When I didn't want him he was around, and now that I want him, he's never around!
Q. When I didn't care about this guy, he'd constantly call/email/im me, now when I'm starting to really care and think about him, he's not doing it as much. Do you think this has something to do with the universe. LIke now that I want it, I can't get ...
A. 26 June 2011: But you said you are thinking about him because you are bored and jobless. Thats not true attraction to someone, thats needing attention and someone to give attention to.
Some interests just fade. Thats life. The universe is not against you, he ... (read in full...)
Its rude to ask my sexuality, right?
Q. any idea why people just randomly ask my sexuality??? that is rude right? or i just "look" gay or something wrong with how i project myself to them??? seriously? how do you even know who's gay/lesbian who's not? and homo vibe or sigh...is tha...
A. 26 June 2011: I would ignore ANY texts, emails, etc of someone who asks personal questions like that and does not know you.
If they have courage to actually get to know you and befriend you..sure:)
Ignore. Delete. Done.... (read in full...)
How did I get myself into this? My dream girl on one side and my GF and kids on the other side!1
Q. I'm currently in a 7 year long relationship w/ kids but here goes I met this girl on fb started to chat, she didnt look too good but was funny and was making lots of sexual innuendo and she caught my eye at some point. I invited her to the beach an...
A. 26 June 2011: Sorry Charlie, re read your own original post. Make yourself clearer then if you feel you were misunderstood.
I understood one think loud and clear. You are already in a committed relationship with kids.
You feel like cheating. You want to just... (read in full...)
Abused by an ex in the past, but now I want to be sexual with my new boyfriend I don't know where to start!
Q. I'm twenty three years old and am really shy and self conscious I'm with my first ever boyfriend becsause I was abused for a number off years and was controlled by my abuser ex. my boyfreind knows what have been through and has been really ...
A. 26 June 2011: You may want to talk specifically with someone who specializes in sex therapy..to help your mind retrain and rethink that being sexual with your bf is safe.
Do not push yourself and go slow. Sounds like he is understanding and loving about it... (read in full...)
He says I don't make out like a girl?
Q. While making out (not sex..we havent yet..) my boyfriend says I dont seem like a girl..and I dont have that kinda feelings...what does that mean?? What should I do to be like a girl??...
A. 25 June 2011: The only person to ask is HIM. What does he think a GIRL should do while making out?
... (read in full...)
What to write?
Q. Im getting my man one of they giant cookies the heart shaped one What the heck can I get written on it lol He knows I love him I tell him all the time lol Looking for something funny but sexy or aw a dunno lol Sounds really daft I know but a d...
A. 25 June 2011: Being a little silly is good for a relationship.
How about "I love you more than cookies"
How about just a date that was significant to the both of you? Your first date, your first kiss, youf first shag, a future date...
How about inclu... (read in full...)
Its rude to ask my sexuality, right?
Q. any idea why people just randomly ask my sexuality??? that is rude right? or i just "look" gay or something wrong with how i project myself to them??? seriously? how do you even know who's gay/lesbian who's not? and homo vibe or sigh...is tha...
A. 25 June 2011: So, what exactly are people asking?
"Are you gay or straight?"
Things like that?
Disarm them by asking "Why do you ask?" with a big smile on your face. Or "Why do you need to know?"
There is NO problem telling people that you find the... (read in full...)
I don't want to feel like an ugly outcast anymore!
Q. Hi. Ive got abit of a problem i have really low self esteem and i am adiment that i am pretty much fuck ugly. Its kinda holding me back i know looks arent everything but in like socity these days unless you are pretty your not really treated the ...
A. 25 June 2011: Sweetie, you are so hard on yourself.
You admit you have low self esteem and you are seeing yourself thru sad eyes.
You are right that our society does judge on appearances, BUT, I can tell you that CONFIDENCE is by FAR the most attractive t... (read in full...)
He's Un-Contactable And Somehow Impossible To Be Friends The Least!!!!!!!!!
Q. There's this guy from a party. He seems to like me. He talked to me, we had fun.. etc. He didn't really talked to other people, more to me. (According to my friends) He even said to a friend that I was still a minor. So he said that probably ...
A. 25 June 2011: Lesson number one with guys.
If he really wanted to keep in contact with you he would have done it already.
Let this one go sweetie. He was flirting and it was nice.
