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What do women 'really' think about blowjobs and swallowing semen?

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Question - (9 June 2007) 51 Answers - (Newest, 13 April 2012)
A male Australia age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I'm wandering what women think of performing oral sex on men? Do women actually spend time thinking about or desiring to do it or is it merely something they do for the pleasure of their man?

I know it varies from person to person but I know women who said they wouldn't care if they ever did it again. I can't imagine a man saying that about performing on a woman. Also, do women enjoy swallowing when a man ejaculates?

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A female reader, Shadow Rose United States +, writes (13 April 2012):

Shadow Rose agony auntIt really does all depend on the person. Just like how some guys like performing oral on a woman, and some don't.

As for my personal opinion, I enjoy giving and receiving, and I do swallow. Not the most pleasurable taste, but it's far less messy, and my boyfriend likes it!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2012):

In all honesty the first time i tried it i could have heaved. It was not that nice but i think it was because i was not prepared for the taste, every time is different and everyone has a different, but maybe similar, taste.

You should not do it out of pressure and like everything else when it comes to sex, make sure you do what you want and dont do something unless YOU are ready to try it. But it can be enjoyable for both people, some guys and some girls like the taste of their own and even think its good for the skin.

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A male reader, Isambard United Kingdom +, writes (15 February 2012):

Wehtiko, my sympathies are with you. I suffered a twenty year marriage like yours with only reluctant permission for basic sex every few months or so. My lonely nights spent dreaming of oral sex, enjoyable togetherness, a grope on the settee - well any enjoyable sex really. Finally I couldn't stand it any more and walked out of the family home.

For a few weeks life was lonely but I had got used to that - and there always a bottle of something strong in the cupboard to make the evening go quickly.

After a few months the loneliness got desparate and a work mate suggested the dating sites. Oh boy, was that a turning point in my life. I hadn't dated in years and it took a bit of nerve and practice, but within a few weeks my mail box was overflowing.

Over the following years I met all sorts of women, beautiful ones, ugly ones, bossy ones, some just out for an uncomplicated shag - but my dreams all came true.

If I have discovered anything over the last few years, apart from my self esteem, it is that some women are rampant and experimental over sex and they get their man - but the sad proportion are still under the moral code that their mothers and the church taught them - "sex is dirty". How many times have I heard "why did he leave me - he always had a clean shirt to wear" - well maybe its because that's all he had - I could tell her that but didn't.

So Wehtiko, I cannot suggest that you walk out of the house, but if I did not do that many years ago I would not have experianced the joys of dating, and oral sex, and love, and hapiness. I would still be, like you,laying awake at night wondering if this is all life has to offer - and imagining the joys that a wonderful woman would bring.

Me, ah yes I met my wonderful woman on a dating site a couple of years ago - we got married last week - and she swallows !!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2011):

It depends. Mostly I do it to pleasure him but on rare occasion I do it to my man. Now swallowing semen.... I dislike. It make me gag. It reminds me of snot...

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A male reader, Wehtiko Canada +, writes (13 November 2011):

Reading these responses I definitely feel left out!

I'm 52 and have been married for a little over 20 years. I've never in my life had a blow job so I don't know what they feel like. Though I've fantasized about it a lot. My wife hates oral sex (giving or getting) and states that semen is 'filth', but then she doesn't kiss because it's 'personal'. She WILL NOT discuss or compromise.

So over time our sex has dwindled to about once a month. And I'm planning to walk out... Kids are grown and there's nothing keeping me here anymore. I don't want to divorce, I'd made a vow, but I want intimacy back in my life.

And sex, everything about it, is all about intimacy. I want intimacy back in my life. So be careful what you balk at and demean. Talk to each other and compromise as much as possible, or you may be doing it all by yourself.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2011):

I am in my early fifties and my man is as well. We've only recently become intimate and I was not involved with anyone for a few years prior. So, I had a long time to think about sexuality and what I would do when back into it.

My thoughts are that oral sex should be an equal, loving and intimate experience. As some men here have stated, they are engaged with our natural fluids during the act, fully by definition of a man going down on a woman, properly. So, I personally have little problem with my mans semen. Swallowing it that is. I prefer it over the mess and disruption of not doing so. I hate disruption during sex and prefer things to be continuous and flowing. I don't want his semen/ cum on my face or elsewhere.

