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| Latest articles: How do I get a girlfriend?
This question has 9 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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5 April 2012: Since my satirical article on how to get a boyfriend (With the real advice on the bottom) seemed to be well liked, I thought I'd write one for the opposite gender! Like the last one, please don't read the first half and then leave. The first...
The reason why so many relationships fail
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30 January 2012: I've come to realize recently that there are so many relationships that fail, so many guys and girls that break up with their boyfriend/girlfriend, and so many broken hearts. You may say it's because of the increased population, but I say it's b...
"how do I attract boys?"
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23 January 2012: (Note: The good advice is at the bottom. Read through for a laugh) I see this so often nowadays. mostly it's girls who want their first kiss, or a boyfriend, or whatever, and they ask us what they need to do to get a boyfriend. So I'm...
Shadow's View on LGBT and the like.
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8 December 2011: It's recently come to my attention that a lot of people seem to think that they can simply BECOME gay/bi/etc. And that being so is wrong. I'd just like to write down my words, and hope it helps people. First off, I'd like to address the firs...
Pointers for a meaningful, healthy relationship.
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27 October 2011: I dont claim to be a relationship guru, but I've got a few pointers that have worked for me. These are the five points of maintaining a meaningful, good relationship, and both males and females can get some use out of this. 1. Honesty- A relation...
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How do you feel about nick-names in a loving relationship? Do you have a favorite nick-name?
Q. Does your loved one give you nick names? Or a nick name? And which one do you love the most? I think nick-names can be a barometer of a relationship. If the nick-names stopped happening then I would know there was a problem, even if nothing had been ...
A. 28 November 2011: I personally never call my boyfriend by his full name. I met him as the abbreviated version of his name, and so I call him that. Other than that, we tend to use "Hun" (he says it and I love the way it sounds), and "Love" (I say it. I've watched ... (read in full...)
Not attracted to the guy I'm dating....am I shallow? Will this change as I get to know him better?
Q. Hey all! I don't wanna sound shallow or anything, but I've recently been on a few dates with this guy. Nothing happened, but he is clearluy interested in me. I have a good time with him and all, but... I think he's really ugly and I don't feel any ...
A. 28 November 2011: I hope I dont sound mean in my answer, but if you aren't attracted to him like that, maybe you two are better off as friends?
I hate to admit it, but relationships do need some degree of physical attraction, or else it's little more than a frie... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend about the obscene comments I've been getting online?
Q. There are guys, mostly online, that have been making perverted comments towards me, and it's kinda hurting my pride, because it makes me think "Do I look like a slut?", and it's just bothering me, because I find it disgusting when some random guy ...
A. 28 November 2011: The sites are mostly FB and places I'd use to contact him, since its a kind of LDR (20 miles away) , and since my computer isn't usually working, I'm on my DSi, so we're stuck with only a handful of ways to contact eachother.
And he's my best fri... (read in full...)
I feel he did not respect my 'No" when he requested anal sex and I have refused that and his other request. I don't know enough about it, like does it hurt?
Q. My boyfriend has recently requested anal sex, and he has also said he would like to ejaculate on my face. When he first asked if we could have anal sex I said no. I have tried it before (not actual sex, but similar) and didn't really enjoy it....
A. 28 November 2011: He watches too much porn. Porn makes these thing seem normal and easy, but it's really not. I've never tried either, but I'm sure semen in your eye is NOT pleasant, wouldn't you think?
If you dont want to do something, he really should respect your... (read in full...)
I've realized I'm gay -- how to tell my boyfriend?
Q. I have a boyfriend who ive been with for half a year now but i got with him unsure about my sexuality and now i know, i'm 100% gay. I need to tell him but i'm too afraid, plus we live together with 6 other people as i'm in uni. so it's going to be ...
A. 27 November 2011: Just do it when he's not too stressed. I had a bi ex who turned out to be gay, and now he's my best friend. He was just really nice about it.
It's better to let him know now, than to lead him on.... (read in full...)
Ladies, have you had more sexual (intercourse) partners than oral sex partners or have you masturbated more partners?
Q. I was just wondering about female statistics, something me and my partner were talking about. Ladies, have you had more sexual (intercourse) partners than oral sex partners or have you masturbated more partners? For example, my partner (I've asked ...