He is not bf material.
You are going to flirt with LOTS of boys. Enj... (read in full...)
Genital warts and sex
Q. if you have gential warts and you have sex with your partner with a condom. will he catch the std to even if the warts are gone ?...
A. 25 June 2011: You can catch the STD even if there are no signs of a problem. Genital warts can appear 6 mos after exposure.
If you KNOW you have an STD, always use a condom.
... (read in full...)
After 3 years, shouldn't he know if this relationship is going somewhere?
Q. i am going out with this guy for 3 years and 2 mos. now. six months ago we had a conversation about plans in life and marriage. well, he said he was planning of marriage with me but he was not promising anything. I thought the reason why he is not ...
A. 25 June 2011: Sad to say, yes I believe after that amount of time, he SHOULD know where he sees his future with you.
If you want your future to include marriage, kids, etc. Then you need to take ownership of that.
No ultimatums, but I would be telling... (read in full...)
Why are guys intimidated by curves?
Q. Ok, I know this sounds strange as most guys do like curves, but I feel as though mine are just wasted and I might as well lose weight and become a stick insect! lol! I was basically talking to a guy friend of mine, and he said most douche bags go ...
A. 25 June 2011: I think that people just have their types that they are most attracted to.
There is nothing wrong with you! Enjoy your curves and be what is healthy and fit to you. If you are not sure about your weight, go to the Dr. and see if you are in a hea... (read in full...)
Random guy I met said he'd call but he hasn't. Why?
Q. I met this guy randomly on the road and he was interested in me, he asked for my number I took his. I called him 2 days later, we talked and my girlfriends and I had a party to go to, so I asked him if he could give me a ride to one of my ...
A. 25 June 2011: The sparks flew, you both flirted, etc.
But you do not really know him. You did not know his charachter or if he was reliable. Who knows why he didnt show/call. Only he knows the answer.
But, you can not get hurt/dissapointed by someone you d... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says my sex drive is craven, not glutenous. What does that mean?
Q. Dear all,your views please! I have a high sex drive,and have been seeing my bf for four months. We had tons of sex at the start with both of us initiating. However,it now seems to be me starting things. Over the last few weeks,he has made me feel ...
A. 25 June 2011: Definition of CRAVEN
1archaic : defeated, vanquished
2: lacking the least bit of courage : contemptibly fainthearted
— craven noun
— cra·ven·ly adverb
— cra·ven·ness \-v?n-n?s\ noun
Gluttonous has to do with a huge appetite that never s... (read in full...)
When I didn't want him he was around, and now that I want him, he's never around!
Q. When I didn't care about this guy, he'd constantly call/email/im me, now when I'm starting to really care and think about him, he's not doing it as much. Do you think this has something to do with the universe. LIke now that I want it, I can't get ...
A. 25 June 2011: Maybe he got tired of the chase?
Some guys pursue, pursue, pursue and when it looks like its not going anywhere, give up the chase.
Bored? Find something else besides him to occupy your time. No one should date another person just because the... (read in full...)
How can my girlfriend not feel anything?
Q. my girlfriend says she does not "feel" anything when i touch her vagina...what does that mean???!! um so much worried...what should i do??? ...
A. 25 June 2011: Does she mean she doesnt feel excited, or she can not tell that you are touching her?
... (read in full...)
Will a fun car help me get a girlfriend?
Q. alright its time that I get a new car or at least something fun to drive in the summer/weekends. I am looking at sports cars which isn't making my insurance company happy seeing as I am only 17. Well I have found two very different types. 87 Ford ...
A. 25 June 2011: If you want a shallow gf who values you purely for image..then by all means, get the flashiest car you can find.
If you want a gf that admires you for YOU. Get what is most practical for your life.
Purchasing a car is an investment-chick... (read in full...)
How did I get myself into this? My dream girl on one side and my GF and kids on the other side!1
Q. I'm currently in a 7 year long relationship w/ kids but here goes I met this girl on fb started to chat, she didnt look too good but was funny and was making lots of sexual innuendo and she caught my eye at some point. I invited her to the beach an...
A. 25 June 2011: You got your ego boosted from the new girl. Stop thinking with your family jewels and think with your brain. You already have a commitment WITH KIDS. You are in love with the HOT GIRL's HOTNESS and you were off to have some cheating fun. What... (read in full...)