Many men emotionally feel a certain acceptance beyond sexual 'release' when a woman swallows. I want my man to feel accepted fully as I feel when he is giving me oral attention. The double standard of not accepting his fluid, yet wanting him to accept mine is not my scene. He eats fairly well, does not smoke so the taste is not a problem though it is distinct, but the 'taste' is that of sex, integral to what should be loving act. He is at the back of my mouth when it occurs so my tongue is not so involved anyway. I like to hang in there all the way to the end, when he fully subsides in his pleasure.

As far as power and subservience, again it's about the relationship and how you feel about sex in general. As a mature woman, with my man I want to please him, visa versa. The act is both powerful and subservient at the which is a turn on for both of us at a primal, romantic and emotional level. I don't like the idea of being 'face screwed' but a bit of his hands on my head, face, pulling me into him is exciting, and engaging -- and his moans and reactions turn me on. I like the feel of his penis in my mouth and sometimes crave it along with other aspects of our sexual unions.

I feel that oral for the older couple is very helpful and healing, and excellent for foreplay or on its own. Especially as age can have an impact on spontaneous intercourse itself, where there can be problems at time. Oral can be more relaxed, less performance based a bonding. I think you can become less inhibited as you get older with a special person.

Ladies, taking his fluid is not that bad, take him deeper into your mouth when he climaxes as that can make swallowing easier. Men, listen to your woman and make her feel comfortable with oral sex. Talk it out... Both parties should be respectful of each others needs and limitations.

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A female reader, vivian william Singapore +, writes (11 March 2011):

I personally think that it is uncomfortable. It puts women at a lower level, besides majority of the men take women for granted after getting a blow job. Ive interviewed a lot of men, some married, some gay, some my age, in summary they mentioned that, after a man gets what he wants he would feel rebellious and at times rude. The romantic and fun love that used to exist would stop and be replaced with just blow jobs and sex. And i know that is not what most women want.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2010):

I am a bisexual man and I love giving men blowjobs and swallowing semen.I once gave 6 men blowjobs one after the other! lovely!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2010):

Hey!! I think I've just had a very important revelation here!! I was just cruising this topic (very nice, thoughtful responses, thank You !). I'd like to comment on the Woman from 19 June 2009, who basically writes that she actually loves everything about giving oral, but it would be nice if men could go for *receiving* first (before the woman has come). This is since in that woman's experience, most men seem to want to give first..

I am 44, and I tell you this to give you an idea of how long bad advice can last(!). Here goes. Young men who would tend to care about being good lovers are usually "taught" a few key things by their early 20's -- by "expert" columnists, by a few books, by other friends, etc. Some of these things go like this: " *Nearly all* women can have several orgasms once aroused, while you usually can have one or maybe two without needing to rest up for more"... "Women reach a plateau and *stay there*, so if you work her up first, that's usually the better idea"... " *Nearly all* women take a long time to arouse, so you'd better take your time into the session before you ask her to do anything experimental or daring"...

Ok, so given that, I would bet that these are the prime reasons why it seems that most men seem to want to get you off first! It's largely what we've been taught -- and here in the good 'ol U.S of A., where constructive talk about sex pretty much doesn't happen unless you are typing anonymously on some forum(...), a man is likely to be stuck with the advice he got over 20 years ago(!). To make it clear, I would propose that the men you have experienced are eager to get you going first because that's what most of them have been taught. I hope this comes as good news -- it's very likely that they are not in fact selfish, such that they want to have nothing to do after they cum.. How sad that would be!

I would suggest that you try to explain carefully to your favorite Guy (the way you did here) that you'd very much like to entertain him first now and then. I'll bet he will beam with joy over the revelation that the order of the menu can change. And I would guarantee he will be very excited to know that you like it, and that he may get attacked first with little warning(!).

I also agree with many here that oral play can be more intense and personal than intercourse. Of course it all depends on the the people involved. There was a book of poetry(!) and art written on the subject around 2000 called The Soul Kiss... Yes it is..

