?
Q. My husband has friend request some hot chick on fb; she has big boobs- very provacative looking, has pictures of herself "says for modeling " they look like pictures you would see in playboy ect. I haven't seen any comunication between them- but ...
A. 17 March 2012: I say you should casually ask him, like if you are both looking at his facebook friends, say "Oh, who is that? I've never seen her before." But say it in a casual way, like you're curious about who she is, but not suspecting him of anything, because ... (read in full...)
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