If this guy who I met through an online dating site didn't like me, then why did he keep calling and texting me?
Q. I met a guy through an online dating site, but he lives in another state. For about two weeks, we talked on the phone everyday for hours at a time and texted and emailed each other throughout the day. He talked about moving to my state eventually ...
A. 25 June 2011: Keeping in touch with you is probably an ego boost for him when he needs it. He contacts you at HIS convieience.
He is not good boyfriend material and he led you on that he wanted and could deliver more to your life.
He is back on the dati... (read in full...)
My BF doesn't want to go for my niece's christening and doesn't want me to go either. If I do, he would break up with me. What should I do?
Q. What would you do if you were me? Hello. Some advice please. I come from a very close family and we are not religious at all. My sister however has decided to get my niece christened. When my boyfriend found out about this he was totally against ...
A. 25 June 2011: I would break up with the boyfriend. NO one but ME determines how I live my beliefs and convictions.
He does not OWN that part of you. Shame on him for not allowing you to. Disgusting.... (read in full...)
Should I tell my neighbor that her husband is probably cheating on her?
Q. Hi Goodpeople, I need some advices here... The couple and my family used to live in same neighborhood. We go to the same church, but we are not that close. They are at middle of 50s and have several grown up children, and grandchildren. Ab...
A. 25 June 2011: I agree with your husband. While it may be wrong, its not your place to butt in.
However, if I saw the cheating husband again, I might go over and say "Hi Neighbor!" just so he is aware that SOMEONE KNOWS.
Thats just me:) ... (read in full...)
How do I help and support my wife now that she's confessed she was sexually abused but has not sought therapy? Do I insist she get therapy?
Q. My wife has always had issues with sex in our marriage. There were times when she enjoyed it, but never really any times when she really let go. For instance, she doesn't like oral sex (giving or receiving). She doesn't like to kiss very much. Sh...
A. 25 June 2011: I think you DO need to ask her to get counseling WITH you as a couple.
Your sex life is a JOINT agreement, and your wife sees it as a dirty duty and not a pleasure to look forward to and become close to you.
Her thinking of sex is warped. I ta... (read in full...)
Abused by an ex in the past, but now I want to be sexual with my new boyfriend I don't know where to start!
Q. I'm twenty three years old and am really shy and self conscious I'm with my first ever boyfriend becsause I was abused for a number off years and was controlled by my abuser ex. my boyfreind knows what have been through and has been really ...
A. 25 June 2011: I am so sorry you were abused by a relative.
It sounds like your heart is saying you want to be intimate with your bf, but your body still remembers the past.
Did you ever have counseling for the abuse? This is VERY important if you were rape... (read in full...)
I am stuck in a relationship that I want to end!
Q. why Cant i end it? My gf has cheated on me three times she has lied to me and when i finally got to ending it she started telling me she loved me. I still care for her. Though i have told her Im not taking any more crap which appears to make her...
A. 25 June 2011: You are stuck because you choose to be and to avoid conflict.
When someone loves you/says they love you, you are NOT obligated to accept ANY treatment the dish out for you.
No one can "force" forgivness out of you. It is a freely given gif... (read in full...)
Somebody is 'planting' panties
Q. My wife recently discovered a pair of panties which were obviously planted by (we suspect) during a recent visit by an envious/jealous guests (younger adult neice). Luckily, my wife knows I had nothing to do with the matter. Any suggestions on how ...
A. 24 June 2011: I think it depends WHERE and HOW the panties were found.
Example: Finding them in the bathroom or guestroom as opposed to YOUR bed or YOUR suitcase.
Toss them away. Let it go. Your wife is fine with it and believes you.
What would be t... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend to move out?
Q. How do I get my boyfriend to move out without the police or having to change the locks he has sort of a temper and I dont wont to set him off: Hello My boyfriend and I live together now for 6 months when he first moved in everything was g...
A. 24 June 2011: Talk to your landlord about changing the locks if the ex gives you grief. Hopefully it will not be a problem.
While I own the home my ex and I lived in together, he was horrible about moving out. I had to realize that he is not going to be expec... (read in full...)
Can a promiscuous man change?
Q. In your opinion, can a man who has a history of random sex with random women in excess, ever actually grow up and fall in love, and stay satisified with one woman? I'm dating a man who is 37 and recently discovered he was extremely promiscuous in ...