My last 2 cents: I hate the way oral sex is depicted almost without variation in modern porn as impersonal, often brutal, and always as domination over the one giving.. Folks, sex play is great and all kinds of games can be played when parties are in agreement, but don't rule out the potential *beauty* of it. That's right, the sheer beauty of it.

All good things!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2009):

as a man with all the usual desires and with quite a bit of experience I love getting head and I also love giving it. However, girls when a man goes down on you your vagina is already wet and juicy with your liquid. There is no way for the man not to get a mouth full and in fact he gets your juices all over his face if he is a good oral sex partner. You love him to make you cum orally, yet many of you are hypocrites about giving him head and letting him cum in your mouth. You want equality...well give it equally.

69 is a good activity for fun, but if the man is doing a good job at his end the woman will get too exited to concentrate on her end. That is kind of a turn on ...so long ass when she has cum and is satisfied she becomes so grateful that she really gives sucking the man's dick a lot of concentration.

One more point: Girls if you really love your partner be aggressive sometimes. Take the lead when he does not expect it. There was an old movie called ":Shampoo" in which Julie Christie got so hot at a dinner table full of men and women that she stated "I am going to give ---head" and preceded under the table to suck his dick. While I don't advocate such exhibitionism (you might get arrested), Hopefully you get the picture...he might be half asleep while watching a blowout of a football game. Approach him and just go down on him. He will reciprocate and you both will be very happy. Be adventurous in your sex life.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009):

I love giving my boyfriend head, I fantasize about is a lot of the time I love it even more the regular sex. I love the taste of both the penis and the sperm. I love swallowing it, I also love looking up at his face and looking at his expression. Blow jobs are just a huge turn on.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2009):

Personally, I love doing it - the sensation of his warm, velvety skin in my mouth is like nothing else on earth. And the gasps and oohs and aaahs don't hurt either! I feel like the sexiest woman alive. But I have some friends who absolutely despise doing it with the usual claims of it being dirty and tasting bad. I figure if you tell your guy that if he ate more pineapple and melons he'd end up getting more BJs, he'll head to the grocery store and load up a cart stat!

Any woman who likes getting it should be prepared to give it. For me, oral is an even more intimate act than vaginal sex.

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A female reader, california22 United States +, writes (1 December 2009):

If i am in a mood, where I want to completely and utterly satisfy the person, then its going to happen, and im going to start it. hopefully that makes sense. and I would rather swallow it, i think its less messy and has a deeper connection to the act. everything in sex should have some meaning and connection to that person. also its not something that i would want to do for multiple men... its more personal than intercourse if you ask me. its not something I would say that turns me on...or makes me excited and i hate when its hinted at. but i doubt men get excited at doing the reverse for women. its for the partner and wanting to satifsy them in everyway. hope that helps.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2009):

Women enjoy receiving as men do!! If it smells, clean it. If it's hairy, shave or trim. If you want your woman to swallow your sperm then make it healthy and taste good, eat fruit and NOT to much spicy food and especially NOT asparagus ,drink plenty of water and try not to smoke or drink to much alcohol. Woe her, she's worth it, yeah? You can buy her flowers, dinner, jewelery, put on some romantic music, listen to her problems and views on life, give her a massage, and help her with her house choirs, you never know she might come and help you at work? A mans needs and wants MUST BE RESPECTED just as every woman will INSIST on hers being respected!! Anyway, if your not sexually compatible the relationship will shrivel up and die like an under-watered flower, so experiment and enjoy ALL the delights of sex and love then see your relationship blossom ;) Good luck guys & gals.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2009):

I'm a young woman and I fantasize about giving head frequently. I love it, it's a huge turn on for me, his facial expressions, the pleasuring sounds he makes. Mind you he isn't forceful and doesn't abuse it.

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A female reader, xo_xo_xo United States +, writes (28 July 2009):

To: A reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2009)

How old are you and what is the age of women you refer to?

In my experience female sexuality increases over the years. And it's a combination of sexual experiences (including quality and quantity), love and understanding how important oral sex for a man is, may or may not lead her to actually enjoying it for herself.

