Cheated on my girlfriend, in love with the other woman and my girlfriend is pregnant!
Q. I am in a sad situation and don't know what to do. In October of last year I met a woman on the internet. We started seeing each other and things were going well. I thought I was falling in love with her. Then a monkey wrench came alone in the form ...
A. 20 June 2011: At this point, I am honestly laughing. Have you NOT heard of birth control buddy?
Did you think mere love was going to protect you from complications and unwanted pregnancies? How niave.
Reveal the truth to both women. Own the mess. THAT ... (read in full...)
Should I change doctors? I'm disappointed in the way my doctor treats me
Q. I m diagnosed with hyperthyroidism. I have been a regular patient to my doctor who is always busy and have schedule which conflicts my working hours. One day he told me to get the ultrasound and blood tests done and see him after 5 days. But as i ...
A. 19 June 2011: I work in the medical field and can tell you that working with a Doctor with a busy schedule is quite an art. You were told to get some tests done and put it off for 5 days. It is up to YOU to do YOUR part in a timely manner, even if that inc... (read in full...)
My husband touches other women's butts!
Q. is it normal for my husband to touch another girls bum...
A. 19 June 2011: Only if he is a proctologist. Otherwise, NO. ... (read in full...)
Best type of condoms for 1st time sex?
Q. I know this might sound a bit of a weird quesiton, but what (if there are any) are the best type of condoms to use for your first time? My boyfriend (who is 2 years older than me) have planned to have sex together for the first time next week - h...
A. 19 June 2011: Well, its more about SIZE actually. Your BF needs to be the one to pick out what will fit him best/easy to put on and STAYS on. Since he has experience, let him worry about it. Get back up birthcontrol for YOU since you are becoming sexuall... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said I was like a porn director
Q. Hi,this really sounds creapy to me but pls i need ua input. im n relationship for 7months, commited,we taked of moving together,,spent every weekend 2getha. my boyfriend lost his job and his sexual appetite went down which i do understand coz of t...
A. 19 June 2011: Did you ask him what exactly he meant by that? I have never met a porn directly personally...ssoooooooo. I suppose he was turned off by you giving him directions in bed? That is HIS problem not yours. Some lovers offended by directions becau... (read in full...)
He is happy being having his cake and eating it but I am not!
Q. My 35 year old boyfriend seems happy with our relationship as it is. He has no plans for us to move in together or get engaged or married. He says we don't get on well enough to make a commitment. I think this is rubbish and his way of having his ...
A. 19 June 2011: Sooooooooooooo, he is telling you that he is not commitment minded and he does not like the idea of you being picked up by someone else. What would I do? Well, I can tell you what I did with my last bf who said very similiar things. I told ... (read in full...)
I don't believe what my boyfriend told me
Q. ther was a funeral today for a friend of my boyfriends and his ex.he said he wasnt gonna go.why do i feel he went?dont know how to handle this?i have uneasy feeling about some of his actions?may be that im just paranoid?dont know what to do?feel ...
A. 19 June 2011: All this fuss because you think he did not go to a funeral? What are you worried about? You could always ask..."How did the funeral go?" Best Wishes.... (read in full...)
Lied about being pregnant now I have to fake an abortion
Q. I dont a very stupid thing My boyfriend and i broke up two weeks ago and i am absolutely heartbroken Wer were trying for a baby before we split Like a right idiot iv went and told him im pregnant and im getting an abortion even though i dont think...
A. 19 June 2011: "test's done at a GP's surgery are the same as home pregnancy tests." I work in the medical field. It was quite common for that same test to be a false-negative at home and find out via pelvic exam that INDEED the person was pregnant. S... (read in full...)
I'm tired of having no bust. Can implants save this situation?
Q. I really hate my small breasts! I don't know if I should get implants, because men hate implants (supposedly) and because they're risky. But I really can't stand my small breasts anymore. I've been with few guys, but all of them, including my ...
