After our 3rd date I gave her a kiss goodnight... Did I come on too strongly?
Q. I've just got back from my 3rd date with a girl I like. We've had 2 highly successful dates and this 3rd one appeared to be no acception. We talked, laughed and had a nice evening, just like the previous two dates. But tonight I wanted to slip in ...
A. 15 July 2011: She does not want to open her heart to you too quickly.
Ask her out again soon, perhaps where YOU can pick her up or meet somewhere.
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I told him I wanted to wait but he keeps trying it on! What should I do?
Q. Im aged 13-15, and i've been going out with my boyfriend for about 3 months,i'm still a virgin and i told my boyfriend i wanted to wait! but recently we were kissing and stuff and i had a short skirt on and he tried it on? Immediately i got up and s...
A. 14 July 2011: You need to talk to a trusted female family member who is older and has experience with relationships and dating.
Let her know what happened. ... (read in full...)
I told him I wanted to wait but he keeps trying it on! What should I do?
Q. Im aged 13-15, and i've been going out with my boyfriend for about 3 months,i'm still a virgin and i told my boyfriend i wanted to wait! but recently we were kissing and stuff and i had a short skirt on and he tried it on? Immediately i got up and s...
A. 14 July 2011: Yes, bf and gf's DO spend time together, but from what you just shared, this boy is looking to take advantage of you.
I understand what you mean by what normal teenagers wear,but if you are wearing a short skirt that your bf can reach under, y... (read in full...)
How do you reach an agreement on how many children to have?
Q. When your married how do you and your partner decide on how many kids you want? He doesnt really like kids and he only wants one but i love kids and want atleast three. Is there a compromise we can make so were both happy? We dont want kids yet but ...
A. 14 July 2011: A compromise between the two of you would be TWO kids.
I think since you both agreed to ONE. Work on that.
Once he experiences BEING a parent. (making them is the easy part) then you will see what it is really like.
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Married having affair with married man but need to break it off
Q. Please, I need your help! I am a married woman having an affair with a married man. We've been seeing together for 9 months. Now we both became emotionally attach and even express the love for one another. To complicate things his wife is pregnant ...
A. 14 July 2011: Who said doing the right thing always had to feel good?
You will need to be the stronger person and no one CAN do it but you. Take the steps needed to block his phone numbers, do not answer his calls, and if he shows up where you live or work..ca... (read in full...)
No one wants me, there must be something wrong with me
Q. i was married for over 12years until my husband went back to his fiance from 15yrs ago...since then (and even during our marriage) i have been approached by many guys obviously only after one thing...but i have been single for nearly 2yrs now and ...
A. 14 July 2011: Well you have been approached, so there is something about you that draws others in.
Have you joined any online dating groups or social groups?
Just get out there with some activities and enjoy people again without the goal of being "wanted" or ... (read in full...)
Help! Red marks on my girly bits!
Q. How do i get rid of the red marks on my girl bits after shaving? I shave upwards, is that the reason why? ...
A. 14 July 2011: You need a cream that you can get at the drug store. Something for the bumps/chafing. There is a product in the states called Bikini Zone.
You always want to shave in the direction of the growth. So if the hair is pointing away from you, the blad... (read in full...)
I told him I wanted to wait but he keeps trying it on! What should I do?
Q. Im aged 13-15, and i've been going out with my boyfriend for about 3 months,i'm still a virgin and i told my boyfriend i wanted to wait! but recently we were kissing and stuff and i had a short skirt on and he tried it on? Immediately i got up and s...
A. 14 July 2011: If you do not want to be worn down to do something you do not know IF you are ready for. Then dont.
Do not put yourself into situations that set up the scene to be groped, petted or undressed.
Do not be ALONE with him where either one of yo... (read in full...)
I'm having sex with my best friend's married father who is 54!
Q. Basically, i am having sex with my bestfriends dad. I am 25 and he is 54. He is still married and has been for 27 years. His wife is 58 and he says she dows not share the same sexual desire as he does. It all began 3 month ago when i stumbled...