I am 39 now and absolutely love it. It took me some time to get here. I remember that I first started getting aroused by only thinking about sex and imagining things at the age of 30. And right now the first thing I am picturing when thinking about sex is having my b/f's penis in my mouth and touching it with my tongue. It gets to the point when I am thinking about it all the time and it is hard to concentrate on anything else during the day. So you can imagine what I do the first thing I see him ;) But I think the key here is that we both realized from the very beginning how important is to share these thoughts with each other and we do it all the time while apart. With current technologies it is a very easy thing to do.

I think it's worth mentioning that we are very early in our relationship and excitement sparks very easily. OMG I wish this never ends!

I agree that after the marriage sex becomes more trivial, but if a woman enjoyed performing oral sex before marriage she will still enjoy it after. But if it disappears all together than you're right - she never liked it before; it was an act. But please don't think all women are like this. I am sure there are plenty of them that love going down on you guys.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2009):

Truth be told, why not ask a large enough "married Male" population, perhaps 100 or more... to HONESTLY provide reality into their post dating life... compile the statistics of "MARRIED" men if their enthusiastic previous girlfriends professing while "Dating" to simply love this activity did this only to please you males, seek approval by pretending to enjoy this, putting on the award winning convincing act so they can secure a future and marry their boyfriends. Amazing story.... then surprisingly and almost suddenly STOPPED oral sex, after a few years of marriage. Tell me I'm wrong...Sure they will be a few men who's wives may do this far into years of the marriage, but on the whole..it practically disappears after marriage. How many of your present wives are chasing you around weekly to rip open your pants and perform oral sex because they love it so much? I notice most of the women who say they love to swallow, and overly enjoy it are very, very young, impressionable, easily lead by boyfriends to out stage the other potential female sexual competitors to win the boyfriend. These girls feel pressure to say these things and hyper act out sexuality. OR some gross so called female replies are really men pretending their women who say they would do 10 or more one after another and swallow them all??..Women don't think like that! The real solid evidence of truth of real life female sexuality shows up AFTER marriage, not what's staged while dating. There's no pressure to do things that a women never really liked while dating, but did so to get to the alter and reality surfaces. Women don't like performing oral sex, nor get sexually excited by thinking about it, it's a terribly unfortable chore like washing the dishes, we do because we wish to bring joy to the man we love to nurture.

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A female reader, xo_xo_xo United States +, writes (19 June 2009):

Women, I would assume if honest, do not get aroused by this act, don't obsess, think about it going about their daily business, and if not aroused by our partners first, feel this is a uncomfortable chore…

I completely disagree with this comment from another woman. I love it all! Yes, thinking, dreaming, imagining it all the time. I love to suck, lick, like to feel a little dominated by a man I love when he holds or pushes my head, or pulls my hair gently. I guess I can understand what that woman says about being aroused first, but I can feel horny without a presence of my partner just thinking about him. And when I am horny I am dreaming about my mouth being occupied with his hard cock. But one thing is actually bothering me. Not a big issue though. I enjoy giving head more before I cum. But all men prefer to please a woman first. So after I cum once I still enjoy giving oral but mostly doing it for him and don’t get turned on by it much. After going like that all the time a woman can look at it as a chore. Why don’t men allow women to blow them first and then give a woman oral? Because men want to relax after their orgasm? But women want to relax too after they cum, but they still go down on you. Some men below talk about women being lazy, but what about men being “lazy” after they orgasm? It’s a physiological thing so let’s not talk about laziness. A women can really enjoy giving oral and will be begging you guys for it while she is still horny. So my advice to men especially with younger women, don’t make it a routine for a woman by always satisfying her first and then asking for BJ. Let her suck you and play with your dick while she is aroused. Fingering her while she is giving you oral or using 69 is the best way to teach her how much pleasure is to have your hard cock in her mouth. After a while you will have a cock sucker lover and will be getting BJs without asking for anything in return.