A. 27 November 2011: I'm probably not very helpful in this scenario, because I've only ever had one partner, and we haven't had sex yet since we aren't married yet xD So one for hand job, one for oral, none for intercourse.... (read in full...)
It just doesn't turn me on, is this normal?
Q. Hi.. Simple and short question.. I'm dating this guy and I've wanked him off a couple times but when I do it there's nothing about the act that actually turns me on. I just like the fact that he's happy and he's being pleased.. Is thi...
A. 24 November 2011: That's how I feel too, I dont feel turned on when I do it, because honestly, from a woman's point of view, rubbing your hand up and down something repeatedly isn't very sexy XD
It's completely normal. ... (read in full...)
Sexual Fantasies: Just How Open Should You Be In A Relationship?
Q. Some time ago I was watching T.V. and I couldn't find anything that interesting on. As I bypassed many channels, I contemplated whether or not I should just turn the darn thing off. Then I came across the Tyra Banks show. The episode was about ...
A. 23 November 2011: I gotta add my input:
I personally think it depends on how serious the relationship is and how much you trust your partner.
It also depends on how you feel about the fantasy as well, if the fantasy is something you're ashamed of, you're less ... (read in full...)
I need help getting a guy friend out of his depression...
Q. Ok, so long story short (Because I tend to be long-winded), I have a friend who was dumped about 2 weeks ago, I didn't want to ask too much about it, but I did want to help, because he's a friend. But this guy will NOT do anything! I told...
A. 22 November 2011: Thank you guys for the advice, because I honestly dont know what to do. He says things that makes it seems like he's reaching out for help, and I feel obligated to try and help...... (read in full...)
Online dating etiquette...
Q. I am trying my hand at online dating after being newly single and out of an 8 year relationship. I keep getting bombarded with messages from men I am not interested in. If I ignore then they keep messaging me and plus I feel it is better to be ...
A. 18 November 2011: Be honest, it's the best thing, and if they become rude or whiny, then there's a good reason why you aren't interested, right there!
I do it all the time xD... (read in full...)
I don't know how to take care of kids, I don't think they're cute, I don't like them or know what to do with them, and I don't want one, ever.
Q. Today I was talking with my mom, and my sister, who joined in, and they said it was wierd that I have no maternal instinct. Every woman in my family, and even a lot of men LOVE babies and kids, whenever there's a baby around, everyone coos over it, ...
A. 15 November 2011: To Miamine: Oh, I understood what you said, of course ^.^ I just meant I dont get how it's so special, but I guess it comes with my dislike for kids. I also have a very scientific way of looking at things in the physical world (when it comes to ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to take care of kids, I don't think they're cute, I don't like them or know what to do with them, and I don't want one, ever.
Q. Today I was talking with my mom, and my sister, who joined in, and they said it was wierd that I have no maternal instinct. Every woman in my family, and even a lot of men LOVE babies and kids, whenever there's a baby around, everyone coos over it, ...
A. 15 November 2011: Thanks everyone. I'm glad to know I'm not wierd :)
Although I should clarify a little, I have a bf currently who is pretty much a fiance, he's a year younger and wants to wait to propose until he's an adult, so he already knows my dislike for ... (read in full...)
I am 14 and my boyfriend is 15 and we both REALLY want a baby!
Q. I am 14 and my boyfriend is 15 and we both REALLY want a baby!!! What do we do?!?! We talk about getting married and having kids all the time!! What do I do? P.S. We haven't had sex if that's what you are thinking.....
A. 15 November 2011: I say you need a babysitting job. at 13, you should be just starting out your life, not creating more life.
Like everyone else said, taking care of a baby is HARD! I'm 18, and me and my boyfriend (Who will become my fiance next year, he wants to... (read in full...)
Boyfriend cheated three times, is that reason to dump him?
Q. Hi there. I've gotten together with this guy about 2 weeks ago after we had been dating for 3 months. I found out he's cheating on me just three days after we got together and yet he's done it 3 times already. I'm really confused since he seems t...
A. 13 November 2011: Yes.... (read in full...)
Struggling with my sexual orientation....
Q. Hi everyone, I'm having a little trouble coming to terms with my sexual orientation. I have always believed I was strait after having a string of girlfriends and many sexual partners. But over the last couple of years I have found myself being ...