A. 19 June 2011: I dont think you have a small chest, you have a small-brained bf! NEVER EVER make a choice to alter your body for someone else! (At least one that is not easily reversible!) Do YOU genuinely dislike your body or you dislike how OTHERS respond t... (read in full...)
Why am I only attracted to much older men?
Q. Okay, so heres the thing, I'm young (19), and basically I'm pretty much only attracted to men who are, on average, about thirty years older than myself (pretty much between the ages of 45-60). I've only ever been with guys my own age though.....
A. 19 June 2011: No, you do not stop dating. If you are 19 and a bit more mature for your years, I am sure your male equivilant also exists. You really do not want to date someone TOO far out of your age range, because you are still "becoming" who you are. Som... (read in full...)
He's cancelling plans at the last minute. Can I trust him? We are dating but not official.
Q. We planned to hang out on friday this whole week, and even talked about it last thing on thursday night. He wanted me to go at 7 after his basketball game, i said i can make it at 8 or 9. He said thats fine. And friday afternoon he called and said i ...
A. 19 June 2011: You DID hear him ask if you were mad or not. He texted you later with the same question. Respond honestly. That may be what he is waiting for before thinking about any thing else beyond that. Best Wishes.... (read in full...)
Lied about being pregnant now I have to fake an abortion
Q. I dont a very stupid thing My boyfriend and i broke up two weeks ago and i am absolutely heartbroken Wer were trying for a baby before we split Like a right idiot iv went and told him im pregnant and im getting an abortion even though i dont think...
A. 18 June 2011: Did you do a home pregnancy test or a test in a Doctors office?
If you have always had a regular period and you are 13 days late...go to a doctor anyway.
Being that late is not normal.
If you want to feel better about lying...tell the tru... (read in full...)
Why does he have to maintain his individualism and separate me from his life or his family?
Q. My boyfriend is stationed at another state. Every weekend, he would drive 35 miles to meet me. He sometimes would come to visit her sister here who's in college now. Why would he rather spend his time alone in the shopping mall, instead of asking me ...
A. 18 June 2011: I was dating a guy for several months who did this. During the few months it was fine..we were getting to know eachother.
After 4-5 months, he was still kept parts of his life VERY exclusive. (While he enjoyed and had access to mine!) He did n... (read in full...)
Do you think my married lover misses me?
Q. Four weeks ago I was dumped by a man i was seeing. He was married and I understand that it was wrong and all that but I still love and care about him. We were together for nearly two years. When he dumped me he told me that he wanted to become ...
A. 18 June 2011: You were his Mistress. He ended it.
He does not owe you an explanation or obligation.
He may have met someone else, he may have recommitted to his marriage.
If he could cheat on his wife with YOU, he showed a lack of compassion then to a... (read in full...)
My married lover ended things but is jealous of me dating!
Q. I had an affair for 18 months with a married man who has two small kids. Last month he ended it telling me that the lying to everyone was making him stressed. We both work together and he wanted to stay friends. I am the 3rd person (i know of) he ...
A. 18 June 2011: How can I stay friends with him but not be attracted to him?
That is like asking "How can I hug a porcupine and NOT get hurt?"
You do not really WANT him, but you are addicted to him making you feel valued by missing you.
You want him to... (read in full...)
Single mom, am I being too picky?
Q. I have a real issue with myself. I'm a 25 year old single parent of 1 child. I've recently split from a married guy and finnaly feel ready to move on and meet somebody new. I want to settle down, marry and have more children but I'm finding that guy...
A. 18 June 2011: No you are not picky. You have standards. There is a big difference.
You have an added responsibility! A child. So you are not just choosing a companion for YOURSELF but a role model around your child. You want, need, AND DESERVE someone ... (read in full...)
Why are men not unattracted to me even though I am tall and cute?
Q. I am 5 10, size 12, short red hair, long legs, 21 and cutish face. Although I have these things I feel so unattractive and that men dont fancy me, what am i doing wrong?...