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A male reader, Swantzy South Africa +, writes (24 May 2009):

i know from a guys view,girls do get turned on by giving oral,as to the swollowing,not sure,all my ex's and my wife have done the dead,but didn't do it for them. we tried and left it if none of us were not happy with the out come.i have had my wife at total crazy orgasm using only position and finger skills that she was waiting to swallow for it felt the perfect climax for both of us,i only heard after the fact. that is my point,it really is a guy thing and we do appreciate those who do,but when does it become fine when we have been told no thank you as in my case.when guys go down on girls,we taste all of you and more on orgasm,yes,when a man has orgasm it may be more,but it is ours and you have had yours! please tell the limits and where the line is,i have all respect and do not want too offend any lady! thank you girls for putting up with our guy things! i would never ask a women to do that for the relationship,then it is not,it is a sexual act only!if a lady chooses too,then it is her choice,not a decision on the relationship!come on guys,excuse the pun,how many have said if you love me you will,and how many are you still dedicated too! my advice from a guy to a girl,you have control and choice,it is yours alone too make!

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A female reader, Emmajane United Kingdom +, writes (14 January 2009):

Emmajane agony auntPersonally I very much enjoy it, and prefer to swallow. Men should avoid asparagus which probably is the worst for making it taste bad. Some people have mentioned eating fruit and yes that seems to work. Smoking? uhg, I won't even KISS a guy who smokes let alone do oral sex!

Some men are very sensitive at the point of climax, (just like us girls!) and so when I keep them in my mouth I am very gentle, and just let them stay there till their orgasm subsides, and I've swallowed. Obviously if the guy wants to see his cum running from my mouth I'll do that as I know what a turn on it can be! My present guy is like that, but I still swallow what I can.

I'm sure many girls have a misconception about semen and that prejudices them from the start.

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A female reader, hlb01 United Kingdom +, writes (16 November 2008):

I personally hate it, doesn't turn me on in the slightest but I do it anyway cos my boyfriend is mad about it, and as for swallowing I hate that to but I still do it..

(maybe because my boyfriends cum tastes really discusting!)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2008):

This totally depends on the girl. I have plenty of friends who absolutely hate it. They think its gross and feel inferior in the act. This of course also depends on the guy and his attitude about it. Don't make your girl feel like she has to do it. Give her a little bit of the control, give her options and don't force anything.

I personally have a lot of fun with it. I have no problem being asked for it (although its not gonna happen every time :)) but its definitely a great way to focus the attention on your guy and get to know him and his body and reactions. I don't get the girls that think it's disgusting, especially if they have no problem with a guy going down on them.

As for swallowing, some girls that like giving head don't like swallowing for various reasons. Girls, if you have a hard time swallowing it all at once, I've found that if you catch it in your mouth and then spread it on his penis (but avoid the head because its super sensitive) and gently lick it off, it makes it easier to "get rid" of it and I've never met a guy that didn't like it. When they cum and you back away and everythings is over, its sort of abrupt. This way you can keep things going for a little bit but remember the penis is really sensitive after ejaculating so be gentle.

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A male reader, MrDeutsch United States +, writes (10 September 2008):

I love my fiance and will do anything to make her feel good -- anything. When I first slept with her, I told her she didn't have to let me cum in her mouth, it was no problem. Apparently she hadn't swallowed before. But to my surprise she said she wanted to try swallowing. She said not being pressured helped her (and the fact that I make her cum all the time with my mouth). Now she loves it, and so do! The mouth can be controlled and move in ways that no other orifice can. The feeling for men is absolutely wonderful. She does swallow quickly with my head far back into her mouth. If you really love your man and want to keep him, do give it your best shot/swallow.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008):

as for me and my girlfriends we all agree that we love it.

for me, i do think about it and desire it. i can see a man in a grocery store and wonder how he would feel in my mouth. just wish i had the guts to go up to one of those strange men and tell him that.

i take it personally if he does not cum in my mouth. the moment he does, the movement of his body, the sound of him moaning ......at this moment you are all woman.

i climax just from giving a man head.

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of course from some married male friends, poor guys....i hear the wifey refuses because she does not want to get icky. puhlease...........