A. 10 November 2011: Well, the reason you feel wrong about watching gay porn is because you were probably raised to think being gay is wrong. A lot of religious people seem to think this way, and a lot of straight males as well. You probably are fighting with the ... (read in full...)
Need help dealing with jealousy and insecurity.
Q. Hey, I need some advice on how not to get jealous and insecure when girls compliment/flirt with my bf, please! We've been together 1.5 yrs, and are really happy together. He's asked me to move in with him, and has mentioned marriage and a family ...
A. 9 November 2011: It's normal in any relationship to have some jealousy when someone is flirting with your loved one. Especially in your situation. Your boyfriend was wrong to sext those people. Even though it wasn't physical, it was emotional!
You need to talk to h... (read in full...)
Ex says I should have sex with him because I owe him my virginity since he waited for me
Q. Me and my now ex-boyfriend just broke up because of me not being in love with him anymore. Although we're broken up, he's telling me to have sex with him so we can both loose our virginities and then he'll move on. He says if we do have sex, he'll ...
A. 7 November 2011: You should hit him for even asking! (I'd do it)
You are not dating him, and you owe him nothing. Keep your virginity and save it for someone who doesn't have to guilt trip you.... (read in full...)
Poll: What do you believe is synonymous with losing your virginity?
Q. Ok, I want to know. I randomly thought of this today, and I wanted to hear everyones opinion on this, because I'm interested in what other people think. What, in your mind, is the loss of virginity? For girls: Is it breaking your hymen? I...
A. 7 November 2011: Thanks for your guyses input! I love to hear what everyone thinks!... (read in full...)
Love bites or hickeys?
Q. hi i was writing to get some tips. i'm 15 and it seems alot of people my age are giving 'hichys' or love bites to their partners. and that's what i'm worried about the thing is i don't know how to give them :S. i'm worried about doing it wrong when ...
A. 6 November 2011: Well, If you're 15, that's not really appropriate for someone your age anyways. It usually isn't something you want to give someone, because people dont want to see hickeys on 15 year olds. (or 18 year olds, either, I got in trouble for getting a ... (read in full...)
Poll: What do you believe is synonymous with losing your virginity?
Q. Ok, I want to know. I randomly thought of this today, and I wanted to hear everyones opinion on this, because I'm interested in what other people think. What, in your mind, is the loss of virginity? For girls: Is it breaking your hymen? I...
A. 6 November 2011: to champange69: Aww, that's sweet! It's a romantic tale, and you're very lucky to have that experience! (Some females dont experience it like that, or so I've overheard from the very loud conversations around me at times)
And to everyone else:
... (read in full...)
Men are selfish!
Q. Ok, the title says it all and I am sick to death, borderline disgusted by the selfish nature of men. Let's not deny it. It is 100% true. I have no problem attracting men. But here's the thing, The second an attractive woman ignores the man who is c...
A. 4 November 2011: I just disagree completelt, OP. You may have dated some shitty guys in your past, but really, unless you have gotten to know EVERY SINGLE MAN IN THE WORLD, you cannot say all men are ANYTHING. Thas like saying "All women like diamonds" Or "al... (read in full...)
Men are selfish!
Q. Ok, the title says it all and I am sick to death, borderline disgusted by the selfish nature of men. Let's not deny it. It is 100% true. I have no problem attracting men. But here's the thing, The second an attractive woman ignores the man who is c...
A. 3 November 2011: Nono, BOYS are selfish.
There are a lot of men who aren't. My boyfriend isn't selfish, quite a few of my friends aren't, my friends boyfriends aren't selfish. It's because they're more men than boys.
... (read in full...)
Pointers for a meaningful, healthy relationship.
Q. I dont claim to be a relationship guru, but I've got a few pointers that have worked for me. These are the five points of maintaining a meaningful, good relationship, and both males and females can get some use out of this. 1. Honesty- A relation...
A. 1 November 2011: to chelseac13:
Definitely! Never stop having fun together, because once a relationship stops being fun, it's a chore.
Thank you for reminding me about that!... (read in full...)
Pointers for a meaningful, healthy relationship.
Q. I dont claim to be a relationship guru, but I've got a few pointers that have worked for me. These are the five points of maintaining a meaningful, good relationship, and both males and females can get some use out of this. 1. Honesty- A relation...