A. 18 June 2011: Maybe its not your looks.
Consider how you speak, your maturity, your communication skills, your manners...
... (read in full...)
Tips for what to wear on a first date?
Q. Hey everyone! Im off on a first date tomoro night and were going out for some drinks.. but i have the usual girl dilemma of what to wear. Im curvy with big boobs (makes it even harder to find things that theyl fit in to aha) and looking for ...
A. 18 June 2011: It depends on what you are DOING and where you are going.
Keep that in mind and consider the following:
*Something that actually fits you. Nothing TOO tight or revealing.
*Something that makes YOU feel great!
*Do not try to break in a new... (read in full...)
Do I ask? Or pretend I never saw it.
Q. I recently (not serching for) found a list of my girlfriends of sexual partners and realize im number 48. I myself am not a saint and have had 29 partners and understand the past is the past but it is eating at me we have been together for allmost ...
A. 18 June 2011: Leave it alone. If she wanted you to see it, she would have shared it with you.
Maybe she was just having a "reality check" about her sexual history and taking inventory.
Eating at you? Why?
Watch the following why you ponder that question... (read in full...)
Why do relationships have to be so confusing???
Q. Why do relationships have to be so confusing??? Or is it just me looking into things too much? I have been in a relationship with my partner for just under a year. Things have been going pretty well untill just lately. To be honest we have sex mayb...
A. 18 June 2011: It seems like your REAL question is
"Why are we not having more sex?"
Well, let's see. You have been in a relationship for about a year, so the "honeymoon phase" is over, UNLESS you BOTH decide to make meaningful time for each other.
Yo... (read in full...)
I know what I should do, but I can't. I feel like a free prostitute. Help!
Q. I am seeing my x boyfriend from 15yrs ago. He is married now with 2kids. We talk every day and he knows I'm totally in love with him. So we meet a couple of times a week and we mess around only but he refuses to kiss me or spend more than an hour ...
A. 18 June 2011: He is seeing you because you meet a need of exciting sex.
He has told you all you need to know. He is MARRIED. He cares for you, and refused to kiss.
Kissing is a sign of emotional intimacy. He limits his time with you.
After sex, does... (read in full...)
My married lover ended things but is jealous of me dating!
Q. I had an affair for 18 months with a married man who has two small kids. Last month he ended it telling me that the lying to everyone was making him stressed. We both work together and he wanted to stay friends. I am the 3rd person (i know of) he ...
A. 18 June 2011: So, you wanted to continue the affair with a married man?
It is not just HIS choice to walk away from the relationship-it can be yours too.
Just because we really care for people, does not mean we SHOULD be with them. You would be sneakin... (read in full...)
I'm too independent, she's too needy....how to bridge the gap
Q. This one is fairly long so bear with me. Easier to do it in one go then split it in a dozen posts. I have been with my fiance for 4 years, engaged for the last year and making wedding plans for sometime next year. Our relationship, to...
A. 18 June 2011: Additional Feedback:
Tormented,
Important, emotionally charged conversations should take place face to face out of respect. You may have caught her offguard. Be fair in the future that you are taking the time out to address her privately to... (read in full...)
Affair with married man....things are getting harder... I need advice!
Q. Ok- i need some advice. I have been dating a married man for about 9 months now. everything has been so much fun, we talk every day and have a great time together- and yes, we fight... more so lately. Let me start off by saying that his wife ...
A. 17 June 2011: You have become addicted to this married man (and perhaps others) for your state of well being.
Instead of alcohol or drugs, you are addicted to a man and his drama. He is telling you that he is not a good person.
He has nothing to offer... (read in full...)
What should I do now to make it up to him?
Q. My best guy friend is now mad at me because we were suppose to meet up today and I was kinda busy and now, he won't talk back to me, text me back, or anything! I been saying sorry and asking for forgiveness. And I'm leaving for England this weekend ...
