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"how do I attract boys?"

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Article - (23 January 2012) 5 Comments - (Newest, 12 February 2012)
A female United States age 30-35, Shadow Rose writes:

(Note: The good advice is at the bottom. Read through for a laugh)

I see this so often nowadays.

mostly it's girls who want their first kiss, or a boyfriend, or whatever, and they ask us what they need to do to get a boyfriend.

So I'm going to tell something to all those girls:

The only way you will ever be able to just "get a guy", which, by get a guy, you mean you want ANY guy to like you so you can kiss him, right?

Well, here's what you do:

1. Go to some stores and buy lots of low cut shirts, short shorts, booty shorts, tank tops, and strapless shirts.

2. Wear them, along with the highest heels you can find.

3. Cover your face with LOTS of makeup.

4. Only wear underwear on occasion.

5. Spread your legs and make everything a provocative pose.

6. And finally, when a guy wants to sleep with you/get a blowjob/whatever, you MUST say yes!

And those are six easy steps to getting ANY GUY to want you.

Oh, wait. I'm guessing you wanted a nice, meaningful relationship, with a nice guy who gets you, and makes you laugh. A guy who RESPECTS you...

Ok, well, I guess that doesn't apply to you then.

But if you want that, you cannot say "I want a boyfriend, how can I attract boys?"

Because that's not how it works. If you really want a boyfriend, there's only one thing to do:

MEET SOMEONE WHO HAS SIMILAR INTERESTS AND STUFF, AND THEN YOU ACTUALLY HAVE TO LIKE HIM TOO!

So if you want to "get a boyfriend", then you need to start making some friends, or re-evaluating your current male friends.

If none of the current male friends are boyfriend materials, then join clubs or activities that you enjoy, if you like God, go to church, maybe that cute guy playing the guitar and singing praises to the lord is single!

If you like skydiving, maybe the hot skydiving instructor is boyfriend material!

Once you found someone that you actually like, then it's on to phase two:

You need to make sure you are NOT any of these three things:

Smelly, rude, or annoying.

Those are the 3 worst traits a person could have.

If you have good hygine, you're nice, and you are likeable, then that guy you like will be more apt to like you back!

If you both have similar interests, morals, sense of humor, etc, then that's a higher chance!

But remember, he might be in a relationship, or freshly broken up. He might have a crush on someone else, or he may just not want a girlfriend, so another key thing is to make sure that you can handle rejection.

Yeah, it REALLY sucks when he doesn't like you. I've experienced that before. But it can be a good thing, because that just means that he wasn't right for you.

So dont get discouraged by rejection. If he tells you why he doesn't like you that way, then learn from it.

If he says he likes someone else, remember back and think about any hints you can find about that, that you missed before, and learn to pick them up better.

If he says you are too hard to understand because you talk too fast, then maybe try slowing down a bit.

Now, I am not saying you need to change yourself to get this guy, or any other guy, unless you chose to.

But if you get good honest criticism, then it's ok to take that advice.

If he says "I dont like you that way because I'm a democrat and you're a republican", then DONT become a democrat for him!

Find a nice republican boy. :)

It's all about trial and error.

So good luck in the world, and I hope you use my guide to find happiness!

(And once you do, be sure to check out my guide to keeping a meaningful relationship)

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A male reader, Myau New Zealand +, writes (12 February 2012):

Myau agony auntMy sister was complaining about not meeting the right guys, Im definately forwarding this to her.

Odds coments are good too.

Im one of those guys who will need a girl to hold up a sign saying "I like you ideot, ask me out already". She will then need to hit me with it 7 or 8 times.

Then I'll walk over to a friend and ask "you think she likes me?"

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A male reader, Odds United States +, writes (6 February 2012):

Odds agony auntI'll fully endorse your selection process. Finding the right guy is tough, but worthwhile. Same with accepting when a guy isn't interested or available - in fact, girls should be careful not to let that make them even *more* interested in the guy.

But, to add my two cents...

Us menfolk can be pretty oblivious to girls. A lot of us either miss out entirely on a girl by missing or signals, or overcorrect and just start assuming every girl likes us (that latter one can be a lot of fun, depending on your capacity for self-delusion).

Since I don't know a lot of girls willing to make the first move, it's important they know how to signal interest in a way that'll get through to a guy without seeming slutty. Now, if the guy is on the ball, playing with her hair or parting her lips a bit when she listens to him talk will both do the trick. If the guy is a bit more oblivious, she should wait until he makes her laugh, then pat him on the chest as she chuckles. No one will miss that sign.

To attract him without giving off a slutty vibe, she should consider her boobs, butt, and legs. Pick one, and dress to emphasize it. Be more modest about the other two. She can alternate from day to day, as long as she just sticks with one. Should do the trick, and attract her a nice libertarian boy.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (1 February 2012):

So_Very_Confused agony auntLOVE IT!

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A female reader, Shadow Rose United States +, writes (1 February 2012):

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Shadow Rose agony auntThanks for commenting! Comments always make me feel like my articles have been read and enjoyed!

And Smelly, Rude, and Annoying people get no love because they are smelly, rude, and annoying xP

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A female reader, tennisstar88 United States +, writes (1 February 2012):

tennisstar88 agony aunt"Smelly, rude, or annoying." LMAO

I agree those are deal breakers!

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