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My boyfriend wants me to have a threesome with another guy! Help!

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Question - (23 June 2011) 8 Answers - (Newest, 6 July 2011)
A female Greece age 26-29, *ngela888 writes:

i am an asian girl,my bf is western,he's always feel proud of that i am his girl,he said i can make every man horny as he said i am a very sweet girl which i never notice.i really don't care they are horny or not,but recently he seduced me to have a 3some.firstly he said if i like to do it with a girl involved,then i said :"no,i hate that,i am not a lesbian,i said why not a guy,i wanna a guy(i just say that not really want)".then he said:"sweetie,if you really enjoy with a guy,i will arrange for you and you can tell me the details how you wanna us to do to you in 3some althought i am so jealous,but i will try my best to make you happy,no any limit" .

I seem trust him because he really treat me very well,and i start to tell him details how i wanna they do to me,it's like a fantasy.curious and funny,and he quite turns on when i tell him i want it,and he even ask me to tell him like this:"baby,can you arrange for me please"he said that inspires him.now seems it really going to happen now,i am scared perhaps i just like to talk about it but not in action,and i doubt if he really loves me,he convinces me that after i finish a 3some,he will never look me different,and if things happen like i enjoy making love with other guy more than him,he will stop.

i wanna ask you guys as a male's stand,does he really loves me? or he also wanna have a experience like that?he really enjoy watching me making sex with other guy?post your comments.guys thanks,i do need help!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2011):

I have the same situation too and also an Asian. My bf - a western guy really a pervert and a complete ass. His fantasies bounds no limit. He likes me to talk dirty fantasizing other man, mentioning others name even it against my will and it turned him on. Even mentioning uncle's name, my cousin having sex with me he likes to fantasize. So if he asked me to have a threesome in real, I bitched at him and turned him off. He has the ability to hypnotized me because I did love him. Now love is gone and I'm totally done with his game.

You asking if he loves you.? Totally NOT girl. He is just using you as a way of pleasuring himself, and feeding his fantasy. If you we're afraid he will dump you if you refuse, don't be. He is not worth it. Be smart and don't him fool you.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2011):

I really think you should tell him that you're not ok with it and I don't think he will be mad at you or anything else.

To me, he seemed quite honest when he said that he will try to do his best to make you happy and you should be as honest and tell him how you really feel about it.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2011):

"does he really loves me?"

No.

Pure and simple, No.

He is using you for his fantasy, so he can talk about it later, after you are used up in his mind and he's done with you.

But, love has nothing to do with it.

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A female reader, Anonymous 123 Italy + , writes (24 June 2011):

Anonymous 123 agony auntIn answer to your question, no, it does not seem like he loves you. If you love someone, you cannot even dream of sharing that person with someone else.

Sex is supposed to be a special bond between two people in love. It should follow love, and not the other way around.

What do YOU want? If you hate a threesome so much, then why did you play along? Tell him honestly that you dont want any of this and honestly for me, this would be a deal-breaker.

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A female reader, RedAthena United States +, writes (23 June 2011):

RedAthena agony auntYour silence gives permission. The best person to speak up is YOU. Better to do it sooner than later or you might have a suprise guest in your bedroom!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2011):

Never do anything you really do not wiant to do, and remember YOU have to live with the feeling if you don't like what you did. What about the next time...would you do it again? what is the point of doing it only once? be quite sure if he is the man i think he is he will want more.

Lots of men and women play this game and some relationships are ruined because of it, however some relationships thrive from it. I don't think it is a question of his love here, because some couples do love each other regardless and are untouched.

You should really look ahead and know in your own heart and mind if this is right for you, don't live with regrets

if you do something,do it only because you want to because you carry it maybe into new relationships aswell...think ahead.

spunky monkey

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A female reader, chigirl Norway + , writes (23 June 2011):

chigirl agony auntI have no idea if he loves you or not, as this is no indication of either or. But, the man only asked a question, and instead of answering honestly you lied.

Now you come here to ask for help. Why not be HONEST with him and tell him you do not want a threesome? If all he wants is for you and him to be happy, he will be happy with you not having a threesome.

Just say no, don't over-analyze this!

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A male reader, olderthandirt United States +, writes (23 June 2011):

olderthandirt agony auntIf you go to the store, you can find single beds,double beds but you will never find a bed made for three.

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