A. 17 June 2011: You already apologized and can not do more.
If this was the ONLY time you could meet and you blew it off..he has a reason to be upset if you made plans to do so.
You claim he is your best guy friend, but he may not FEEL that way.
Time to let... (read in full...)
I want to hang out more with him but he seems too busy all the time.
Q. Ok so i am really close to my best guy friend and we talk all the time now, but i've known him for the whole year and i've never seen him outside of school. Now its summer vacation and I'm really worried that were just never gonna talk and were ...
A. 17 June 2011: That is not a relationship. Relationships are between two people who both want the same thing.
He is about your age right? He has said he is focused on sports. That is his passion.
Sadly, he is into other things. You need to let this one go.... (read in full...)
Is it normal not to bleed?
Q. Hi I would like to seek some advice. My bf and I had intercourse for the first time. We're both virgins. But I did not bleed. I thought virgins are supposed to bleed on their first time. Is it normal?...
A. 17 June 2011: You are perfectly normal. Not all hymens BREAK either. Some just stretch.
Best Wishes.... (read in full...)
Too scared to date the girl I like because I am sexually confused! Help!
Q. There is this girl at school that I like and I wanna make a move and try to talk to her but the thing is I'm scared and sexually confused. I'm still a virgin because I'm sexually confused. Somedays I want guys and then girls. Most on the time I want ...
A. 17 June 2011: Do you have to have sex with friends?
It sounds like you are bisexual with a preference for males.
If you ask her on a date, let her know EARLY on that you are bisexual. Let her make the choice if she is ok with that.
If you are nervous yo... (read in full...)
Is what I said that wrong? What do I do to get her to forgive me?
Q. I have asked advice on here before and I usually end up following it. I am a 20yr old bisexual female. I fell for a girl in one of my classes and we became great friends, she is gay. That was four months ago and I am still working hard to try and ...
A. 17 June 2011: I am trying to figure out WHY you like her.
Bipolar disorder does have a switch that can flip moods rather quickly.
It sounds like you had a huge misunderstanding. She might have misinterpreted WHAT you were implying. She has to be the one to... (read in full...)
I am upset by my bf's remark that he is "bonded together" with his ex, who once carried his child. Should I be??
Q. I don't know what to think or how to feel right now. My boyfriend told me something about his romantic past the other night that has made me question my feelings towards him, my own attitude... everything. Maybe I'm a terrible person; I've only ever ...
A. 17 June 2011: "I'm 19, but suddenly I feel as helpless and upset as a child."
You are experiencing retrograde jealousy. It is a sign of inexperience and immaturity.
It might help for you to understand WHY they are "bonded" because of the unplanned pregna... (read in full...)
Does your belly button change when you get older?
Q. Hi, quick question, is your belly button supposed to get shallow (shorter in depth) when you get older or does that mean something that else makes a belly button get shorter?...
A. 17 June 2011: Weight gain, loss of muscle tone, loose skin (from gain and loss), pregnancy or surgery.
... (read in full...)
How did we go from being the closest of friends, to nothing at all?!
Q. This guy from my town added me randomly on Facebook almost a year ago (I already knew of him so he wasn't a complete stranger) - we got talking, and would talk literally every night till the early hours of the morning for several months without ...
A. 17 June 2011: Sometimes, people just grow apart and move on to other things in their lives.
Both of you were are in your early 20's,which is a HUGE transition time.
Nothing is wrong with you-your path just went different directions.
Best Wishes.... (read in full...)
How do I make the awkwardness go atfer tellin my teacher I loved him ?
Q. Hello, For the past 10 months I have been in love with my English teacher. He is aware of this because I had the courage to tell him. Everything is fine only its awkward. I am leaving soon, but until then how can make the awkwardness go a...
A. 17 June 2011: The only way is let time pass. ... (read in full...)
Were the doctor's questions to my wife inappropriate and invasive?