A. 14 July 2011: You are confusing love with lust dear. Once he has used you up and gets bored-prepare yourself.
You have no shot at anything with him other than being his easy f*ck puppet.... (read in full...)
After I told him I was a virgin he doesn't talk to me anymore! What is going on?
Q. I met this guy at a basketball court he seemed nice meaning as he introduce himself to my mom,so any ways we decided to kik it the next day with his friends in the night on a hill,it seemed to go okay and wed write eachother on facebook but after he ...
A. 14 July 2011: Consider yourself lucky. It was a very personal question, something you would ask a close friend or someone you date and plan to get intimate.
He asked you on FB. Who knows why he stopped talking, but he might have hoped you were already ... (read in full...)
My daughter's father broke up with me but wants to be friends with benefits!
Q. ok here it goes me and my boyfriend of 5 years just broke up a few months ago, he is also the father of my daughter. i figured we just needed a break, but he started acting like its a permanent thing, he stayed at friends houses for awhile, then ...
A. 14 July 2011: Imagine this:
Someone stops by your house because they are hungry.
No one else invited them over for dinner.
They plop themselves down at your table and insist you go into the kitchen and prepare them a feast to their liking.
He gorges... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and worried about losing my scholarship, what should I do?
Q. I am a college student with a scholarship and in december 2012 i will finish my career, but now i'm pregnant. My boyfriend also goes with me to college and decided to support me but I'm very scared about this situation (and about my relationship ...
A. 14 July 2011: Are there any counselors at your school that you can go to for guidance? Let them know your circumstances and what you have planned to finish your education.
Do not expect others to help you figure out HOW to graduate. You will need to get help... (read in full...)
In an affair with a married woman, her pattern is always the same, but it always hurts.
Q. I'm in an emotional affair that is based on sex...lol Well, the affair started with a married woman that I work with. We were both very unhappy sexually at home and those conversations led to us developing a close emotional attachment. I call it ...
A. 14 July 2011: Ask yourself a simple question..is she worth breaking up your "comfortable" marriage.
You risk losing your mistress, your wife, your current comfort all in one blow if you continue your affair.
She is thinking about what she is risking.... (read in full...)
After our 3rd date I gave her a kiss goodnight... Did I come on too strongly?
Q. I've just got back from my 3rd date with a girl I like. We've had 2 highly successful dates and this 3rd one appeared to be no acception. We talked, laughed and had a nice evening, just like the previous two dates. But tonight I wanted to slip in ...
A. 14 July 2011: She did not pull away or looked shocked. She was ok with it.
How you handled it was very gentlemanly.
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I cant deal with her mindgames any more! Should I let the relationship diminish, or finally answer her calls and let her carry on behaving this way?
Q. My girlfriend and I 30 and 26 respectively. We just hit the year milestone on our relationship July 11. I haven't verbally spoken to her since two days prior to my bday when she unofficially broke up with me June 27. Anyway I haven't desired to call ...
A. 14 July 2011: #1 unofficially broken up according to my girlfriend means not agreed upon by both.
When one person wants out of the relationship it IS over. Two people do not have to agree on the circumstances of the break up.
#2 I haven't to desired to ca... (read in full...)
Husband skinny dipping with my Bf and now hes texted her behind my back, how do I deal with this ?
Q. I caught my husband skinny dipping with my best friend, who is also married. I feel he cheated even though they said nothing happened but it still hurts the same. This is not the first time he has done something like this to hurt me. When I ...
A. 13 July 2011: Yep, it is a dealbreaker. He needs to be in NO contact with her.
Since he did something HIGHLY innappropriate while intoxicated, what is his excuse for doing something innappropriate while SOBER?
Since you see her # on the cellphone bill o... (read in full...)
Rejected by her once before, but should I try again or will I make a fool of myself ?
Q. Hi all i was wondering what is everyone's views on a guy proposing twice. should he do it? to be more exact there is this girl whom i dated for a month and we got really close. as a matter of fact you would have sworn she was more into me than i w...
A. 13 July 2011: What reasons did she give regarding not wanting to be your gf?... (read in full...)
Trying to not let my bf's ex make me self-concious. I think he thinks she's smarter and prettier than I am.