A. 24 June 2011: I DO believe a formerly promiscuous man CAN change, you only get proof of it over time.
How does HE feel about monogamy?
... (read in full...)
My husband can't seem to ejaculate during oral. Is there something we can do?
Q. My husband can't seem to ejaculate during oral. As I've researched this it seems like it's a pretty common problem, but the reasons seems to be it's not enough or oral isn't done long enough. I have never timed myself, but I know I have gotten him ...
A. 24 June 2011: It is not a physical thing you are or are not doing.
More than likely it is mental.
Since it has NEVER happened for him, it more likely psychological. He enjoys it, so do not give it up, but stop making orgasm the GOAL of oral.
... (read in full...)
Is he flirting?
Q. I recently started a new job. One of my co-workers has been over the top nice to me, making jokes, and continuously touching my shoulder or back which makes me uncomfortable. Since I'm more shy, I find it difficult to look him in the eye, but he ...
A. 23 June 2011: I believe on being direct and speaking up.
Next time he makes you uncomfortable, let him know!
When he touches you just say "Im sorry, I know you are just trying to make me laugh, but your touching me makes me uncomfortable, so I am going to as... (read in full...)
How can I tell him that I'm not ready for sex yet and want to wait?
Q. my bf and i are both 15 and virgins and he wants to be a dad so bad, he said the first time we do it he wants to get me pregnant, and i dont want to have a kid till im in my late 20s and i kind of want to wait to even do it. how can i tellm him i ...
A. 23 June 2011: No SANE 15 year old boy should want to be a Father. He has not had enough life experience or responsibility to make that choice.
Someone who hopes that you will get pregnant your first time, is not being considerate about you and YOUR life.
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to have a threesome with another guy! Help!
Q. i am an asian girl,my bf is western,he's always feel proud of that i am his girl,he said i can make every man horny as he said i am a very sweet girl which i never notice.i really don't care they are horny or not,but recently he seduced me to have a ...
A. 23 June 2011: Your silence gives permission. The best person to speak up is YOU. Better to do it sooner than later or you might have a suprise guest in your bedroom!... (read in full...)
Do you ever have sex like a porn star???
Q. Just out of curiosity, do you ever have sex like a pornstar? If so, how often? All the time? Once in a while? Special occasions? (And by pornstar sex, I'm talking about stuff you would expect to see in a fairly vanilla porn video - no insane, dem...
A. 23 June 2011: The last time I attempted something inspired by a Porn position my lover wanted to try...I was willing for fun.
It did not take long for him to realize I was not having fun. If I was not having fun, I was not fake-moaning to the sky, so we gave ... (read in full...)
Parental interference in our wedding plans!
Q. Last year (August), my dude and I decided to have a wedding in december, his parents said they wouldn't be able to attend the wedding on the date we'd set. When he sat down with them to discuss the next possible date they both evaded heavily. In ...
A. 23 June 2011: Since you have been flexible SO many time with your plans already, you need to put your foot down.
Set the date. Send them an invite. Let them know that you are well aware that they may not be able to attend and learn to say the words "Your pr... (read in full...)
Am I smothering him too much with my words of love?
Q. Ok, so I know this is a little long and I suppose Im looking for opinions rather than answers. My boyfriend and I met on the internet and have fallen in love very quickly, however he is a very busy man, works many hours, evening and weekends etc. He ...
A. 23 June 2011: You already got an opinion from the person you need to listen to!
REREAD YOUR OWN WORDS
"He always says I text too much and Im always soppy."
"Now he says I spend too long on the phone and should be aware of how long we have been talking. " ... (read in full...)
Sex is getting stale with him. How can we change this?
Q. I love my boyfriend of 3 years very much. We have sex quite regularly, usually whenever we see each other. However, I am finding it's becoming quite stale and it doesn't really excite me anymore. What can I/we do to change it? I've tried new ...
A. 23 June 2011: Go online and search for ideas on new positions!
Play a game of hide and seek where the prize is oral..or...
Live out a fantasy, or come as close to it as possible, that you have said you were always going to do..but never bothered.
Ord... (read in full...)
My husband is never happy and verbally abusive, now I am wondering if my children and I would be better off without him?
