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writes:My wife recently discovered a pair of panties which were obviously planted by (we suspect) during a recent visit by an envious/jealous guests (younger adult neice). Luckily, my wife knows I had nothing to do with the matter. Any suggestions on how to handle the matter. Reply to this Question
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reader, sammy1986  +, writes (25 June 2011):
i would get a security camera and try to see who it is
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (25 June 2011):
Just wanted to give a nod to Tisha's answer. I think that would be the most diplomatic manner to handle the situation. You'll get the message across (literally) without accusing her of anything. You don't want to get stuck in a family feud.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2011): Nanny-cam. Go buy a motion activated digital security camera that will capture this "guest" doing something inside your home... then share the footage with everyone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2011): Is this serious? Seems like a bit of a joke to me. But if in fact you have a random relative purposely "planting" panties in your home, there are some odd things you are leaving out of this whole scenario. People don't just purposely plant panties for no reason. Anyway...strange.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (25 June 2011):
 Are you certain it was an intentional action, designed to cause you some embarrassment, or a rift in your marriage?I'd just put them in an ordinary envelope, mail them back to her with a little note signed by both of you."Thanks for visiting us! Next time, check to make sure you have all your belongings before you leave! With affection, Uncle Zeke and Aunt Brandy" (each of you sign)"P.S. We washed them in Woolite, hope they didn't need to be dry-cleaned!"Be sure you call her mother and tell her that you've mailed the panties back to her.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (24 June 2011):
 Don't invite the niece over again? Or check her bags next time she visits, or just give the panties to her and say "here, you left these last time", preferably in front of others to embarrass her.
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (24 June 2011):
 I think it depends WHERE and HOW the panties were found.
Example: Finding them in the bathroom or guestroom as opposed to YOUR bed or YOUR suitcase.
Toss them away. Let it go. Your wife is fine with it and believes you.
What would be the motivation to do this?
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (24 June 2011):
 Put them in a celophane bag, incude a note "Are these yours?" and post them to her from a post office far far away from where you live.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (24 June 2011):
 Okay, there is a lot that isn't being told here. Why would she plant panties? Why would she be envious or jealous? There are a lot of things you're leaving out of this.
Bottom line, if she's underage and under guardianship of parents, then you and your wife need to have a chat with her parents about this. If she's not a minor, then this isn't going to go away by avoiding her and hoping it will go away.
Call the authorities on her, because this is stalking and harrassment behavior. Planting panties isn't the sign of someone who's mentally stable.
And I am dead serious about this - if there are any skeletons in your closet that caused her to be set off by this, you need to come clean to your wife. You also need to bar her from your property.
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reader, Odds +, writes (24 June 2011):
 Avoid contact with her. That woman is toxic, and there is a nontrivial chance that what starting as spiteful antics will end with serious trouble.
I know she's family, but don't ever be alone with her or allow her into your home or car.
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