Q. Hi, I have a little bit of an issue, I'm dating a great guy, we've been together over a year. In the beginning, we met at University and his ex came here too. There was a little issue with her in the first five months of our relationship because ...
A. 13 July 2011: If she is ruining your self esteem, it is because you give her permission to.
Invite trouble in your life, and it accepts the invitation.
The worst thing you can ever do in a relationship is compare yourself to ex's.
She is an ex for a re... (read in full...)
I feel inferior compared to his ex and their amazing sex life, should I ask him if he does wish I were more like her?
Q. So, I've been in a couple long-term relationships and so has my bf. I know we all miss a bit of what we had back when but are happy with what we've got now. My current is a great boyfriend and I wouldn't trade him in, but we do have a lousy sex ...
A. 13 July 2011: Never compare yourself to another woman. He is with you for his own reasons, do you know what they are? You may find yourself suprised that he is with you because you are OPPOSITE her. If you worry and beat yourself up, you are going to da... (read in full...)
I cant deal with her mindgames any more! Should I let the relationship diminish, or finally answer her calls and let her carry on behaving this way?
Q. My girlfriend and I 30 and 26 respectively. We just hit the year milestone on our relationship July 11. I haven't verbally spoken to her since two days prior to my bday when she unofficially broke up with me June 27. Anyway I haven't desired to call ...
A. 13 July 2011: "unofficially broke up with me June 27." How does one "unofficially" break up? "I haven't desired to call her" THEN DONT. It is immature to call up someone to say "Do not call me until I feel better about you." That would mean YOU are p... (read in full...)
Is she over reacting to our Daughter's facebook or am I irresponsible.
Q. Me and my wife split up over 2 years ago. I quickly found someone new and we have been living together for over a year. My ex has always let me see my daughters every other weekend and they have been allowed to sleep over at weekends and during ...
A. 13 July 2011: You need a lawyer.
Because you docked your child support payments at the same time your visitations were limited, it may come across that you are punishing your exwife or she is punishing you for the drop in financial support.
Be prepared t... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has been telling everyone about my miscarriage!
Q. Hey, do you think I am right to be annoyed with my bf - we had a miscarriage last week. He told his mother and best friend (and told me he'd told them). I didn't want to tell anyone about it, but was fine with him telling people as long as he let ...
A. 13 July 2011: My Condolences,
You need to talk to him about how this makes you feel.
Physically, your body is going thru a rough time with the drop in hormones.
Mentally, you are probably preoccupied with so many thoughts regarding the loss.
E... (read in full...)
Promotion at work and planning for a baby and now my boyfriend is panicking.
Q. Hi there. Here is my problem. Me and my bf of 18 months have been trying for a baby, we are also buying a house together. We both work full time and this would be our first house, our first child. It’s an exciting but stressful time. Here is the t...
A. 13 July 2011: Step back and take a look at the big picture. A new-ish relationship, huge commitment. A new house, huge commitment. Talking about baby...HUGE commitment. New job demands....straw that broke the camels back. However, YOU are both in late 3... (read in full...)
My boyfriend caught me masturbating and said I was cheating!
Q. Hi everyone, So ive been dating this guy for 2yrs now, and i always ask him to take showers with me and his response everytime is no, then when i was in the shower i was masterbating when he caught me. When i got out of the shower he was so mad a...
A. 13 July 2011: This is certainly a problem I have never heard of before.
You are not cheating on him and if he thinks you are not permitted to touch/pleasure yourself he is NUTS!
His ego probably took some damage points that He is not "enough" for you... (read in full...)
12 jobs in 5 years and now he wants to quit this job!
Q. In 5 years my boyfriend has had 12 jobs. The longest term of employment is 10 months and this is with his current job and he is wanting to quit. We live together, have bills and I have 2 kids from a previous marriage. He owes child support on 2 ...
A. 13 July 2011: The more you share about him, the happier I am I cut things off with my last bf.
He was about the same age and constantly whined how people he worked with told him he was not too bright, that he cut corners, was too easily offended, etc.
... (read in full...)
How do I break things off without hurting her, so we can just be friends again?