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008):

I gave head for the first time this evening and not only was it enjoyable for him (clearly) but i also really enjoyed myself. I thought his semen tasted really nice to be honest but he does have a good diet and drinks tonsssss of water :)

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008):

My wife and I have been married for over 10 years. Our sex usually consists of me giving oral to her, 4-6 times, with an orgasm each time. We then choose a position and have vaginal intercourse. 10% of the time she gives me head as foreplay but never finishes the job. She has only swallowed once in more than ten years. I am quite physically fit, shower once or twice a day and am as caring as I know how to be. I have talked to her about how badly I would like her to give me a bj as often as I give her oral b/c that would be a major turn on. Swallowing would, of course, be an added bonus. I am to the point of resentment and jealousy. What should I do?

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A female reader, notorioustasha United Kingdom +, writes (20 March 2008):

I dont mind giving my boyfriend head on some occasions i love it but then there can be times where im reluctant lol..

my boyfreind can tell when im not that into giving him head as im not doing it right.

I Like Giving Head Lol :D hahaha

ermmm swolling semen hmmmm it depends iv swolled his load a cuple of times sometimes i like the taste but then there is days where it is tangy and sour but i find if u swollow it as soon as it shoots then things are okai..cus there has been times were i have been reluctant to swolow his load and therefore swolled half and that way i get the full flavor of his semen.. lol

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2008):

For me personally..its not that bad...I actually rather give blowjobs cuz when I give a hand job I just kind of look at my boyfriend's penis and wonder what it would be like to lick it or just go at it...It is more curiosity for me and I do enjoy the fact that he gets pleasure out of it but I don't think I could say I could live w/o giving them. Then about the swallowing cum part..I don't really mind it at all..but every guy varies w/ how much and how it tastes and how it comes out. My boyfriend isn't bad at all and I never even notice him cumming in my mouth half the time..it's kind of strange..but still blowjobs are fun for me.

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A female reader, Gena Bullock United States +, writes (11 March 2008):

Gena Bullock agony auntThis is a real stickler of a question... no pun intended. To each his own or, er, her own--I say. Most women probably do it because it pleases their partner; some do it because they really do like it and the small few could care less if they ever did it again. It takes a gentle, caring man to coax a woman into doing it if she's adamant about it. Going slow is the best method and if it doesn't work out the first time--spits and sputters, BUT she's willing to try again IF you are caring about it. Hey, I'd say it's up to you guys in the long run. We're game (most of us) if you're gentle.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2008):

I love receiving head but really don't mind weather the girl swallows or not, if she takes it in her mouth and then let's it run out over her naked body or just let's me ejaculate all over her face- it's just as good for me!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2008):

i simiply think that blowjobs are fun to recieve but some women or girls doesnt like to give it. if its up to me i wouldnt make a women give me one unless im really horny. but yeah i think blow job is as normal as a guy licking the vagina which to me is normal and i think alot of guys out there including me does it.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2008):

I personally love giving head...when I was younger though I thought it was a horrible chore. However, now there are times I really really want it. I also don't mind swallowing it really doesn't bother me, I'll admitt some men do not taste amazing, but hell I'm sure there have been moments when I have not been my best smelling down there either!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2007):

I am a 51 year old male, a swinger with a modest amount of experience and my observations is that the women who don't like it are having sex with an erroneous stereotypes mindset. I have met many women who absolutely LOVE to swallow and/or fill their mouths with a nice warm load to savor and share. I have tasted my own many times, so I know exactly what it tastes like. Once a person figures out that it is no big deal, they relax and begin a wonderful lifetime habit. In my experience, the women who refuse to try are clinging to misinformation/immature locker room stories from their youth. Most men who practice healthy dietary habits have cum that tastes fine... It is as simple as that...

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A reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2007):

I've been giving and receiving oral satisfaction for some 45 years. After the movie, "Deep Throat" came out in about 1970, I think, the interest in women swallowing a man's sperm seemed to skyrocket.

In the beginning, I kind of thought is was rather nasty, but many girlfriends over the years wanted to do it. I naturally spent a lot of time pleasing them orally as well, and I have swallowed a lot of female ejaculate. Some folks don't seem to know that women shoot fluid as well, and I haven't heard much said about it.

It's never harmed me, and my sperm has gone into many female tummies. To the best of my knowledge, they stayed healthy, lovely and wanted more.

Their skin tone and texture always seemed brighter and vibrant for days.