A. 31 October 2011: that's a good one dark_heart_x! I tried to kind of talk about that in the Respect one :) Thank you for taking the time to read my article!... (read in full...)
Should I tell my B/f about my dream?
Q. Last night, I had a dream about me and my boyfriend making out. It was obvious we were going to do more in my dream, but I woke up before we got intimate. I need my fellow ants and uncles to give me their opinion. Should I tell my boyfriend abou...
A. 29 October 2011: I never said I wanted to tease him.... o.o
Just want to turn him on, since its not like I'm denying him pleasure, he gets pleasure out of the things we do too. I'd NEVER be cruel to him, he's too awesome a guy.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's brother is tagging along to our outings and now I don't want him for my 18th birthday party. How can I ask him not to come without sounding rude?
Q. Here's what happened the first time: My boyfriend was invited by me to my grandmother's halloween party for the family, so he can meet my family. So a few days before the party, he asked if his brother can tag along. He said he had to watch his brot...
A. 29 October 2011: to k_c100, He came to the last family get togerher, actually. But this is supposed to be a special thing for me and my bf, not an actual party. I chose this instead of one, but the family celebrated my birthday at the get together.
Thanks everyone... (read in full...)
Should I tell my B/f about my dream?
Q. Last night, I had a dream about me and my boyfriend making out. It was obvious we were going to do more in my dream, but I woke up before we got intimate. I need my fellow ants and uncles to give me their opinion. Should I tell my boyfriend abou...
A. 28 October 2011: Argh, I'm not 16, I'm a week away from 18. I hate how this site portrays me as a possible 16 year old! Thank you for your opinionsm, though. And he does plan on marrying me, he's always talking about it, and he was the first to talk a... (read in full...)
Should I tell my B/f about my dream?
Q. Last night, I had a dream about me and my boyfriend making out. It was obvious we were going to do more in my dream, but I woke up before we got intimate. I need my fellow ants and uncles to give me their opinion. Should I tell my boyfriend abou...
A. 27 October 2011: Guess I should have been clearer. Not really worried or anything, I'm just looking for opinions, would telling him this, knowing we wont have sex till we're married, be like poking a bear with a stick? My goal is just to turn him on, pretty m... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be that wet?
Q. when l have sex l become so wet n its so irritating coz den disgusting sounds are heard, this turns me off but he says its a turn on, im just 24 bt feel too loose when im wet and for me to feel him l hv to realy open up... is it me or it happens...
A. 27 October 2011: I'd say just ignore the noises, it'd be a lot worse if you weren't wet, sex would burn, and be very painful without your natural lubricant.... (read in full...)
What do women feel when they are horny?
Q. hi !! if a boy or man gets horny he gets a erection !! what a girl or women feels when they are sexually aroused !! hope u wil answer my question ????...
A. 27 October 2011: Good.
It's pretty much the same feelng as a guy would have, minus the feeling of blood plumping your member up.
Perhaps if a woman is really aroused, she'll feel slippery and slick on her thighs, but yeah, similar.
lol, it's kinda hard ... (read in full...)
Why did my friend act weird after making a funny joke?
Q. My friend was acting strange today. We were talking about this Halloween costume contest at my school and she was talking about how the winner got a free dinner from the principal. I said something like "Oh, he'd probably take them to McDonald's or ...
A. 26 October 2011: I'm sure she was afraid she'd get in trouble for badmouthing the principal and wanted to erase all evidence.
Is she usually a good student/person? People who tend to always do the right thing freak out more if they've done something bad..... (read in full...)
What am I doing wrong? Why do guys only want to sleep with me and not have a relationship?
Q. hey, i am 21 and know people say im still young should be enjoying myself not worried about realtionships but (and please dont judge me) iv slept with 53 boys and only 3 if had a realtionship with. it isnt that i dont what a reationship beca...
A. 26 October 2011: 53 guys.
There's your problem. If you've slept with that many guys (Think of it this way, around TWO high school classrooms), they'd rather join the classes.
It's like, to them, why go to a 4yr college when you can just get a job at your uncl... (read in full...)
I need tips on gaining weight!
Q. please help me... i am a 19 year old female who is five feet tall and weighs 100 lbs, i recently had a son and i thought i would have gotten fatter but i didn't. people often times say that i look like around 15-16 and it makes me sad as i went thr...