Q. Hi I'm new to this sort of thing but here goes. I'm a mum of 2 beautiful children, one aged 8 and a new baby of 8 weeks. My husband and I just can't seem to get along and it's got nothing to do with the new baby this has been going on for years...
A. 23 June 2011: As the exwife of an abusive husband...consider that your children learn about relationship FIRST from their parents.
You and your husband are the first role models of how a man and woman treat each other in a commitment.
So, your 8 year old ... (read in full...)
How to get over a girl that you can never have?
Q. I've really liked this girl at work for the past few months, I've been non-stop flirting with her and she seemed to be in to me as well. Then we went to a movie, but it didn't end up being a date, just like friends hanging out. And all the stuff she ...
A. 23 June 2011: Sounds like infatuation. That is chemistry that will fade with time and as you get involved with other things and people.
You do not have ANY good reasons listed here why you should be with her, but you have plenty of reasons why you should n... (read in full...)
I broke up with him too many times and now he doesn't want anything to do with me! What should I do?
Q. hello, im 15 and i've been in a relationship for 1 and 3 almost 4 months with my boyfriend. i broke up so many times with him and it seems like he doesnt love me the same anymore and i've realized i did a huge mistake. he treated me so nicely. our ...
A. 23 June 2011: Sweetie, they call it a break up because it is BROKEN.
Some things can not be saved. Learn from your experience, that is part of growing up and you will become wiser with each relationship, because you will be MORE CAREFUL with your hearts. ... (read in full...)
Problems in the bedroom and mixed messages.....
Q. Hello, this is my first time posting a question on here so please be gentle ( ; I am in relatively new relationship (2 months) with a man I very much like and care for. We get along very well and laugh together all the time. Neither one of us was "...
A. 23 June 2011: 1-You are old enough to take responsibility for your orgasm.
Darling, speak up or put up with his selfishness. Your silence is permission. You want better sex? ASK.
Being dissapointed that he is not asking what works for you is lazy.
H... (read in full...)
Is it that bad that I get frequent pictures of my newborn nephew from my sister? My wife is making a big deal out of this!
Q. I have been a husband for almost 5 years now. My wife and I fight all the time. I wanted to get advice for the most recent reason she got mad at me. My sister just had a baby a few weeks ago and has been sending me a text message with a picture ...
A. 23 June 2011: I think your wife is irrational at being upset at your sister.
She had a baby and is proud to share her with her UNCLE.
Your wife does not have to agree with her choices or lifestyle and YOU have a relationship with your sister or the baby is ... (read in full...)
Ex-boyfriend advice!
Q. Ok- so my ex and i have been broken up for about 9 months. In these 9 months, (and up til about 3 weeks ago) he's done a lot to get back with me, but i was really not ready. I feel like now i am ready andi want to give it anothet try. He is ...
A. 23 June 2011: Were you hoping he would drop his plans and try to work things out with you?
... (read in full...)
Abused by an ex in the past, but now I want to be sexual with my new boyfriend I don't know where to start!
Q. I'm twenty three years old and am really shy and self conscious I'm with my first ever boyfriend becsause I was abused for a number off years and was controlled by my abuser ex. my boyfreind knows what have been through and has been really ...
A. 23 June 2011: Talk to your bf! Let him know that your past experiences were abusive. Let your bf know you want to be closer to him, but feel nervous.
Question: How can you BE with your first ever boyfriend and have an abusive ex boyfriend?
Were you sexu... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's best friend is another man. Should I let her go, knowing that she will always be confiding and trusting in another man more than me?
Q. My girlfriend has told me that her VERY BEST FRIEND is another man. They have been best friends for over 30 years. They frequently interact via text, phone calls, email, and Facebook. (He is currently divorced and living halfway across the country) ...
A. 23 June 2011: If my bf asked me to end ANY friendship what was meaningful and healthy to me, he would no longer be dating ME.
That is a LONG friendship and you asked too much.
If you can not deal with her past and her friendship with another male-let her go.... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend to move out?
Q. How do I get my boyfriend to move out without the police or having to change the locks he has sort of a temper and I dont wont to set him off: Hello My boyfriend and I live together now for 6 months when he first moved in everything was g...
A. 23 June 2011: Did you get the residence together? Did one of you move in first? You already suggested he moved out, thus you have let him know the relationship is done, right? He is having YOU go online to get applications for other places? Why are you do... (read in full...)
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