Q. Okay, so I'm dating this girl, lets call her Jessica* who used to be my best friend, we just took it a little further. In the begging I was madly in love with her, then Jake* asked her out and she got all excited and said yes and they started going ...
A. 12 July 2011: Breakups CAN hurt people and often do.
The only way to lessen the impact is to be honest, do not lead her on that you want more, and explain clearly your reasons why you do not want to continue the romantic part of your relationship.
Be prep... (read in full...)
12 jobs in 5 years and now he wants to quit this job!
Q. In 5 years my boyfriend has had 12 jobs. The longest term of employment is 10 months and this is with his current job and he is wanting to quit. We live together, have bills and I have 2 kids from a previous marriage. He owes child support on 2 ...
A. 12 July 2011: What is he..FIVE years old?
I agree with you. He needs to find a NEW job, before leaving THIS one. If he quits, tell him that he has 2 weeks to find a new job or you are done.
I wonder if he is a difficult employee and gets defensive if som... (read in full...)
Inappropriate texts from the ex on his wedding day!
Q. Hey, I'm torn as to what to do about a guy contacting me in an inappropriate way on his wedding day! He's an ex bf, I left him, like 10 years ago after a 2 yr relationship as we'd grown apart. We had no contact at all since then, but neither of us ...
A. 12 July 2011: Do not bother to respond. Block all his contact info.
I feel sorry for his wife! Be happy YOU are not married to THAT.
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He keeps standing me up and hurting me badly, but now he wants to see me again - should I go?
Q. His someone i love so much. however he never has time for me. when i try seeing him, he always says his busy. sometimes we plan to meet, and when he stands me up. i feel hurt and end up being depressed for a week however now he wants to see me. ...
A. 12 July 2011: You are not running away from your problems if you stand up to this unreliable person.
Tell him what you think.
"No, I will not be dating you. You are unreliable and being stood up hurt my feelings. You have more than enough chances to corre... (read in full...)
What do my b/f's comments during sex mean?
Q. Hi all. Your insights plz?I have been with my bf for about four months,and during sex he often tells me not to give myself to any other man,and not to give my private part to any other man. Why does he say this? Is he possesive? How should I take ...
A. 12 July 2011: It may just be part of "aggressive" play.
Ask him what it means and if it bothers you, speak up.
... (read in full...)
Would you tell the wife of your married lover that he lied to you?
Q. Will you tell the wife if you found 'your' man is actually married but lied to you? ...
A. 12 July 2011: No, but I would let the man you had an affair with THINK you did!
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Do all guys keep their relationship status private?
Q. Hi there, i havent got a facebook account but i am thinking of joining soon. I want to add my boyfriend on relationship status and I know my boyfriends answer to it already 'im private'...but if u were private why open a facebook account and put up ...
A. 12 July 2011: Do his friends and family know about you? Have you been introduced to his inner circle?
Wait I did read back and see that his "MAIN FRIENDS" know.
Then the term "girlfriend" and "relationship" are words he uses to be with you, but he is not se... (read in full...)
BF is married and lied to me about being separated from his wife, having sex with her and having another kid that I didnt know of. Does he deserve another chance?
Q. Five months ago I met this guy who seemed like a good guy and was fun to hang around. From the first moment we met he admitted to me that he had a son who was in the first grade, and showed me pictures like any proud father. Even though I myself ...
A. 12 July 2011: No. Simple enough.... (read in full...)
Guy breaks up with girlfriend to date me but now feels sorry for her!
Q. I have known this man from work for 4 years. It another department in another city so we rarely run into each other. It has been so obvious he had a crush on me. When he finally asked me out 2 YEARS later via email, I was very surprised but I was ...
A. 12 July 2011: Yes, you should see other people.
You should not see him. He does not have his life together.
Consider these dating guidelines.
You BOTH get to date other people, unless you mutually agree to be monagamous and call each other BF/GF among f... (read in full...)
Embarrassed about online dating
Q. Recently I met a really nice guy through online dating and I'm too embarrassed to admit it to anyone. I haven't even told anyone about him. When I go out, I tell my parents (yes I still live at home at 22. Grad students don't get paid that much) ...