A. 26 October 2011: I'd suggest working out if you really want to. It'll give you more muscle weight and make you look more adult-ish, while maintaining your fat content. Just remember to eat a healthy diet and enough calories to make sure you aren't becoming ... (read in full...)
My classmates are sexually active or in relationships. Is there something wrong with me?
Q. Im 15 and Im in ninth grade. Half of the kids in my grade had already lost their virginity (Im not one of them of course), and 3 of my 5 best friends have a boyfriend. Ive never had a boyfriend in my life, never been kissed etc. Im not a lesbian,or ...
A. 26 October 2011: Nah, there's nothing wrong with you. The people who have sex at 15 usually end up unhappy, or feel they need to have sex in order to fit in.
You are beautiful in your own way (Everyone has their own beuty, be it their hair, eyes, face, hands, e... (read in full...)
Flatmate has had chance after chance to pull her weight around the house, she is even affecting my partners health but still won't change! What can I do?
Q. My partner and I need some help with an unclean flatmate problem that has just gone too far. We don’t know what to do and need advice. The back-story is this. My partner and I have been together for over a year now, and we live in a flat with o...
A. 25 October 2011: Sounds like she needs a reality check. Tell her if she continues, you'll have to find a new flatmate, because you care about your partner's health. It should hopefully shock her into cleaning up.... (read in full...)
How can I get a girl to have sex with me in high school?
Q. first of all i mean no disrespect to any one who may read this so please do not take me as some horny teenager. to get down do it. this is my last year of high school and most of my friends by now have had sex all of them but me. and you want to ...
A. 24 October 2011: I'm just gonna be as blunt as possible:
Dont look for a chick to have sex with. That makes you a jerk, player, etc, whatever you want to call it.
Sex is for reproduction, do it with someone you love. Honestly, the only way you're going to fin... (read in full...)
Ladies: How important are a man's looks in a relationship?
Q. Hello. This is not a "problem" as such, but i have a question for the ladies.... TRUTHFULLY, how important are a mans looks in a relationship? I ask this for 2 reasons. Firstly women always say that its personality, kindness, empathy, sense o...
A. 24 October 2011: I think it depends on personality, and what that specific female finds attractive. For example, one woman can have a "thing" for blue eyes, so she'd prefer a man with blue eyes, but the blue eyed man with a good personality would be picked. ... (read in full...)
Next step after making out?
Q. me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year and we make out alot. but what is the next step? ...
A. 23 October 2011: Well, in terms of the bases, the next step is "feel" , meaning, i guess, feeling eachother up. But it's really all about what you two feel is the next step. And your guyses comfortability.... (read in full...)
Why didn't he want to continue?
Q. Please, please, I really need your help. I have so many mixed feelings now that writing this is hard. I had recently gave my bf my v-card. It was unexpected to him because I've planned it all to my self. We've dated for a year and up til now, all ...
A. 20 October 2011: I think he just didn't realize that bleeding happens when a girl has sex for the first time, and he freaked out. Just explain to him that yeah, you probably were in a little pain, but that's how it starts out your first time. Just tell him he didn't ... (read in full...)
Personality vs looks?
Q. Hi, So I was wondering... Is personality or physical attraction more important? Any thoughts would be appreciated!...
A. 18 October 2011: What's to love if they have a bad personality? :P
And usually, average looking people tend to end up looking really hot after a while, if you develop feelings for them.... (read in full...)
Is there any way to get some alone time? Or do I have to just wait?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for quite a while now, and we're both highschool seniors. I have a super strict mom and stepdad, and we can only give eachother a few kisses on the lips and hugs, thats it. Door stays open if we're in my r...
A. 17 October 2011: To warmonk: I wasn't planning on going that far! We both have talked it over a while back and we agree that it's best to have sex after we're married. It's just the far and few light kisses reminds me of a time where girls wore turtlenecks and ... (read in full...)
Is there any way to get some alone time? Or do I have to just wait?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for quite a while now, and we're both highschool seniors. I have a super strict mom and stepdad, and we can only give eachother a few kisses on the lips and hugs, thats it. Door stays open if we're in my r...
A. 17 October 2011: Thanks for the advice.
Although, we usually cant go anywhere except super public places, like parks and stuff, and I'm not sure I can afford to pay for our makeout sessions o.o ... (read in full...)
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