As far as taste is concerned, a guy should eat a lot of fruit, such as pineapple, cherries, grapes and blueberries during the 24-hours or so before his girl will swallow. The fructose usually sweetens the semen. Other sweet, sugary foods also help. Daily vitamin supplements are a very good idea to ensure your girl gets a good, healthy load.

Why do some men love it? It's the incredible feeling. An eager woman who learns to please this way, and enjoys it, can do things with her lips, tongue and throat that a man will never experience any other way. It takes practice and experience to really master. It is more stimulating than a vagina, which is usually just static, although I've always loved the feeling and warmth there too, before the other.

But again, the important thing is to thoroughly please the lady first. Try to give her multiple orgasms any way that she enjoys it before she does this. She will usually be more willing and eager.

Best wishes

DoubleM in Texas

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2007):

Yeah,

Getting oral is perhaps one of the best sexual experience a woman can GIVE man-AND vice versa.

But the fact is the whole concept of oral is NATURAL-it is perhaps the Nature's way of cleaning AND preparing the parts that are needed for reproduction.

For example imagine the pain during labout. If sex isn't so pleasurable humankind would have been extinct before the Jurassic park? (LOL)

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2007):

As a man I love to go down on a woman. Its the most beautiful thing I have ever done, especially if you can feel the clitoris rise then she comes. But, having tasted my own sperm I hated it. It stuck in my throat.

Anon

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2007):

i gave 'head' for the first time today and it was wonderful, i will defo be doing it again yes i swallowed to and after the initial gagging reflex got into a rythm that worked fine. he was please, i was pleased end of story.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2007):

Its normal Its good its natural and I love to do swallow it all 15 to 20 men at a short.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2007):

As a woman I rather agree with my boyfriend. I love Swallow. Its good for skin specially for the face. I swallowed many hundred time and that is the reason even at the age of 30 I am still looks 22. I usually like to swallow from 10 to 12 men at a time. Its taste extremely good to me.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2007):

I am a women in my mid forties with decades of parters and sexual experience, I feel no pressure to answer any particular way but honestly. This act is something I would do for a man I had “only” deep affection for after I felt he valued and respected me only. How a man affectionately makes love to a women, touches her reveals how he values her, and cares about her pleasure building slowly, sensuously, erotically. Is loving foreplay present, kissing, touching, or just forcing his cock in her mouth immediately, so all sex is not the same and equal. It can be cruel and abusive out of context. It is a highly emotional issue for me and can trigger bad feelings of being abused, demeaned, degraded, dominated and humiliated. It's not something I fantasize about, like men fantasize about having sex with females, their instinct is primal, driven biologically by hard wiring.

Women, I would assume if honest, do not get aroused by this act, don't obsess, think about it going about their daily business, and if not aroused by our partners first, feel this is a uncomfortable chore, creating sore jaws, sometimes gagging with this unnaturally large object in our oral cavity, not anatomically designed by nature that will make for getting turned on, actually getting highly agitated by extreme at time torturous discomfort. Thoughts of shopping lists, and hopes its over quickly seem to surface more often than not. I do not want to do this without being sufficiently turned on first, then I'm more agreeable to mutually please him. There is not a single biological evolutionary hard wiring in females to do this, It serves no reproductive purpose other than for the males sole pleasure of using the female for this selfish purpose, it‘s not mutual sex act taking place like intercourse would be. Care must be taken by males, not to force this act, push her head down there unless she's willing after feeling respected cared for and loved, the right context in a relationship with a good sexual loving history between. This can be a male aggressive act, like raping her mouth again if done out of context. If I never had to do this for another man it would not matter, as I do only to please someone who is very special, not for a say a one night stand situation. A man has to earn this special privilege. I do not wish my mouth to be used as an object repository for male semen, like dog pisses on a fire hydrant to relieve itself, the key is mutual loving relationship. And no, I don’t perform oral while he ejaculates. That’s where I drawn the line for my own personal tastes.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2007):

Well my opinion is if you want me to go down and lick around down there until you orgasm then you should be prepared to return the favour.