A. 12 July 2011: There is no embarrassment about online dating at all!
"Accused of online dating".
DO some google search on the statistics of online dating. MOST people have met their partner ONLINE.
People are busier more than ever and do not have the... (read in full...)
Do I have a right to be morally offended by the way people are reaction to my display of affection to my boyfriend over the internet???
Q. I was on facebook and posted on my wall about how happy I am and how I think i am even more in love with my boyfriend then before.. the problem is all of his friends are commenting on it and saying thinks "like how is that possiable" and "I want ...
A. 11 July 2011: Well, you can choose to be offended, but what purpose would that serve. You can not change what people think or say about you. However, on FB you can delete those people off your account and set your security to FRIENDS ONLY.
I think you are taki... (read in full...)
My husband keeps taking money from our account!
Q. I just found out my husband took 3,000.00 from our account over the weekend and did not tell me. I found out when i went to pay my mortage of 2,800.00; there was 500.00 left in the account but he continued to use his debit card and now there is only ...
A. 11 July 2011: Wait, he says he is taking $ because you are not having sex?
Go open a new bank account and switch ALL deposits to enter that account. DO not add his name to the account.
On the joint account he withdrew from, demand a statement from t... (read in full...)
I think this is the best I can get out of life....what do you think??
Q. I feel like i failed in my life because i never had a girlfriend. I never had one. I had a bad childhood, never had any friends at school. Only have a couple of friends now. I'm 21 now, I had spend my night watching porn, playing videogam...
A. 11 July 2011: Michiel,
I work in a medical environment. I have met many people with lots of physical problems because of a long history of prostitution.
Just because someone "looks clean" does not mean they are.
You are sleeping with these girls because... (read in full...)
I think this is the best I can get out of life....what do you think??
Q. I feel like i failed in my life because i never had a girlfriend. I never had one. I had a bad childhood, never had any friends at school. Only have a couple of friends now. I'm 21 now, I had spend my night watching porn, playing videogam...
A. 11 July 2011: I think you are better off investing that money you use on hookers for some therapy on social disorders and depression.
Find out WHY you do choose this lifestyle.
Join some social groups and get out of your parents house.
Try meetup.com.
F... (read in full...)
How can I prevent her Abusing my Daughter when I'm not around ?
Q. Is she a sociopath? When I met my ex girlfriend, she was still married to her husband and they had a three years old girl at this time, now she is eight. She has call me dad and I really love her dearly. Since her husband has moved out of the ...
A. 11 July 2011: Hmm, ever thought of installing hidden video cameras in your house?
You can not prevent it, but you document it if it happens.... (read in full...)
Is she over reacting to our Daughter's facebook or am I irresponsible.
Q. Me and my wife split up over 2 years ago. I quickly found someone new and we have been living together for over a year. My ex has always let me see my daughters every other weekend and they have been allowed to sleep over at weekends and during ...
A. 11 July 2011: My daughter's Father gave perms for our daughter to have a FB page when she was 12. I was not too thrilled with it, but I finally consented with a few conditions.
*Privacy Settings are FB only.
*We both have access to the account and get to super... (read in full...)
Do women really enjoy having fingers in their mouths?
Q. A common thing in porn is for the man to put his fingers in the mouth of the woman during foreplay. I have never done this in my sex life. Is this something women enjoy? ...
A. 11 July 2011: Porn gives the illusion that all women like certain acts and are happy to participate in them all the time without hesitiation or refusal.
Finger sucking, or worse, TOE sucking absolutely turns me off on the giving or receiving end.
... (read in full...)
I'm having sex with my best friend's married father who is 54!
Q. Basically, i am having sex with my bestfriends dad. I am 25 and he is 54. He is still married and has been for 27 years. His wife is 58 and he says she dows not share the same sexual desire as he does. It all began 3 month ago when i stumbled...
A. 7 July 2011: He seduced you to meet his needs. That is not love.
If feels GOOD to be wanted and you give him something that he has been missing; SEX.
You also just killed your friendship. The truth will eventually come out and you are paying a high co... (read in full...)
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