Q. I would like some advice/opinions about a doctor. My wife of over 20 years went to the OB/GYN last week for her annual pap test. I went with her. It came out clear no issues, then the doctor (male) wanted to talk with her in his office. I went in ...
A. 16 June 2011: Hi there, I work in the medical field.
On the surface, the Doctor was was collecting data. HPV is still be studied on the best possible treatments and prevention. Getting statistics on a persons sexual history is part of that.
The only reas... (read in full...)
Cheated on my girlfriend, in love with the other woman and my girlfriend is pregnant!
Q. I am in a sad situation and don't know what to do. In October of last year I met a woman on the internet. We started seeing each other and things were going well. I thought I was falling in love with her. Then a monkey wrench came alone in the form ...
A. 16 June 2011: There is no help here. You were having sexual relationships with TWO different women at the same time. You were cheating too.
You were an irresponsible man. Now you have an obligation to your unborn child.
Be a man and tell the gf you have ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend doesn't want to have sex after being raped 6 years ago
Q. My girl friend got rapped at the age of 18,and now she is 24 since then she didn't want to sleep with a man again.She is always afraid,that it will hurt her though she feel like doing it.Now it's difficult trying to sleep with her due to her past ...
A. 16 June 2011: Well, do NOT encourage her to have sex with you.
Rape is not about sexual agression, it is about control. The real damage took place in her mind and security, not her body.
If she has not gone to any kind of counseling, she needs to or she ... (read in full...)
I'm too independent, she's too needy....how to bridge the gap
Q. This one is fairly long so bear with me. Easier to do it in one go then split it in a dozen posts. I have been with my fiance for 4 years, engaged for the last year and making wedding plans for sometime next year. Our relationship, to...
A. 16 June 2011: That is not a gap...that is a canyon you are trying to fill.
I always give engaged couples the same advice to gauge if they really SHOULD get married at all.
First, take everything you love about that person, and cut that in half.
Next, t... (read in full...)
I had to cancel a date so now he cancelled a date! Is he losing interest?
Q. Ive met this guy online and we've been on one date, I was meant to see him yesterday but I had to rearrange to today. After i had rearranged it with him, he was being really blunt and short and even ignored some of our texts which makes me think ...
A. 16 June 2011: Continue dating others.
Let Mr. GottagotoHospital make a move to reschedule. If he calls, ask if everything is OK?
If not, let it go. It was only one date. No need to make an emotional investment there. Big breath and move on.
Better yo... (read in full...)
I don't know about his monetary status, should I suggest dates that won't cost much?
Q. I just wanted to follow up on my original post. I posted on here recently saying that i met a guy in a bar, and he has said that he would meet up with me three times, to go out drinking, but then things have come up. The first time he cancelled, he ...
A. 16 June 2011: Do you always want to be the one who foots the bill and has to settle for less EVERYTIME.
If I recall your original post, lots of people gave you advice that he is not that into you. If he was interested, he would be taking initiative and comi... (read in full...)
He has cooled off a little, should I bring it up?
Q. If you've been dating someone for a little over a month, and you've noticed they've sort of cooled off (not sending sweet little text here and there, not as passionately kissing, less "rapturous) - would you just give them space to figure things out ...
A. 16 June 2011: Since he has not declared you an offical and exclusive couple, then yes it is possible he is dating others and is slightly less interested.
Do not stop seeing him if you enjoy his company, however you should not be waiting for him to come around. ... (read in full...)
He's calling me less often, and I'm not feeling the connection
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 10 months and he has started calling me less and it's driving me crazy! It began during my exam period (it's been 2 months now). He claims he was giving me space to do my own thing and that he's busy too...
A. 16 June 2011: "Just to clarify, yes, I have been acting rather needy and take responsibility for that"
You really answered your own question.
You are bf and gf. You are not conjoined twins.
Relationships DO shift. You have been together almost a whole ... (read in full...)
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