Cheers

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2007):

A workmate of mine swallows and seems to do it for everyone. She says it tastes different according to the diet of the guy i.e. beer and curry not so good. She got it shot in the eye once and said it really irritated her eye.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2007):

I just read the answers from the other women and I don't think they are telling the whole truth.Women give men what they want so we can get what we want.As soon as we get them to say "I do",we don't have to do it anymore.I don't care for it but I smile sweetly at him and let him think that "Oh baby,your so great". We have better things to do besides build up their ego's so they won't be pouting all day long.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2007):

i love having the feeling of hotcum buried in my mouth.... i don't know why but I just do taking my man and having his load and swallowing it.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2007):

My wife says it's like trying to swallow an uncooked slab of warm hairy meat, which isn't a very imaginative or poetic simile, and I like to think 'hairy' exaggerates the case, but I find the overall literalness fairly persuasive. I mean, how do you counter that?

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A female reader, love-him United Kingdom +, writes (10 June 2007):

love-him agony auntHia i love giving head and the first time i swallowed, my ex was extremely bad as his semen burned my lips which was horrible but my current boyfriend we enjoy things like that. hope i helped x x x

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2007):

I actiualy enjoy giving a guy head! i think the dick tastes good and it feels good in my mouth :D

personaly though I do NOT! like cum! cuz the guy I gave oral to cum was like spicy and burned my mouth...its was a fairly bad experience but i swallowed anyways

so i guess every woman has her own prefecneces on the taste of cum, and the cum of every guy differs so overall it just depends on the guys cum and the womans likes

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A female reader, cd206 United Kingdom +, writes (9 June 2007):

cd206 agony auntI don't actually mind performing oral sex on a guy but I must admit I don't really like swallowing. I will do it if a guy tells me it's a massive turn on because sometimes we have to do things we don't like for someone else but generally I'd rather not!

CD

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A female reader, Sincere_07 United Kingdom +, writes (9 June 2007):

I totally agree with Tasteofindia, it does vary from woman to woman. I can truthfully say when i am thinking about what i am going to do to my boyfriend when i get home, i do think about the technique i will use.

If you were to ask a group of 10 women this question you would get a lot of different answers. Some only do it when drunk, some don't swallow, some do, some won't let you near their mouths. It is all about personal preference, it has nothing to do with how much you love your partner.

Again, i don't swallow but i do find it an enormous turn on to give "head". To know i am pleasuring my boyfriend (and lets face it its obvious) in such an enormous way gives me pleasure as well.

Since my boyfriend quit smoking his semen does taste different but it's not something i generally enjoy on my menu for the day and have only partaken when taken by suprise.

With regards to the comment made about not wanting it in the eye, i can honestly say having it in your belly button is not one of my favorite experiences. It is a fluid that you can't wipe off easily it sort of spreads when you wipe, and a sticky belly button is not nice.

With regards to a woman saying she will never do it again you may find they have had a bad experience or have a very sensitive gag reflex. The gag reflex can be worked on, i was the worlds worst for when i brushed my teeth if i went to far back i used to gag. I read up on this and you can train yourself not to do this. Practise obviously makes perfect so if your girlfriend is a bit embarressed by practising on you she can try with other objects when your are not around.

I do hope this is helpful x

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2007):

i used to absolutely hate the thought of it, but im now with someone for a few years who i really love and i like doing it for him, mainly because he likes it i dont get excited waiting to do it, its for him but i dont hate it anymore. it really depends on the woman and who she giving it to. i know its a vague answer but its the truth.

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A female reader, TasteofIndia United States + , writes (9 June 2007):

TasteofIndia agony auntI know you don't want to hear that it varies from person to person, but there's no other way arounder it - it does. Every woman, just like every man is different in their tastes. (Hard to believe, but some guys hate going down on women. Hate it! Dread it! Loathe it! Crazy, right?)

Personally, I enjoy giving head to my boyfriend. I never swallow just because the taste grosses me out, but so far there are no complaints from him. I am very open minded and the only request I make of him is - none in the mouth (or the eye. Ahh!!). I love it mostly because it gives my man such pleasure and that is a turn on for me. But, I wouldn't say that I spend time thinking about it. Occasionally, sure, but certainly not on the hour.

Hope you get lots of responses to your query, sweetness.

xxIndia

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